No one started due date check-ins this week...I thought about it (at least for week 1) but I suck at coming up with GTKYs. Anyone got a GTKY idea? Lol.
I did the second week of May check in. Not an awesome GTKY, but I had a hard time coming up with something, too. Feel free to steal, unless you come up with a better one.
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@sandbar and @abhphilly, When are these typically started? I don't mind doing it for my week, but I never know when we start them. I'm dumb and just respond when I see it.
I had an update from my friend this morning and she said they had an uneventful night (which is great for a CDH baby) and she is waiting to hear on when he will have his surgery.
@thunderberry Girl, I could have written your post, myself. Our 16-week anatomy scan also went well, so I should be feeling okay, but I am so, so anxious. I've also not been super confident I've been feeling the baby move, which makes me extra nervous. I get nervous before every ultrasound. Hope yours goes well/went well if you had it already!
@molly1108-2 I know what you mean about theoretically having no reason to feel nervous--I don't either. But I totally feel the same way about getting more anxious the more you learn about things that could go wrong. Eek--hope yours goes well!
@sandbar517 My second AS is also on Wednesday, and (as you can see above, I'm super nervous too). I'll be thinking about you! Hope you get great news to put your mind at ease. I've also been having terrible thoughts about things going wrong throughout my entire pregnancy. It's rough. One of my friends recently said she loved everything about being pregnant and would do it again if she could have another stress-free pregnancy, and I was like, a stress-free pregnancy? What is that? Good luck to you tomorrow!
@sparklingdiamond! Yay for an uneventful night! That's great! Keep us updated on the surgery.
I'm about to lose my mind today! I am supposed to get my Christmas cards delivered tomorrow or Thursday. I got an email today saying they have been shipped and should arrive on Wednesday... DECEMBER 27TH! When I ordered them, it said ETA 12/19-12/21. I knew that was pushing it, but the 27th is ridiculous! I have to call an 800 number to get my money back or it sorted out. UGH!
Also, I got a fitness tracker watch. It came with no charger. I have to call an 800 number to get that sorted out.
Also, I got a new treadmill. DH and I tried to put it together. 2 screws wouldn't tighten and one of the pieces broke. What do I need to do? You guessed it... CALL AN 800 NUMBER TO SORT IT OUT.
@sandbar517 and @ivyvines6 so much yes to everything you guys said. I am a FTM and would LOVE to avoid the epidural. So, I am doing what I can to go into labor mentally and physically prepared so that, if possible, I can go vaginal/unmedicated. However, I know that not everything goes to plan and I am ok with that. Doesn't mean I can't at least have a plan/be prepared and attempt to follow it. I think it's so rude when people tell you "oh you will change your mind as soon as you are in labor...you will be screaming for that epidural." Ummmm ok, thanks? I am glad you know me SO well and can predict the future. I usually just respond and say "my mom was able to have all three kids without an epidural. She had quick, uncomplicated labors....so I am hopeful that I can have a similar experience. If not, that's fine, too." Another person said to me "oh you are gonna try cloth diapering. Everyone I know tried it, hated it, and switched to disposables. So I don't see the point in wasting time and money to even try and make cloth diapering work." I try and smile and nod and just say "well we are going to give it a try."
@kpc914 I would also say it's very important to get your partner on board with your birth plan too. SO has a pretty low pain tolerance and was not prepared fully for my reaction to contractions. Basically the first thing out of his mouth when we got to the hospital was, "can she get an epidural now?"
