Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: *Introductions*
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
I'm due May 4 with #2. I have an Aug15 and was pretty active in the bump group and have continued to be once we moved to Facebook.
I'm an older mom. I'm 39 but will be 40 when the baby is born. A little nervous about that but also feel very blessed!
That is awesome! My son was actually 2 weeks early and was born at the end of March.
The April 13 ladies were and still are the best support group I have been a part of. I tell them things I don't even tell my family. They have been amazing. I was hoping that would be the same experience for the July 15 group, unfortunately it was quite the opposite. After most of the group left it just got down right nasty! I stopped reading the threads because I couldn't stand how horrible the women were treating each other. I am really hoping for a supportive group here with you all, more like my first experience with The Bump.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
DS born 9/3/13; DD born 7/22/15; LO due 5/28/18
FS (age 5) and FD (age 2) to become AS/AD very soon!
I got my BFP on 8/26 after testing negative two days before that. EDD is 5/7. I am a FTM and am a little overwhelmed with this whole pregnancy thing, but I'm hoping being here with other moms (new and not new!) will help with that. I'm also a nurse, so right now I'm just trying to get through my 12 hour shifts without dying of this all-day-everyday nausea! Excited to be here!
I'm a STM and my DD will be 9 months old tomorrow. They will be 18 months apart and while I'm super excited I'm also unbelievably scared about what we have just gotten ourselves into. TW I had 2 MMC before having my daughter and I am also nervous about the possibility of going through another MC. I see that you have a weekly PGAL board already that I will be active in.
Looking forward to getting to know you all more over the next 9ish months.
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
I have a 3-year-old daughter (April baby) and 5-year-old step-daugther. I'm excited to share the news with them after our first ultrasound!
I don't think you can delete a post, but no worries!
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
My due date is May 8. I'm 8+1 today. I got my BFP on August 24, which was around 10 DPO. I proceeded to take no less than 15 more pregnancy tests and finally made myself stop around 6.5 weeks.
I'm 34 and a FTM. We tried for 15 months for this baby and I was shocked when I saw that first faint line on the pregnancy test. While we both insanely excited, I'm struggling with a lot of pregnancy anxiety.
First, I'm one of those who have minimal symptoms. Minus peeing all.the.time and some breast soreness/growth, I've felt really good. While I feel lucky, it's also hard to relate to others who are feeling like complete crap because I've never been there and I'm wondering if I SHOULD be there!
Second, my doctor was able to see the fetal pole around 6 weeks but no heartbeat. I was instructed to come back in 10 days for a TV ultrasound at 8 weeks. That appointment was on Monday and we saw a baby measuring right on track with a strong heartbeat. I was feeling some relief but then learned that I have a 1cm SCH. My doctor is fairly confident that it won't cause complications and will resolve on its own and doesn't have me on any restrictions at the moment. I'm a yoga teacher and group exercise instructor so of course I'm questioning all the activity I'm doing but listening to my body.
Taking it one day at a time and trying to stay grounded and grateful. I'm definitely in need of connection and community so I'm excited to join in with you ladies. Thanks for being here and for being so open and honest about everything.
xoxo
I am a third time mom. I have a 6 year old daughter and a 15 month old. This baby was a definite surprise as dh was *done* and we had one little slip up. I'm a sahm in small-town Iowa and a Girl Scout Leader that I love and hate at the same time.
I want to be team green this time around but dh is not having it. I consider myself a "chewy granola" mom lol. I ebf/extended, baby wear, cosleep etc i just don't cloth or delay vaccs.
I've had great and not so great experiences with bmb in the past, so I'm hoping for another great experience!
I'm going to try and be active here because my December 2012 bump group ended up being such a blessing- we're down to 60ish members in the FB group but we're closer than ever. I never really got into the August 2015 group but since this is my last pregnancy I want to try and savor all the experiences!
First baby and very nervous.
Nice to meet you all!
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more