Hubby is an assistant pastor and I think he's going to say something during his sermon tomorrow morning. Everyone kind of knows anyways, because my family is bad at secrets. Oh well!
@dee_ao it took us 16 cycles. I know my SIL and her H have been trying for quite some time, too. I asked for advice from others and I went with a text when I knew she was home. I wanted her to be able to feel her feels without having to fake something over the phone or Skype. She appreciated the text. I thought it was impersonal at first, but I think it's completely acceptable and respectful.
Me: 31 DH: 32 Dating since: 11/17/2001 Married: 9/26/2009 TTC: June 2016
So we just told our families over FaceTime being that we live overseas, and then for social media I'm thinking of doing 2 big suitcases and a small one in the middle as an ode to our love of travel, or creating 3 airplane tickets with a note of "arrival may 2018."
@mrshay072316 I really like the airplane ticket idea. That is so original! Maybe can have the suitcases in the background and tickets in front/focus of the photo?
Just announced- couldn't wait any longer and we know things will be ok. If not- we have a great support system with our friends and family who know now.
Today's my Birthday so I thought it would be cute to announce today! I posted this picture and said something like
"Thank you all so much for the wonderful birthday wishes!! I am so excited for this last year of my 20's! It's going to be a special one, completing our sweet little family
We announced with this picture. I turned it into a movie poster that said things like shock or our life productions and executive producer God, etc. We waited until 11w to tell our kids so we took the pic then and posted/sent it at 12w. We knew the gender when we announced too but have kept it a secret for now. Will let the kids use smoke bombs to announce that for fun.
We announced during our wedding reception after DH (so weird to get used to!) said something about me being a wonderful mother to J and to our next one during our vows and scared the shit out of me XD
I'm realizing that announcements take planning and effort.....I know I will regret it if we do nothing, but man, I'm tired and have no effort to give to this. Maybe in a few weeks I'll feel different.
We told our parents at 6 weeks because I was so sick. For his parents, he told his mother that I went to the doctor and got news that there is a growth and the doctor was giving me 8 months...to have a baby. We broke her, she went dead silent, and then started crying. We told my parents the next day, and I took my baby blanket and told my mother it needs.some work. She looked at it and said it looks fine, which I when I said that I need an updated one for my baby. She screamed, which brought my dad in, and she yelled at him that we were having a baby. For my brothers, they got "Uncle, est. 2018" shirts, and I'm ordering a funny babysitter shirt for my goddaughter. For the big announcement, I've gotten grandma and grandpa shirts, and I will be wearing a "Turkey in the Oven due 2018" shirt. We will take pictures and send out/FB post on Thanksgiving.
I told my sister's, bil, nieces and dad tonight. I walked in for a family dinner and my dad looked at me and asked if I had anything to tell him. He just knew. I was planning on telling them tonight anyway, just super crazy that he beat me to it. I brought a cake for dessert that had pink frosting in the middle to let them know it's a girl and they are all super excited. And proceeded to hurl baby name suggestions at me. I'm glad the news is out to my family. Next on the list is to let my work know.
edited because I wrote a paragraph and it somehow disappeared when I posted. Grrr.. Trying this again.
We sent a photo to my family at 11 weeks with us holding a onesie since they are out of town. We told my in laws in person with the onesie. Told siblings and some friends in person, mainly by just saying why I wasn't drinking. That was fun to have all their reactions. I had 3 people ask if we were joking or serious...kinda weird haha. Earlier this week we sent an email to our extended family with a photo of a baby bottle and text that said that this time next year we will be popping bottles of a different kind and then coming 2018. For our remaining close friends we will continue to try to tell them in person. Eventually we will post on Facebook but likely not until December.
I would like to do a cute social media announcement, but I am so nervous about something going wrong. I don’t think I will make a FB post until after the baby is born.
We only just started telling friends too. I'm telling the bulk of my friends next week at 16 weeks.
We started telling people this week. DD1 told my parents when they came to pick her up for a day out. She just blurted it out before saying hi. My mom was happy, my dad thinks we're crazy.
We told my in laws the next day. MIL said "you're nuts". FIL said, "you gotta be kidding me" then asked what the pros are to having 3 kids, told us w need to be able to afford it ( we can) and almost flat out said we should terminate. We weren't surprised, but it was pretty hurtful.
So now we're emailing a picture of our girls with the ultrasound pic that says baby #3 Coming in May. Our friends and other relatives are happy and being sweet.
