UO Thursday 2/1

ecwk

Tell us what you are wrong about!  

lakesideknitter

I don't understand parents' attachment to their kids' hair. I had no feelings whatsoever about cutting DS's hair when he was 9 months. It was driving me crazy getting in his eyes. I seriously don't get it. I have friends who sob during their kids' first hair cuts. It makes zero sense to me.
I get that it's a step in them growing up, but why have a kid if you don't want them to grow up?

jsnakehole

I don't think I would be attached to my kid's hair, but my MIL took my niece for a haircut without asking and my SIL was super pissed and I can't blame her. That would be the last time I let my MIL babysit. 

hardlyhannah

I didn’t cry but it was definitely a milestone and I saved some locks for his baby book. It’s for sure that ‘growing up’ phase. We did DSs first haircut on his birthday

eta: on his *first birthday. Left out an important word

lakesideknitter

@jsnakehole I would lose my shit. That's ridiculous.
@hardlyhannah I get that it's a milestone, I guess I just have never been sad about milestones. I think they're fun and exciting. But I'm prob just cold and heartless. I didn't even cry on DS's first day of daycare, and that's one that makes sense to me to cry about.

mrsbubbles-2

I didn't cry at DS's first haircut. It was more of a shock to me that he went in looking like my itty bitty baby and came out looking like such a little boy! It was quite the transition from one phase to the next and it made me tear up but more in a happy way. Like look what a handsome little boy you are kinda way

Didn't cry at first day care drop off either so I feel you @lakesideknitter. But I credit that to the daycare itself. If you find the right one with someone you completely 100% trust with your little person, it's not that bad. Plus we did it in phases while I was still on maternity leave. So the first time he went was the length of a movie at the theater down the street just so I could get used to the idea.

lalala2004

I was super happy to get DS’s hair cut. Some kids have soft, beautiful curls, but not my kid. He was practically bald at birth, but what grew in was all long and stringy on top. He still doesn’t have a ton of hair, but it’s just a hot mess. He needs another hair cut so he won’t look like Donald Trump. Nobody wants that.

kcdo1010

Similar is the crazies that save teeth that are lost. I throw those suckers away! 

kcdo1010

Today is DD’s 100th day of school and I think it’s stupid to celebrate and create more work/projects for everyone. Make a shirt, hat and take in 100 edible things to share. Ain’t nobody got time for this. 

alinafed

I totally teared up at DS1's first haircut - I just kept thinking that hair was the first thing I saw of him (when he was still inside but I could see the top of his head in the mirror in the delivery room) and that it was with him from the beginning of his life. Saved locks from both kids' first haircuts and will do it for #3 again.

ecwk

kcdo1010 said:

Similar is the crazies that save teeth that are lost. I throw those suckers away! 

Umbilical cord anyone? Placenta? Circ?

pghctwife

For me the hair thing - with boys especially - is that once you cut it they look SO MYCH OLDER. It’s a sudden change instead of the incremental ones. I don’t cry or anything but I do wait until it’s desperate bc I know once it’s cut they lose a bit of baby forever.

laufisch

I asked my mom to take him to get DS hair cut, it just wasn't a big deal to me. They came back with a my first hair cut certificate that had his baby hairs taped to it. I told my MIL I was just gonna toss that and she was horrified. 

I love my kid but I'm really not the type of person that saves that kinda stuff... The only things I plan on saving are our hospital bracelets and the knit hat he got at the hospital. Also, eventually I will finish his baby book.

hardlyhannah

pghctwife said:

For me the hair thing - with boys especially - is that once you cut it they look SO MYCH OLDER. It’s a sudden change instead of the incremental ones. I don’t cry or anything but I do wait until it’s desperate bc I know once it’s cut they lose a bit of baby forever.

Yes! This! It’s a super dramatic change that ages them from baby to toddler

but ew I 100% agree on getting rid of teeth and all the other stuff. I couldn’t wait for the umbilical cord to fall off cause it’s nasty

lalala2004

Oh, I did save the certificate and hair: I’m a scrapbooker

hardlyhannah

@laufisch we made a Christmas ornament with his hat and all of our hospital bracelets. I love it

lakesideknitter

hardlyhannah said:

@laufisch we made a Christmas ornament with his hat and all of our hospital bracelets. I love it

I love this idea!

nll0803

I get the placenta is beautiful but dear lord there is no need to have a lovely placenta print hanging up in your home. 

livinthesunnylife

We cut DS's hair ourselves, still.  The first time we were doing it I was laughing about how some people save the hair as it was blowing away in the backyard.  My little was born with a full head of hair and is only 14M and he's had 3-4 haircuts.  It's not emotional to me at all. 

And those teeth are getting flushed.  Cause....gross!

scottishlass1213

kcdo1010 said:

Similar is the crazies that save teeth that are lost. I throw those suckers away! 

OMG my mom kept all of our baby teeth and put them in our baby books.  It's disgusting LOL

scottishlass1213

I was only sad about DS's first haircut because he had beautiful curls that we let grow for a while (I have really curly hair).  But after we cut it, they never really came back so he has wavy-ish hair now. I miss the curls, they were adorable.

hezzer78

@kcdo1010 Man - you wanna know something weird and gross? My husband has kept his baby teeth - they're in a box in the attic. He refuses to throw them away and I have no idea why. His mom thinks it's weird too.  He used to have crazy long dreads in college and he cut them, and he saved those for years - but I finally made him throw those away. So gross. He's not a hoarder I swear - he's usually pretty good about throwing away clutter and garbage. I have no idea why he held on to those things for so long.  

