@cups4, Wow! You are at school until Friday! Bless you! We are struggling and today is our last day. Good luck! I'm glad you are feeling better though!
@sparklingdiamond, I hope her baby continues to do well (as best as she can hope for for now!). That's so hard, even if you know in advance. All the hormones and emotions, etc right after birth and then adding all that fear must be so hard.
Thanks ladies. I just had one powerful, sick 30 minutes where our lab hid from my awful noises. Then I slept a bit and have been keeping down fluids, toast, a banana and some applesauce.
I hadn't seen our kids all morning so once I woke up a bit and ate a little something, DH jumped in the shower. DD came in our room and gave me the biggest, most excited hug. It melted my heart. Then a dog walked by us and she did the same to him. So at least she loves our pets???
@sparklingdiamond I had missed this earlier but am really glad to hear things are going well for your friend so far!
@doraleigh35 congrats on your permanent residency!! That must be a huge weight off. I guess they can't really dispute it's a real relationship when you're actually knocked up, haha.
@mmb4532 I'm in a state of such WTF about your FIL's comment that I don't even know what to say. What an incredibly nasty thing to say to someone!! Jesus Christ!
@kpc914@justsuzie@ivyvines6 I used to be in the camp of not understanding why someone would not want all the drugs, but after doing some more research I am now leaning towards trying to go without an epidural. I'm kind of dreading telling people that because I know the comments will be ridiculous. Why do people have to be so condescending? Yes, it's good to be realistic, and some people may change their mind, but that doesn't mean it hurts to go in with a positive attitude about it.
As far as the meds go in labor, it amazes me the people (especially with my first) who would say, "Make sure you ask for the epidural as soon as you get to the hospital!" For anyone thinking about getting one, apparently it can take awhile so that might be good advice to go by. For me, I always just told people I'd see how things go and let them laugh it off as a FTM thing. I'm not gonna lie though... It was SOOO nice to tell people I did it after I gave birth without the epidural and then to talk about how much I LOVED cloth diapering DS... so satisfying to see people almost look disappointed that they couldn't say "I told you so".
As far as the meds go in labor, it amazes me the people (especially with my first) who would say, "Make sure you ask for the epidural as soon as you get to the hospital!" For anyone thinking about getting one, apparently it can take awhile so that might be good advice to go by. For me, I always just told people I'd see how things go and let them laugh it off as a FTM thing. I'm not gonna lie though... It was SOOO nice to tell people I did it after I gave birth without the epidural and then to talk about how much I LOVED cloth diapering DS... so satisfying to see people almost look disappointed that they couldn't say "I told you so".
@suchaglencoco that's a good point, but I just totally suck at ever keeping my mouth shut, haha.
Maybe this will work instead? If they ask or mention it, respond with "would you also like details on how the baby got in me since you're so interested in how it'll come out?" You don't have to keep your mouth shut and you'll get to see theirs fall open.
@suchaglencoco ahaha that's amazing. Although also makes me laugh at myself because I actually have been probably way too open about the fact that this baby got in me by IVF! Can't keep secrets
So our friends and neighbours are going through a really hard time right now as their youngest is in the ICU with a bad flare up of asthma. I want to do something to help and was thinking of making a soup or casserole of some kind of bring over. The dad has celiac so does anyone have suggestions of good gluten free recipes? Or if you've been in a similar situation, is there something you wish people had done to help other than the usual bringing by food?
@suchaglencoco I hope you feel better soon! @sandbar517 Happy bday! @thunderberry completely agree. It doesn't hurt to have a game plan and try to go without drugs if that's your jam. I hate that people are so nosy about that stuff. Obviously, I enjoy discussing this stuff on here because a) a lot of you ladies have been there before and it helps to get some insight, and b)our group is supportive/realistic no matter what your "birth plan" is (or lack therof). @JNCPro3130@ivyvines6 admittedly, a part of me is definitely loving the idea of being able to tell my friend who said I would hate cloth diapering, how amazing it is. I love a good challenge/chance to prevent them from being able to say "I told you so." Again, nothing wrong with wanting all the drugs and disposable diapers in the world, I just hate that people tell me "oh you will definitely want epidural and disposable diapers." They don't know and I won't know until I'm actually in the moment.
