Gals, don't fret. As long as you aren't right next to the speakers you'll be fine (strictly in terms of noise exposure harming the child's hearing). I think the main risk for loud noise exposure during pregnancy is more the risk of general fetal stress. If the baby seems agitated or you just don't feel right during the concert, take a break and go walk out to the bathroom or concession area or make plans to minimize your exposure time (skip the opening act, etc.)
Source: I work with children with hearing loss and not once professionally or in school have I ever heard of congenital hearing loss being caused by noise exposure in pregnancy.
@ktcakes87 Oh no!!!! Hopefully you can disassemble it into bigger pieces then move it in and put it back together?
My mom ended up buying a used crib (from a reliable source, so it's not shoddy/unsafe) and brought it to us today, but we brought the pieces (five big ones) into the nursery and put it together in there.
I should've posted all of this in my previous post...oops. My mom also went to the mall with us and bought me a ton of maternity clothes! When I put on the t-shirts/dresses with the side ruching my little bump is super noticeable! I love it. Also, I'm so glad I have some maternity jeans now and now even though some of my pants still fit even without the hair tie trick, I'm not doing that anymore. My mom also bought us two cute fitted crib sheets at PB Kids annnd I picked up my registry goodie bag from Target. I feel very accomplished (and spoiled), baby-wise today.
@Tennis11785@MJDsquared The only reason we put it together outside of the nursery is because the floors aren't finished in there yet (next weekend). We have to take it most of the way apart, but at least we know how it goes together so it'll be easier. DH DIED laughing when it wouldn't fit through the door. Murphy's law at its finest
Me 29 I Him 26 Married 4/22/16
TTC 9/2015 **TW** BFP 2/1/16 I MC 3/21/16 (11w) TTCAL 6/15/16 BFP 3/23/2017 Team pink! Quinn Leigh EDD December 1, 2017
So!! Question about cribs!! We have a 4-in-1 crib with the changing table attached for DD right now. The kids will be sharing a room until we are in a bigger home at some point in the future. My question is, do we get the SAME crib/combo we have for DD (its on stupid super sale right now), or do we find one similar without the changer attached? We can't decide.
@splsmama2016 will you need a changing table in both rooms once they have the separate rooms? If not I would probably go with one without the changing table because they are pretty bulky.
Me 29 I Him 26 Married 4/22/16
TTC 9/2015 **TW** BFP 2/1/16 I MC 3/21/16 (11w) TTCAL 6/15/16 BFP 3/23/2017 Team pink! Quinn Leigh EDD December 1, 2017
@breezybee@YodaIsGreen i went to the first concert of this new tour, on May 10, lol! i powered through my first tri fatigue and nausea. it was a great show. have fun!!!!
Met: September 2005Married: October 2008 DS: 09/2014
@kvacmak omg my dads favorite band is the Foo Fighters he would do anything to see them! Unfortunately they haven't really toured near Florida recently. I bet they put on an excellent show, and I think I like Dave Grohl even more than I like his music lol
@splsmama2016 - I agree with @ktcakes87. If the babies are eventually going to be in different rooms, I'd get it so you have a place to change the baby in their own room (or make plans for some other changing setup like on a dresser). But if they are going to share the room long term, I don't think it's necessary.
I assume you like the changing table option? When we briefly looked at cribs my husband loved the idea of it (I think he really loved the idea of one less thing to buy). Now that I think we've decided we're going to need to buy a dresser for the baby we're not going to go with the crib/changer combo, but it might come back into the mix. Anything we should know/consider?
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At $25 it seems like a solid middle ground solution, and allows us to repurpose our existing, multi-generational hand-me-down dresser without committing to another piece of furniture we don't have space for. I like that it has a little lip that sits behind the bulk of the dresser, so the tray won't slide forward. We saw similar things at BBB & BRU for significantly more $$, but either would give you the opportunity to check one out in person.
@tennis11785 we were the "bad" parents that just put the change pad in top of some of that grippy under-carpet mat (don't know the actual name for it) on top of the dresser and in my opinion it's been totally fine. When DS was crawling/learning to walk he was ALL OVER THE PLACE so we just changed him on the floor, I don't think a little wooden thing like @kyrwyn shared would have made any difference lol
@kvacmak I imagine that's fine, especially if you have a rule that you never leave the baby alone in that position. But if you're just changing and you can reach everything you need while still standing in front of the baby, it should be fine.