Sorry, just catching up on all this. But I like the tone here! Parenting is hard. Some days harder than others. And every now and then we have a day where you are seriously just watching the clock until bedtime and wondering if you can push it up even fifteen minutes because it's just been a day. But then there are so many many good days. I truly think that in general people remember the bad/tough/ hard moments more so than the good. I know if I had a bad day at work, it would stick with me. But a good day I would just say I had a good day and then move onto the next scheduled event. I think sometimes it's because we want to fix a problem. And if everything is hunky dory there is nothing to improve. Also misery loves company. And venting frustrations is good in the appropriate time and place and audience. But some people just want to complain (I think it's @gildah dealing with this from a coworker, right?) But definitely connecting with other moms going through similar situations...aka BMB May 2018!... or a close friend, family, whomever will help. DS was a tough baby. But we learned to prioritize what mattered and celebrate all the happy moments too. I also fell more deeply in love with coffee! I also gave myself a break and had many days where DH would get home and asked what I did and my answer was that I fed and changed the baby. No house work, no shower, no meal prep, nothing but the necessities. DH was really supportive during all of this which helped me a ton. I think being honest with your partner is probably the best thing you can do. There will be hard days. But there will be so many many more good ones so just remember to count those too. If you think it could be ppd be honest right away and get things on track. It might be possible for YH to stay home more often or come home a little bit earlier or work from home sometimes which might help. Just keep the lines of conversation open and don't be afraid to ask for what you actually want. I had a friend tell me that things don't necessarily get better, but they get different. The challenges you have with a newborn will be different than an infant, a toddler, a preschooler, a child, a preteen, a teenager, or an adult child. But your joys will also be different. I mean I doubt if I laid down on the floor and pushed my chest up my mom would grin ear to ear and smile and clap for me. But the first time your babe does it you will feel like such an accomplished parent! That helped me a lot because everyone kept telling me it gets easier but I felt like it just got harder as he got older. But it was mostly just life catching up to me and going back to work and finding a good home/work balance can be tricky. As for what you want to do during labor, call your own shots. I didn't want an epidural because I didn't want to be numb and not able to walk around after the birth. I knew right after DS was born he was going to the NIC unit and I would have to be cleared myself before I could go down. Yes labor hurts. I don't really know anyone who would say they are really excited for contractions and back labor and pushing. We are excited for our babies for sure. But the labor part isn't glamorous. I have no judgement in anyway for anyone who chooses and epidural. But if you don't want one, don't. You won't be the first woman to deliver a baby without medication and you certainly won't be the last. Also I'm not really a big fan of chocolate while pregnant. With DS I didn't even want it in the house. The smell was awful to me. This time it isn't repulsive but I don't really want it very often either.
Well said, @theletlers! I LOVE being a mommy! It's hard, but I think there are WAY more moments that I feel completely overjoyed and blessed that I have DS and to be pregnant with this LO. So many women would love to have a child, so I try really hard to focus on the positive and pass that on to new mommies/mommies to be. It's not glamorous, but worth it.
@bwow615 That's a really good point! My husband was wounded in combat almost 10 years ago and lives in pain every day. He's usually the one to tell me to suck it up, since his pain tolerance is off the charts. He's definitely aware of the plan, and we have a doula, as well. In the end, I will not be disappointed if I end up needing/wanting meds/epidural (or c section), but I want to prepare myself and give myself the best chance to do it on my own. Like @theletlers said, if I am able to skip the epidural I won't be the first woman, nor will I be the last. But, if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen.
@kpc914 I also found it annoying when was preparing for a natural birth with my first and would get skeptical responses. I did end up getting an epidural but it was because I was induced and pitocin contractions are joke. My second time around I focused more on preparing to go into labor naturally and then being able to have a med free birth was able to happen. I also had some great birth affirmations and a doula. Of course it’s smart to keep in mind that things may not go your way, but if you go into nlabor naturally, there’s a better chance that you will be able to stick to your birth plan.
@thunderberry great news! So glad that everything looked perfect.
@sparklingdiamond I am so glad that your friend had a good night. I hope that things continue to be uneventful.
I finally received my permanent residency today. We had an interview this morning and it was so simple. I applied two years ago and was starting to get stressed since my work permit was set to expire on May 18th and I'm due the 31st! Super relieved to have this behind us.
To all the ladies who had easy labor contractions, I hope that rubs off on me this time. My phase 2 labor was insane and intense, with phase 3 (pushing) being pretty painless and relaxed. So strange how everyone is so different.
@Ceridwen21 Oh yes, transition was a bitch and the only point when I had the thoughts of “I’m never having sex/a baby ever again!” Thankfully, it only lasted 10-15 minutes although it felt like forever.
@MissusTexas, that was my experience too. Contractions were manageable for me. Once transition and pushing started, I said I couldn't do it. 20 minutes seemed like forever.
I’m sure most of you know what I’ve been dealing with in regards to my MIL. Today my FIL told my husband that the baby can feel if I don’t want it, which I do obviously, and I’ll miscarry. Now my husbands worried about it and stressed out. Ugh. The joy of inlaws.
