My 3 year old lays back in the tub for it, so doing it first means the water we rinse in isn't soapy from washing his body. If you rinse under running water anyway, it wouldn't particularly make a difference since it isn't going to get soapy.
(Eta: he doesn't normally get irritated by bath or pool water getting in his ear, but we will dry the outer ear canal with a qtip sometimes if he wants us to)
@kbrinks2 DD was 5 when she finally had her tube surgery and they were firm on no water in the ear period. We used wax earplugs for showering and swimming until the tubes came out. It wasn't just for infection it was to prevent the tubes from falling out sooner than we wanted too.
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@rainafire77 some things that I have read say no water in the ear at all! And I don't know how I will keep earplugs or a headband on a 2 year old long enough to bath! I'll have to see what they say at the appointment! I'll make sure to bath him the night before to at least save me a few days of worrying about the water!
@kbrinks2 DD was 5 when she finally had her tube surgery and they were firm on no water in the ear period. We used wax earplugs for showering and swimming until the tubes came out. It wasn't just for infection it was to prevent the tubes from falling out sooner than we wanted too.
How long did the tubes stay in with all the no water precaution? One my son's tubes has been in for over 2.5 years and the other for a year now (having been replaced after 1.5 years) We haven't used a plug once in that time
@3plus1equals4 Her tubes were in for 2 years before falling out naturally. No issues with the ears since then. They had told me that they would naturally fall out between 18 months & 2 years post surgery.
ETA: Keep in mind this was over 10 years ago so I don't know what the protocol is now or if the technology/procedure has changed significantly.
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I have a question that I could probably just ask my Dr, but I forgot at my last appointment lol... Does anyone know, or have experience, that if you tore with your first birth are you more likely to do so again? I guess I would expect to tear in the exact same way since the scar tissue isn't stretchy???
@the_other_mother - I didn't tear with dd1, but had an unnecessary episiotomy because she was suspected to be LGA. I tore with dd2 and ds2, but not due to size, but their rapid descent and birth. I had a labial laceration and a skid mark with both. No stitches with ds2. No tearing with my other two, though ds1 was considerably smaller and dd3, while descended rapidly, I was able to support her head and my perineum on her way out, and she was also born in the water.
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@the_other_mother I've had for babies and I tore less badly with each one. My first I had a second degree tear and my second got his shoulder stuck and I still didn't tear as bad as my first. By the fourth I didn't even get a single stitch.
DD born Oct 2011 - DS#1 born Jan 2014 - DS#2 born Apr 2015 - DS#3 born Sept 2016 - LO#5 due Feb 7, 2018
@soulcupcake and @sabriel1 that is so encouraging to hear… I was wondering this as well. I was given an episiotomy for both DS and DD. I recovered considerably quicker from DD... but, I’m really hoping it will be unnecessary this time.
@the_other_mother I have had an episiotomy and tore with all 3 previous births. I have a super fast 2nd half of labor and am a very small person, so I just expect it now.
Also each baby was a different OB, so an episiotomy was necessary for me and not just a doctor with outdated habits.
@gymmonkey95 I haven't tried this, but now that you say that, I think I have some sitting around too. I think I'll try that.
@sabriel1 that is good to hear. I know everyone is different, but at least there's hope. I had a second degree tear and I'm was hoping to hear it is possible not to tear. (Or not as bad) @3plus1equals4 I'm a small person too. My DD was small like me, but she apparently inherited her dad's head.
@the_other_mother I had a first degree tear with DD (my practice doesn’t do episiotomies unless absolutely necessary; they believe a natural tear heals better) then no tearing at all with DS. He also came out rather quickly with 2 pushes. I’ve heard each subsequent pregnancy should theoretically have less tearing.
My son was born 5 years ago so some of the stuff that is out now wasn’t a thing when he was born. Anyone have any reviews/thoughts on the Halo Bassinet (especially if you had a c-section) and the 4moms MamaRoo swing thing? DS hated the regular swing when he was little so I’m hesitant to jump into getting a pricey MamaRoo when this new baby might hate it too.
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@Megzb510 the mamaroo is honestly worth the money. It was the only way I could put baby down. He hated the bouncy thing and the swing.
Also Recovering from my c section I used an arms reach co sleeper. I could literally just scoop him up and feed him without having to get out of bed or really move. It was great and transition was easy when that time came because it converts back to a bassinet
@Megzb510 my kids both loved the rockaroo! It’s a little less expensive than the mamaroo, and only has a rocking motion at different speeds. When we registered for it 3.5 years ago, it had better reviews than the mamaroo.