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@kvacmak@Tennis11785 I like the grippy mat idea even better, but DH will probably not go for it. He's really worried about doing everything "the right way"... so I'm guessing it'll take about 2 months before he subscribes to the "change him anywhere" mentality and the wooden thing is resold/donated. At $25 I'm not too worried about that loss! Haha.
@Tennis11785 oh yah definitely. We ensured all of his diapers and such were in the top drawer of said dresser and the current sized clothes were in the drawers below. It was actually quite ideal!
@Tennis11785, that is exactly what we need! Thanks for posting it!
Like @kvacmak, we just put the changing pad on top of DS's dresser, and that was fine. But this time around we're using a book shelf and the book shelf is juuuuuuuuuust wide enough to fit the mat, and it was making me nervous (whereas the dresser was much wider than the changing pad.) this will make me feel a ton better.
@kvacmak@Tennis11785 I like the grippy mat idea even better, but DH will probably not go for it. He's really worried about doing everything "the right way"... so I'm guessing it'll take about 2 months before he subscribes to the "change him anywhere" mentality and the wooden thing is resold/donated. At $25 I'm not too worried about that loss! Haha.
Most changing mats also have a tag/rope and a screw so you can anchor them to whatever piece of furniture you are using. That's what we did. No wooden border around it, but it is affixed to the surface.
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
DH's friend (whose wife is also pregnant) recommended that we watch The Business of Being Born. I've been wanting to watch that, but certainly didn't expect DH to suggest it. Welpppp we just watched it and as I'd expected, he freaked out during the birthing portions and said he couldn't handle it (40% joking 60% serious). He can barely stand seeing blood... anyone else afraid that their SO might faint in the labor and delivery room?!
@blueskies17 DH was so anti watching birth until I made him watch Birth Story:Ina May Gaskin and the Farm Midwives. The normalize birth so much that he barely even noticed the actual births (from a freak out perspective) and was totally ready to handle it with me when the time came. He ended up watching the entire crowning process from start to finish and cut the cord even though he didn't want to initially!
@blueskies17 My DH is a weenie when it comes to blood and needles, etc. The nurse made him sit down when I was pushing so he could collect himself (he was white as a sheet) but he got his shit together and managed to work through it!
@Tennis11785 there's things I like about it being attached, but it can be annoying at the same time.
The kids will share a room probably for another year or two, until we move. Right now, I'm changing DD on the flor because it's easier than having her rolling off the changer
Last time I visited my hairdresser I was 5 weeks pregnant and couldn't say anything to her yet. We bonded about not having kids yet but that we were both trying. I told her about my MC, she told me about her IVF journey, which she's very open about. We both gave each other "positive baby vibes!" after I left the appt., now flash forward to my next appt which is this afternoon. She knows I'm pregnant and I know she recently received negative IVF results, recently as in just last week, but we haven't actually seen each other since the last appt. I'm heartbroken for her and need to acknowledge the situation but also don't want to talk too much about pregnancy/babies unless she wants to talk about it. I just feel like it's going to be tense. I want to right off the bat tell her I'm sorry about what she's going through and then just leave it at that, and hopefully change subject to town gossip or something else.
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
@peachy13 I can't imagine how difficult that was to start a conversation. I too have a really good friend who has had a very difficult IVF journey, which she is now stopping. It was really hard to tell her I was expecting now, as we had many talks about our journey. When I talked to her about the pregnancy though, she was genuinely happy for DH and I. When I talk to her now, I too don't bring up anything pregnancy related unless she addresses it. I hope your appointment went well and that your friend too was happy for you. I also hope that she too one day can share with you that she's pregnant.
@peachy13 that is hard. i don't know if you're a hugging type, or if you would feel weird doing this, but you could give her a hug when you walk in and briefly tell her ...something (i keep erasing what to say. ladies who have gone through fertility struggles, your input would especially be welcome. i know people that mean well can unintentionally make things worse or harder by what they say, even if it is in earnest. it's probably not best to say anything at all, i find this difficult to navigate).
on the other hand, this could put both of you on the spot. have you considered writing her a card or a note? you can take your talking cues from her during the appointment and she could read what you have to express in private later on.
Met: September 2005Married: October 2008 DS: 09/2014
I was starting to do some basic research last night about different birthing methods. It looks like most you should either start or sign up for them in like month 5-6. Since we're starting to reach that point (OMG are we really reaching that point!), would people think it's helpful to either:
Have one thread on birthing methods for people to ask questions and STMs to share their experiences
Have multiple threads for each method (similar to the Hypnobirthing one, but add one for Bradley, Lamaze, etc) that we can discuss things specific to that thread?
