My DH only comes to the 8 week, the 20 week Anatomy Scan and either the 38 weeks or 40 (if I make it to then). Good to have him there at the last appointment because if they do a non-stress test and decide to induce, it's good to have him with you. Also make sure you take your hospital bag to the last few appointments too. Otherwise it's always just a quick measurement of the belly and listen of the heartbeat and you're out of there.
DH will probably just go to the three ultrasounds. I'll probably make the regular appointments around my work schedule when he is likely working. This is my third, so I told him I could even go to the first ultrasound solo lol, but he wanted to come (it's this Friday).
For the first, he came to every appointment, for the second he made almost all of them. This time I straight told him - if you're going to take off work, do it when I can be home and rest while you watch the other kids. 90% of these appointments are routine and boring, so just come to the ultrasounds!
My DH was laid off during my last pregnancy so he came to almost all of the appointments, except at the end when he was back in work. The last couple appointments I would have liked him to be there so he could have met all of the other doctors in the practice. The OB I used had a rotation at the hospital- so we were encouraged to see all of the doctors in the last couple months. I would recommend going to as many of the "meet and greet" appointments as possible and all of the ultrasounds. The initial appointment will have a lot of family history reported to the doctor- so he should be there to give his family's history too. I also had 2 missed miscarriages so my DH HAS to be at my 12 NT scans because I NEED the emotional support.
With our first, he came to most. I think he missed some after first tri but before the last month or two because they're so routine. I didn't get an US with my first until the AS and he was at that. With our second, I don't think he came to the first appointment, but he did come when we had the first chance to hear the HB. He didn't come to the NT scan with me for my second (looking back, dumb idea because that's where I found out I miscarried with my third). With the second he was pretty sporadic but I made him start coming again near the end when they thought baby might be breech. This time he will likely come to the first appt, first time we hear the heartbeat, AS and then towards the end. He might come to some others in there but I doubt it. I usually try to schedule for the end of my work day which is like two hours earlier than the end of his work day so then he has to do work at night and that's more annoying to me than peeing in a cup alone.
I'd really just say anything with an Ultrasound or if you're having an issue. First heartbeat (12-16 weeks) is cool, but I recorded it with my daughter and just played it for him later. He was fine with that. The AS at 20 weeks he won't want to miss. That's when they make sure everything is "normal". It's also when most folks find out the sex of the baby (if they are finding out). I try to schedule this right before my actual appointment so that they can be done together and the doc has the AS for my appointment. Not sure if other offices do that, but I like that mine does.
Married DH : 7/7/12; 3 fur babies (2 dogs and 1 cat) DS born 9/3/13; DD born 7/22/15; LO due 5/28/18 FS (age 5) and FD (age 2) to become AS/AD very soon!
DH wants to attend all of the U/S appointments. Which is great. I think I had one or two without him previously but I do want him for those. Regular appointments I don't care much about.
My ex husband didn't come to any appointments except the anatomy scan. JUST to make sure DH was a boy... He also spent too many vacation days recovering from hangovers to attend any pregnancy related appointments. Except birth... he was there for that.
My ex husband didn't come to any appointments except the anatomy scan. JUST to make sure DH was a boy... He also spent too many vacation days recovering from hangovers to attend any pregnancy related appointments. Except birth... he was there for that.
That's incredibly disappointed and I'm not surprised he's an ex if just that small nugget was provided as a glimpse into his personality.
My ex husband didn't come to any appointments except the anatomy scan. JUST to make sure DH was a boy... He also spent too many vacation days recovering from hangovers to attend any pregnancy related appointments. Except birth... he was there for that.
That's incredibly disappointed and I'm not surprised he's an ex if just that small nugget was provided as a glimpse into his personality.
Love the gif.. yep. That's him! He was very selfish.
Dh will come to my first appt if we can find someone to watch our son and will be there for my anatomy scan and glucose test. When we get down to weekly appts he will most likely come. He works 3rd shift so he will be home, just miss out on sleep.
Re: What appointments will your SO attend?
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
DS born 9/3/13; DD born 7/22/15; LO due 5/28/18
FS (age 5) and FD (age 2) to become AS/AD very soon!
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
That's incredibly disappointed and I'm not surprised he's an ex if just that small nugget was provided as a glimpse into his personality.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more