@alemarie1 Just my opinion I feel like getting baby to transition from this to a crib might be harder but I also never used anything like this for long term sleeping
@alemarie1 i could be wrong, but i thought it was best for babies to sleep flat, unless they have severe reflux. does this have a completely flat, non inclined position?
@alemarie1, I am looking at that, too. I love how it can be at an angle or flat. That way, if you need the angle, it is available and you can transition them to flat in the same bed. It also looks much more breathable than the rock and plays. We plan on using it for naps around the house and then the crib at bedtime, but you never know. I would feel much more comfortable with this as a bassinet than a rock and play that many people end up using.
@alemarie1 That looks very similar to the angle baby is at in a R&P. I know there are mixed opinions on letting baby sleep in a R&P but that’s the only thing DS would sleep in for the first 6 months because he hated being flat on his back and would not stay in a swaddle so the smaller sleep space helped him calm down too. The ped at our hospital said all her boys slept in a R&P when we asked her about using it so I felt ok about it. DS transitioned to a crib around 6 months and he did ok moving to a flat surface at that point. If that one has the option to be flat too that’s bonus points I would say, but otherwise basically that looks like a R&P minus the rocking!
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@alemarie1 We're going to purchase one of those beds also. We used a RnP for Ds1 and DS2. Not because we wanted to use one but that was the only way we got consistent sleep (3-4 hr stretches). when we put both boys in the crib, we'd get an hour or two max before they'd wake up. I was exhausted which wasn't safe either, so we used the RnP. I like that this has the option to lay flat and that it will sit up closer to the bed. The RnP was about a foot shorter than my bed which made getting the baby out more challenging, especially for anyone with a c-section.
I used the search bar before asking, and couldn't find this discussion. Sorry if this was previously addressed. Are wipe warmers a must? My mom bought me a wipe dispenser, but it doesn't warm..do I need to buy a warmer?
I used the search bar before asking, and couldn't find this discussion. Sorry if this was previously addressed. Are wipe warmers a must? My mom bought me a wipe dispenser, but it doesn't warm..do I need to buy a warmer?
Stuck in a box: nope. The warmers are actually kind of a pain, they dry out the wipes.
@Chawk17 I never used one. I don't see the point honestly. You aren't always going to be at home or in the exact spot that you keep the warmer. Plus, if their booty is a little red, I feel like a cold wipe probably feels good.
C Section mamas, I have a question about painkillers. I am reading The Essential C-Section Guide, and they talk about narcotic painkillers A LOT. Like morphine drip for up to 2 days after and codeine in pill form after that. They really stress about how pain management is essential for breastfeeding and recovery. I am very against taking narcotic painkillers and usually avoid them even when prescribed, but I'm not going to go against direct orders or be stubborn about something that is better for baby and recovery etc. Did you find that you needed as much as I am describing or were you able to manage your pain with other non-narcotic painkillers?
@MrsJ2410 I was moved to recovery and they asked my pain level and I said about a 2. They didn't believe me but I really didn't feel too much pain. I think I still had a lot of painkillers in my system. I remember signing paperwork to say that I didn't want the painkillers that they gave me the next day and ended up just taking Tylenol. Don't get me wrong, it was not all roses but I felt okay while in the hospital. I think the worst days were days 3-5 and I just made sure not to miss a dose of Tylenol!
@MrsJ2410 I didn't have a c-section (FTM here) but I have had two open surgeries to remove fibroids, which is the same incision as a section and more invasive of a surgery, and I'll have a c-section with this baby. I plan to only use Motrin (ibuprofen) if allowed.
In the hospital after both surgeries I was on morphine for about 16 hours after surgery was done, then moved to pills. I don't know what the protocol is with c-sections, but in general they want you off the morphine ASAP. With my first surgery they gave me Percocet, I think, and hated it. I felt sick and tired all the time, and talk about not pooping....With my second I said I'd rather not be on narcotics, and my doc gave me a prescription for 800mg of Motrin (4 OTC pills) and it worked just fine. I felt better, no pooping problems. I don't know if there are any restrictions on anti-inflammatories while breastfeeding so I need to get more info about what I can take, but I plan to avoid narcotics if I can.
Talk to your doctor about pain management, your preferences, and know that you can refuse narcotics if you want to. At the same time, don't be a hero. If a regular analgesic like ibuprofen or Tylenol isn't enough, get something stronger.
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@MrsJ2410 the doctor ended up damaging the pain nerves during my c section which is common and only harmful because you think you can be super woman and don’t know when to sit down. They forced me to take 1 round of pain killers when I transferred to the maternity room and then I denied them because I felt no pain. I was up walking around like I didn’t just have surgery. I even went grocery shopping after leaving the hospital.
