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danjoly · December 2017

MrsMassimilla said:

who is the president on here who gets to decide who's allowed into the club or not?

Whoever have the best hacking skills and/or Russian connections!

kmalls · December 2017

ngolimento said:

kmalls said:

^^ @ladythrice that’s exactly how I feel about everyone who says they don’t participate because the app is too hard to use

Ditto. I exclusively Bump via app. Is it the slickest thing ever? No. Is it anywhere close to "difficult"? Also no. I honestly shake my head at anyone who says it is too hard. What they actually mean is "I have so little interest in being part of the community that even the slightest inconvenience is a good excuse to not invest in you guys." Ok, well now we have the slightest excuse to not let you into the FB group.

@ngolimento I jumped on from my laptop last night just to see what the difference would be. I actually prefer the app, to be honest. So I’m not totally sure what everyone is complaining about.

ekendall09 · December 2017

I use my laptop and the app. I find them both comparable. Its easier to GIF from my comp but that's about it.

irenejean · December 2017

@kmalls @ladythrice @ngolimento To be fair, I never use the bump app on my phone, not because it's super hard to use (I still hate all the ads!), but because it drains my battery wicked fast. Am I the only one that experiences this? Anyway, even if you don't use the phone app, there are ways to be active, and I think even if you only participate in your weekly thread, at the very least a couple people should recognize you.

sarahkate2233 · December 2017

I use both the bump app and the website, it really didn't take that long to figure out on either side. I've made as much of an effort as possible right now due to some family stuff. I completely understand the perspective about not letting EVERYONE into the FB group. If I'm not allowed in, I totally get it.

It does drain my battery, I agree @irenejean There are other ways to be active and interact with people, if that's what you want to do.

Making excuses and then being mad at the consequences makes no sense, IMO.Huffing and puffing about it is definitely not going to change anyone's mind either, especially when they said exactly what you need to do to fix it.

mikkimikey · December 2017

@irenejean the app drains it quickly FOR SURE!!

And I only use my phone. My PC went on the fritz about a year ago, and this is my main method of communication!

ladythrice · December 2017

I just want to add one more comment and beat this dead horse...

EVEN IF a regular doesn't 'know' you or recognize your SN, your SN account history reflects your activity on the board. So even if you don't participate in the same threads as some other people, but say LOVE the name thread and the nursery thread and participate like crazy there, your history tracks this so people can easily see you've been a contributing member to the community.

If you're some rando who introed when you first found out you were pregnant and haven't participated since then? You might want to start participating.

Also, for the love of all that's holy, If you've never participated on this forum, DO NOT attempt to start the FB group for the active April 18 community... It won't go over well, it never does in BMBs, and you will cry and complain that we're a bunch of 'bullies.'

ekendall09 · December 2017

ladythrice · December 2017

@Ekendall09 I was totally going to post a GIF but there are some BRUTAL gifs for that phrase

ekendall09 · December 2017

Yes there are.....

ngolimento · December 2017

That is historically the Bump approved correct "dead horse" gif

.

marieruth83 · December 2017

Wow - Lots of Judgement and lack of support

kmalls · December 2017

marieruth83 said:

Wow - Lots of Judgement and lack of support

Ummmm this is a joke, right?

jenotontx · December 2017

marieruth83 said:

Wow - Lots of Judgement and lack of support

Judgement about what? Someone's lack of ability to use an app? I'm sorry but people are going to have to contact TB customer service to get support with that... we don't do that here.

marieruth83 · December 2017

No just that any fellow mother would say such rude things about another mother without knowing the situation - not everyone is tech savvy and I don't think that should be a fault. Also, a lot of us have busy lives, other children, and we may not have as much time as others to post - so no, I'm not joking at all. Just really surprised by such judgement from a group that should be doing the exact opposite. I thought we were supposed to support each other not judge others by how often they have time to post

ftm_ohio · December 2017

@ekendall09 I know the reality of that GIF is horrifying, but that particular GIF made me laugh harder than any I've seen on here haha!

lindsye · December 2017

marieruth83 said:

No just that any fellow mother would say such rude things about another mother without knowing the situation - not everyone is tech savvy and I don't think that should be a fault. Also, a lot of us have busy lives, other children, and we may not have as much time as others to post - so no, I'm not joking at all. Just really surprised by such judgement from a group that should be doing the exact opposite. I thought we were supposed to support each other not judge others by how often they have time to post

Dude, some of us want to have a reasonable idea that you’re not batsh*t crazy before becoming “friends” in any capacity on a Facebook forum. No judgment whatsoever - you do what you want. The bump app is a PITA, I get it.

kmalls · December 2017

marieruth83 said:

