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riversdoctor · November 2017

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riversdoctor · November 2017

Had to get this post going since this has been on my mind. My materniT 21 results are due back any day. The nurse will give them over the phone. Since I had to go public with my pregnancy earlier than I wanted (by 6 weeks) I am tempted to find out the sex of the baby so I can have my own secret again. I have been team green for my last two babies and was planning on it again, but the temptation is real!!

frenchiekinplusone · November 2017

@riversdoctor I feel you on that. I'm sitting in the waiting room to repeat my anatomy scan bc of weird baby positioning last time. I told DH he could sit this one out so I'm here alone, and he was the strong proponent of being team green. I am sooooo tempted to find out but I would feel like such a shit afterwards and would definitely break down and tell him.

ETA best of luck for great test results!!

whatabout2ndbreakfast · November 2017

I'm eating all of DS nerds from trick or treat. He can't eat those yet anyway

riversdoctor · November 2017

@frenchiekinplusone hope the repeat scan shows a cooperative baby lol!

@peppersmith22 nerds are the best! I’m totally craving a nerds blizzard from Dairy Queen; are those still a thing?

pghren · November 2017

My belly is already bugging me, and I'm afraid for the growth to come.

whatabout2ndbreakfast · November 2017

Ahhh!!! @riversdoctor I don't think so but I remember those! They were delicious!

stalkinghorse · November 2017

My husband is very introverted with almost no friends of his own, which worries me. He made friends with this guy I'm not the biggest fan of. He's from a very money family and invests the money in real estate. He has this wife who used to be an actress but doesn't work and they have 3 gorgeous kids. She has taken an intense liking to me. I kind of feel like I have to be her friend even though she drives me nuts.

She's one of those people that will call me at least 2 to 3 times a week at 10am at work. I sit in an office next to a busy trading desk with my door open and I really can't take personal calls in the middle of the day. I feel like I have told her this but she just ignores it. She just has no concept of my needing to work to afford what we have. She's bored bc her two nannies are covering most of the kid duty. This week was particularly bad. So I've been aggressively screening her calls and being terse in my texts. .

I fantasize about ghosting her entirely. Maybe that would be kinder than being passive aggressive?

ngolimento · November 2017

@stalkinghorse I feel your pain. My husband's old boss was married to a 23 yes old heiress who was the most vapid waste of estrogen I've ever met. They often set up dinner dates with us and I had to be super nice to her even though she disgusted me. I think it took her all of an hour of meeting me for the first time before she started talking about how much she likes to get high.

Classy.

stalkinghorse · November 2017

@ngolimento this is why I

TB... perspective. YIKES!!!

shocked oh no GIF

danjoly · November 2017

I get really angry when I see people saying their "sex scan" is coming up. Maybe I'm sensitive because my close friend found out at her anatomy scan that her son had hypoplasic left heart syndrome, but JFC anatomy scan is about making sure everything is ok with your baby anatomy wise and not just finding out the sex!!

Also FFFC I'm only 16 weeks but I've been feeling the baby move for over a week now and yes I'm sure it's not gas

lindsye · November 2017

@stalkinghorse that sounds like a really difficult position to be in - obviously you don't want to piss her off because that puts your husband in a tough spot with his friend, but anyone who cannot be empathetic enough to your situation to understand that you can't chat at work certainly is not your friend.

@ngolimento I get the joy of socializing with women like that too with the wives of people who work with DH. They are absolutely horrified that I take care of my own children and spend the entire time trying to convince me to get a nanny so I can have their lives - "changing the world" one boozy charity brunch at a time. It's like, I quit my job to take care of my children and whenever I am done taking care of my children, I will go back to work. End of story.

sparklingdiamond · November 2017

@danjoly I think most people just assume nothing will be wrong with their baby, so they just focus on the sex. I would love to be one of those people that is just so unaware of all the problems that can happen.

ngolimento · November 2017

@danjoly that's how I feel about people using the genetic screening just to find out the sex. There are people out there in agony waiting for the genetic results, and don't care about the sex, under threat of crushing news. And others treat it like it's an effing carnival game. Not to mention the burden they are placing on our already crumbling insurance system just to get "gee whiz" info a few weeks early. So aggravating and dumb.

shireeallason · November 2017

Completely agree @danjoly! We found out at our DS anatomy scan he had bilateral pyelectasis which turned into hydronephrosis at birth. Our kidney doctor has already told us that it is genetic and that there is a 30% chance this baby will have it too. We are also team green, so it has never been a sex scan for us.