My mom did keep a piece of my hair from my first hair cut.

marafox

My baby is gonna be bald for probably 3 years lol. My DH and I didn’t grow hair til we were that age.

rocknrrollmom

I am terrible and never even started a baby book for my LO. I do have things saved, like her hospital bracelet and umbilical cord. Not exactly sure where they are saved though. Oops! She hasn't had a haircut yet, but I'll probably save that somewhere LOL.

My UO is that I love airports. I get so excited to travel, that I make sure we are at the airport hours ahead of time. My friends and family are not impressed with that, but we're never stressed about making a flight!

mrsbubbles-2

ditto @scottishlass1213 - my parents saved all my sister's and my baby teeth and gave them to us a few years ago... um, thanks?

Ok, my UO is that I am a super high-maintenance pain in the ass consumer. If I'm at a store and have to spend more than a few minutes getting a sales rep's attention to help me, I will go to their competitor and spend more money out of spite. My DH hates it and I'm a total brat. I do it all the time too - we were waiting too long at Home Depot for help with a grill so I insisted that we leave and go to Lowes where we bough a more expensive grill. Went to HH Greg for a tv, waited too long and the sales rep was an ass so we went to Best Buy and spent waaaay more than we set out to. I see it as teaching them a lesson

scottishlass1213

I'd rather spend more money for more convenience.  I am also bad, I don't coupon at the grocery store unless something is sticking on the box.  DH hates when I go grocery shopping because I honestly just put stuff in the cart and do not look at prices.

I also hate stores like TJ Maxx and Marshalls etc because I absolutely loathe digging through racks of unorganized things for deals.  I'd rather walk into another store like Target, see what I want right there and just buy it.

juliebird6

@scottishlass1213 This is me all the way.  I would much rather spend the extra money than deal with the hassle of trying to save $2.  Not worth my time.

laufisch

@rocknrrollmom I use the shutterfly app to print picture from my phone for the baby book. The pictures are "free" but the shipping is kind of expensive, but personally I find it convenient. Otherwise I probably wouldn't have anything done either.

calimom2524

I didn't get emotional at any of the boy's haircuts except the one where we finally cut DS1's curls off. It drastically changed him from toddler to little boy and they never grew back afterwards. I still get sad looking at pictures of his curls, they were so pretty! 

My UO is related. I cannot stand when mom's don't cut their son's hair once it gets long enough to put in a bun or pony tail. I have a friend who is doing this to make a statement that boys can have long hair too and while I totally get it, I also think it's up to the child to decide if they want to make that statement or not. 

juliebird6

My UO is that I guess the things that set a lot of people off don't bother me at all? Arguing about the difference between gender and sex? Don't care. Difference between saying natural and unmedicated childbirth? Doesn't bother me.  I'm sure there are other examples, those are just the most recent ones here that come to mind.

calimom2524

@juliebird6 I completely agree. I do use them as ammo to have fun with trolls but personally it doesn't bother me. 

princesslockness

@juliebird6 I'll bite. I think the big difference is that a 'natural' birth easily ended in death for mom and/or baby. We have so much more knowledge now along with our technology that to compare un-medicated to a 'natural' birth you almost have to have the baby in the tub with no-one with a phone around. The internet has given everyone access to all the knowledge of mankind. So 'natural' in the truest sense of the word would be going into a remote area with your sister/someone who has had kids themselves and delivering. HUGE difference int he meaning of the terms. 

calimom2524

princesslockness said:

@juliebird6 I'll bite. I think the big difference is that a 'natural' birth easily ended in death for mom and/or baby. We have so much more knowledge now along with our technology that to compare un-medicated to a 'natural' birth you almost have to have the baby in the tub with no-one with a phone around. The internet has given everyone access to all the knowledge of mankind. So 'natural' in the truest sense of the word would be going into a remote area with your sister/someone who has had kids themselves and delivering. HUGE difference int he meaning of the terms. 

I don't think she's disputing there is a huge difference in the meaning, I think she's just saying that when people use the incorrect terms it doesn't bother her. At least that's how I took it. 

derbysquirrel

@kcdo1010
You can always do this! 

juliebird6

^WSS. Of course I understand the differences between each term, and I do understand why some people would be upset by misusing them.  I'm just not upset by that and would never even think twice if someone said "natural" childbirth when what they really meant was "unmedicated."

mrsbubbles-2

@derbysquirrel I'm not even sure what I'm looking at but holy crap those things are terrifying! 

lalala2004

juliebird6 said:

My UO is that I guess the things that set a lot of people off don't bother me at all? Arguing about the difference between gender and sex? Don't care. Difference between saying natural and unmedicated childbirth? Doesn't bother me.  I'm sure there are other examples, those are just the most recent ones here that come to mind.

It doesn’t bother me in the sense that I’m personally offended, I just think it’s important to use words correctly so that actual meaning is clear.

derbysquirrel

It's a baby tooth monster, AKA "nightmare fuel. "

melbel0824

@derbysquirrel I'm going to have nightmares now! Those are horrifying.

livinthesunnylife

The tooth monster in the middle of the serious convo is completely distracting and hilarious!

derbysquirrel

Yeah, I woke up late, and kinda missed the hair/teeth portion of this thread. Still felt they were worth a share.