@doubleblessings1124 omg, those are adorable!! BBB is popular where we live, but not where the majority of our family lives. I need to check out target and amazon a little more.
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For the FTMs definitely consider an amazon registry. So many people thanked me/commented on how easy it made their lives! They have so much good stuff on amazon too so you’ll have a lot to choose from.
STMs, are you setting up a registry? I'm debating on doing one since this is my second baby. I know every baby deserves to be celebrated and all that but I felt weird asking for things the first time around so asking a second time seems like too much. What are you doing?
I am setting up a couple to make a list of things we need. I'll also use it to get some freebies and completion coupons and what not. I doubt anyone else will ask for it.
@JNCPro3130 I have a registry on amazon and will have at target too. My SIL and niece are throwing me a baby shower next month (4 years Between Kids and it’s TWINS so they want to celebrate). Before I knew about the baby shower, I was using it as a list for myself so I wouldn’t forget anything I needed. I got rid of everything after DS so I’m basically starting over. I was convinced I was one and done. It’s also nice for the 15% completion discount.
I am setting up an amazon registry. My LO is still in his crib, so we need a new crib and a few other things. Plus this baby is a girl and he is a boy, so I am also registering for some pink sheets/other fun girly stuff (and another car seat and pack n play)
Also setting up a private registry. We need a new crib, changing table, car seat, rock and play, bassinet, and NB/0-3M clothes for this one.
Since we breastfeed and cloth diaper and are boujie about what soaps and such we use I’m not going to get the amazon box that normally comes with it though.
Also setting up a private registry. We need a new crib, changing table, car seat, rock and play, bassinet, and NB/0-3M clothes for this one.
Since we breastfeed and cloth diaper and are boujie about what soaps and such we use I’m not going to get the amazon box that normally comes with it though.
I got the free welcome box and yeah it was a lot of samples of diapers/wipes but I also got a bib and Muslin swaddle. It also came with some dreft soap samples that I’m currently using on our laundry haha. I also got a free rattle for having an amazon registry too.
Pretty sure you need to have prime/spend $10/“finish your registry” to get the box. I love free samples so I was down with it.
I set up an amazon registry for the completion coupon. I did it last time and ordered my last big things all at once with it. I’m not having a second shower but I like discounts and organization.
@JNCPro3130 I did. Partly to keep myself organized, partly to get the completion coupon, and partly because my family was asking what we want/need and it’s easier to have it all in one place. My bff wants to throw me a sprinkle, so I figured it’s good to have a central list if people want to bring a gift.
I am setting up a couple to make a list of things we need. I'll also use it to get some freebies and completion coupons and what not. I doubt anyone else will ask for it.
^this. My Mom will likely be the only person to ask for it.
No registry for us. DS is two, out of the crib and infant car seat. I feel like we have everything we need. This baby is a girl, but we have a lot of gender neutral, and don’t mind dinosaurs and blue on baby girl...
@holli0801, we have all the clothes, carseats, and bigger items except a crib. Our twins are in toddler beds, but they're convertible ones that go into twin beds, so this one will get the same thing. I also like our kids each having their own blankets, because I love blankets, haha. So this new kid needs blankets, crib sheets, some stuffed animals, maybe a bookcase. Ugh. Money money money.
@suchaglencoco that makes sense. I will need crib sheets too, but I haven’t thought about that yet, since she will be in a bassinet for a bit! Another bookcase is a good idea as well!
@suchaglencoco maybe I'll send you all the blankets we have. I hate baby blankets. You need like, 2. We have 87. I thought i got rid of them, but i keep finding more. I really hope we don't get any for this baby.
I found super cute purple dinosaur crib sheets. DD2 loves people and dinosaurs so they would be perfect in the room. I'm going to skip it though cause i know it's not worth it.
@nanifrog, the twins each have 2 knit blankets from family that I love and they use in the winter along with each having a sewn quilt from a family member. I also bought them each a fleece blanket. Then for the summer I made them each 2 thinner blankets to use. They both have 2 car blankets just in case and for transfer from houses to car when it's cold out. I have an issue with too many blankets and to many mugs, ha. One of DHs cousins who knit one of the sets is knitting one for this new baby and I'm so so so grateful!
