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charlestonchew

Should we start a Facebook group now?

charlestonchew

I think I'll leave this up through tomorrow til Friday just so everyone has a chance to see it.

lincbeesmom

I’m on the fence still. Once the fb group starts, it usually causes things to die down on the Bump group. (At least that’s my experience) 

i can’t decide!!! FWP. 

holli0801

@lincbeesmom that’s a good point... I’m undecided as well. 

glitzandglitter

lincbeesmom said:

I’m on the fence still. Once the fb group starts, it usually causes things to die down on the Bump group. (At least that’s my experience) 

i can’t decide!!! FWP. 

These are my thoughts exactly too

ETA: Would there be a process or just everyone who wanted in could get in?

mileswithmyles

@lincbeesmom ours was active both on here and FB until the babies were born and then it died down here. 

lincbeesmom

mileswithmyles said:

@lincbeesmom ours was active both on here and FB until the babies were born and then it died down here. 

That would be awesome if we could keep that up!

lincbeesmom

glitzandglitter said:

lincbeesmom said:

I’m on the fence still. Once the fb group starts, it usually causes things to die down on the Bump group. (At least that’s my experience) 

i can’t decide!!! FWP. 

These are my thoughts exactly too

ETA: Would there be a process or just everyone who wanted in could get in?

I don’t know if EVERYONE should get in...I mean, I don’t want somebody that’s only posted once or twice knowing all my personal info. I don’t usually care too much but I’m a total AW so I’ll be sharing a lot of pictures and info once we get to fb. 

charlestonchew

Would it be weird and too exclusive to require a certain amount of posts?

holli0801

lincbeesmom said:

glitzandglitter said:

lincbeesmom said:

I’m on the fence still. Once the fb group starts, it usually causes things to die down on the Bump group. (At least that’s my experience) 

i can’t decide!!! FWP. 

These are my thoughts exactly too

ETA: Would there be a process or just everyone who wanted in could get in?

I don’t know if EVERYONE should get in...I mean, I don’t want somebody that’s only posted once or twice knowing all my personal info. I don’t usually care too much but I’m a total AW so I’ll be sharing a lot of pictures and info once we get to fb. 

My last one had someone who volunteered to get messaged here on the bump with real/Facebook names to verify before adding people to the Facebook group. 

suchaglencoco

Honestly, I am not comfortable at all with moving to fb and don't want to deal with a burner account either. 

lincbeesmom

suchaglencoco said:

Honestly, I am not comfortable at all with moving to fb and don't want to deal with a burner account either. 

Ever? Or at this point in time?

onesmallcoconut

@suchaglencoco I'm not ready yet either. On the fence about the future though. 

suchaglencoco

@onesmallcoconut, same. I can't promise I'll join in April either. 

MissusTexas

I’m for it mainly because posting from the app is such a PITA for me.

onesmallcoconut

@suchaglencoco totally understandable. 

rachelg777

I’m not ready yet either.

lincbeesmom

So I don’t think I’m quite ready yet either

justsuzie

I notice a lot of posters on here NEVER respond to others and only post about themselves. I've especially noticed that in some of the weekly check-ins. I feel like those people would make a FB group miserable. 

ivyvines6

I think there’s a core group that we could be selective with though... 

suchaglencoco

I think I commented this in another thread.
In the D15 group, maybe 40 of us or so moved into a secret group about now. We'd participate in this main board, but felt more open in a smaller setting that wasn't public. Then right before our babies came, we started a fb group which like 35 entered. Now we're done to 27 I think, but it was an easier transition in my mind than going straight to fb.

ivyvines6

suchaglencoco said:

I think I commented this in another thread.
In the D15 group, maybe 40 of us or so moved into a secret group about now. We'd participate in this main board, but felt more open in a smaller setting that wasn't public. Then right before our babies came, we started a fb group which like 35 entered. Now we're done to 27 I think, but it was an easier transition in my mind than going straight to fb.

I like this strategy actually. My a16 group started off with 30, and we’re now down to 27. It is pretty hard when someone you’re close to leaves though... 

sbaby2019

I've been really enjoying all the advice, funny gifs and just general info on these boards. I'm not super active so not sure what the requirements would be for a FB group. With that said, I'm also pretty private so I prefer to wait until later before making a decision and I would also prefer it to be a smaller and more engaged group then a group of 100 people I barely know.
I like idea of creating a smaller thread/group to trim down on random people before transitioning to FB.

