Oh and my darling child who has been potty trained (for #1 at least) for the better part of a month, climbed onto our pantry counter this morning butt naked. And peed. All over. With a bagel in his mouth.
@acunamatada that’s some crazy stuff! I agree if you need to spy what kind of relationship is that?
@cseley321 DS hasn’t leaned to turn the knob so i usually leave it cracked. Kills me to watch him crying at the door. I feel like I’m creating abandonment fears or being locked away/ignored. Idk this is tough.
Just found out my thyroid has not regulated yet and have to increase my meds more plus see an endocrinologist.
@nimmle I understand your frustrations. My boss had me go through ALL OF 2017 for 20 CLIENTS when we're supposed to focus on Q4. Like, WTH. So I had to dig data from before I even started with the company and it was all so incredibly messy. I'm still doing that...12 clients down, 8 to go.
@acunamatada wow. Just wow. I had a friend divorcing for a similar reason (way more messed up- the husband was actually dressing up and going to bars, turns out he was abused by his dad and it contributed to some really messed up issues). I totally agree about hit the ground running. And maybe some things are better left unseen you know? Like, if I suspected or knew DH was cheating I would not want to catch him in the act. No thanks. It's probably going to be super hard, but these issues are not "fixable". It's not like they might because he doesn't unload the dishwasher. It's who he is, and it's also unfair to think he has to change.
@kissableviv - taxes are the worst! We usually owe too and actually decided to hire a CPA this year because we bought a new house and kept the old as a rental property last year. We're not entirely sure we're comfortable with how to report and claim the rental stuff so we meet with her tomorrow.
@acunamatada I'm speechless. And agree with everything that's already been said. Wow.
I took a sick day yesterday and spent most of the day in bed. I did go to the doctor and luckily I don't have the flu - my cold turned into a sinus infection. Unless I get a fever I don't need antibiotics for it, so that's good. I was hoping that I could rest more by working in bed today but here's my exciting work for the day (which requires 2 monitors and a mouse): I get to copy data from PDF files into Excel, then into Notepad to format it, then into a query program. For 40+ hospitals. Then I'll run the query, hope the data is all accurate and copy it back into Excel for reporting. Sigh. I've done 9-10 so far and am taking a break.
@kissableviv exactly! I’d never want to see DH in the act of any of that, I think it will just muddy the situation and drive her crazier. But idk, maybe she needs that to decide she needs to leave? I don’t get it, I couldn’t be with someone that has a secret life like that.
@moguippy yeah I’m worried she’s a beard, he’s got a conservative family. I’ve got nothing against LGBTQ anything but I know she’d be settling if she stays with him and she deserves more than that.
I've been lurking and love titting because it's been a crazy week! We kind of started potty training on accident. We ordered a potty and DS was so excited when he saw it and immediately wanted to pee in it. So we are rolling with it.
@acunamatada WHOA in regards to your friends situation. Major red flags and I don't get how the hidden camera would change anything if she already knows about the internet activity and the clothes. I think the writing is on the wall there. Also I LOLed at your pee/counter/bagel situation.
@wildtot I am sorry for the rough night. Good for you for taking the day. I hope you are able to get some rest.
We had an earthquake last night. It was shallow and relatively small (4.0) but centered about 4 miles from our house so it was quite a shake for us and woke all of us out of a deep sleep. Oh course H and DS fell right back a sleep while I laid awake for 2 hours with a racing heart and anxiety over not having any emergency supplies. Eearthquakes never bothered me before but now that I'm responsible for 1.5 kids I'm all of the sudden freaking out.
Oh and my darling child who has been potty trained (for #1 at least) for the better part of a month, climbed onto our pantry counter this morning butt naked. And peed. All over. With a bagel in his mouth.
Yikes! Good morning!
I was thinking the same thing! Always an adventure with a toddler. lol.
Also, @acunamatada that story about your friend is crazy! I agree that the fact that he won't propose is a red flag by itself, but all of this other stuff is just more reason for her to give him some space. He clearly has some stuff he needs to work out.