I have been building a private registry on Babylist, mainly to get myself organized and save stuff I like. I will make it available once I know more about a shower for me. But reading through all your comments I'm realizing that I could be missing out of discounts if I don't do a store registry so I may do that too. What is this amazon sample box some of you have mentioned? I didn't even realize you could make a registry with them. Is this how you get the free box of stuff?
@babys_2018 I did Babylist as my registry to use for my shower but I made a private one after my shower for Amazon so I’d get the completion coupon and know what else I needed to purchase.
Who else has been having BHs? I think I had some actual contractions 2 nights ago after dh and I got busy. It was not fun and I told DH I may practice abstinence the rest of pregnancy. Then last night I started to get BHs. They were a little painful to be honest. I tried to drink water and relax, but that didn't seem to help much. DH read somewhere if I had 6 in an hour, we should go into the hospital, but I find that hard to believe. Honestly, if it had gotten worse or kept me up, I would have called my nurse line, but it seemed to be under control.
What has everyone else been told about when to worry with BHs?
@suchaglencoco I haven't been told anything about BH contractions yet and I don't recall anything from my first pregnancy. I don't think I had them till towards the end... you could call in to the nurse line for some advice and see what they say, do you have any appts coming up? Sorry I'm not much help.
I plan to ask my doctor about contractions at my appointment on Tuesday. I have been getting them after exercise and sometimes after sex. Mine lasted a long time and were painful. I ended up going to sleep and i figured that if they woke me and were getting worse I'd call or go in.
I currently work full time but I’m planning on staying home once we have our girl. I’m thinking I will leave about a month before our due date (my SIL is due 1 month before me so I know I’ll want time off anyways to go visit with her and the baby). Did any of you switch to stay at home and please give tips or advice (maybe if this is a popular topic I can start a thread). I’m mostly nervous that the baby is going to be insanely attached to me and not my husband because obvioulsy I will be with her all day and he will only see her in the evenings and on weekends. Part of my plan to combat that is to pump if I can so he can feed her and to try to leave (even if it’s just a workout class or something) one night a week so he can be alone with her and figure stuff out on his own with her like I will. Any other advice?
@bjkay22b is your question only about making sure your baby is also attached to your H? For us, both kids were more attached to me for a long time. For DD1, she ended up spending more time with Dad when it was pregnant with DD2 and when Dd2 was born. For DD2, she got more attached to him over the summer when she was at camp with him. She still often has a preference for me though. I think imfants, especially nursing ones, are supposed to be attached to their mothers. Over time, it changes. As long as the other parent is involved it all works out. There are certain things that each person brings to the table.
@nanifrog yes basically. I mean any advice regarding being a stay at home parent, I’ll take it but my main worry is that she will be more attached to me. What you’re saying makes sense. If it seems she is more attached me, I’ll try not to worry too much about it, especially through the time while I’m (hopefully) breastfeeding. Thanks!
@suchaglencoco - I would bring it up at your next doctor's appointment but I wouldn't worry too much about it. If you are far from your next appointment but not concerned enough to call the after hours number you could always call today, while your office is open and ask. I have had them a few times too. I never had them with my first pregnancy but with all my other ones I have and they started around now.
@bjkay22 I agree with @nanifrog that it's natural for infants to be attached to their moms. I don't have experience as a SAHM but after 4 months of maternity leave, I went back to work and my husband SAH full time and my daughter was still completely attached to me probably until she was about 8 months old. So I think that as long as your husband is involved as much as he can, he'll develop his own special bond with the baby and it'll evolve over time.
@bjkay22 Like @nanifrog said, your baby will likely be more attached to you. My H had never even held a baby before DD. Things that helped us were getting him involved when we were both at home (1. to give me a break and 2. to start figuring things out on his own) and also taking an hour here or there for myself. I think pumping and being able to go out for a bit is great. I love grocery shopping by myself, that was huge for me in the beginning. Once my H realized he could do things on his own and built up his confidence, DD was a lot easier to leave with him. She definitely prefers me, but she is great with him as well. I went back to work PT (3 days) after DD, but I will be staying at home after #2.