Edited for autocorrect/spelling

Poppy0419

I say yes because I hate sharing things with the world when it’s meant for y’all. But i don’t want just anyone being able to join in. But in my case, social media is part of my job and I’ve already opened my life up to too many people. Heck y’all know more about me than people who comment daily on things do. 

nanifrog

I don't like the FB groups. They always kill the boards. I don't like telling people there not party of the cool kids. I'm ok with people not posting often. There's a difference between not posting a ton and only posting to AW. I'm also pretty selective about what I post on fb so I'd also have to use a dummy account and that's just too much.

mileswithmyles

@ivyvines6 we’re 4.5 years in our FB group and it still hurts when someone leaves. We had a huge implosion a while back that spilt the group and it was rough.  We also kick out people who turn in to lurkers or who only emerge to sell R and F or whatever. 

justsuzie

@nanifrog I don't think it's about the frequency of posting, it's more about the general concern and interest in the lives of others. Someone had a great analogy about garbage or something....I forget, but it was spot on!

cups4

I would feel more open to talk in a fb group, but honestly, only with the ladies who post and actually respond and have conversations and again, being selective. I don't know how else to say that tactfully. 

tincupchalice

In general I'd like to wait.  On the other hand, the app sucks and I've been having trouble with the website on my desktop too.  So I guess I don't care.

nanifrog

@justsuzie i agree, it's not about the frequency. My point was that less frequent posters would maybe not be in the group and then the board has a class hanging over it where a bunch of people feel left out. Some people are already feeling bad they they're not posting enough, even though many of them are meaningful contributors even if not as frequent.

bjkay22

I am interested in Facebook but I agree we should wait a little longer. The Bump app is a PITA to post from but it’s a balance. I’m not super worried about privacy (I guess I should be since I’m about to have a kid) but it’s a balance. I think the earlier you move over the bigger the group is and then not everyone can keep up and it can cause issues. If you wait until later it would probably be fewer people overall.

edit: I was going to edit this because I use the word “balance” repeatedly but nah...it’s 6 AM...

dem068a

I would vote yes to Facebook.  I find it much easier to post there. Some sort of requirements would be helpful. But I do agree with @nanifrog about killing the boards and people feeling left out too.   Although maybe people who aren’t active here and don’t care about posting other than about themselves would even care to join a group
Basically I like reading what everyone posts and being involved, but I hate the app. So I am ready to move to a (private) Facebook group whenever 

fraufarbissina

Hmmm I'm on the fence but leaning no for now.  Bump mobile has been pissing me of lately so I think I'd participate more on FB but I also think it's a little early to move over.  

BertieMeetsGertie

suchaglencoco said:

I think I commented this in another thread.
In the D15 group, maybe 40 of us or so moved into a secret group about now. We'd participate in this main board, but felt more open in a smaller setting that wasn't public. Then right before our babies came, we started a fb group which like 35 entered. Now we're done to 27 I think, but it was an easier transition in my mind than going straight to fb.

+1 to this! While I agree that FB is easier than TB app (I’m strictly mobile), but it might be better to start with a smaller private group on TB for now. That way we (assuming I’m part of this group  ) can get to know each other a little better before sharing our entire personal lives. DH tends to be more private than me, so I need to consider him too. 

loko08

Somewhat infrequentish poster here (missed a lot due to health issues in the first tri) and my old BMB split into a private group around this time, but kept it on the Bump. People “voted” with Love it’s to make sure people who were in were ones they recognized. Then about a month or two before babies came it went to FB. 

I liked that process. Not down for a huge migration though to FB at this point. 

loko08

I meant to tag @suchaglencoco because yep, that’s the same as what she said!

abhphilly

I don't mind either way. Being in a private FB group is not the same as being FB friends right? So all people would see on my profile is what anyone I'm not friends with on FB can see, as far as I can tell. I don't have much of an issue with people from here knowing my name and city. That said, waiting works too! I wish these stupid ads wouldn't make The Bump completely nonfunctional on desktop though. Grrr.

sandbar517

I personally think it's too early for Facebook.  We're still getting "knotties" and random drive by postings, and I still see random posts from people whose screen name I don't recognize, but say they've intro'd, etc.  I also tend to overshare and would like to be on Facebook at some point because it's much easier for me to keep up on that at home.  After I had my twins, I was so overwhelmed with everything that I just dropped the Bump altogether and I don't want that to happen this time around.  I think a private Bump group in a month or so would be a great way to start to filter into a smaller group of the "regulars".

glitzandglitter

+1 for the private bump group first. I think that is a great idea.

@abhphilly - it has been a while since I joined the BMB but I *think* I only friended the person wha added me to the group and then once I was in the group I could unfriend her if I wanted to. It's been a while though so that could be faulty memory or they could have changed the procedures for joining a secret group...

trauen812

babys_2018 said:

I've been really enjoying all the advice, funny gifs and just general info on these boards. I'm not super active so not sure what the requirements would be for a FB group. With that said, I'm also pretty private so I prefer to wait until later before making a decision and I would also prefer it to be a smaller and more engaged group then a group of 100 people I barely know.
I like idea of creating a smaller thread/group to trim down on random people before transitioning to FB.

Edited for autocorrect/spelling

^^^this. I’ve been loving being a part of this with you ladies. Unfortunately with this app I’m not really great at posting and it can be hard to tell what posts are most recent, so I’m not participating as much as I’d like to. So, basically I’m on the fence also.

justsuzie

The only reason I have FB is for marketplace. I have only posted one comment in 3 years.