*cue me whining* Guys, I woke up with a full on hangover this morning! My mouth and throat were totally dry, I have a pounding headache, and a terrible upset stomach. I didn't even get to have fun getting drunk last night. This is soooo uncool. I did however have a dream that I got drunk at a painting party - so maybe this is all mental????
I saw a meme on facebook this morning that hit home "I'm just impressed by how ugly I'm willing to look in public these days." Yoga pants, messy bun, no makeup, red skin, sneakers. I'm hobo chic. Anyone else dealing with depression? or have they during pregnancy? I'm so excited and thrilled for this baby. I got the 14 week Bump announcement this morning and danced. But it is Christmastime, my family is mostly deceased, and I have been wishing I could call my Mom and talk to her. She passed when I was 19. How can such a wonderful experience in my life be depressing? Time to look for therapists...
@missylaneous419 I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. Christmas is a very emotional time filled with both good and bad memories. At our church they always do a Blue Christmas service as well for everyone that doesn't feel like Christmas is all tinsel and cookies. Couple that with additional emotions and hormones from pregnancy and it gets really tough. I hope that you have someone that you can share with and if you can, be open with your SO about it so they can help watch for signs.
On TTGP there is a mental health check in that I think could be helpful here too. I don't necessarily want to be the one to start it because I am not currently suffering from depression or anxiety and I think the point of that thread is for people actually going through it to get support, not just for people to complain about bad days.
I hope you find the help and support that you need. Hugs!
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@missylaneous419 So sorry. It is such an emotional time, especially for anyone missing loved ones. I lost my father at 17 and I wish he was here now more than ever. Sending hugs.
@krashke Thank you, my SO knows how I feel and he's wonderful. It's been a year of big changes so I didn't expect to feel awesome right away but I didn't expect to feel so low either. I started seeing a therapist when things went haywire in my life and it was helpful. But I had my girlfriends around to blow off steam and feel more "normal." Now that I am so far away I'm finding it more difficult to shrug off things that never bothered me much. The hormones make this depression on steroids lol.
@missylaneous419 I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I've lost both my parents and I find pregnancy to be a difficult time - - there is so much I want to ask that I can't. I had a difficult relationship with my mom (I actually hadn't seen her since I was in 8th grade), but was close to my dad. I find it helpful to talk about what my dad would think and say with my H and sister. It helps keep him alive and be a part of this, in some way.
@marcus7676 It really is tough--I haven't seen my father in years. He spun off the deep end after my Mother passed away and I went to court for custody of my little sister at the time. So I raised her. It feels like he's gone because he isn't the person I knew as a child and he can't even take care of himself. As you said, it is tough when you have questions and you'd love to talk about memories when you were little or hear those stories but there's no one to talk to. You are right that talking keeps their memory going. Sometimes I feel like I talk about it too much with my SO but it's the only way he'd know my family. I'm thankful he has his parents and that they'll be wonderful to our baby. My Grandmother was my best friend when I was a little girl--so I am glad they will be here for him/her.
@missylaneous419 - Id be glad to start a mentsl health check in to get sipport and commiserate if you or others feel that may be beneficial? I've dealt with depression for 12 years, and currently take Zoloft because the benefits outweigh the risks for me. I've been mostly good throughout the pregnancy, thank God, but on occasion I can have moments where things start to feel overwhelming again. Know that no matter what, you're not alone in this *hugs*
-- I've been dealing with some pretty debilitating headaches the past few days myself. They started out okay and gradually have gotten worse. Tylenol helps for a short while and then it's right back. And I've been doing great nausea wise and really thought it was starting to go away, and then this morning I was throwing up again. I guess I'll still be stuck on Zofran for the time being.
@izza2 that would be good, thanks. I appreciate it. I was on meds for a while. I was switched from one to another and I ended up not taking the zoloft when given the prescription. I probably should have at the time. I was blaming the meds for how I was feeling when there were other environmental factors that were most likely to blame.
So many hugs @missylaneous419 . I'd raise it with your SO - see if you talk about it too much. Explain why.
We talk about "Grandpa Joe" all the time with DS. During thanksgiving, he was playing with my grandmother's phone and calling people to wish them happy thanksgiving. He "called" my sister. Then he called "Joe" - - my husband saw it, but I missed it. But I like keeping memories of my dad alive for DS.
