I am so over this semester in school. I had planned to do one more full time semester thinking it would be my last chance before baby comes...I’m taking five classes people. On top of everything else. And not easy classes - Numerical Analysis, Disrete Structures, blah, blah, blah, more senior level Computer Science stuff. Anyway, semester is over Dec 5th and it can’t come faster.
@EmilyLove25 How’s this semester going as a teacher? Are you over it?
@caeilievalor I hope the rest of the semester flies by for you! I was in the middle of law school when I had DD and rememer how much I hated going to class.
@caeilievalor I am totally over this semester and honestly have been since it started. I am considering Thanksgiving the beginning of the end since there are only like two weeks after that... I cannot wait! @TInman87 When do you take the CPA? My DH is an accountant. I remember how busy he was when he was studying!
Anyone else enjoying reading the birth announcements and stories from Oct and Nov? I'm waiting for a Dec announcement to go "shit is getting real, real quick".
@caeilievalor I'm IT support, so comp sci adjacent but different program. I'd done my degree plan so that this semester would be easier (only 13 hours) before we'd decided to have a baby, since it's my last semester anyway, but booooooy I'm also way over it.
My networking security class kicked my ass this last month in terms of both time and mental energy needed. Thankfully, the reading portions are nearly done and now I just need to practice my hands-on over and over again until I can remember it all, lol.
I'm taking both JavaScript and PHP/MySQL courses, and I'm mostly enjoying those. My other classes are BS degree requirements that I'm kinda sleepwalking through, lol.
@EmilyLove25 my last section is in 2 weeks. I've passed 2, I took one about a month ago that I'm waiting for the score on, and then like I said, number 4 is sneaking up on me. Its brutal! Just hoping to pass so i won't have to study anymore after little one is here.
Currently browsing Amazon for a robot vacuum Seriously though, vacuuming is so hard for me right now! My back/pelvis will hurt for the rest of the day if I do it... anyone have recommendations on a good one?
@agalvarado we own an Irobot Romba 650! DH was skeptical at first, but we both agree now it was worth the money ($300) as it has seriously helped with the amount of pet hair we have in the house. We still regular vacuum on occasion but Romba does a pretty good job for the most part. The only caviot is Romba can get stuck pretty easily so requires rescuing on occasion. But still totally worth it.
Oh lord... one of my baby cousins is pregnant with her 5th kid (she started early) and is staying at her sister's house (because her sister is the only functional adult in that family & basically runs a B&B/flophouse for whichever sibling is homeless this month) and she thinks her water broke this morning but she doesn't want to go to the hospital yet. Functional Cousin will insist on taking Preggo Cousin to L&D when she gets home from work, if she doesn't get a call sooner, but Preggo Cousin doesn't even have an OB she can call for advice because (1) she lives in Florida and is apparently visiting to have the baby closer to her mom, and (2) apparently hasn't been to any prenatal visits anywhere since confirming the pregnancy. So Functional But Absolutely Not Interested In Having Babies Cousin is asking for advice from the pharmacist she works with, and me and our other cousin who is currently 40+4 pregnant.
Oh lord... one of my baby cousins is pregnant with her 5th kid (she started early) and is staying at her sister's house (because her sister is the only functional adult in that family & basically runs a B&B/flophouse for whichever sibling is homeless this month) and she thinks her water broke this morning but she doesn't want to go to the hospital yet. Functional Cousin will insist on taking Preggo Cousin to L&D when she gets home from work, if she doesn't get a call sooner, but Preggo Cousin doesn't even have an OB she can call for advice because (1) she lives in Florida and is apparently visiting to have the baby closer to her mom, and (2) apparently hasn't been to any prenatal visits anywhere since confirming the pregnancy. So Functional But Absolutely Not Interested In Having Babies Cousin is asking for advice from the pharmacist she works with, and me and our other cousin who is currently 40+4 pregnant.
I really need to know how this plays out. I hope you keep us updated.
Random #1: My sister in law told me she is pregnant this morning! I can't tell anyone because she hasn't even told my brother yet. So I'll tell you guys! I'm happy but she's stealing my thunder, yo. They already have two.
Random #2: I had to pop into my doctor's office today (in my halloween costume) due to a rogue high bp reading this morning. It was ok in the office (slightly higher than usual but not worryingly so, probably attributable to the stress of having no power for a couple days) so it's back to the daily grind, but my OB was dressed as Luna Lovegood! I love her!
@auntieraindrop Oh and apparently even though it's her 5th pregnancy she's never had her water break before (ok). With the last one they broke it at the hospital (ok) and for the first 3 kids she tripped & fell & went into labor (what).