Or am I the only one who has this on their radar right now? If others won't find it helpful, we don't need to clutter the board with pointless posts if others won't participate/aren't interested.
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Me: 31+ H: 32 TTC Since 11/2015 #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
@Tennis11785 One big birthing method thread would be great! If any particular ones get popular, maybe we can then start offshoot threads on those specific methods.
@Mandayno@anewadventure thanks you guys. I was able to read her pretty well right off the bat at last night's appt -- she was tired, stressed, and not her usual bubbly self. We made small talk about how great business has been for her and she made a comment about IVF not working because she is so busy, and I let her know I was sorry and was sending positive vibes her way. Then we quickly changed the subject and the rest of the appt there was no further talk about IVF/pregnancy, including my own pregnancy. I gathered the feeling that if she asked me how I was doing or even congratulated me, it would be sad for her to hear, even though she is probably happy for me. She just can't talk about it. I get that. My heart breaks for her and I'm sending all positive baby vibes her way for sure.
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
@peachy13 i didn't realize i was too late with my comment. sounds like it went about as well as it could. perhaps you could send her a card or small note anyway to let her know you care.
Met: September 2005Married: October 2008 DS: 09/2014
@Tennis11785 Definitely lets start a thread(s)! I am crazy and would probably prefer separate threads, but one big on works too! Whatever everyone else wants!
Me 29 I Him 26 Married 4/22/16
TTC 9/2015 **TW** BFP 2/1/16 I MC 3/21/16 (11w) TTCAL 6/15/16 BFP 3/23/2017 Team pink! Quinn Leigh EDD December 1, 2017
@peachy13@anewadventure@Mandayno Weighing in a little late, but as one of the ladies who has struggled with infertility... We've had a lot of friends carefully couch announcements, or just not tell us until the bump was undeniable, or try to mitigate their own joy to not step on our feelings and the way this one couple handled it was the most meaningful and compassionate to me. (If I did this right, our story is behind the spoiler tag, to avoid being a trigger for anyone else....)
Our very best friends went on a couples weekend with us for my husband's birthday a few years ago, right when our struggle with infertility was really getting hard for us. I was really looking forward to setting all of this baby-making stress aside and just enjoying our friends, since they live 500+ miles away. Mid-way through the first evening, they announced their happy news to us and were the most gracious humans I have ever seen as I simultaneously grinned like fool with excitement for them and cried my eyes out over how hard it was to know we weren't there yet. They gave us hugs and then a bit of space to let the immediate reactions pass (it took me about an hour), and we had a good talk about their own struggles and our own. They never mistook our sadness or more negative responses for any sort of ill-will towards them, and they recognized the (muted) joy we had for them as just as precious as any of the riotously happy responses they'd already received. They ultimately became our greatest allies in our struggle, and have been incredible support as we try to figure out first-time pregnancy and preparing for first-time parenthood. I do not remember any of the specific words that were said that weekend. What I carried with me for the next three years of trying was how honest, compassionate and supportive they were. I was also grateful for the opportunity to step away and figure my feelings out before ruining the rest of the evening/weekend/friendship. I would shy away of telling someone at their place of business or in a group where it would be impossible to step away. The feelings associated with infertility are mighty and overwhelming and can be unpredictable.
@peachy13@kyrwyn To echo what you both have said, I think the best advice anyone gave me was to make sure I shared our news with folks I knew were struggling with infertility in such a way that they had the space and time to process it and react however they needed/wanted to without me there to gauge it. We did a few text messages and one through-the-grapevine (I was better friends with the sister so it made sense that I would tell the sister first and then she could share the news as she saw fit in that situation).
It's been tricky because, with a couple of exceptions, I'm not quite close enough with any of these women/couples that anything I said to sound supportive wouldn't seem inappropriate or presumptuous. (Some of them don't know that I know they are on that journey.) So, I definitely admire your desire to directly address it in a supportive way because I'd love to be able to do that too without feeling like I'd overstepped.
@Kyrwyn - What a beautiful story. I love when people can understand that their pregnancy can bring mixed emotions for others and not take offense to it. When I was dealing with my 2nd loss, I know I tried to remind myself that "there are not a finite number of babies in the world. One person getting a baby does not equal one less baby I could get." But that didn't stop the initial sting of every BFP around me. But the sting didn't stop the joy and happiness I felt for others too.
You won't always know when someone is facing issues. But when you do and can be thoughtful (like you were @peachy13), it's appreciated.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32 TTC Since 11/2015 #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
Re: Randoms 7/6 - ???
