@abcola We started telling family at 7 weeks and told our first close friend over the weekend at 10 weeks. We have an appointment on Friday (10+6) and plans to tell more close friends Saturday and two other close friends the following weekend.
Everyone we've told up until now, I would feel comfortable telling if we had a loss. The friends we're telling Saturday are DH's friends so I'm not quite as comfortable, but I think he would be. I feel like there's not necessarily a right or wrong answer. If you want to be more cautious, then you could wait.
@abcola I just had my 10 week appt and am planning to announce at 12 weeks just to immediate family. No fb or anything like that for a while. I don't get an ultrasound until 20 weeks so I didn't think I could hold out that long. My next appt is 14 weeks just as a wellness check, and by then I'll have a bump so 12 weeks seems fine. We haven't done the genetic testing yet, that's the only read I could think of maybe holding off but since yours looks good you should be fine.
@abcola Our blood test was all good news and we'll have the NT scan on Wednesday, assuming that is also good news, we will tell our parents this coming weekend. I'll be 13 weeks. Since I did have a later loss than that, I do have a bit of nerves, but at this point... (1) the bump is eminent, (2) I have been so sick that i can't honestly discuss my life without divulging that I am pregnant, nor can i do "normal" stuff. (3) we're excited and in particular DH is bursting to tell people and he will be overseas with his parents and cousins for a long weekend the next week, so.... it's as good of a time as any to share the news.
My husband and I haven't announced to anyone yet. We are going to tell family on Father's Day (I'll be 14 weeks) with a mug I hand made for my dad and the ultrasound photo in a cute frame.
Funny thing - my brother just announced to all of us that they are ~5 weeks pregnant this morning. I feel a little awkward/bad that we haven't even told my parents yet and my brother did it so early! But I guess we all have different comfort levels with it so I'm sure they will understand!
@ashtynmo: we are telling the family Father's Day as well, and I will be just shy of 14 weeks. My oldest brother is expecting a son, and is due in September, and my other brother, the middle child, just found out they are expecting in February. They called everyone the night she got the positive, which is about 5 weeks, so my dad is going to be shocked that all 3 of his kids are expecting, and all within a 6 month time frame! Im super excited & anxious to tell him.
@abcola the statistics for 10 weeks and later and pretty positive. And everyone has said it already but it's all what you're comfortable with. I told my 2 best friends right away. Told family at 10 weeks and friends after that. At 12 weeks told work friends and other friends I'm in contact with less often. I've been pretty happy with that.
@tinkerbellwest that's amazing for your family! The kids will have such cousin fun.
Me: 31 DH: 32 DH since 12.2009 Married 08.2013 EDD 12.2017
On the topic of announcements, any smoke bomb mamas out there??? I've always wanted to do a smoke bomb reveal photo with my dh. Anyone already use one and have tips on which brand to order/not order?
I had a dream last night that I tested out a smoke bomb and posted the pic on fb instead of waiting for the real pics to be done and then I deleted it 30 minutes later but everyone had already seen it lol. The smoke was pink in my dream.
Me: 31 DH: 32 DH since 12.2009 Married 08.2013 EDD 12.2017
@AMCsquared I ordered an exploding golf ball in both colors but we ended up getting the results before they came in and I couldn't wait... We'll use it to break the news to the in laws or my parents as both grandpas golf
I'm mobile so pic is huge so put in spoiler. We haven't announced publicly yet but here is a screenshot from our sex reveal video we sent to immediate family members. I totes got confetti in my mouth somehow making it a very funny end of video.
Here is our announcement. We just got notification that the baby's Panorama information came back normal and I am going to post soon after school let's out. I am a teacher and do not feel like dealing with the bazillion student and staff member questions. But, I am so excited how it turned out. Both of my kids have names picked out. My son thinks it's a boy and of course my daughter wants a girl, but thinks it's a boy. I guess she's setting herself up so she's not "too" upset if her wish doesn't come true.
I have had waaaaay to much fun coming up with ways to share the news. I made lots of crafts for family. I just posted on social media! So here are my social media posts - but hopefully I can post my crafts soon. The wedding dress photos are from our 5 year anniversary photoshoot. My friend took the photos and suggested we do this shot because she knew we were trying to get pregnant - but she didn't know we already were!
Just put this as a #fbf on my Instagram today, with the caption "I'm getting a what?!?” DD was looking at this book for the first time and was pretty confused
@balletnerd, I'm not gonna lie, I have wondered if you might be the wife of my ex from college (bc she's a ballerina and I had a very very slight reason to think she might be pregnant) but luckily for you, you aren't Cute announcements!
Really hoping DD cooperates with me today so I can get a good picture! I'd like to post this after my dr appt tomorrow morning. And yes I know it's slanty. I'm a horrible writer.
We told the in-laws this weekend! DH's parents are divorced. We saw his dad on Saturday and gave him the framed ultrasound photo on the left and he was super happy and like, "I KNEW IT!!" We saw DH's mom today and gave her the framed ultrasound photo on the left. Her reaction was really weird! She was crying but not happy or saying congratulations. DH quickly figured out that she hadn't read what we had written. She thought we had given her an ultrasound image from the baby we lost last year (?!) She's in the middle of cancer treatments, so she's easily confused and--we found out today--having trouble with her eyes. I never imagined she would not GET IT right away. Anyway, once she understood she went bonkers with excitement.