Another random: My mom and my sisters just strong-armed me into having a "sprinkle" for this baby. I kept telling them I didn't need a shower, and they've been giving me a hard time for months. So, at Sunday dinner (which DH and I didn't attend because DD was sick), they discussed it amongst themselves, called me, and informed me that they were throwing a shower at the end of November (when I'll be 36 weeks!!!). They decided it will be on a week night, totally informal, and involve a chili bar. I mean, I'm happy to celebrate this LO (I just didn't want a big deal made of it because I don't really need anything), but do I really need a full-blown sprinkle? Is it weird? Especially since they're doing it four weeks before my due date? What do you ladies think? I just want to add that I'm not upset about it. I appreciate their desire to celebrate the baby and me (and I'm used to strong-willed women gracefully getting their way)...I'm just worried it looks "grabby!"
Just wanted to drop in and say that our next door neighbor (DH's first cousin) house burned down this morning. Luckily no one was home and no animals were inside, so everyone is safe, but they have lost everything. Please say a prayer for them! However, I'm telling y'all this to say that it's the second one in our community that has burned in the past 2 weeks due to leaving the dryer on! Please just think twice about leaving yours on when you are not home, and don't forget to give them a good cleaning out! There are some good tutorials on Pinterest, but who knows how it actually caught fire to begin with.
@bainidhedub yes! i must also know how this plays out, keep us posted!
@cyanope I say have one! it sounds low-key/chill and they clearly want to throw you a little something, this isn't a case of you begging for a party! I say let them celebrate you, get you a couple cute outfits for the baby (in my experience no one goes overboard for subsequent babies) and enjoy! As far as timing, 36 weeks is on the later side, but not too late in my opinion. I've definitely attended showers for moms farther along than that!
DS1: Nov. 2013 DS2: Jan. 2016 DS3: Dec. 2017 Baby #4 on the way!
@cyanope I had to fight my mother not to have it that late. She seems to think having the shower early enough to actually unpack the gifts before the baby is born is tacky. Our compromise date was 33 weeks. She wanted to go for about 36.
@cyanope I think it's really sweet and not gift grabby for them to have a sprinkle for you.
DH says he has something in the works. I have no clue when anything is. But I know that it's not between now and mid/late November because we have plans every weekend and/or the people we would have there will be out of town. So... yeah. I'd like to know when it is because I'd like to look nice for it if possible.
@bainidhedub, yes keep us posted. It just seems so crazy. I can't imagine not having any prenatal appointments. I hope it turns out okay.
@whitta1218 so sorry to hear that but glad everyone is okay. I didn't realize that a dryer could start a fire.
@cyanope I agree that it is sweet and not grabby. Enjoy it and anyone who attends will be there because they are excited for the baby and your growing family.
@cyanope I say do it... and here is why (my random):
So I have a weird job, but part of it is working as a learning specialist coordinator. Basically, myself and another woman (by FAR my favorite person at work) are full time and we hire/coordinate part time people to work with our most at risk student athletes. They get paid but these are all people who are doing it because they are essentially good people. Anyway, we have a meeting every other Tuesday. Well, I noticed on the calendar that today's was at someone's house and not in the office. I've been swamped so didn't think much of it--Halloween or something? Well, last night I woke up to pee at 3 AM, and it randomly dawned on me that maybe it was a baby shower? Sure enough, it was! These things are always a tad awkward, but OMG that was so so so sweet of them to do. They all bought gifts (favorite childhood books, since I am a literature person) and had vegan food. It was so so so cute and thoughtful. I love the idea of people already loving this baby before he is born. Anyway, I also get to leave work early. Yay!
Well, thanks for the feedback, ladies! I'm just going to embrace it. Although, my always over-the-top sister is already sending me Pinterest pins for what decor she's planning on doing. My sisters/Mom don't really do "low key," so we'll see if they stick to their word! And, oh my goodness, @EmilyLove25...SO sweet of your coworkers!
@cyanope I don't see that as grabby at all. IMO, if someone offers to throw one it's ok. If you are asking people for a party, I see that as gift-grabby and slightly tacky. Hopefully they don't go too overboard, but a chili bar sounds AMAZING.
I need to complain for a minute. We just came back inside from trick or treating. During the beginning I took a picture of DS and sent it to all the grandparents and my sisters. I just sat down to post the picture on instagram, but when I opened the app I saw that my FIL had already posted it. Ugh. I don't get why grandparents think they have the right to 1. Post a photo of my child publicly without my permission or 2. post big events before the parents get to. Would it be so hard to ask permission first?? I'm not unreasonable and would have told him it was fine but to wait until I got to post it first.
@maueraa07 being a FTM I still haven't wrapped my mind around this problem, though I'm sure I will understand soon! A co-worker was just complaining about the exact same thing today. I get they are excited to show off their grandbabies...But don't steal the parents thunder!