I could have ended up back in the hospital for doing to much so this time I won’t be so care less but you might not feel much pain it really depends on the person and how surgery went. My sister was immobile after her first c section and did much better with her second. I’m hoping my second isn’t worse than my first since I got lucky.
@SunflowerMama428@eggplantface@kbrinks2 Thank you! I appreciate the insight, I have a fairly high pain tolerance and narcotics make me super ill feeling usually, but I will not try and be a hero either!
@Chawk17 We do swaddle blankets in the beginning.. maybe a month or two. After that mine got too squirmy to stay wrapped and we just did footed sleepers.
How necessary is a video monitor if we live in 2br same floor condo and plan for him to sleep in our room the first few months, and we have both an audio monitor and owlet?
How necessary is a video monitor if we live in 2br same floor condo and plan for him to sleep in our room the first few months, and we have both an audio monitor and owlet?
I personally have never seen the point of a video monitor. Perhaps it would be useful once they hot toddler agree but for me that's about it
DD born Oct 2011 - DS#1 born Jan 2014 - DS#2 born Apr 2015 - DS#3 born Sept 2016 - LO#5 due Feb 7, 2018
How necessary is a video monitor if we live in 2br same floor condo and plan for him to sleep in our room the first few months, and we have both an audio monitor and owlet?
I used it only so I wouldn’t run into his room and check on him. It’s important for babies to learn to self soothe and I know I wouldn’t be able to leave him alone if I couldn’t see him. As he got older i used it to tell him to stop doing things and to go back to bed without having to leave what I was doing. I still use it to tell him to clean his play room without having to go in there.
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(Eta: he doesn't normally get irritated by bath or pool water getting in his ear, but we will dry the outer ear canal with a qtip sometimes if he wants us to)
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BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
ETA: Keep in mind this was over 10 years ago so I don't know what the protocol is now or if the technology/procedure has changed significantly.
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1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
Also each baby was a different OB, so an episiotomy was necessary for me and not just a doctor with outdated habits.
@sabriel1 that is good to hear. I know everyone is different, but at least there's hope. I had a second degree tear and I'm was hoping to hear it is possible not to tear. (Or not as bad)
@3plus1equals4 I'm a small person too. My DD was small like me, but she apparently inherited her dad's head.
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November 2016: FET#1 = chemical
January 2017: FET#2 = chemical
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May 24, 2017: FET#4 - BFP! - Beta #1 151 - Beta #2 503 - Due date 2/9/18
Also Recovering from my c section I used an arms reach co sleeper. I could literally just scoop him up and feed him without having to get out of bed or really move. It was great and transition was easy when that time came because it converts back to a bassinet
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We're going to purchase one of those beds also. We used a RnP for Ds1 and DS2. Not because we wanted to use one but that was the only way we got consistent sleep (3-4 hr stretches). when we put both boys in the crib, we'd get an hour or two max before they'd wake up. I was exhausted which wasn't safe either, so we used the RnP. I like that this has the option to lay flat and that it will sit up closer to the bed. The RnP was about a foot shorter than my bed which made getting the baby out more challenging, especially for anyone with a c-section.
Are wipe warmers a must? My mom bought me a wipe dispenser, but it doesn't warm..do I need to buy a warmer?
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
I remember signing paperwork to say that I didn't want the painkillers that they gave me the next day and ended up just taking Tylenol.
Don't get me wrong, it was not all roses but I felt okay while in the hospital. I think the worst days were days 3-5 and I just made sure not to miss a dose of Tylenol!
In the hospital after both surgeries I was on morphine for about 16 hours after surgery was done, then moved to pills. I don't know what the protocol is with c-sections, but in general they want you off the morphine ASAP. With my first surgery they gave me Percocet, I think, and hated it. I felt sick and tired all the time, and talk about not pooping....With my second I said I'd rather not be on narcotics, and my doc gave me a prescription for 800mg of Motrin (4 OTC pills) and it worked just fine. I felt better, no pooping problems. I don't know if there are any restrictions on anti-inflammatories while breastfeeding so I need to get more info about what I can take, but I plan to avoid narcotics if I can.
Talk to your doctor about pain management, your preferences, and know that you can refuse narcotics if you want to. At the same time, don't be a hero. If a regular analgesic like ibuprofen or Tylenol isn't enough, get something stronger.
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
I could have ended up back in the hospital for doing to much so this time I won’t be so care less but you might not feel much pain it really depends on the person and how surgery went. My sister was immobile after her first c section and did much better with her second. I’m hoping my second isn’t worse than my first since I got lucky.