@sparklingdiamond what do they expect for CDH babies within the first few days? I could google this I'm sure but just curious since you said uneventful was good for CDH babies
@ivyvines6 thank you. I hope to be right in the end too. I’m a total hippie and our plans fit into our lifestyle. Are they idealistic, absolutely. But that’s me, who I’ve always been. I try to think that if I can mentally prepare and manifest the idea of this sort of future in my mind then I can achieve it. Fingers crossed.
@justsuzie dream away! Nothing wrong with that. I'm just really hoping this time I don't need pitocin. Like @MissusTexas said, those contractions are no joke. I lucked out with a nurse who gave me 2/3 less than what the doctor recommended. I remember she said to me "Honey you are already having contractions every two minutes. If I give you his dose those contractions are gonna last for five!" And pointed out they could always give me more if I needed it but can't give me less after it's done.
@ivyvines6 is today your appt? Been thinking about you and sending you good vibes!
Yes it was! The care is a completely different experience and that’s so good for me... I got to hear the baby’s heartbeat again which was sweet and DH was actually excited about it this time too. thank you for thinking of me today.
If anyone was curious, the incubation for this stomach bug going around my area seems to be 36 hours. DS got it Sunday, 2 am. DH Monday 2 pm. I got it Wednesday 2 am. I think that makes sense. Anyway, glad I spoke to my ob on Wednesday about this being a possibility so I don't have to call in today to double check a few things. Looks like it's a movie marathon in bed day for me.
Yep. I let him have it. I am so unbelievably tired of them. They have done nothing but make this pregnancy stressful and make little comments since I told them I was pregnant 10 weeks ago. They have no idea the amount of stress I’ve been under since I found out I was pregnant. I worry everyday for this little one and my FIL wants to toss that into the mix?? I mean, come on. The sad part is that I have to spend Christmas with them because my entire family will be away on a cruise which I was supposed to go on, but being pregnant can’t risk it with Zika. Pray for my sanity ladies!
@ivyvines6 So glad your appointment went well! I love hearing that baby heartbeat. Best sound in the world!
@suchaglencoco I had the stomach flu last Christmas. It sucks so bad. I feel for you. Luckily, I was over it in about 24 hours but those 24 hours were hell. Feel better soon!
@mmb4532, I'm so sorry he was being an asshat! What a terrible thing to say to a pregnant woman! They BETTER be kind during Christmas! Boo to no cruise, but I would have done the same thing.
@ivyvines6, I'm so glad your appointment went well! The reassurance that comes with hearing that sweet heartbeat is amazing!
@suchaglencoco, oh no! The stomach bug is terrible. We had it about a month ago. Ours didn't last very long, so hopefully that's the case for you too! I have never used so much Lysol in my life!
I feel terrible that I've been so bad a thing keeping up with the bump lately. I'm also on mobile and having lots of trouble tagging so I have to comment very generally....
I'm happy to hear about everyone who has had good appointments and sorry to hear about anyone who is sick! And Godspeed to anyone dealing with IL's stupidity!!
@molly1108-2 Every CDH baby is different when they are born and they all pretty much get intubated right away. Sometimes on the first night they start to not do well and may end up on ECMO. They typically have the honeymoon phase for the first 24 hours and do well and then get worse on the 2nd day. But the first day/night is making sure they are stable and doing testing and figuring out when surgery will take place.
I had a migraine when I woke up yesterday and H made me call in for the day. I was actually grateful he did because I desperately need the extra sleep. I also feel like I got caught up on being a semi decent mom and wife yesterday after I was able to wrap all the presents, clean up, make dinner, and have some sexy adult time with H after the toddler went to bed. I have really felt like I've been lacking in those areas of my life so getting those things accomplished really gave me a boost. Our school goes until Friday, and even then it's a full day so Christmas with my mom on Saturday, and H's family on Sunday, and Christmas on Monday gave me no time to get anything done.
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@molly1108-2 I know what you mean about theoretically having no reason to feel nervous--I don't either. But I totally feel the same way about getting more anxious the more you learn about things that could go wrong. Eek--hope yours goes well!
@sandbar517 My second AS is also on Wednesday, and (as you can see above, I'm super nervous too). I'll be thinking about you! Hope you get great news to put your mind at ease. I've also been having terrible thoughts about things going wrong throughout my entire pregnancy. It's rough. One of my friends recently said she loved everything about being pregnant and would do it again if she could have another stress-free pregnancy, and I was like, a stress-free pregnancy? What is that? Good luck to you tomorrow!