I have to say, one thing that’s awesome about being pregnant for the fifth time is that no one tries to give you advice. I mean, don’t get me wrong, some advice is great and really, really helpful, but that annoying, busy body, I know more than you crap is so obnoxious, especially when it’s just scare mongering. My favorite was “sleep now while you still can” when I was massively pregnant with an almost 9 lbs baby and had severe SPD. Oh thank you for reminding me that I cannot sleep because of seering pain that shoots from my crotch to my knee all night! you know what is a more helpful thing to say to a pregnant woman? “ when your baby is born, I’d like to come over and hold him or her while you get some sleep” or “ when the baby comes, id love to come over and pick up your house for you and do some laundry while you snuggle with your newborn” or how about “you’re going to be an awesome parent. I have complete confidence in you!”
@gildah The "sleep now" comments are so annoying. Aside from the fact that it's so cliché and repetitive I think everyone knows that is not how sleep works. We don't get to store it up like camels do water. And I think the majority of pregnant ladies sleep like crap anyway.
Blah I don't want to answer my phone when St Petersburg calls anymore! They were calling about my echo and I had to pay $252 (thankfully we met our ded and this is just the 10% co-insurance....) but I am scared of how much the other three appts will cost me. And I just had to pay two other medical bills (one of which I had to do a payment plan on). So I have paid $600 in the past three days. With three other appts to come next week. *sigh*
@thunderberry beef stew! As far as gluten issues go as long as you avoid anything with flour in it, you’re usually safe.
If he’s celiac you also have to be very careful about using any canned broth. A lot of the time it contains gluten. I have a friend who is celiac and I am constantly amazed by the things she tells me have gluten in them.
@thunderberry beef stew! As far as gluten issues go as long as you avoid anything with flour in it, you’re usually safe.
If he’s celiac you also have to be very careful about using any canned broth. A lot of the time it contains gluten. I have a friend who is celiac and I am constantly amazed by the things she tells me have gluten in them.
That’s true! I didn’t even think of that. Since we switched to bone broth and have done a couple whole30’s now our regular line up has brands that don’t factors things like that into it, and I took that for granted when throwing that out there... Sorry!
@sparklingdiamond solidarity on the medical bills front. My doctor let me pay half of mine today because I straight up bawled when i found out how much I’m in the hole (besides the hospital bills/copays/ambulance/medicine). Especially hard during this time of year.
@kpc914, I'm really sorry! I hope I didn't come across as mommy shaming with med free and cloth diapers. I'm all for "do you". I'm prone to migraines and heard about women getting them for months after having an epidural. It freaked me out; however, I'm in the "just get the baby out" camp. In the long run, it doesn't matter if you had a vaginal med free birth, c section, or anywhere in between. What matters is that the baby was delivered by whatever method was safest for mommy and baby.
As for CD, we did it (initially) to save money. We probably spent $500-$600 and are set for not only DS when he was in diapers but also this LO. On the flip side, they aren't for everyone. I don't side eye or judge anyone for how diaper their baby. It's easy once you get the hang of it but it takes work and I don't judge people for not wanting to do it.
All that to say, do whatever works for your family. Birth plans, diapers, BFing, and parenting (for the most part) is about what works for you, baby, and your family.
I’m team do whatever works for your family. I don’t cloth diaper but I’m ballin on a budget so let me tell ya: Amazon Subscribe and Save y’all. I pay MAYBE $35 a month for Pampers. Sometimes it’s $25-27. And...wait for it...I never run out. Someone else brings them to my door for me. It’s like magic!
