@charlestonchew requested! i agree with what a lot of you said not quite ready for Facebook even though the bump mobile app is super frustrating. I enjoy reading what everyone has to say.
I've been MIA for a couple weeks due to house guests and some less than awesome potential news regarding the may babe, so it was awesome to see this discussion on my return.
I've been MIA for a couple weeks due to house guests and some less than awesome potential news regarding the may babe, so it was awesome to see this discussion on my return.
Are you being sarcastic or are you actually happy about a private group?
@thedawkterswife I also couldn’t tell if it was sarcastic or not, but I would consider you a regular poster even with the recent abscene and I truly hope everything is ok with your little one. Sorry you are going through all of this but I absolutely understand not wanting to be on the boards when you are dealing with such heavy stuff.
Ugh, I hate how tone is hard to tell online. I am actually happy and actually thought it was awesome. Not like "oh this is awesome *eyeroll*" I should have put a smiley or something! Sorry for the confusion!
Thanks for the understanding, too. Quick story is that we need to do another anatomy scan due to some soft markers for a trisomy issue. My Maternit21 test has come back twice as inconclusive so our last resort is an amnio. I'm also coming up quickly on a termination deadline in my state if defects are lethal. It's a soul crushing amount of worry atm.
@thedawkterswife well I’m glad you are happy about the group but I’m so sorry you are dealing with all that ❤️ Feel free to lean on us as much or as little as you want/need. I’ll keep you in my thoughts.
@thedawkterswife I am so sorry to hear that. I had to have an amnio due to Materniti21 inclusive results (twice), and soft markers for downs. Everything thankfully ended up being totally fine, but here to talk if you need (since I am all to familiar with the worry and the procedure)
@thedawkterswife - I’m glad you are back. I’m so sorry about your inconclusive and soft markers that showed up on your tests. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.
@dem068a I'll have to message you sometime soon. It would be nice to talk to someone who has been there done that.
Did they offer any explanation as to why the maternit21 came back inclusive? My thought is that I am very much morbidly obese but my genetic counselor (whom I have never liked) is trying to convince me it's a chromosomal issue.
The only soft marker we found was a CPC but we need to see the heart. We couldn't see it last time. It's maddening because I feel like we would see so many more defects if it was t13 or t18 than just a CPC. But she keeps pushing for the amnio because of the inconclusive blood tests.
@thedawkterswife I don’t know if weight would have anything to do with it. I am also morbidly obese and I had the blood work done at 10 weeks for all those chromosomal issues (it wasn’t the brand Maternit21, but it’s all the same testing so I would assume it’s similar). And my results were back in 5 days, no issues getting the results. Could you ask for a different blood test from another lab in the area? There are many brands of tests. I will try to find the brand my doctors office used if it would help.
@thedawkterswife I also had a blood test for chromosomal issues and the first time I was told the sample was bad. I had to go back and redo it. They couldn't tell me what that means.
@thedawkterswife they did not give any reasons why it came back inconclusive. My doctor said it happens about once a month that she sees it (which I know isn’t a ton, but isn’t nothing). I am not overweight or on any medication (and the test worked for my first pregnancy two years ago), so they really had no idea. My genetic counselor pushed me to have an amnio (because there was a spot on the heart during the 16 week anatomy scan that is a soft marker), and I really didn’t like her either. It felt very pushy, and I think they are trying to cover themselves (which I get, but is kind of terrible).
Did you do the quad screen blood test yet?
I do have to say, the amnio was so stressful, and this whole process has made me think this is the last pregnancy I can mentally handle, but I was ultimately glad I went through with it. Since it is a diagnostic test, you have definite answers and then can deal with whatever the results are with certainty
@dem068a I honestly don't remember if we've done the quad screen or not. I feel like no but that seems weird. She seems to be basing her numbers on my AMA status and the CPC. So risk of t13 and t18 is 1 in 146. My risk without the CPC is 1 in 150.
Everything else in anatomy scan was perfectly "normal". And my alpha fetal protein blood work came back normal.
I do feel like the are covering their asses, which I Also understand, but I just wish someone could tell me my line of thinking isn't bat shit crazy. I know nothing can be 100% certain except the amnio. But if it's just a CPC, I don't want to risk a miscarriage. At this point, I feel pretty certain we won't get one unless we find some heart defects on Monday. I'll have plenty more ultrasounds being high risk and AMA so we can see later if other issues pop up.
It's all so frustrating. I feel like as much as one perinatologist tells you NBD, the genetic counselor is alarming you and sends me into a panic. Like, get your shit together people. Am I to panic or not?!
I appreciate you sharing your experience. Was the amnio painful for you?