No just that any fellow mother would say such rude things about another mother without knowing the situation - not everyone is tech savvy and I don't think that should be a fault. Also, a lot of us have busy lives, other children, and we may not have as much time as others to post - so no, I'm not joking at all. Just really surprised by such judgement from a group that should be doing the exact opposite. I thought we were supposed to support each other not judge others by how often they have time to post

Girl, we’re all busy. You don’t have a monopoly on that. Those that are active in this community find time to interact when they can. Personally, I Bump before my kids are up, when they’re napping, and after their bed time. Some days I’m not here at all, and that’s ok. If you bother to check in on other threads at any time, you’ll see a remarkable community that is full of support and a total lack of judgement. What you’ve just demonstrated is a perfect example of what we don’t need in a FB group: a random poster telling us how much we suck.

PS - joining a FB group isn’t any less time consuming than TB. If you don’t have time to participate here, you won’t there, either.

ekendall09 · December 2017

^this. I rarely pop on during the weekends, especially if its a weekend I have my daughter but I find other time to keep up and participate.

jenotontx · December 2017

marieruth83 said:

No just that any fellow mother would say such rude things about another mother without knowing the situation - not everyone is tech savvy and I don't think that should be a fault. Also, a lot of us have busy lives, other children, and we may not have as much time as others to post - so no, I'm not joking at all. Just really surprised by such judgement from a group that should be doing the exact opposite. I thought we were supposed to support each other not judge others by how often they have time to post

I could care less how often people post but that doesn't mean I should feel comfortable being in a FB group with a complete stranger where I may divulge personal information and potentially share pictures of my child. I personally value the relationships I am building with the women in this group who do choose to contribute enough for me to recognize who they are. I would like to continue building those relationships long after our babies arrive but I want to make sure the environment I am doing that in is safe. I don't know why that is hard for people to understand and if you or anyone here has a problem with that then I think you are being the judgmental one.

I'm also sorry if you are offended by the comments regarding the difficulty of the app but that's just how the cookie crumbles. You either participate and get to know people or you don't. So people need to suck it up and learn how to deal with the app for the next 2 months or recognize they may not get added to a closed FB group of people who have spent the past 7 months getting to know each other. I mean, no one here is the gate keeper to creating a Facebook group. Anyone could choose to make a group at anytime but I wouldn't expect regulars to follow.

ngolimento · December 2017

Oh hey, you know what I really love? Cat Gifs.

ekendall09 · December 2017

sameeeee

marieruth83 · December 2017

Sorry guys, I post on here too - I find time when I can and again aside from the adorable cat gifs (that are awesome by the way!) I feel like I'm being jumped in for just offering my opinion - just trying to put a different voice out there. In any case I guess my point is just being further made. Sorry if I pissed people off...

ngolimento · December 2017

marieruth83 said:

Sorry guys, I post on here too - I find time when I can and again aside from the adorable cat gifs (that are awesome by the way!) I feel like I'm being jumped in for just offering my opinion - just trying to put a different voice out there. In any case I guess my point is just being further made. Sorry if I pissed people off...

I'm not pissed off, I'm just really confused as to why people think my child's safety should be less of a priority to me than "supporting" a complete stranger that strolls in and starts yelling at me to do so.

Sorry, not Sorry? I'm going to take measures to make sure random crazy entitled strangers don't get access to her pictures. If you think that oppressive and unsupportive, that's a you problem, not a me problem.

marieruth83 · December 2017

Wow! Seriously! So not even close to what I said or meant - this is out of hand

lindsye · December 2017

I don’t know about anyone else, but all this thread is doing for me right now is confirming the need for a vetted private group. This is the most repetitive, mundane drama (not even the interesting kind!) this BMB has had in a long time.

kmalls · December 2017

ngolimento · December 2017

marieruth83 said:

Wow! Seriously! So not even close to what I said or meant - this is out of hand

I agree it is out of hand. The majority of ys here are mother's who are concerned about the safety of their families. You are calling us all unreasonable and unsupportive because of it. Which is grossly unfair, as this entre board is full of nothing but mothers supporting mothers. We spend all friggin day being supportive, and you dont have any place accusing us of otherwise.

No yeah, not sorry that I am not a shitty mom who doesn't make a single effort to screen who gets access to photos of my family. If you can't see that is what we are all trying to do, and just interpret us as mean exclusive bitches, then it is indeed out of hand.

jenotontx · December 2017

ladythrice · December 2017

**Removed for TOU violation**

ngolimento · December 2017

lindsye said:

I don’t know about anyone else, but all this thread is doing for me right now is confirming the need for a vetted private group. This is the most repetitive, mundane drama (not even the interesting kind!) this BMB has had in a long time.

A-freaking-men. This weird fixation on being included on FB without people knowing who you are is creepy as fuck.

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