Any nurses out there? I work in the Emergency Department and I keep wanting to just come out with the news to make avoiding potentially unsafe situations less awkward (already told a handful of people when I was like, "uh, no, cannot go in that room with the chicken pox kid..."). That said, I'm only 7 wks+change and don't have my first doctor's appt til 8/22.
I'm also just a TERRIBLE liar and keep inadvertently outing myself to friends by not drinking at all in social situations (we just love those campari spritzers all summer...). But I'm with a few above who think that if a loss were to happen, we'd rather grieve with the support of loved ones than alone in secret.
For that reason, we told our closest friends and immediate family not long after the first positive test(s... I took like 35 of them).
I was fantasizing yesterday about a pregnancy announcement along the lines of "Our president's not the only reason I've been feeling nauseated these past few months..." :P
You should notify your coworkers at least. That way if you get a chemo/radiation patient or such they know not to assign them to you.
@orbmaker I usually tell my director early because of needing a second radiology badge for the baby. Then everyone finds out when you wear the lead jacket and skirt. I'm mostly on outpatient right now, so I haven't had to wear that. Only my supervisor knows. If I worked on the floor I would tell my supervisor pretty quickly too.
@orbmaker I tell my department quickly bc I am exposed to a lot of stuff being a RT. It's not ideal, but it has come in handy when protecting the baby. In our department, we try to absorb some of the workload for pregnant women so they are exposed to less radiation and infectious diseases.
I'm only 6 + 4, so not announcing for awhile, but we did tell both sets of parents. As my youngest is 9 months, they were all quite surprised!
It was my FIL's 70th Birthday, so we gave me 3 gifts. The first he opened was one of those ancestry/DNA kits. The second was a framed pic of my 2 girls. The third was a letter that read "You may have notified by now that your gifts had a theme-past, present, and future. Turn over to see what the future holds" and then it said "Grandbaby (last name) #3 Coming March 2018!"
He started tearing up and was so excited!
For my parents we were away on a weekend trip with them and were out to dinner. I really wanted to tell them but didn't know how, so I asked the waiter at the resuaturant to help. They delivered a letter to my parents during dinner (see pic). So fun!
So we're telling my family today. I don't have a set plan yet, but it will involve DD in this:
Only took three tries on my Silhouette. Attempt one I somehow had the mat the wrong way in my program so it cut it sideways out of my vinyl. Attempt two I pressed the wrong button to feed the vinyl in and it cut off the top of the words. See in spoiler... Suffice to say I need practice.
Me: 30 H: 30 Dx: PCOS Married: June 2013 TTC#1: January 2015 BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16 TTC#2: June 2017 BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
I'm not at all sure why... but I'm really really nervous to tell my parents. Just my parents - no issue with anyone else.
They will be so happy - I have no doubts about this. I have zero clue where this anxiety is coming from. I told them last year when we *TW* miscarried so they are aware we've been trying.
I don't know - I can't think of a way to do it that feels right.
I'm feeling really weird about telling anyone but my kids. Not sure if it's because PGAL or what.. I'm kind of enjoying it being a secret and people not hounding me I guess?.. once school starts though and I'm doing pick up/drop off everyone's going to know, so might as well tell.
@bb3vj3n I felt extremely nervous when I told my parents the first time (miscarried that one so this is technically my first one). I think no matter how old you get you worry about disappointing them. And I was only in my second semester of nursing school so being the family screw up (because I moved out and could support myself young lol go figure!) I was afraid to let anyone down.
This time I was very open with my mom about trying and my worries about getting older and my history of PCOS and that even though I'd be pregnant my last semester at least I'd have my RN in my hand when my baby came, securing our future. Sometimes I feel if you're open about your fears and worries people are less likely to react unfavorably because in their minds it was coming. But also don't let anyone's opinion on your life and pregnancy effect you. I know people say things about me and you know what? It's not their life, heir uterus or their baby! It's mine. And I will do what I please.
@maureenbioni I can totally understand that. I'm so glad you were able to overcome your difficulties in sharing the news.
I think where we are slightly different is that - I'm not worried they will be disappointed or that they will react poorly - I am positive this news will be met with total joy. Despite this - I'm so so nervous to say something. it's ridiculous really....
@maureenbioni I can totally understand that. I'm so glad you were able to overcome your difficulties in sharing the news.
I think where we are slightly different is that - I'm not worried they will be disappointed or that they will react poorly - I am positive this news will be met with total joy. Despite this - I'm so so nervous to say something. it's ridiculous really....
I was really nervous, too, with absolutely no reason for it. I'm 37, married, and this is my second child. I knew my mom would be overjoyed, but I was still shaking and nervous to tell her. It's so strange!