@rachelsogo I read that book a few months back. Sad, but SO good!!
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
I am finally feeling better today (yay for antibiotics!) and I am going to pick up my son from our day care center today (it's onsite here so I don't have to leave) to come over and have lunch with my coworkers. He always has so much fun, and it just puts me in a good mood for the rest of the day.
@amylu914 woah that would freak me out too! Glad you all are ok!!
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@acunamatada While I sympathize with the boyfriend's feelings of shame surrounding his interest in trans/cross-dressing (it sucks that people have to feel ashamed), at the same time, your friend is the one person who he should be sharing that with. The secrecy is what bothers me, because it undermines trust in a relationship. I agree that it's a hugely bad idea for your friend to set up a camera. 1) If you have to do any kind of snooping on your SO, then you already have a relationship that's lacking in trust. 2) Snooping on him will undermine his trust in her, further destroying the relationship that she, at present, wants to preserve. It sounds like what needs to happen here is a frank, honest conversation between the two of them, where she commits to listening to what he has to say about his interest in trans stuff without judging him. Once she gives him a safe "space" to talk about it, she can then learn the information she will need in order to make a decision about whether she's willing to accept that as a part of their relationship. ETA: And once he has a trusted person to talk to about it, maybe that will help him to clarify the confusion he seems to have about it.
@wildtot that was my big concern too, but right now the way things are going, I think I am making her attachment issues worse than they were lol.
We decided that we tried coddling for a week and a half, we will try this harder approach for a week, and if that doesn't work we will just have to accept that she runs this household and we will buy a bigger bed
@beanship this is what I’ve been saying. Even if he doesn’t want to talk to her right away I’ve been saying he needs to talk to someone. He’s got other mental health issues he should be working on as well but isn’t interested in therapy. Even if things get “fixed” to the point she feels comfortable going back (not that I see that happening) it’ll most likely happen again.
@TheQuietThings There are 9 books in the series! If you like smut, check out The Crossfire Series by Sylvia Day. Some compare it to Fifty Shades, however I believe it's 10 times better than Fifty.
Doesn’t look like we have a weekly appointments thread this week (unless I’m terrible at looking which is very possible) so I’m letting this rave out here- but we had an early anatomy scan today which I was super nervous for and everything looked good! Babies both in the 70th percentile for growth and everything we could see at 17 weeks looked good. Will have another one at 21 weeks but apparently they like to look sooner with twins.
Also so will be hiring a baby nurse for a month after the twins get here and we are meeting her tomorrow. Things are starting to get REAL and I’m starting to feel some cautious excitement...
@acunamatada that takes the cake for potty training mishaps, lol! That is a great mental picture. Also, I agree that if your friend's long time bf won't talk to her about his feelings then spying is 100% not going to help.
@wildtot big hugs. I'm so so sorry for your crazy toddler sleep issues and that DH is being a PITA and not helping! Hugs.
@TheQuietThings There are 9 books in the series! If you like smut, check out The Crossfire Series by Sylvia Day. Some compare it to Fifty Shades, however I believe it's 10 times better than Fifty.
I think I’m entering nesting mode. Looking around our early 80s home that we moved into back in August and slightly overwhelmed at all that needs to be done. We have a ton of giant projects but I’m also super fixated on the small stuff like swapping out all light plates and outlets from the horrific beige to white..because it will matter to baby right? *insert eye roll emoji*
I am in denial about how much work we have to do to turn our office into a bedroom. I have been using that closet as storage also, so now I have to build shelving in my garage or something. Not to mention rearrange our living room to accommodate our computers... it is going to look sooooo tacky. I want to move. I think it would be easier (but not really an option)
@cseley321, I hear you. We need a new desk. We'll have it in the baby's room, but we also only have one child. Otherwise it would go into the living room and I also hate the idea. Was just looking at all the stuff I need to relocate (tax docs, crafting items, wrapping paper, stationary...).ugh!
I wish I said that! I said “I don’t know if you’re comparing it to what I looked like before. Funny thing is I use to hold my stomach in all the time because I was insecure about how big it was... now I just can’t hold it in anymore.” My cousin laughed when I said that because the aunt looked like she felt bad.