AFM... I'm 31+2 today and DH had contractors out today starting a huge demo/remodel in our house. The bedrooms will be the only untouched rooms throughout the project, meaning EVERYTHING in our house is stored in our room, the nursery, and the guest bedroom. He says it'll be done "in about 2 weeks"....um....let's hope so because he just told his mom we would host thanksgiving here!!!
Yes @maueraa07 I do not get this either. I haven't had this issue too much in our family but it is something I was very adamant about being the first to share when DS was born. Although, I think this time I'm going to tell DH that he cannot share until I post. Or at the very least do not tag me because I want to share my way. Last time I was knocked out and before I had regained consciousness he had already shared... and also, hopefully they wont have to use the meds to knock me out since it'll be a planned c-section.
@cyanope I think it’s great! I kind of wish there was a small little sprinkle planned for this LO. We don’t need the gifts, but just a little get together to celebrate would be fun.
@maueraa07 I do not understand why they think it's okay! When DS was little, I'd try to send pictures to my dad so he would feel involved since he doesn't live nearby. I had always asked him not to post on social media. I made the mistake of sending him a video of DS rolling over for the first time. I was so excited! He posted it immediately to his Facebook and when I asked him to take it down he said "well you don't know my friends on there it's okay!" No. That's the point. I don't know these people commenting on my son that I shared intimately with you and what if I wanted to post it and be excited about this milestone?! You completely took that away from me. For a while he would make smartass comments about it, so now he gets no pictures.
@supercoolstephy your cat just knew you needed a new diaper bag! Helping you take the plunge lol
I'm in no way affiliated with this class, get no kick-backs etc. etc. But my favorite podcast (The Birth Hour) is launching a new childbirth education class (online), which may be too late for most of us. But the kick-off includes some free videos she's sending out for getting on an interest list. I just thought that might interest some of you. You could sign up here. I've obviously not vetted class/videos or anything but I really love how inclusive she is and how many kinds of birth stories she features on her podcast, so I have no doubt that it will be a truly inclusive course.
DS1: Nov. 2013 DS2: Jan. 2016 DS3: Dec. 2017 Baby #4 on the way!
@maueraa07 I do not understand why they think it's okay! When DS was little, I'd try to send pictures to my dad so he would feel involved since he doesn't live nearby. I had always asked him not to post on social media. I made the mistake of sending him a video of DS rolling over for the first time. I was so excited! He posted it immediately to his Facebook and when I asked him to take it down he said "well you don't know my friends on there it's okay!" No. That's the point. I don't know these people commenting on my son that I shared intimately with you and what if I wanted to post it and be excited about this milestone?! You completely took that away from me. For a while he would make smartass comments about it, so now he gets no pictures.
Edited: wording
I understand the not wanting g-parents or others to post birth announcements first, but I'm a little confused about not allowing them to share later photos or videos? Especially if your friend circles don't overlap?
How does this take the milestone that you saw in person away from you? How does this effect your excitement over that he could roll over, walk, etc.? How is this different from when we used to print pictures out and mail them to out of the area family and they would pass them around church or ladies lunch and such?
G-parents are excited and want to share there new grandchild as well. By "cutting then off " aren't you just creating family drama? Distancing the relationship between grandparent and grandchild and causing a whole lots stress where it isn't needed? As well as putting strain on your own relationship with the grandparents?
@mamaof5already I do not like many photos of my child on the internet in general, and when I do allow it I prefer to limit who has access to those photos. I do not think there is anything wrong with grandparents wanting to share pictures with others, but the issue here is consent. It isn't hard to say "hey, do you mind if I share this in x capacity?" The problem is that isn't happening. I think it's way different that showing printed photos around church. Once a picture is out there on the internet it's out there. And more than anything, if it's your child you have the final say and others need to respect that.
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Re: Randoms Week of 10/30
@EmilyLove25 How’s this semester going as a teacher? Are you over it?
@scatteringashes Aren’t you taking Comp Sci classes too?
@TInman87 When do you take the CPA? My DH is an accountant. I remember how busy he was when he was studying!
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
My networking security class kicked my ass this last month in terms of both time and mental energy needed. Thankfully, the reading portions are nearly done and now I just need to practice my hands-on over and over again until I can remember it all, lol.
I'm taking both JavaScript and PHP/MySQL courses, and I'm mostly enjoying those. My other classes are BS degree requirements that I'm kinda sleepwalking through, lol.
Jan 18 December Siggy Challenge: Christmas Movies
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
Random #1: My sister in law told me she is pregnant this morning! I can't tell anyone because she hasn't even told my brother yet. So I'll tell you guys! I'm happy but she's stealing my thunder, yo. They already have two.
Random #2: I had to pop into my doctor's office today (in my halloween costume) due to a rogue high bp reading this morning. It was ok in the office (slightly higher than usual but not worryingly so, probably attributable to the stress of having no power for a couple days) so it's back to the daily grind, but my OB was dressed as Luna Lovegood!