AFM FFFC: I gave in! Last week I ordered the new fancy new iphone even with the ridiculous price tag that we probably can't afford with a new LO on the way. It'll be here today, and I don't feel guilty at all..... Mama needed a new phone!

bchalm · November 2017

@danjoly I hear ya! I actually had someone ask me why I was getting the genetic testing done if we were waiting until the baby is here to find out the sex. I surprised me. Like duh, I want to make sure everything it ok.

lindsye · November 2017

My husband really wants to see the new Thor movie and I have zero interest, so he is considering going by himself tonight after we get the kids to bed. He is all apologetic about leaving me and keeps waffling because he feels guilty. My confession: I love my DH and he truly is one of my best friends, but I am absolutely salivating over the idea of a few hours alone tonight! But obviously I can't tell him this, so... fingers crossed.

frenchiekinplusone · November 2017

@danjoly totally agree. I get that finding out the sex is super exciting for those that choose to find out, but that isn't the point of the scan. It's conveniently available info at the same time they are taking really important measurements and making sure things like all 4 heart quadrants are present. I'm borderline jealous of people who have zero anxiety about the anatomy scan actually finding one of many things that could potentially be wrong. I think I held my breath through my entire appointment.

jenotontx · November 2017

I have been absolutely drooling over this Lilly Jade diaper bag for months now but the one that I really love has been sold out. Well I just got an email that they restocked it and are taking pre-orders at the moment. The bag was also marked down to $305 from $340 (huge savings I know) so I just impulsively bought the bag.

stalkinghorse · November 2017

@lindsye YES!!! This happens every so often where my husband goes away for a work trip and I can watch all the TV I want without judgment and get to have the dog in our room to sleep (he's usually banished to his own room which makes me so sad).

Keeping fingers crossed you get some much deserved "you" time and a slightly guilty husband who thinks his wife is so rad!

jenotontx · November 2017

bchalm said:

@danjoly I hear ya! I actually had someone ask me why I was getting the genetic testing done if we were waiting until the baby is here to find out the sex. I surprised me. Like duh, I want to make sure everything it ok.

I don't really know why but I actually get a little annoyed when I hear people get the testing done JUST so they can find out the sex. I think there is something about knowing how much women agonize waiting for the results or can't afford to get it done even though they would really like to that rubs me the wrong way when I find out people just want to know the sex.

Dumbgurl04 · November 2017

@lindsye my husband NEVER likes to go out. He is such a homebody. Usually I'm the one going out after the kid goes to bed. But I have pure joy when he tells me he is going to hang out with friend and I can just have piece and watch what I want on tv. I hope your hubby goes

Also side note I can't wait to see Thor it looks so awesome!

fancybelmont · November 2017

I'm irrationally angry that I have an anterior placenta. I felt movement in my second pregnancy pretty early, and so far in this one, I've felt nothing. I know this is going to be my last pregnancy so I'm kinda sad I won't feel movement in this one like I did in the others. Anyone else have an anterior placenta?

irenejean · November 2017

@fancybelmont I had an anterior placenta with my first pregnancy and didn't feel movement until 23 weeks, it sucked to not be able to feel any movements for so long, I feel for you! I don't know if I have an anterior placenta with this pregnancy yet, but I'm almost 15 weeks along and haven't felt anything that I could confidently call fetal movements.

kmalls · November 2017

@fancybelmont I had an anterior placenta with my first two pregnancies, and although it was a bummer early on, once kicks started to get strong they were unmistakable. I would say after about 23ish weeks they felt (what I assume to be) just like any other pregnancy. Apparently it's posterior this time, so I'll let ya know the comparison

rklinge0 · November 2017

I am on the other end @danjoly, we were already the 1 in 1,150 yet nothing was seen on the anatomy scan so I already have that leeriness of ultrasounds ( they didn't pick up on her medium size vsd either on any ultrasounds). They found a soft marker in 3rd trimester because my insurance no longer covered my ob's office and the new one wanted an ultrasound . I have horrible anxiety due to ultrasounds to this day. Part of me is trying to be optimistic this time because 1 out of 3 pregnancies would hopefully be complication free.

Mine today is i judge mom's who front face their kids before 2, especially those kids who are less than 22 months. I just wonder why they feel just because they are scrunched means they jeopardize their safety. Broken leg is way better than a head injury.

kmalls · November 2017

rklinge0 said:
Mine today is i judge mom's who front face their kids before 2, especially those kids who are less than 22 months. I just wonder why they feel just because they are scrunched means they jeopardize their safety. Broken leg is way better than a head injury.

@rklinge0 - So much this. It kills me to see little ones forward facing when they shouldn't be. Yes, in most states its legal to turn kids around at 1, but it's sooooo dangerous. It's just not worth it.