I hate that we live in a country that we have to keep growing our families under wraps because of things like bonuses @nanifrog. And your inlaws are a holes for that.
We started telling people this week. DD1 told my parents when they came to pick her up for a day out. She just blurted it out before saying hi. My mom was happy, my dad thinks we're crazy.
We told my in laws the next day. MIL said "you're nuts". FIL said, "you gotta be kidding me" then asked what the pros are to having 3 kids, told us w need to be able to afford it ( we can) and almost flat out said we should terminate. We weren't surprised, but it was pretty hurtful.
So now we're emailing a picture of our girls with the ultrasound pic that says baby #3 Coming in May. Our friends and other relatives are happy and being sweet.
Not sharing at work until after bonuses.
Wtaf if wrong with your FIL??? I’m the oldest of six kids and every single family member that made comments to us about our family size like that I don’t talk to as an adult. Three kids is pretty damn standard!
@nanifrog 3 kids is quite standard, what is wrong with your parents /in laws. MH and I decided if we could we'd like a big family of 5. I'm 30 and he's 42 so I don't know if we'll be able to before we're "too old" but we'll try. MH is very close with his only sibling, so it's older than he is and he's come to realize when he loses his brother later on in life he will have no one. His father already passed and his mother is older. He doesn't want that for our children, he wants them to have many siblings so they always have someone.
@nanifrog Why do people feel that it’s ok to make comments like that?? Or even just in general, the “when are you having kids” or “you need to stop having kids” or at work i had people saying “you’re pregnant” anytime i ate anything out of the ordinary (like crackers). People are annoying. Stay out of my uterus!!
@nanifrog I'm so sorry you had such a painful response from "family". How insensitive and rude. I hope you are able to move past that to enjoy your pregnancy and your growing family. Hugs to you.
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
Decided to have DS on a big boy swing in his “promoted to big brother” shirt, and a sign on the bucket swing saying “reserved for my sister/my brother” ... finding out sex tonight and doing photo then! Yay!
I announced on FB today with a picture of my husband surrounded by the baby, the cat, and the 2 dogs and said something like "Do you think he's ready for 1 more?" The best part of the picture is the cat's face because the baby is pulling his hair and the 2 dogs are sniffing him so the real question should actually be whether or not the cat is ready.
Thanks everyone for the support. It really means a lot. FIL is an a$$ in general (does the bump let you curse?). He doesn't even believe in having 2 kids. DH was an accident. I'm more surprised about my dad. He's one of 9 and I'm 1 of 4. Almost everyone in the extended family has at least 3. So the family is huge. My older daughter has special needs and it's not always easy. My dad's issue seems to be with our approach to parenting. It's annoying because he seems to have re-written history about his own approach to parenting. I'm most upset about his reaction, in part because I was on the fence about having a 3rd and thought he'd be most excited about it. There's a bunch of other reasons I think 3 is a good plan, though I also think it's really challenging. But either way, it's not like we're having 10 kids when we don't have jobs or something.
We just announced on social media. We went to Disney during my pregnancy with DS and took our announcement picture in front of cinderellas castle. So I wanted to do a Disney themed one this time too. My best friend is in disney this week and took the photo for for us!
We are having our third and I had told everyone I wanted to tell personally and really dont feel like a big announcement so I just put this snap out after Thanksgiving dinner. Not sure how many people will get it but I am considering it my announcement to the public.
We are having our third and I had told everyone I wanted to tell personally and really dont feel like a big announcement so I just put this snap out after Thanksgiving dinner. Not sure how many people will get it but I am considering it my announcement to the public.
*Stuck in the box* I would be scared to comment about you being pregnant based on this picture. lol I would let someone else congratulate you first and then wait for you to reply. I'm determined to never offend anyone by assuming pregnancy! I err on the side of not saying anything... ever!
@hotmessmamax3 haha I probably wouldn’t assume pregnancy either. Most people don’t caress pudge though so maybe people will understand there’s a little squishy baby in there!
That’s my favorite part- there have been so many pregnancy rumors about me at work over the last 3 years. This time I’m starting it myself. I told the people who I care to know. Now I am just not hiding my bump anymore and waiting to see who has the balls to ask.
Because DH is a videographer he really wants to do our social media announcement as a video. We have been trying to come up with ideas for months but it's so hard to come up with something not cliché... so I kind of gave up and decided not to worry if it's original.