If anyone is still looking for dry skin fixes, purpose moisturizer is amazing. I had terrible acne when younger and very dry skin as an adult and it was and is a lifesaver!
@missylaneous419@marcus7676 I am so sorry for both of your losses. It’s definitely a hard time of the year when you are missing someone and pregnancy hormones make that 10000x worse.
I wanted to update and say if anyone finds themselves with the horrific “I can’t pee at night” symptom when you have to go sooo bad but can’t - I found a fix!! I did a lot of googling after it no lie took me over 30 minutes to pee the other morning (with a full bladder) and I found someone who said they found it helps if they prop their upper body up at a 45 degree angle while sleeping. It works!!!! I hope none of you experience it, but if you do - there’s the fix. Hopefully as baby grows it will fix itself.
@missylaneous419 *hugs* Missing people makes the holidays so difficult. My only cousin on my mom's side lived with us for about 10 years after his mom passed away very unexpectedly. Before that, they lived across the street from us. We were raised like siblings because both of us were only children.
*TW* February of 2015 he took his own life. It was the hardest thing I've ever gone through. He struggled for many years after the passing of his mom and just couldn't recover from it *End TW*
I still miss him and am so sad that he isn't here for this. He was in his early 20s so he wasn't super "into" babies or anything but he was essentially my brother and would have been the only uncle this baby would have. I miss the connection we had and the times we shared, especially so around the holidays. He is a part of almost all my childhood memories and it makes me sad that I don't have anyone now to share them with. I can share with others, but nobody would understand them like he did. I hope my baby can get to know him through stories, pictures, and memories. I'm grateful my boyfriend was able to meet him and get close to him before his passing so he can help me in all of that.
Sorry for such a heavy post today. Hormones not helping.
Back to throwing up. Couldn't keep dinner down last night, and I tried to eat an orange for breakfast because I was starving, and that came right back up. Over it.
Any one else having lower back pain already? It's not like the kind of pain from carrying a baby but the kind of low back cramps you get with your period. It's quite annoying. Especially when MH asks me to do the dishes and I have to bend over the sink for 20 mins. I can't complain though because while I was doing that he was outside shoveling.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krashke not really cramps (though admittedly I never got lower back cramps with my period either, so I might just not be appropriately labeling them), but my lower back does get sore, almost like the muscles are sore but a little more intense than that. Stretching them out feels nice (like, child's pose, or whatever). I also will get some very mild sciatic pain in my butt cheek which is fun. Mine actually happens more from having to sit in a car for a long period of time (I guess the position?? because it doesn't happen during a regular day), so our flight to CA should be... interesting.
@doxiemoxie212@lisa2589 so what I'm hearing is that I should get my lazy butt off the couch and go to yoga...I haven't been since the BFP because I was doing hot power yoga and I didn't think that was a good idea. I went to a class the Thursday before I my BFP and I thought I was going to die.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
I lost dinner again last night too. It’s too the point where it’s actually making me angry. Everything has stayed down this morning but no promises. Grumble.
@doxiemoxie212 I've been having piriformis syndrome for a few days. Maybe it's something you want to look into for the butt pain... The stretches saved my life!
@krashke I have herniated disks in my lower back and am so nervous about them flaring up with the pregancy. Regular stretching and walking have helped so far. I sure hope you get some relief!
@stephcat421 My L5-S1 disc herniated and then ruptured about 2 years ago. Lots of physical therapy, nerve root injection and anti inflammatories. So far this pregnancy stretching and ice have helped since not being able to take ibuprofen. For me particularly laying on my stomach allows the disc to slip back into place when it’s really bothering me, so I’m nervous how this will go in a few more weeks. My husband ordered me the cozy bump for Christmas so I’m hopeful that will help once I can’t lay flat on my stomach anymore.
@krashke my lower back has been killing me this week and it was starting to worry me.. just feels like something is out of place. Might have to treat myself to a massage soon!
@lisa2589 I definitely know the feeling! The chiropractor herniated L4-S1 and it took months of bed rest between physical therapy and an epidural. I do worry about not being able to be on my belly to ice it in the future and have seen the cozy bump on Facebook. There were some reviews though that mentioned eventually the bump gets too big and it's no longer comfortable. I'm thinking of taking a pregnancy swim class after the new year through delivery to keep nimble and stretched.