Jan 18 December Siggy Challenge: Christmas Movies
Jan 18 December Siggy Challenge: Christmas Movies
My mom and my sisters just strong-armed me into having a "sprinkle" for this baby. I kept telling them I didn't need a shower, and they've been giving me a hard time for months. So, at Sunday dinner (which DH and I didn't attend because DD was sick), they discussed it amongst themselves, called me, and informed me that they were throwing a shower at the end of November (when I'll be 36 weeks!!!). They decided it will be on a week night, totally informal, and involve a chili bar.
I mean, I'm happy to celebrate this LO (I just didn't want a big deal made of it because I don't really need anything), but do I really need a full-blown sprinkle? Is it weird? Especially since they're doing it four weeks before my due date? What do you ladies think?
I just want to add that I'm not upset about it. I appreciate their desire to celebrate the baby and me (and I'm used to strong-willed women gracefully getting their way)...I'm just worried it looks "grabby!"
However, I'm telling y'all this to say that it's the second one in our community that has burned in the past 2 weeks due to leaving the dryer on! Please just think twice about leaving yours on when you are not home, and don't forget to give them a good cleaning out! There are some good tutorials on Pinterest, but who knows how it actually caught fire to begin with.
@cyanope I say have one! it sounds low-key/chill and they clearly want to throw you a little something, this isn't a case of you begging for a party! I say let them celebrate you, get you a couple cute outfits for the baby (in my experience no one goes overboard for subsequent babies) and enjoy! As far as timing, 36 weeks is on the later side, but not too late in my opinion. I've definitely attended showers for moms farther along than that!
DS2: Jan. 2016
DS3: Dec. 2017
Baby #4 on the way!
DH says he has something in the works. I have no clue when anything is. But I know that it's not between now and mid/late November because we have plans every weekend and/or the people we would have there will be out of town. So... yeah. I'd like to know when it is because I'd like to look nice for it if possible.
J18 December Siggy Challenge: Christmas Movies
@whitta1218 That is super scary
@whitta1218 so sorry to hear that but glad everyone is okay. I didn't realize that a dryer could start a fire.
@cyanope I agree that it is sweet and not grabby. Enjoy it and anyone who attends will be there because they are excited for the baby and your growing family.
Facepalm.
So I have a weird job, but part of it is working as a learning specialist coordinator. Basically, myself and another woman (by FAR my favorite person at work) are full time and we hire/coordinate part time people to work with our most at risk student athletes. They get paid but these are all people who are doing it because they are essentially good people. Anyway, we have a meeting every other Tuesday. Well, I noticed on the calendar that today's was at someone's house and not in the office. I've been swamped so didn't think much of it--Halloween or something? Well, last night I woke up to pee at 3 AM, and it randomly dawned on me that maybe it was a baby shower? Sure enough, it was! These things are always a tad awkward, but OMG that was so so so sweet of them to do. They all bought gifts (favorite childhood books, since I am a literature person) and had vegan food. It was so so so cute and thoughtful. I love the idea of people already loving this baby before he is born. Anyway, I also get to leave work early. Yay!
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
And, oh my goodness, @EmilyLove25...SO sweet of your coworkers!
@cyanope I don't see that as grabby at all. IMO, if someone offers to throw one it's ok. If you are asking people for a party, I see that as gift-grabby and slightly tacky. Hopefully they don't go too overboard, but a chili bar sounds AMAZING.
J18 December Siggy Challenge: Christmas Movies
J18 December Siggy Challenge: Christmas Movies
@cyanope I think it’s great! I kind of wish there was a small little sprinkle planned for this LO. We don’t need the gifts, but just a little get together to celebrate would be fun.
Edited: wording
I'm in no way affiliated with this class, get no kick-backs etc. etc. But my favorite podcast (The Birth Hour) is launching a new childbirth education class (online), which may be too late for most of us. But the kick-off includes some free videos she's sending out for getting on an interest list. I just thought that might interest some of you. You could sign up here. I've obviously not vetted class/videos or anything but I really love how inclusive she is and how many kinds of birth stories she features on her podcast, so I have no doubt that it will be a truly inclusive course.
DS2: Jan. 2016
DS3: Dec. 2017
Baby #4 on the way!
How does this take the milestone that you saw in person away from you? How does this effect your excitement over that he could roll over, walk, etc.? How is this different from when we used to print pictures out and mail them to out of the area family and they would pass them around church or ladies lunch and such?
G-parents are excited and want to share there new grandchild as well. By "cutting then off " aren't you just creating family drama? Distancing the relationship between grandparent and grandchild and causing a whole lots stress where it isn't needed? As well as putting strain on your own relationship with the grandparents?
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7