@suchaglencoco I had BH a lot with J, and nothing I did or didn’t do outside of drinking ALL the water helped in any way. I’ve never heard the six in one hour thing either... I was due 3/27, was induced 3/24, and started having BH sometime in January. All of my baby shower pictures were of me grimacing. (Late February)
@bjkay22 I wouldn’t worry about baby being attached to you at first because newborns are biologically wired to want mom more anyway. They grow out of it, even with exclusive nursing. (J did) Pumping for the sole purpose of letting someone else feed the baby when you’re going to be a sahm feels like unnecessary extra work to me though. Put your DH in charge of the nightly bedtime routine of bathing, dressing, and reading, and set that routine up early(ish). I want to say we started that routine around four weeks, and put J to sleep in his crib for his first sleep session, then the bassinet in our room, then bed sharing for the last couple of hours. There is so much more to bonding with a baby than feeding which gets taken for granted a lot. I have millions of pictures of DH burping J, or J just sleeping on him while he watched TV. J wouldn’t be put down for the first like three months unless DH swaddled him, which is a skill I purposefully never mastered if I’m being honest...
Outside of that... Being a sahp is what you put into it. Some people find it easy to make a schedule and adhere to it daily, and other just do what comes naturally. I person have a tentative schedule every week, but outside of laundry all day on Wednesday’s, and going to my moms on Thursday’s, it’s really flexible.
@suchaglencoco I actually asked my uncle about these the other day because I never had BH with DS. I get them when my bladder is really full. He said that as long as they aren’t painful, no need to worry. If they are accompanied by pain, call the OB.
@bjkay22 DS definitely wanted me more in the beginning, mostly because of BFing. It helped to start pumping so DH could give him a bottle. DH also did a lot of the diaper changes and bath time so that they had their time together. It all works itself out.
My MIL has like every one of her friends crocheting me a blanket. Who needs that many blankets?? Don’t get me wrong, it’s thoughtful but I’ll never in a million years be able to use them all. Plus, what’s my son going to do with that many blankets the first few months of his life? I’ll need onsies and other things. Not to sound like a huge b, but the more pregnant I get, the more outspoken I am. Lol.
This is my first, so being a complete lunatic, I want the baby to be attached to me. Don’t get me wrong, I want my husband to help out but selfishly want my son to prefer me. I told you, I may be nuts.
@suchaglencoco ive been having them too. I’m not worrying unless they are painful or don’t go away. But super not fun already.
@bjkay22 I’m a SAHM and DD is still more attached to DH (and my stepdad who is her fav person EVER) than me. I’d get him involved in any way that you can. On the days DH is off, I liked to spend an hour doing something just for me and give them time together.
Schedule wise, I loosely schedule my days in a block schedule. It gives DD an idea of what to expect but we’re still super flexible. It keeps me from sitting on the couch and letting the day get away from me which tbh I’m excellent at.
Thanks ladies. The BHs were kind of painful last night. Maybe I'll just call in today to see what they think and give me a game plan for if it happens again. My appointment isn't until the 10th so it's a couple weeks away still.
@suchaglencoco never hurts to call. Especially since they were painful. At least you’ll have more of an idea on steps to take if it gets serious. Game plans always ease my mind.
@suchaglencoco I get gazillions of Braxton Hicks and sometimes they are painful. They seem to cause my round ligaments to go crazy at the same time. I think I have what is called an irritable uterus, but have self diagnosed that. Anyway, my babies have all cooked for a very long time, and I’ve never had issues because of them.
@bjkay22 I am a sahm (my son will be 2 at the end of Feb), and he is certainly more attached to me. My husband works a lot and gets to see him max 1 hour a day during the week and then weekends. But it is all about maximizing that time. Dad does bath and books before bed, so that is there “thing”. And on the weekends or when he is off from work (like he is this week), he is super hands on. It’s never going to be totally 50/50, kids are always a little more close/attached to one parent. But it will change as time goes on.
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I doubt anyone else will ask for it.
Since we breastfeed and cloth diaper and are boujie about what soaps and such we use I’m not going to get the amazon box that normally comes with it though.
Pretty sure you need to have prime/spend $10/“finish your registry” to get the box. I love free samples so I was down with it.
I also like our kids each having their own blankets, because I love blankets, haha. So this new kid needs blankets, crib sheets, some stuffed animals, maybe a bookcase.
Ugh. Money money money.
I found super cute purple dinosaur crib sheets. DD2 loves people and dinosaurs so they would be perfect in the room. I'm going to skip it though cause i know it's not worth it.