@thedawkterswife you are most definitely considered a regular poster. So very sorry to hear you've been absent dealing with so much. Thinking of you ❤️
@thedawkterswife I am so sorry you are going through this. Welcome back. I think doctor's CYA too much these days. Obviously a very different situation, but the doctors freaked me out over nothing my first pregnancy (I feel just to CYA). After the AS with my son, the radiologist basically suggested we might want to terminate because his penis measured small. We were then sent to a genetic counselor, which I felt wasn't even helpful, and wanted to send me to get an amnio - so I know the stress you're going through in making that decision. While the penis measuring small can be indicative of mental health issues in rare cases, it makes me so mad to think that someone in this situation may have terminated when my son ended up with a hernia in the groin that fixed itself by 1 yr.
Thinking of you during this difficult time and good luck tomorrow. You will make the right decision for you.
Requested! I loved having a Facebook group for my August 2016 baby. It was largely how I survived the latter half of pregnancy and first year with a baby!
i say wait. i hardly post here, because i'm not usually on a computer and the bump is impossible on my phone. with my first daughter's board i think we moved to fb after the babies were born. and like someone else said above, i believe one person volunteered to screen everyone as best as possible to make sure they were real.
i say wait. i hardly post here, because i'm not usually on a computer and the bump is impossible on my phone. with my first daughter's board i think we moved to fb after the babies were born. and like someone else said above, i believe one person volunteered to screen everyone as best as possible to make sure they were real.
lol you haven't posted since your intro in Sept.....so I figure you probably wouldn't want to be in a facebook group with a bunch of strangers anyway.
Def havent posted in a week on bump. What we thought was the flu, looks like is actually this horrible norovirus which is currently terrorizing my 2.5yr DD. Soooo...now that im not dying and shes sleeping .. requested @charlestonchew
My May 2012 birth month made a FB group and 6 years later we’re still active and have formed some amazing friendships from it. The Bump board died down a few years after our babies were born. If anyone has any questions on how it started or how it’s run, I’d be happy to answer questions. I love my May 2012 group so much and I’m still grateful it exists.
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@charlestonchew I think I requested! I’m sorry I’ve been a slow member, my brain couldn’t wrap around getting excited and getting truly invested until 24 weeks which to my NICU nurse brain is viability. Excited to branch off though and get ready for these little pumpkins!
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i agree with what a lot of you said not quite ready for Facebook even though the bump mobile app is super frustrating. I enjoy reading what everyone has to say.
poster even with the recent abscene and I truly hope everything is ok with your little one. Sorry you are going through all of this but I absolutely understand not wanting to be on the boards when you are dealing with such heavy stuff.
Ugh, I hate how tone is hard to tell online. I am actually happy and actually thought it was awesome. Not like "oh this is awesome *eyeroll*" I should have put a smiley or something! Sorry for the confusion!
Thanks for the understanding, too. Quick story is that we need to do another anatomy scan due to some soft markers for a trisomy issue. My Maternit21 test has come back twice as inconclusive so our last resort is an amnio. I'm also coming up quickly on a termination deadline in my state if defects are lethal. It's a soul crushing amount of worry atm.
Did they offer any explanation as to why the maternit21 came back inclusive? My thought is that I am very much morbidly obese but my genetic counselor (whom I have never liked) is trying to convince me it's a chromosomal issue.
The only soft marker we found was a CPC but we need to see the heart. We couldn't see it last time. It's maddening because I feel like we would see so many more defects if it was t13 or t18 than just a CPC. But she keeps pushing for the amnio because of the inconclusive blood tests.
Did I mention how much I dislike her?
Did you do the quad screen blood test yet?
I do have to say, the amnio was so stressful, and this whole process has made me think this is the last pregnancy I can mentally handle, but I was ultimately glad I went through with it. Since it is a diagnostic test, you have definite answers and then can deal with whatever the results are with certainty
Everything else in anatomy scan was perfectly "normal". And my alpha fetal protein blood work came back normal.
I do feel like the are covering their asses, which I Also understand, but I just wish someone could tell me my line of thinking isn't bat shit crazy. I know nothing can be 100% certain except the amnio. But if it's just a CPC, I don't want to risk a miscarriage. At this point, I feel pretty certain we won't get one unless we find some heart defects on Monday. I'll have plenty more ultrasounds being high risk and AMA so we can see later if other issues pop up.
It's all so frustrating. I feel like as much as one perinatologist tells you NBD, the genetic counselor is alarming you and sends me into a panic. Like, get your shit together people. Am I to panic or not?!
I appreciate you sharing your experience. Was the amnio painful for you?
Thinking of you during this difficult time and good luck tomorrow. You will make the right decision for you.
BFP #2 09/03/17 | EDD 05/17/2018
@thedawkterswife: Hope everything works out for you! You'll be in my thoughts.
@charlestonchew: Requested, I think?
Excited to branch off though and get ready for these little pumpkins!