I'm about to lose my mind today! I am supposed to get my Christmas cards delivered tomorrow or Thursday. I got an email today saying they have been shipped and should arrive on Wednesday... DECEMBER 27TH! When I ordered them, it said ETA 12/19-12/21. I knew that was pushing it, but the 27th is ridiculous! I have to call an 800 number to get my money back or it sorted out. UGH!
Also, I got a fitness tracker watch. It came with no charger. I have to call an 800 number to get that sorted out.
Also, I got a new treadmill. DH and I tried to put it together. 2 screws wouldn't tighten and one of the pieces broke. What do I need to do? You guessed it... CALL AN 800 NUMBER TO SORT IT OUT.
I don't have time for this nonsense.
I had a friend tell me that things don't necessarily get better, but they get different. The challenges you have with a newborn will be different than an infant, a toddler, a preschooler, a child, a preteen, a teenager, or an adult child. But your joys will also be different. I mean I doubt if I laid down on the floor and pushed my chest up my mom would grin ear to ear and smile and clap for me. But the first time your babe does it you will feel like such an accomplished parent! That helped me a lot because everyone kept telling me it gets easier but I felt like it just got harder as he got older. But it was mostly just life catching up to me and going back to work and finding a good home/work balance can be tricky.
As for what you want to do during labor, call your own shots. I didn't want an epidural because I didn't want to be numb and not able to walk around after the birth. I knew right after DS was born he was going to the NIC unit and I would have to be cleared myself before I could go down. Yes labor hurts. I don't really know anyone who would say they are really excited for contractions and back labor and pushing. We are excited for our babies for sure. But the labor part isn't glamorous. I have no judgement in anyway for anyone who chooses and epidural. But if you don't want one, don't. You won't be the first woman to deliver a baby without medication and you certainly won't be the last.
Also I'm not really a big fan of chocolate while pregnant. With DS I didn't even want it in the house. The smell was awful to me. This time it isn't repulsive but I don't really want it very often either.
Of course it’s smart to keep in mind that things may not go your way, but if you go into nlabor naturally, there’s a better chance that you will be able to stick to your birth plan.
@sparklingdiamond I am so glad that your friend had a good night. I hope that things continue to be uneventful.
I finally received my permanent residency today. We had an interview this morning and it was so simple. I applied two years ago and was starting to get stressed since my work permit was set to expire on May 18th and I'm due the 31st! Super relieved to have this behind us.
@thunderberry. Great news! I hope you can relax a little now.
I was taking king a bath and husband walked in and say, holy crap your nipples are huge. Thanks asshole.
DS got it Sunday, 2 am. DH Monday 2 pm. I got it Wednesday 2 am.
I think that makes sense. Anyway, glad I spoke to my ob on Wednesday about this being a possibility so I don't have to call in today to double check a few things. Looks like it's a movie marathon in bed day for me.
Yep. I let him have it. I am so unbelievably tired of them. They have done nothing but make this pregnancy stressful and make little comments since I told them I was pregnant 10 weeks ago. They have no idea the amount of stress I’ve been under since I found out I was pregnant. I worry everyday for this little one and my FIL wants to toss that into the mix?? I mean, come on. The sad part is that I have to spend Christmas with them because my entire family will be away on a cruise which I was supposed to go on, but being pregnant can’t risk it with Zika. Pray for my sanity ladies!
@ivyvines6 So glad your appointment went well! I love hearing that baby heartbeat. Best sound in the world!
@suchaglencoco I had the stomach flu last Christmas. It sucks so bad. I feel for you. Luckily, I was over it in about 24 hours but those 24 hours were hell. Feel better soon!
@ivyvines6, I'm so glad your appointment went well! The reassurance that comes with hearing that sweet heartbeat is amazing!
@suchaglencoco, oh no! The stomach bug is terrible. We had it about a month ago. Ours didn't last very long, so hopefully that's the case for you too! I have never used so much Lysol in my life!
Your inlaws are nuts. Who says something like that?
@suchaglencoco
I’m so sorry you got sick. Feel better soon!
@ivyvines6
yay for good news!
I'm happy to hear about everyone who has had good appointments and sorry to hear about anyone who is sick! And Godspeed to anyone dealing with IL's stupidity!!