I also do this with dog food because 80lb Lab and 55lbs Shepherd are attempting to eat me out of house and home. Paper towels/toilet paper/laundry detergent. All of it comes in a giant monthly box.
We do disposable and I found that what works best for us is the Target brand. I go whenever they have a "spend $75, get $20 gift card". Then I get back in line with another cart full and use the first gift card on the 2nd transaction. I come home with and nice stash of diapers and wipes. It'll and so be so weird to be buying size 1 diapers again!! Another tidbit on disposable diapers which my husband didn't learn until recently when I told him- the bigger the size, the less in a box. Our twins are in different sizes and he told me to just buy more of the bigger size so I ha to explain this all to him. And also, like dude, I've been the only one to stock up on diapers for them and it's worked out amazingly, so let me do my thing.
So much to catch up on. Thank you for the Happy Birthdays, everyone, I love all the gifs!!! Our AS went pretty well, it's another girl! She was being stubborn and was laying the wrong way, so we have to go back in a few weeks to see if we can get the rest of the heart pictures they weren't able to get yesterday. I also have a very minor placenta previa (part of my placenta is covering the cervix), so I have to have another check between weeks 28-32 to check on that, too. Other than that, everything went well. I don't know if I can even go back and tag everyone, I missed so much. @mileswithmyles I'm so glad you had a good time in NYC! @suchaglencoco I hope you all feel better soon! @mmb4532 Someone needs to slap a bitch. How terrible. @thunderberry I second what @cups4 said. Gift cards to places near the hospital, especially if they deliver would be good options, too. Ask if there's anything you can do around their house, get the mail, feed/take care of any pets, water plants, etc, so they don't feel obligated to come home as often if they don't want to. If I missed anyone, I apologize. Good thoughts for all of you!
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
@thunderberry So glad your scan looked great! Ours went well too. Kid wasn't being cooperative, so the ultrasound tech couldn't get a great profile shot of the jaw and nasal bone, but they said the one they got at the 16-week scan looked good enough to not have to try too hard ha.
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I hadn't seen our kids all morning so once I woke up a bit and ate a little something, DH jumped in the shower. DD came in our room and gave me the biggest, most excited hug. It melted my heart. Then a dog walked by us and she did the same to him. So at least she loves our pets???
Happy birthday @sandbar517!
@sparklingdiamond I had missed this earlier but am really glad to hear things are going well for your friend so far!
@doraleigh35 congrats on your permanent residency!! That must be a huge weight off. I guess they can't really dispute it's a real relationship when you're actually knocked up, haha.
@mmb4532 I'm in a state of such WTF about your FIL's comment that I don't even know what to say. What an incredibly nasty thing to say to someone!! Jesus Christ!
@sandbar517 @okaykoala I hope your scans go well today, sending good thoughts!
@kpc914 @justsuzie @ivyvines6 I used to be in the camp of not understanding why someone would not want all the drugs, but after doing some more research I am now leaning towards trying to go without an epidural. I'm kind of dreading telling people that because I know the comments will be ridiculous. Why do people have to be so condescending? Yes, it's good to be realistic, and some people may change their mind, but that doesn't mean it hurts to go in with a positive attitude about it.
@thunderberry, it's such a personal choice. You definitely don't have to tell anyone your plans for birth.
If they ask or mention it, respond with "would you also like details on how the baby got in me since you're so interested in how it'll come out?"
You don't have to keep your mouth shut and you'll get to see theirs fall open.
@suchaglencoco ahaha that's amazing. Although also makes me laugh at myself because I actually have been probably way too open about the fact that this baby got in me by IVF! Can't keep secrets
So our friends and neighbours are going through a really hard time right now as their youngest is in the ICU with a bad flare up of asthma. I want to do something to help and was thinking of making a soup or casserole of some kind of bring over. The dad has celiac so does anyone have suggestions of good gluten free recipes? Or if you've been in a similar situation, is there something you wish people had done to help other than the usual bringing by food?