Source: I work with children with hearing loss and not once professionally or in school have I ever heard of congenital hearing loss being caused by noise exposure in pregnancy.
eta: typo
Married 4/22/16
**TW**
BFP 2/1/16 I MC 3/21/16 (11w)
TTCAL 6/15/16
BFP 3/23/2017 Team pink! Quinn Leigh EDD December 1, 2017
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
My mom ended up buying a used crib (from a reliable source, so it's not shoddy/unsafe) and brought it to us today, but we brought the pieces (five big ones) into the nursery and put it together in there.
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
Married 4/22/16
**TW**
BFP 2/1/16 I MC 3/21/16 (11w)
TTCAL 6/15/16
BFP 3/23/2017 Team pink! Quinn Leigh EDD December 1, 2017
Married 4/22/16
**TW**
BFP 2/1/16 I MC 3/21/16 (11w)
TTCAL 6/15/16
BFP 3/23/2017 Team pink! Quinn Leigh EDD December 1, 2017
Met: September 2005 Married: October 2008 DS: 09/2014
Married: Nov 2015
Team Pink!
I assume you like the changing table option? When we briefly looked at cribs my husband loved the idea of it (I think he really loved the idea of one less thing to buy). Now that I think we've decided we're going to need to buy a dresser for the baby we're not going to go with the crib/changer combo, but it might come back into the mix. Anything we should know/consider?
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
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At $25 it seems like a solid middle ground solution, and allows us to repurpose our existing, multi-generational hand-me-down dresser without committing to another piece of furniture we don't have space for. I like that it has a little lip that sits behind the bulk of the dresser, so the tray won't slide forward. We saw similar things at BBB & BRU for significantly more $$, but either would give you the opportunity to check one out in person.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
Like @kvacmak, we just put the changing pad on top of DS's dresser, and that was fine. But this time around we're using a book shelf and the book shelf is juuuuuuuuuust wide enough to fit the mat, and it was making me nervous (whereas the dresser was much wider than the changing pad.) this will make me feel a ton better.
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
The kids will share a room probably for another year or two, until we move. Right now, I'm changing DD on the flor because it's easier than having her rolling off the changer
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
on the other hand, this could put both of you on the spot. have you considered writing her a card or a note? you can take your talking cues from her during the appointment and she could read what you have to express in private later on.
Met: September 2005 Married: October 2008 DS: 09/2014
- Have one thread on birthing methods for people to ask questions and STMs to share their experiences
- Have multiple threads for each method (similar to the Hypnobirthing one, but add one for Bradley, Lamaze, etc) that we can discuss things specific to that thread?
Or am I the only one who has this on their radar right now? If others won't find it helpful, we don't need to clutter the board with pointless posts if others won't participate/aren't interested.** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
Met: September 2005 Married: October 2008 DS: 09/2014
Married 4/22/16
**TW**
BFP 2/1/16 I MC 3/21/16 (11w)
TTCAL 6/15/16
BFP 3/23/2017 Team pink! Quinn Leigh EDD December 1, 2017
I do not remember any of the specific words that were said that weekend. What I carried with me for the next three years of trying was how honest, compassionate and supportive they were. I was also grateful for the opportunity to step away and figure my feelings out before ruining the rest of the evening/weekend/friendship. I would shy away of telling someone at their place of business or in a group where it would be impossible to step away. The feelings associated with infertility are mighty and overwhelming and can be unpredictable.
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
To echo what you both have said, I think the best advice anyone gave me was to make sure I shared our news with folks I knew were struggling with infertility in such a way that they had the space and time to process it and react however they needed/wanted to without me there to gauge it. We did a few text messages and one through-the-grapevine (I was better friends with the sister so it made sense that I would tell the sister first and then she could share the news as she saw fit in that situation).
It's been tricky because, with a couple of exceptions, I'm not quite close enough with any of these women/couples that anything I said to sound supportive wouldn't seem inappropriate or presumptuous. (Some of them don't know that I know they are on that journey.) So, I definitely admire your desire to directly address it in a supportive way because I'd love to be able to do that too without feeling like I'd overstepped.
@Kyrwyn - What a beautiful story. I love when people can understand that their pregnancy can bring mixed emotions for others and not take offense to it. When I was dealing with my 2nd loss, I know I tried to remind myself that "there are not a finite number of babies in the world. One person getting a baby does not equal one less baby I could get." But that didn't stop the initial sting of every BFP around me. But the sting didn't stop the joy and happiness I felt for others too.
You won't always know when someone is facing issues. But when you do and can be thoughtful (like you were @peachy13), it's appreciated.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020