UO Thursday

riversdoctor · December 2017

alright ladies, I’m trying to distract myself while waiting for a doc to call back to confirm what I already know from my lab results! (I have mild choleostasis of pregnancy, now I just need treatment plan, but my doc is out this week! She said someone else would call when the results came in so I wouldn’t sit and worry)

my UO: I’m an atheist but my children have been baptized in my parents church. Amongst my atheist friends I’m often laughed at or called a hypocrite but to me, giving my Grandma the cultural celebration and emotional security regardless of my belief is more important to me than making some grand gesture against organized religion.

irenejean · December 2017

@riversdoctor, we aren't religious, but if I were in your shoes, I'd just call the baptism a back-up/insurance plan in case you're wrong

Seriously though, if you're a non-believer, then a baptism is really just a little water put on a baby in a church and does zero harm and is a relief to Grandma, and people want to hold that against you?

ftm_ohio · December 2017

@riversdoctor fellow atheist and I'm 100% with @irenejean who cares?

My UO is a little lame, but I think chocolate and peanut butter is a gross combination. Alone they are both delicious, together, gag me!

riversdoctor · December 2017

@ftm_ohio, love it! Also re:Reese’s pb cups -more for me! I personally can’t stand regular nuts in brownies/chocolate though. So peanut m&ms or snickers bars are just awful!

ftm_ohio · December 2017

@riversdoctor hell yes to that! I hate nuts in my desserts! They don't being there!!

angiek1 · December 2017

@ftm_ohio I 100% agree with you!

My UO - I am loving that the weather has gone to complete crap. If I wanted to live in perfect temps I would move to a location that was conducive to that lifestyle. I am a big fan of the snow, ice and arctic temps (during limited times), the shift is welcome in my world.

mcb2016 · December 2017

I just wouldn't agree to infant baptism even though my family has a strong history of it. With ds#1 we got a lot of crap from our family. With ds#2 (11 yrs later) I kinda wanted to dress him in a traditonal family gown. Just for the pic but he was too huge For it anyway. No one even mentioned baptising him. They had given up. We are believers. We did a small dedication at a friend's house.

lindsye · December 2017

I really enjoy the gift-giving aspect of Christmas as a parent. In no way do I want to teach my kids that material things are what bring true happiness (I mean, things are great but at the end of the day it’s just *stuff*) and I definitely think it’s important to teach them the giving back aspect of Christmas as they get older. At 5, 3, and 19 months, though, it’s just so much fun to choose and then see them open new toys that they love.

Addendum: I think that toys for kids are truly different than “toys” for adults. They can be an integral - though by no means necessary - part of pretend play and learning. And our kids get half and half: half toys devoted to learning and half “fluff” toys that they just enjoy.

vintageandrea90 · December 2017

All my friends with kids have the elf on a shelf and I seriously don’t get the appeal/concept. I think it’s really dumb.

ngolimento · December 2017

On the religion topic: I grew up in a deeply toxic church environment. It was an extremely old school congregation that basically taught me that I was disgusting scum unworthy to even lick shit off of God's shoe. It was horrible, and I remember at the age of 6 crying and begging God to fix me and make me worthy of his love.

So....naturally I got old enough to say "Hey, waitafuckingminute, YOU made me like this, so GTFO with your judgey shit", and turned Agnostic. I can't step foot into a church without feeling a whole lot of negative stuff. I don't ever ever want my children to go through anything like that, so I will raise them Agnostic too.

I feel like there is way too much nasty judgey BS in every religion, and nobody actually knows wtf they are actually talking about. On the other hand, I can't say that I know anything either, so I can't say a higher power doesn't exist. I just feel like everyone is just making stuff up and not admitting to not understanding a non-graspable concept. Instead a lot of people pretend to totes know an omniscient being's favorite day, color, sex position, genitals, etc (btw, why the hell would an omniscient being give the singlest shit about any of those things?).

So yeah... going to raise my kid with options and try to teach them to be good people for the sake of being good people, not for fear of punishment/reward. I will let them decide if they want to pick a religion (or not), and support them any way I can.

vintageandrea90 · December 2017

@ngolimento I’m a Christian and it makes me angry when I see churches/so called Christian’s who treat others in such a way that it mKes them want nothing to do with it ever again. Goes against everything that it’s suppose to be about. I’m sorry you were treated that way and had that experience. I agree there is so much wrong with organized religion.

mountainsmama · December 2017

I really try to give all parents the benefit of the doubt because parenting is hard AF and most of the things I said I'd "never do" pre-kids I do without reservation now. BUT I think there is definitely such a thing as too much TV/screen time for little ones and I'm biting my tongue right now at my in-laws house. They have a 18 mo old and 3 YO and these girls watch TV every morning and night, plus the kindle all the time during the day. My LO is distracted by the TV and my DH and I keep turning it off, hah. My FIL and MIL keep comparing my DD to their younger one, attributing how verbal by DD is to the fact that she's in day care. A) all kids are different, so comparing their development isn't fair, but B ) my kid knows her colors and letters and numbers because we TALK to her and READ to her constantly. I have yet to see anyone read to these kids, between one parent, one nanny, and two grandparents around all day.

End rant.

Oh also the girls got bowls of goldfish crackers for breakfast today. Seriously? Okay end rant for real.

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