I listen to a great podcast called Stuff Mom Never Told You that had opened my eyes to a lot of deep feelings women feel about pregnancy, pregnancy loss, and fertility. We are almost made to fear sharing the news because if the end isn't positive it makes us feel bad. It's an interesting topic to research. We are raised to think these things are deeply secretive and shouldn't be shared unless we are positive the outcome will be good. Definitely an interesting subject to research and makes you realize people's reactions to certain things whether it be pregnancy, loss, or other "womanly" things are more about how they're raised than about how they truly feel.
@maureenbioni I can totally understand that. I'm so glad you were able to overcome your difficulties in sharing the news.
I think where we are slightly different is that - I'm not worried they will be disappointed or that they will react poorly - I am positive this news will be met with total joy. Despite this - I'm so so nervous to say something. it's ridiculous really....
I was really nervous, too, with absolutely no reason for it. I'm 37, married, and this is my second child. I knew my mom would be overjoyed, but I was still shaking and nervous to tell her. It's so strange!
I was terrified to tell my parents! I'm 34 and this is baby 3, but my mom has made comments about how she didn't want me to have 3 kids (even though she did), and I was worried she would make comments about how close together my babies were. Luckily she was excited!
@JamieK1882 my ILs were worried about us having three because they are all about making the right choices financially (first) and personally (second). If I was that worried about it, we wouldn't have had any kids because kids are expensive. I'm in it for the love and cuddles I'm glad to hear your mom was excited despite your apprehension!
Still haven't told anyone.. even our kids. Clock is ticking with the kids. Mama's belly is just starting to get a little "chunky." 13+2. I keep thinking ok.. today's the day! And then I panic. Soon. Seriously.
We realized today that my dad probably already told everyone he works with and it may be "unfair" that the ILs don't know yet, so we're dropping the shmoppie bomb tonight to MIL...
@maureenbioni I love SMNTY! I remember that episode, and similar feelings went into us telling people really early. (Well, that and my BIL's wedding on the west coast, and I knew the whole family would be questioning why I wasn't drinking over the 6 day trip.) I/we definitely felt like there's so much stigma and silence around loss, and we wanted as much support as we could get if something happened. I still haven't made an "official" announcement to coworkers and social media, but it's great knowing our close friends and family are praying/sending good energy/there in any way if we need it.
We announced with some photos we took at our family session this summer. Now my photos are done for our Christmas card pics, too (photos without the signs)! I'm hoping to be ahead of the game this year
My midwives officially changed my due date from march 2nd to February 26th. I have a history of huge babies and this ones already measuring bigger so they wanted to change it early. Posted this to Facebook today
Re: Making the announcement!
It was my FIL's 70th Birthday, so we gave me 3 gifts. The first he opened was one of those ancestry/DNA kits. The second was a framed pic of my 2 girls. The third was a letter that read "You may have notified by now that your gifts had a theme-past, present, and future. Turn over to see what the future holds" and then it said "Grandbaby (last name) #3 Coming March 2018!"
He started tearing up and was so excited!
For my parents we were away on a weekend trip with them and were out to dinner. I really wanted to tell them but didn't know how, so I asked the waiter at the resuaturant to help. They delivered a letter to my parents during dinner (see pic). So fun!
DD angel baby 10/16
Rainbow Due 02/20/18
Only took three tries on my Silhouette. Attempt one I somehow had the mat the wrong way in my program so it cut it sideways out of my vinyl. Attempt two I pressed the wrong button to feed the vinyl in and it cut off the top of the words. See in spoiler... Suffice to say I need practice.
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
They will be so happy - I have no doubts about this. I have zero clue where this anxiety is coming from. I told them last year when we *TW* miscarried so they are aware we've been trying.
I don't know - I can't think of a way to do it that feels right.
This time I was very open with my mom about trying and my worries about getting older and my history of PCOS and that even though I'd be pregnant my last semester at least I'd have my RN in my hand when my baby came, securing our future. Sometimes I feel if you're open about your fears and worries people are less likely to react unfavorably because in their minds it was coming. But also don't let anyone's opinion on your life and pregnancy effect you. I know people say things about me and you know what? It's not their life, heir uterus or their baby! It's mine. And I will do what I please.
I think where we are slightly different is that - I'm not worried they will be disappointed or that they will react poorly - I am positive this news will be met with total joy. Despite this - I'm so so nervous to say something. it's ridiculous really....
We sent this this to everyone today. Simple and cute.
We realized today that my dad probably already told everyone he works with and it may be "unfair" that the ILs don't know yet, so we're dropping the shmoppie bomb tonight to MIL...
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
[color=pink]First Monkey July 2015[/color]
[color=green]Baby No2 March 2018
~Team Green~[/color]
This is what we used last night to tell the world! So relieved it's out there now!