@gspmom21 I’m sorry I feel horrible. When one of my best friends was pregnant a few years ago, I kept asking her if she was pregnant with twins. She’s a tiny person, so seeing her with any belly was a big difference. I never meant it as an insult, I think a pregnant belly is the best thing in the world. I never knew asking/joking about twins might’ve hurt her feelings.
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
Ok, gotta vent. I am SO mad. I told my work today. I told one coworker yesterday in private because we're pretty close. Today I told my office manager - she's the first to know because I respect her as my direct boss. My plan was to then tell the doctor, my real boss, then the rest of the office. I told my office manager and she responded by saying "I know" Which - WTF? She's the type of person who has to be right all the time and is constantly judging people and assuming things about people.
Whatever, then we parted and I went to tell the doctor. He was in his office talking to another coworker, so I waited. My office manager went into his office with them and the three of them were talking for like 5 minutes. Then when they left I immediately went in to share my news with him and goes "yeah! I heard! Congratulations!" She told him! And so, I was like ok.... then I went out to tell my other coworker and my manager was talking to her about it! So I walked out and said to my office manager, so you already told her too? Then I just walked away and loudly said to the rest of the office "WELL I'M PREGNANT" She managed to tell the whole office before I could share my own news.
Then I get a text from my friend coworker who I had already told, telling me that my office manager had just texted her a screenshot of like 3 texts conversations that she had previously with other coworkers about me and how they were suspicious, she let me read them and they were outrageously disrespectful to me.
What a bunch of bitchasses I work with! OMG. I'm totally not going back after maternity leave. F them. They can suck it.
Ok, sorry for the crazy angry post guys!! I'm usually a very nice and happy person! LOL!
@DynamiteTrujillo what a disappointment on a day you were going to share happy news. And that woman does sound like an absolute bitchass. I hope you find something else so yu don't have to go back!
Random for me: I am binge watching The Magicians right now and am on Season 2 Ep 4, where they use a bunny that says, "pregnant!" to announce pregnancy to Elliot. So now I think that I will find a pregnant bunny gif to use for my announcement, whenever that may be, lol.
@DynamiteTrujillo that is awful! I would take to ss straight to hr not only is that not okay but to then be spreading those around is so disrespectful and not okay!
@BrittG13 - same thing going on at our house! Although it's DH who has been replacing every outlet and light switch in the house, not me. Meanwhile, our fence is falling down, the dishwasher sucks, the hot water heater kind of sucks, our windows aren't energy efficient, and we need new living room furniture. Oh - and I need a new desk.
You guys, this baby I have in my uterus is so incredibly active! I don't remember how often I felt my son at 17.5 weeks, but I have been feeling this little lady move pretty much constantly this week. I am scared for what is going to happen when she gets bigger in there!
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@SmashJam@lindsayleigh1989@stlmegs Thanks for the support! Unfortunately we don't have an HR dept. We're a tiny staff of 9. That's just kind of my workplace culture, bitchy and caty and gossipy - even from the "boss." I've always been aware of it and have long had a problem with it. I'm just happy I have this opportunity to get out of it. Only like 6 more months! LOL!
@stlmegs might need to enroll her in dance or gymnastics already
I was joking with my husband last night and I said I think shes practicing Irish Step Dancing....my Grandma must have gotten ahold of her already (My Grandma was first Generation American, her parents came over from Ireland lol)
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@stlmegs lucky! Add me to the anterior placenta club, boo! @lindsayleigh1989 was it you posting it the first time? We just found out at our elective ultrasound. I was told I'll have to wait until 23ish week to feel him, but he is doing great, measuring just a tad ahead and responding to all the poking we did to make him interact we also got a DVD and pictures so I'm less bummed about the anterior placenta.
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@cseley321 DS hasn’t leaned to turn the knob so i usually leave it cracked. Kills me to watch him crying at the door. I feel like I’m creating abandonment fears or being locked away/ignored. Idk this is tough.
