I didn’t realize there were secret bump boards? Am I the only one lol
No you’re not! I was not aware of this either. I knew there were board you had to message someone to join (some mental health boards, etc) but I didn’t know you could start one.
I'm looking forward to there being a FB group because there are certain things I've hesitated to share because they show my face or name etc, like our pregnancy announcement, and that would bother me less on a closed group. A secret bump group could be a good compromise though! I would be in favour of being pretty ruthless with who we allow, although maybe my idea of ruthless is less so than some because the people I've seen worry about not being let in are people who in my mind would be part of the group no question.
I would not be ready to move to Facebook but like the idea of a private bump group. I think I fall into the category of people who don't post a ton but try to engage when I do and would like to continue to have conversations that I can participate in.
Somewhat infrequentish poster here (missed a lot due to health issues in the first tri) and my old BMB split into a private group around this time, but kept it on the Bump. People “voted” with Love it’s to make sure people who were in were ones they recognized. Then about a month or two before babies came it went to FB.
I liked that process. Not down for a huge migration though to FB at this point.
I'm not ready for FB just yet. I'm in the same BMB as @loko08 and liked the way things progressed last time. I think a FB closer to May makes more sense.
I haven't been participating because of the holidays and tb app not liking me and sending me back to the home screen multiple times when trying to read something or post something. I am much more active on Facebook because it doesn't give me problems. If facebook groups work the way I think they do, meaning they allow you access to just the group and not to personal pages I'd be much more likely to do that. Is that how it works?
Ditto to pretty much everything you all are saying. I'm a very private person and don't want too much to become public. I like the idea of the private groups. I know they exist but I'm not sure how to get one started. A Bump expert will have to set that up! I'm with @charlestonchew and say we get the details together for the secret one. I liked the idea of setting up a post and using love its as a marker of how much we recognize them. I think there are several people who have commented that they aren't around a lot but that I recognize their names. I don't think of it as a "cool" kids kind of thing. For me, I feel like it's a safety thing (assuming a little more information is shared on the secret board than here). It seems like a trial run for FB. I wasn't active on DS's BMB, so I could be wrong.
I don’t even think it’s the quantity of posts people make but that they have made an effort to be genuine and meaningful. Plus any FB group wouldn’t be open for just anyone here too join. We’d definitely have to put someone in charge of adding people so that Knottie836281027261918263 can’t just bust in. I’m happy with a secret group on here as well to start moving towards that.
Also im not one to care about hurting someone’s feelings because they’re not in the “cool kids club”. They have the same opportunity to get involved and comment and get to know people as any of us do. And we aren’t mean to people who make true efforts. Hell were (y’all are) too damn nice to the drivebys.
I love my F15 secret FB group with all my heart. I have made some amazing friends. A couple FB nuances, you don't have to be friends with the people in the group, so your private page can be private still. The group should/would be secret so no one can see we belong to it or search it. And you can leave at any time. Just wanted to answer for those who had questions previously posted.
I agree with everyone! hahah. I could really go for whatever. But, I do think its a little too early. I like the idea of a secret bump group before setting up FB. While I hate the bump app, I think we still have way too many drive-bys and AW to go full facebook at this point.
I also agree princess @Poppy0419 , it's not about frequency (at least I hope not, because I do not post very frequently), but if your contributions are always "me, me, me, me" you aren't really bringing any support to the table. It's pretty easy to spot those ones (the people who only participate in US and HDBD threads, and have posted more of their own one-off threads than they have in the weekly randoms/questions)
Okay. I'm a mover and a doer so I like to just jump on stuff and get it done instead of debating about it forever so I'm going to start a group. I think then we can debate about standards for letting people in.
@charlestonchew - the way I understood it was a private group on TB but I have not previously joined one so I am not sure how that all works... It seems like to find the group you would have to go to the private groups link. I am not 100% but it looks like people can see how many are in the group but not who the members are with the exception of the moderator.
+1 for secret bump group now or soonish. TB gods do not have access to those groups.
Sadly, this isn’t entirely true. They don’t moderate private group posts, but they can see/read them. In one of my private groups, TB gods used something something said about someone else to ban them from TB. Said person had 2 warnings and was banned. Couldn’t figure out why so after a bunch of messages with TB gods, they finally told her that she said something not nice about someone in a private group post and used that info to ban her. Thank god for AI’s is all I can say...
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Also im not one to care about hurting someone’s feelings because they’re not in the “cool kids club”. They have the same opportunity to get involved and comment and get to know people as any of us do. And we aren’t mean to people who make true efforts. Hell were (y’all are) too damn nice to the drivebys.
I also agree princess @Poppy0419 , it's not about frequency (at least I hope not, because I do not post very frequently), but if your contributions are always "me, me, me, me" you aren't really bringing any support to the table. It's pretty easy to spot those ones (the people who only participate in US and HDBD threads, and have posted more of their own one-off threads than they have in the weekly randoms/questions)
Let me know if you want me to make one and I can. I don't want to be the creepy person that pushes anyone in to anything.
TB gods do not have access to those groups.
Do I have to invite or can people request?
Eta- I think you can invite people too.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018