Y'all. I haven't been able to keep much of anything down today. Ridiculous. I caved and called in the prescription my OB gave me for nausea a few weeks back, but they closed early today due to the weather, and so I have to wait to get it until tomorrow. So crazy that I'm needing it now versus earlier. What the heck?
@missylaneous419@izza2 I could get down on that thread. Zoloft is my jam and OB was totally fine with it. In fact they will switch pregnant women to that from some of the riskier ones.
Re: Weekly Symptoms w/o Dec 3
Anyone else dealing with depression? or have they during pregnancy? I'm so excited and thrilled for this baby. I got the 14 week Bump announcement this morning and danced. But it is Christmastime, my family is mostly deceased, and I have been wishing I could call my Mom and talk to her. She passed when I was 19. How can such a wonderful experience in my life be depressing? Time to look for therapists...
On TTGP there is a mental health check in that I think could be helpful here too. I don't necessarily want to be the one to start it because I am not currently suffering from depression or anxiety and I think the point of that thread is for people actually going through it to get support, not just for people to complain about bad days.
I hope you find the help and support that you need. Hugs!
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
You are right that talking keeps their memory going. Sometimes I feel like I talk about it too much with my SO but it's the only way he'd know my family. I'm thankful he has his parents and that they'll be wonderful to our baby. My Grandmother was my best friend when I was a little girl--so I am glad they will be here for him/her.
I've dealt with depression for 12 years, and currently take Zoloft because the benefits outweigh the risks for me. I've been mostly good throughout the pregnancy, thank God, but on occasion I can have moments where things start to feel overwhelming again.
Know that no matter what, you're not alone in this *hugs*
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I've been dealing with some pretty debilitating headaches the past few days myself. They started out okay and gradually have gotten worse. Tylenol helps for a short while and then it's right back.
And I've been doing great nausea wise and really thought it was starting to go away, and then this morning I was throwing up again. I guess I'll still be stuck on Zofran for the time being.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
We talk about "Grandpa Joe" all the time with DS. During thanksgiving, he was playing with my grandmother's phone and calling people to wish them happy thanksgiving. He "called" my sister. Then he called "Joe" - - my husband saw it, but I missed it. But I like keeping memories of my dad alive for DS.
Also, holy bad spelling batman. My phone really does not want me to make legible posts lately.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
Anyone else just dealing with constant sickness that isn't MS? I swear I've had some sort of cold/virus/sinus crap since the moment i turned my BFP
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
I wanted to update and say if anyone finds themselves with the horrific “I can’t pee at night” symptom when you have to go sooo bad but can’t - I found a fix!! I did a lot of googling after it no lie took me over 30 minutes to pee the other morning (with a full bladder) and I found someone who said they found it helps if they prop their upper body up at a 45 degree angle while sleeping. It works!!!! I hope none of you experience it, but if you do - there’s the fix. Hopefully as baby grows it will fix itself.
*TW* February of 2015 he took his own life. It was the hardest thing I've ever gone through. He struggled for many years after the passing of his mom and just couldn't recover from it *End TW*
I still miss him and am so sad that he isn't here for this. He was in his early 20s so he wasn't super "into" babies or anything but he was essentially my brother and would have been the only uncle this baby would have. I miss the connection we had and the times we shared, especially so around the holidays. He is a part of almost all my childhood memories and it makes me sad that I don't have anyone now to share them with. I can share with others, but nobody would understand them like he did. I hope my baby can get to know him through stories, pictures, and memories. I'm grateful my boyfriend was able to meet him and get close to him before his passing so he can help me in all of that.
Sorry for such a heavy post today. Hormones not helping.
Couldn't keep dinner down last night, and I tried to eat an orange for breakfast because I was starving, and that came right back up.
Over it.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
Mom life is violently barfing everything you ate this morning and then calmly resuming the work of making your toddler breakfast.
@krashke I have herniated disks in my lower back and am so nervous about them flaring up with the pregancy. Regular stretching and walking have helped so far. I sure hope you get some relief!
For me particularly laying on my stomach allows the disc to slip back into place when it’s really bothering me, so I’m nervous how this will go in a few more weeks. My husband ordered me the cozy bump for Christmas so I’m hopeful that will help once I can’t lay flat on my stomach anymore.
https://www.cozybump.com