What do you guys think of this idea - we would do it shortly before Christmas, the video pans over a decorated mantle with stockings hanging from it, first one for DH, one for me, then one for the cat (cause we're THOSE kind of people), then a tiny one with TBA on it. Over that is text saying " It came without ribbons. It came without tags. It came without packages, boxes or bags..." and then finally it pans to DH and I, and there's my belly with a tag or text or something and a bow that says "Do not open until May 2018".
So yeah nothing original there but at least it's a combo of many unoriginal things? Is it way too cheesy??
Re: How Will you or how did you announce??
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
BFP 2/25/14 EDD 11/5/14 BD 11/4/14
BFP 8/26/17 EDD 5/5/18
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
"Thank you all so much for the wonderful birthday wishes!! I am so excited for this last year of my 20's! It's going to be a special one, completing our sweet little family
For his parents, he told his mother that I went to the doctor and got news that there is a growth and the doctor was giving me 8 months...to have a baby. We broke her, she went dead silent, and then started crying. We told my parents the next day, and I took my baby blanket and told my mother it needs.some work. She looked at it and said it looks fine, which I when I said that I need an updated one for my baby. She screamed, which brought my dad in, and she yelled at him that we were having a baby.
For my brothers, they got "Uncle, est. 2018" shirts, and I'm ordering a funny babysitter shirt for my goddaughter.
For the big announcement, I've gotten grandma and grandpa shirts, and I will be wearing a "Turkey in the Oven due 2018" shirt. We will take pictures and send out/FB post on Thanksgiving.
edited because I wrote a paragraph and it somehow disappeared when I posted. Grrr..
Trying this again.
We sent a photo to my family at 11 weeks with us holding a onesie since they are out of town. We told my in laws in person with the onesie.
Told siblings and some friends in person, mainly by just saying why I wasn't drinking. That was fun to have all their reactions. I had 3 people ask if we were joking or serious...kinda weird haha.
Earlier this week we sent an email to our extended family with a photo of a baby bottle and text that said that this time next year we will be popping bottles of a different kind and then coming 2018.
For our remaining close friends we will continue to try to tell them in person.
Eventually we will post on Facebook but likely not until December.
We only just started telling friends too. I'm telling the bulk of my friends next week at 16 weeks.
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
DD1 told my parents when they came to pick her up for a day out. She just blurted it out before saying hi. My mom was happy, my dad thinks we're crazy.
We told my in laws the next day. MIL said "you're nuts". FIL said, "you gotta be kidding me" then asked what the pros are to having 3 kids, told us w need to be able to afford it ( we can) and almost flat out said we should terminate. We weren't surprised, but it was pretty hurtful.
So now we're emailing a picture of our girls with the ultrasound pic that says baby #3 Coming in May. Our friends and other relatives are happy and being sweet.
Not sharing at work until after bonuses.
I hate that we live in a country that we have to keep growing our families under wraps because of things like bonuses @nanifrog. And your inlaws are a holes for that.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
FIL is an a$$ in general (does the bump let you curse?). He doesn't even believe in having 2 kids. DH was an accident.
I'm more surprised about my dad. He's one of 9 and I'm 1 of 4. Almost everyone in the extended family has at least 3. So the family is huge. My older daughter has special needs and it's not always easy. My dad's issue seems to be with our approach to parenting. It's annoying because he seems to have re-written history about his own approach to parenting.
I'm most upset about his reaction, in part because I was on the fence about having a 3rd and thought he'd be most excited about it.
There's a bunch of other reasons I think 3 is a good plan, though I also think it's really challenging. But either way, it's not like we're having 10 kids when we don't have jobs or something.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
There are so many cute ideas on here!
Because DH is a videographer he really wants to do our social media announcement as a video. We have been trying to come up with ideas for months but it's so hard to come up with something not cliché... so I kind of gave up and decided not to worry if it's original.
What do you guys think of this idea - we would do it shortly before Christmas, the video pans over a decorated mantle with stockings hanging from it, first one for DH, one for me, then one for the cat (cause we're THOSE kind of people), then a tiny one with TBA on it. Over that is text saying " It came without ribbons. It came without tags. It came without packages, boxes or bags..." and then finally it pans to DH and I, and there's my belly with a tag or text or something and a bow that says "Do not open until May 2018".
So yeah nothing original there but at least it's a combo of many unoriginal things? Is it way too cheesy??