I'll tell my mom on the phone tomorrow, she lives far away and we always talk on Mondays.
Shared the news with my 4 siblings via whatsapp last night with a picture my husband captured of me with our adopted husky. The caption read, "Magic can hardly wait to meet his new human"
This being our first pregnancy, I bought my husband a shirt that says "Dad" on it. I figured people would notice it eventually. I guess I was wrong. He wore it this Father's Day weekend while we visited his family members. None of them noticed, even when he paraded around the room like a peacock. It was really funny to us, but nobody else was getting it. At one point he even told his sisters "maybe you should check out my shirt" and they were sort of offended that he interrupted the conversation and deliberately ignored him. (This is what happens when you have twin sisters - they are living in their own universe, I swear!) So finally he just said "We're expecting!" when his sisters essentially gave him permission to speak. If there is a "next time" I am going to be the one who handles the announcement, and it is going to be much more straightforward. He is....too subtle. Everyone seemed happy for us except his sister that is mid-30's, single, and sort of having an independent streak. She was a terror all weekend, making the whole family go out of their way to accommodate her. I hope someone sets her straight soon! At least his other sister sort of apologized the next day and talked to me quite a bit about baby stuff. Life is so odd and funny sometimes. I was sort of proud of myself that I didn't overreact and get upset with them outwardly, since inside my hormones and emotions were totally raging. After all the excitement of the evening I went to bed and cried for about an hour before I could finally fall asleep. First big pregnancy cry! Woohoo!
My extended family has a private Facebook group, so I shared this with an invite for comments on DH's first ever Father's Day gift... I reduced the image size, and the shirt is somewhat unreadable. It says "Achievement unlocked: New character created" and is an etsy find. DH is a gamer and terrible puns are somewhat of a family tradition.
I'm 13 weeks and we just announced publicly on Tuesday with this video (I turned it into a GIF to share here). I had an OB appointment on Monday and my doctor gave me the go-ahead to share, though he's made it very clear that there's always some risk throughout the pregnancy. We'd already shared in person with most of our close friends and immediate family.
Have slowly been telling people about our news, and today announced via text to my aunts and then in our private cousin's Facebook group... not going on my page yet...
Re: Announcements
Everyone we've told up until now, I would feel comfortable telling if we had a loss. The friends we're telling Saturday are DH's friends so I'm not quite as comfortable, but I think he would be. I feel like there's not necessarily a right or wrong answer. If you want to be more cautious, then you could wait.
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
Funny thing - my brother just announced to all of us that they are ~5 weeks pregnant this morning. I feel a little awkward/bad that we haven't even told my parents yet and my brother did it so early! But I guess we all have different comfort levels with it so I'm sure they will understand!
@tinkerbellwest that's amazing for your family! The kids will have such cousin fun.
I had a dream last night that I tested out a smoke bomb and posted the pic on fb instead of waiting for the real pics to be done and then I deleted it 30 minutes later but everyone had already seen it lol. The smoke was pink in my dream.
@jekasi and @disneyfan0511, I like your style!!
Gavin - 8/27/10
*TW*
Gabriel - 2nd tri loss 5/17/16 Trisomy 18 & 21
Hope - 2nd tri loss 12/7/16 complications from pneumonia
I'm mobile so pic is huge so put in spoiler. We haven't announced publicly yet but here is a screenshot from our sex reveal video we sent to immediate family members. I totes got confetti in my mouth somehow making it a very funny end of video.
DX Diminished Ovarian Reserve, Factor V Leiden Mutation, Secondary Infertility
MFI (SA #1Count 11mill, Motility: 18%, Morphology: 1%)
AMH .328 | FSH 13.2
DH's parents are divorced. We saw his dad on Saturday and gave him the framed ultrasound photo on the left and he was super happy and like, "I KNEW IT!!"
We saw DH's mom today and gave her the framed ultrasound photo on the left. Her reaction was really weird! She was crying but not happy or saying congratulations. DH quickly figured out that she hadn't read what we had written. She thought we had given her an ultrasound image from the baby we lost last year (?!) She's in the middle of cancer treatments, so she's easily confused and--we found out today--having trouble with her eyes. I never imagined she would not GET IT right away. Anyway, once she understood she went bonkers with excitement.
I'll tell my mom on the phone tomorrow, she lives far away and we always talk on Mondays.
I reduced the image size, and the shirt is somewhat unreadable. It says "Achievement unlocked: New character created" and is an etsy find. DH is a gamer and terrible puns are somewhat of a family tradition.
kyrwyn That's so cute! What a great idea.
Caption: "DH gave me something pretty cool for my birthday, but it won't be here till Christmas!"
(PS. Apologies to my Saturday folks who saw this already!)
DX Diminished Ovarian Reserve, Factor V Leiden Mutation, Secondary Infertility
MFI (SA #1Count 11mill, Motility: 18%, Morphology: 1%)
AMH .328 | FSH 13.2
I'm posting this on Facebook today, but I'm still brainstorming a caption. We're 16+5 today, hence the avocado.