I feel immense guilt because I just turned my son's seat to forward facing and he's 2 years 9 months old. I swore I'd never turn him due to convenience rather than his size, but I need him to get used to climbing into the seat on his own -- once baby #3 arrives he'll need to climb into the third row independently. If that wasn't an issue, the kid would rear face until elementary school

jenotontx · November 2017

@rklinge0 I agree with you about front facing but I will say I have a friend who decided to turn her son around early because he would always get car sick. She went weeks dealing with her son vommiting almost every single time they got in the car. I can imagine how difficult it would be dealing with that so I didn’t really blame her for wanting to turn him around. He hasn’t had any issues getting sick since he has been forward facing.

kmalls · November 2017

@JJMNO1616 I totally get that. I recognize I'm lucky that son never complained about rear facing. If he puked his face off every time he got in the car, that'd be a completely different story.

mcb2016 · November 2017

My 18 month old is still rear facing. I wanted to keep that way until at least 3. But with the new baby coming I will have to ff face him at 2. I am hoping we can just get a bigger car by then.

Mattel · November 2017

I agree with forward facing too early! I heard that in NY, they’re making it law that kids be rear facing until 2.

I also silently judge judge people that put infant seats on top of shopping carts. I wish they knew how dangerous it was and that it could be potentially damaging to their car seat.

bchalm · November 2017

@Mattel I am totally with you. I always have to hold my tongue, because I think alot of people just don't realize it's dangerous. But I always keep my mouth shut.

ekendall09 · November 2017

@Mattel and @bchalm I would have rathered people told me the car seat on the cart was dangerous to my face than trashing me one aisle over in Target. I truly didn't know at the time and it was pretty hurtful that someone wouldn't have wanted to just be helpful. I say something when I see it now.

ekendall09 · November 2017

100% agree on rear facing (and totally get there are circumstances that make it hard). We RF until 4 with no issue and complaints (mostly just people judging me). I made the decision that I thought was best for her, and stand by it.

I full admit I wasn't aware of tethering until recently. We've incorporated this a well since turning her.

Mattel · November 2017

@ekendall09 I always want to. Every time. I did one time when my daughter was also in her infant seat. I got the nastiest response about how it wasn’t my business to criticize another mother and I should only worry about my own kid. She continued to yell as I walked away. So I don’t say anything anymore. I wish stores would put up signs or something or warnings on the cart about how it’s not safe to put the seat on top of the cart, the same way they have little warning about where children should and should not sit in the cart

ekendall09 · November 2017

@mattel thats a good suggestion too. maybe stores could help with awareness

jenotontx · November 2017

Mattel said:

@ekendall09 I always want to. Every time. I did one time when my daughter was also in her infant seat. I got the nastiest response about how it wasn’t my business to Criticize another mother and I should only worry about my own kid. She continued to yell as I walked away. So I don’t say anything anymore. I wish stores would put up signed or something or warnings on the cart about how it’s not safe to Put it on the seat, the same way they have little warning about where children Should and should not in the car.t

I hate it when people act like this because you know what... when something tragic does happen to a child then everyone is yelling "Why didn't someone do something. Why didn't any adults step in and stop this, ect." We live in a day and age when people would rather get their phones out and video record flights or children being abused then step up and do the right thing. I don't think any mother should be shamed as it could be a honest mistake or just not knowing the dangers but we need to be able to accept helpful criticism/advice. If it's a matter of live for death for a child I believe that is everyone's business.

riversdoctor · November 2017

@ekendall09 I’m with you there! My family was constantly asking when my kids can “sit normally” in the car.

Dd was 4.5 when we flipped her due to outgrowing the radian by height. (I could have kept her rf in the chicco a couple months longer as she was still under 40 pounds but it was too much of a fight to have her rf in one car and not in the other). Unfortunately ds looks to be hitting that 40 pound mark much sooner! At 2.5 he’s already 34-36 pounds! I’m hoping to keep him rf at least until next fall but we will see.

Puddlewonderful · November 2017

Sorry I have to ask,what does everyone mean by the infant seat "on" the cart? Do some people really prop the seat on top? I've put the seat fully down in the cart (and then surrounded it with the few groceries that will fit) but I don't think that's what is meant here? It's a pain but besides two carts or babywearing I don't know how else I'd do it.

lindsye · November 2017

@Puddlewonderful putting the seat in the deep, largest part of the cart is the safe way to do it. Some people prop the infant seat in the small child seat area where it will fit but can easily fall down if the cart is jostled. Definitely not a good idea!

Puddlewonderful · November 2017

@lindsye thanks for clarifying! Wow I have never seen anyone do that. That's terrifying.

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