Just found out my thyroid has not regulated yet and have to increase my meds more plus see an endocrinologist.
@acunamatada I'm speechless. And agree with everything that's already been said. Wow.
I took a sick day yesterday and spent most of the day in bed. I did go to the doctor and luckily I don't have the flu - my cold turned into a sinus infection. Unless I get a fever I don't need antibiotics for it, so that's good. I was hoping that I could rest more by working in bed today but here's my exciting work for the day (which requires 2 monitors and a mouse): I get to copy data from PDF files into Excel, then into Notepad to format it, then into a query program. For 40+ hospitals. Then I'll run the query, hope the data is all accurate and copy it back into Excel for reporting. Sigh. I've done 9-10 so far and am taking a break.
@moguippy yeah I’m worried she’s a beard, he’s got a conservative family. I’ve got nothing against LGBTQ anything but I know she’d be settling if she stays with him and she deserves more than that.
@acunamatada WHOA in regards to your friends situation. Major red flags and I don't get how the hidden camera would change anything if she already knows about the internet activity and the clothes. I think the writing is on the wall there. Also I LOLed at your pee/counter/bagel situation.
@wildtot I am sorry for the rough night. Good for you for taking the day. I hope you are able to get some rest.
We had an earthquake last night. It was shallow and relatively small (4.0) but centered about 4 miles from our house so it was quite a shake for us and woke all of us out of a deep sleep. Oh course H and DS fell right back a sleep while I laid awake for 2 hours with a racing heart and anxiety over not having any emergency supplies. Eearthquakes never bothered me before but now that I'm responsible for 1.5 kids I'm all of the sudden freaking out.
Also, @acunamatada that story about your friend is crazy! I agree that the fact that he won't propose is a red flag by itself, but all of this other stuff is just more reason for her to give him some space. He clearly has some stuff he needs to work out.
@rachelsogo I read that book a few months back. Sad, but SO good!!
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@amylu914 woah that would freak me out too! Glad you all are ok!!
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
ETA Thank you!
We decided that we tried coddling for a week and a half, we will try this harder approach for a week, and if that doesn't work we will just have to accept that she runs this household and we will buy a bigger bed
Also so will be hiring a baby nurse for a month after the twins get here and we are meeting her tomorrow. Things are starting to get REAL and I’m starting to feel some cautious excitement...
@wildtot big hugs. I'm so so sorry for your crazy toddler sleep issues and that DH is being a PITA and not helping! Hugs.
I think I’m entering nesting mode. Looking around our early 80s home that we moved into back in August and slightly overwhelmed at all that needs to be done. We have a ton of giant projects but I’m also super fixated on the small stuff like swapping out all light plates and outlets from the horrific beige to white..because it will matter to baby right? *insert eye roll emoji*
Dang. Thanks.
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respect from you
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
Whatever, then we parted and I went to tell the doctor. He was in his office talking to another coworker, so I waited. My office manager went into his office with them and the three of them were talking for like 5 minutes. Then when they left I immediately went in to share my news with him and goes "yeah! I heard! Congratulations!" She told him! And so, I was like ok.... then I went out to tell my other coworker and my manager was talking to her about it! So I walked out and said to my office manager, so you already told her too? Then I just walked away and loudly said to the rest of the office "WELL I'M PREGNANT" She managed to tell the whole office before I could share my own news.
Then I get a text from my friend coworker who I had already told, telling me that my office manager had just texted her a screenshot of like 3 texts conversations that she had previously with other coworkers about me and how they were suspicious, she let me read them and they were outrageously disrespectful to me.
What a bunch of bitchasses I work with! OMG. I'm totally not going back after maternity leave. F them. They can suck it.
Ok, sorry for the crazy angry post guys!! I'm usually a very nice and happy person! LOL!
edited due to rage spelling.
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#4- EDD July 14
Random for me: I am binge watching The Magicians right now and am on Season 2 Ep 4, where they use a bunny that says, "pregnant!" to announce pregnancy to Elliot. So now I think that I will find a pregnant bunny gif to use for my announcement, whenever that may be, lol.
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18