This is my second pregnancy, so I know I'll be showing sooner, but I'm just curious if anyone else has started showing yet? I'm 12 weeks today and I have started showing above my belly button, which seems odd to me. Though, full disclosure, I'm an out of shape heavier gal
This is my second pregnancy, so I know I'll be showing sooner, but I'm just curious if anyone else has started showing yet? I'm 12 weeks today and I have started showing above my belly button, which seems odd to me. Though, full disclosure, I'm an out of shape heavier gal
I know I'm in the minority here but I don't like how quickly people jump to being snarky.
I am not showing at all at this point. Honestly I am very tall and quite overweight. My last pregnancy people didn't even realize I was pregnant when I delivered my baby. He came 3 weeks early . I never got that cute round bump or even a b bump. Many people have assumed we adopted our son or I'm babysitting him and it's lead to very awkward conversations.
@mcb2016 and I don't like it when people condescend at me and try to control my behavior. So I guess we are fairsey squarezies. Answer the endless questions from drive-bys who don't care if you exist all you like, just don't expect everyone to enjoy that servile role.
Another minority voice here, but @ngolimento, I disagree that expressing an opinion is trying to be controlling. I think some of the attempts to keep the board organized is kinda controlling. I’m not saying you do this, but I’m just saying I’ve seen this every now and then on the threads here.
@irenejean I'll agree with you that it is a bit controlling and I'll admit that as someone who tends to call people out. Especially recently, the drive-bys have been getting a little out of control. There is no problem with people creating threads with topics that may apply to several people but the one offs by randos who have never contributed on the board before are flame worthy imo.
Another minority voice here, but @ngolimento, I disagree that expressing an opinion is trying to be controlling. I think some of the attempts to keep the board organized is kinda controlling. I’m not saying you do this, but I’m just saying I’ve seen this every now and then on the threads here.
I don't think it's controlling to expect people to familiarize themselves with basic board practices/culture before posting, and if their post isn't in line with it, point them in that direction. I haven't seen any poster familiar to/with the board be criticized for starting her own thread in a really long time.
And this question was particularly silly - asking whether we're showing when another thread was, at that moment, answering the question photographically makes it seem clear that it was redundant.
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Another minority voice here, but @ngolimento, I disagree that expressing an opinion is trying to be controlling. I think some of the attempts to keep the board organized is kinda controlling. I’m not saying you do this, but I’m just saying I’ve seen this every now and then on the threads here.
No, expressing an opinion isn't, but attempting to shame people and set yourself up as morally superior over a trivial issue involving a person who is probably a troll anyway, is. Why are we required to pet every self-centered diva that ignores the local culture, drops on with her suuuuuper special issue (that everyone has), and then wanders off when she gets the attention she wants, never to be heard from again? Why am I expected to encourage that, or I am "not nice"? Personally, I think it is the result of a mysogenistic culture that requires women to be accommodating and "nice", or they get shame shamed.
Nope. Bullshit drive-by behavior is bullshit, and everyone here has the right to give it the middle finger it deserves. You be you, and let other people be them.
I am not showing at all at this point. Honestly I am very tall and quite overweight. My last pregnancy people didn't even realize I was pregnant when I delivered my baby. He came 3 weeks early . I never got that cute round bump or even a b bump. Many people have assumed we adopted our son or I'm babysitting him and it's lead to very awkward conversations.
@ngolimento I guess I didn’t think @mcb2016 was shaming anyone, it sounded like she was expressing an opinion.
I disagree, personally. Her wording was not constructive, but critical and judgemental. If she had said "I like to be welcoming and give people the benefit of the doubt" that is an opinion/preference. "I don't like how you are" is judgemental, confrontational, condescending, and non-constructive.
But, the written word is open to misinterpretation, so either of us could be right or wrong. Either way, soul sucking drive bys will continue to get scorn.
I honestly don’t feel comfortable posting anything on here when there are individuals who reply with some of the comments that I have seen. I know that there are some women who have been supportive in directing new individuals to the appropriate threads. For those who have not, let’s be more empathetic and welcoming to those who are new and are adjusting to the app forums.
I honestly don’t feel comfortable posting anything on here when there are individuals who reply with some of the comments that I have seen. I know that there are some women who have been supportive in directing new individuals to the appropriate threads. For those who have not, let’s be more empathetic and welcoming to those who are new and are adjusting to the app forums.
Well I'm glad you took this opportunity to make your second ever comment on our board. How about introducing yourself on the intro thread? If you read the thread that clearly states "READ THIS FIRST" pinned at the top of the board then there shouldn't be any confusion about the organization. If you have questions then you can ask in the questions thread. I hope you choose to become a contributing member instead of just lurking and popping up as a drive-by.
So if you said you don't feel comfortable posting here... then why exactly are you posting? @JJMNO1616 was not rude at all in pointing out that apparently nearly the only time you chose to participate in this community is to what, try to shame us and make us feel like bad people?
If you're not comfortable posting and receiving any sarcasm in response, then an Internet forum just might not be the thing for you - snark is not unique to this little group. However, all it takes is a cursory glance to see that our board is primarily regular posters offering others support and discussing/debating issues relevant to the world right now, and that makes it worth all of our while even if someone occasionally, you know, disagrees with me or hurts my poor little feelings.
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@knottiee2d2c6bb6129114f I know it's difficult to decipher intent behind written words, but I'm asking this without snark: what type of response were you expecting to your comment? There's about a dozen ways you can participate on this board -- ticker changes, the randoms thread, various GTKYs, registry topics -- and yet you chose to dig up this thread from last week in order to chastise the community. I guess I'm confused as to what you were looking for in response, as @JJMNO1616 wasn't rude and yet still, you had an issue with it.
I hope in the future you decide to participate in a positive way. If this community isn't for you, cool, just don't be surprised if you receive some push back when you post about how much we suck.
You said you don't feel comfortable positing because of the comments yet you still chose to post here today? I was pointing out that if you read the "Read this first" thread then you shouldn't have anything to worry about because you would understand how the organization and structure of the board works. You would also know that introducing yourself on the intro thread is the first place to start which you have chosen not to do. I was sincere when I said I hope you become a contributing member because lurking the board and randomly positing as a drive-by serves no purpose and adds no value to your experience here or ours.
Re: Have you started showing?
Also, please read this post:
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12713581/read-this-first-board-organization/p1
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I am not showing at all at this point. Honestly I am very tall and quite overweight. My last pregnancy people didn't even realize I was pregnant when I delivered my baby. He came 3 weeks early . I never got that cute round bump or even a b bump. Many people have assumed we adopted our son or I'm babysitting him and it's lead to very awkward conversations.
And this question was particularly silly - asking whether we're showing when another thread was, at that moment, answering the question photographically makes it seem clear that it was redundant.
Nope. Bullshit drive-by behavior is bullshit, and everyone here has the right to give it the middle finger it deserves. You be you, and let other people be them.
But, the written word is open to misinterpretation, so either of us could be right or wrong. Either way, soul sucking drive bys will continue to get scorn.
If you're not comfortable posting and receiving any sarcasm in response, then an Internet forum just might not be the thing for you - snark is not unique to this little group. However, all it takes is a cursory glance to see that our board is primarily regular posters offering others support and discussing/debating issues relevant to the world right now, and that makes it worth all of our while even if someone occasionally, you know, disagrees with me or hurts my poor little feelings.
I hope in the future you decide to participate in a positive way. If this community isn't for you, cool, just don't be surprised if you receive some push back when you post about how much we suck.