I have an issue with too many blankets and to many mugs, ha.
One of DHs cousins who knit one of the sets is knitting one for this new baby and I'm so so so grateful!
But reading through all your comments I'm realizing that I could be missing out of discounts if I don't do a store registry so I may do that too.
What is this amazon sample box some of you have mentioned? I didn't even realize you could make a registry with them. Is this how you get the free box of stuff?
Who else has been having BHs?
I think I had some actual contractions 2 nights ago after dh and I got busy. It was not fun and I told DH I may practice abstinence the rest of pregnancy.
Then last night I started to get BHs. They were a little painful to be honest. I tried to drink water and relax, but that didn't seem to help much. DH read somewhere if I had 6 in an hour, we should go into the hospital, but I find that hard to believe. Honestly, if it had gotten worse or kept me up, I would have called my nurse line, but it seemed to be under control.
What has everyone else been told about when to worry with BHs?
I currently work full time but I’m planning on staying home once we have our girl. I’m thinking I will leave about a month before our due date (my SIL is due 1 month before me so I know I’ll want time off anyways to go visit with her and the baby). Did any of you switch to stay at home and please give tips or advice (maybe if this is a popular topic I can start a thread). I’m mostly nervous that the baby is going to be insanely attached to me and not my husband because obvioulsy I will be with her all day and he will only see her in the evenings and on weekends. Part of my plan to combat that is to pump if I can so he can feed her and to try to leave (even if it’s just a workout class or something) one night a week so he can be alone with her and figure stuff out on his own with her like I will. Any other advice?
@bjkay22 I wouldn’t worry about baby being attached to you at first because newborns are biologically wired to want mom more anyway. They grow out of it, even with exclusive nursing. (J did) Pumping for the sole purpose of letting someone else feed the baby when you’re going to be a sahm feels like unnecessary extra work to me though. Put your DH in charge of the nightly bedtime routine of bathing, dressing, and reading, and set that routine up early(ish). I want to say we started that routine around four weeks, and put J to sleep in his crib for his first sleep session, then the bassinet in our room, then bed sharing for the last couple of hours. There is so much more to bonding with a baby than feeding which gets taken for granted a lot. I have millions of pictures of DH burping J, or J just sleeping on him while he watched TV. J wouldn’t be put down for the first like three months unless DH swaddled him, which is a skill I purposefully never mastered if I’m being honest...
Outside of that... Being a sahp is what you put into it. Some people find it easy to make a schedule and adhere to it daily, and other just do what comes naturally. I person have a tentative schedule every week, but outside of laundry all day on Wednesday’s, and going to my moms on Thursday’s, it’s really flexible.
@bjkay22 DS definitely wanted me more in the beginning, mostly because of BFing. It helped to start pumping so DH could give him a bottle. DH also did a lot of the diaper changes and bath time so that they had their time together. It all works itself out.
My MIL has like every one of her friends crocheting me a blanket. Who needs that many blankets?? Don’t get me wrong, it’s thoughtful but I’ll never in a million years be able to use them all. Plus, what’s my son going to do with that many blankets the first few months of his life? I’ll need onsies and other things. Not to sound like a huge b, but the more pregnant I get, the more outspoken I am. Lol.
This is my first, so being a complete lunatic, I want the baby to be attached to me. Don’t get me wrong, I want my husband to help out but selfishly want my son to prefer me. I told you, I may be nuts.
@bjkay22 I’m a SAHM and DD is still more attached to DH (and my stepdad who is her fav person EVER) than me. I’d get him involved in any way that you can. On the days DH is off, I liked to spend an hour doing something just for me and give them time together.
Schedule wise, I loosely schedule my days in a block schedule. It gives DD an idea of what to expect but we’re still super flexible. It keeps me from sitting on the couch and letting the day get away from me which tbh I’m excellent at.
I am a sahm (my son will be 2 at the end of Feb), and he is certainly more attached to me. My husband works a lot and gets to see him max 1 hour a day during the week and then weekends. But it is all about maximizing that time. Dad does bath and books before bed, so that is there “thing”. And on the weekends or when he is off from work (like he is this week), he is super hands on. It’s never going to be totally 50/50, kids are always a little more close/attached to one parent. But it will change as time goes on.