@suchaglencoco I hope you are continuing to feel better and rid of the stomach bug soon!
@sandbar517 Happy Birthday! Hope your AS went/goes well!
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
@sandbar517 Happy bday!
@thunderberry completely agree. It doesn't hurt to have a game plan and try to go without drugs if that's your jam. I hate that people are so nosy about that stuff. Obviously, I enjoy discussing this stuff on here because a) a lot of you ladies have been there before and it helps to get some insight, and b)our group is supportive/realistic no matter what your "birth plan" is (or lack therof).
@JNCPro3130 @ivyvines6 admittedly, a part of me is definitely loving the idea of being able to tell my friend who said I would hate cloth diapering, how amazing it is. I love a good challenge/chance to prevent them from being able to say "I told you so." Again, nothing wrong with wanting all the drugs and disposable diapers in the world, I just hate that people tell me "oh you will definitely want epidural and disposable diapers." They don't know and I won't know until I'm actually in the moment.
I have to say, one thing that’s awesome about being pregnant for the fifth time is that no one tries to give you advice. I mean, don’t get me wrong, some advice is great and really, really helpful, but that annoying, busy body, I know more than you crap is so obnoxious, especially when it’s just scare mongering. My favorite was “sleep now while you still can” when I was massively pregnant with an almost 9 lbs baby and had severe SPD. Oh thank you for reminding me that I cannot sleep because of seering pain that shoots from my crotch to my knee all night! you know what is a more helpful thing to say to a pregnant woman? “ when your baby is born, I’d like to come over and hold him or her while you get some sleep” or “ when the baby comes, id love to come over and pick up your house for you and do some laundry while you snuggle with your newborn” or how about “you’re going to be an awesome parent. I have complete confidence in you!”
@ivyvines6 im glad your appointment went well!!
@mmb4532 ive got a lake behind my house that DH is well on his way to if you need to hide a body.
@sandbar517 HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
@sparklingdiamond solidarity on the medical bills front. My doctor let me pay half of mine today because I straight up bawled when i found out how much I’m in the hole (besides the hospital bills/copays/ambulance/medicine). Especially hard during this time of year.
As for CD, we did it (initially) to save money. We probably spent $500-$600 and are set for not only DS when he was in diapers but also this LO. On the flip side, they aren't for everyone. I don't side eye or judge anyone for how diaper their baby. It's easy once you get the hang of it but it takes work and I don't judge people for not wanting to do it.
All that to say, do whatever works for your family. Birth plans, diapers, BFing, and parenting (for the most part) is about what works for you, baby, and your family.
I also do this with dog food because 80lb Lab and 55lbs Shepherd are attempting to eat me out of house and home. Paper towels/toilet paper/laundry detergent. All of it comes in a giant monthly box.
I come home with and nice stash of diapers and wipes.
It'll and so be so weird to be buying size 1 diapers again!!
Another tidbit on disposable diapers which my husband didn't learn until recently when I told him- the bigger the size, the less in a box. Our twins are in different sizes and he told me to just buy more of the bigger size so I ha to explain this all to him. And also, like dude, I've been the only one to stock up on diapers for them and it's worked out amazingly, so let me do my thing.
I don't know if I can even go back and tag everyone, I missed so much. @mileswithmyles I'm so glad you had a good time in NYC! @suchaglencoco I hope you all feel better soon! @mmb4532 Someone needs to slap a bitch. How terrible. @thunderberry I second what @cups4 said. Gift cards to places near the hospital, especially if they deliver would be good options, too. Ask if there's anything you can do around their house, get the mail, feed/take care of any pets, water plants, etc, so they don't feel obligated to come home as often if they don't want to.
If I missed anyone, I apologize. Good thoughts for all of you!
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
@sandbar517 Congrats on another girl!
When it rains it pours...hit a deer on my way to work this morning...I’m fine, baby’s fine, but as you can see my car is not.