I'm so excited! Our crib came today and BF, his brother and his fiance are painting the nursery tonight!!
BF is kind of making me feel guilty because I won't be there tonight. I have a dinner with friends. I kind of feel bad because they are coming to help US, but I wouldn't be painting probably? Should I feel bad? TBH I kind of don't want to go to the dinner lol.
BF was joking but he said, your first daughter's room only gets painted once
For those looking for a way to bank a little extra money. Consider changing what you claim in taxes from your paycheck. In general, 0 - You pay the most in taxes from your paycheck, in hopes of getting it back in your tax return 1 - You pay an average amount in taxes, and get an average amount back 2 - You pay the least in taxes, but are vulnerable to have to pay some back when tax time comes around.
You could switch from, say, 1 to 2 - make sure you put the difference it in savings because that's the whole point of doing it, and hope that adding a dependent next year on your taxes evens it all out and you're not stuck paying (or if you've previously gotten hefty tax returns, maybe it just won't be as big)
Obviously this is overly-simplified, but might be a way to put aside a little extra $$ to make you feel a little bit more comfortable during leave. And you can always change it back. I think I switched just during my leave to try and make up for the 4-5 weeks without pay and then switched back when I returned to work.
We should have a thread about budgeting/savings tips and tricks.
TTC x 1.5 years.
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@forwardnbackward good idea for a thread! I'm team 0 tax exemptions because I basically treat my tax return as a savings account I know that makes most people cringe
@ariz17 exciting! I would just do what you want. Sounds like a good excuse to miss the dinner if you really don't want to go, but if you want to go then don't feel guilty. You're doing most of the heavy lifting this pregnancy, SO can survive on his own for painting.
I just walked into DD fully intending to be a rebel and get my second cup of coffee for the day (gasp) along with a yummy sugary donut. Somehow I walked out with an unsweetened green tea and bagel. Not quite sure what happened there.
@ariz17 DO whatever you want to do, but if it makes you feel any better some random guy off Angies List painted my daughter's nursery and it never bothered me
@ariz17 DH painted DD's nursery while I was out of town on business. I mean, you could sit outside the door and eat ice cream while he paints. Especially if you want to cancel on dinner. Also, I cancelled on dinner with former coworkers last night and don't feel a shred of guilt about it. You do you, girl!
Not sure where the best place to ask this is, but I figure I can't go wrong with randoms. How are you managing out of town visitors and baby support? We are planning for my parents to come about 2 weeks after the baby is born to meet their first grandchild and help out. They want to book their flights now, but we obviously don't know when the baby actually will be here.
We are thinking they can book a flight 2 weeks from the due date on Southwest, and if she comes significantly sooner or later they can cancel/switch with no change fees. I'm nervous that she's going to come a week and a half late and they'll decide not to move the flights back, so we won't get any alone time with her before they arrive. If she comes early, they won't hesitate to move their flights up Anyone else trying to figure out similar plans? How are you managing the uncertainty?
P.S. I realize I'm very lucky to have parents who want to come right away and are willing to help. I'm just anxious about everything lately, and this is one more thing that I know really isn't a big deal but I'm totally making it into one.
@roo_baby My mom is trying to do the same thing, but within the first week after the baby is born. She is going to book her flights to be here just a couple of days after my due date, but is buying the flight insurance so she can change if I deliver early or late. I think she's doing it through southwest as well. That's an option!
@roo_baby I think that is all you can do. You will be in the hospital for at least 2 days so that will give them time to juggle switching flights. Def recommend southwest so easy and no fees to switch flights.
Have you talked to your doc if they have limits on how long they will let you go before inducing? Mine is 41 weeks, just wanted to bring that up bc they might not let you go to 42 weeks. I think I'd target more 1 week past due date.
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@Brambles23 my DH told me basically the same thing, but he's thinking around 5. And I told him he had to carry them if we were going to do that.. so that's a no go for me.
@roo-baby I'm not close with my parents and my MIL makes me crazy, both are local and had planned to help. I'm very close with my grandmother. Originally, with DS she was supposed to come down and stay for 2 weeks as soon as he was born. She wound up having a medical issue and was delayed 2-3 weeks. Looking back, I was so happy not to have anyone staying with us the first couple of weeks. I was recovering from the c section, struggling a lot with breast feeding, and trying to get used to having my son and bond as a family, among other things. When we had guests, even family, I felt obligated to entertain. I had to be dressed, straighten up, etc...I felt bad when I had to ask people to step away for breastfeeding ( I wasn't comfortable doing it front of people). I felt like it was a hassle. I'm not having anyone stay over this time. Everyone is different and some people don't mind less privacy and welcome tons of help, and help is great, but personally I was grateful to have time alone to bond as a family. I would definitely make sure you have the alone time you want first.
Re: Random Chats (6.12.17)
BF is kind of making me feel guilty because I won't be there tonight. I have a dinner with friends. I kind of feel bad because they are coming to help US, but I wouldn't be painting probably? Should I feel bad? TBH I kind of don't want to go to the dinner lol.
BF was joking but he said, your first daughter's room only gets painted once
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0 - You pay the most in taxes from your paycheck, in hopes of getting it back in your tax return
1 - You pay an average amount in taxes, and get an average amount back
2 - You pay the least in taxes, but are vulnerable to have to pay some back when tax time comes around.
You could switch from, say, 1 to 2 - make sure you put the difference it in savings because that's the whole point of doing it, and hope that adding a dependent next year on your taxes evens it all out and you're not stuck paying (or if you've previously gotten hefty tax returns, maybe it just won't be as big)
Obviously this is overly-simplified, but might be a way to put aside a little extra $$ to make you feel a little bit more comfortable during leave. And you can always change it back. I think I switched just during my leave to try and make up for the 4-5 weeks without pay and then switched back when I returned to work.
We should have a thread about budgeting/savings tips and tricks.
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
@ariz17 exciting! I would just do what you want. Sounds like a good excuse to miss the dinner if you really don't want to go, but if you want to go then don't feel guilty. You're doing most of the heavy lifting this pregnancy, SO can survive on his own for painting.
I just walked into DD fully intending to be a rebel and get my second cup of coffee for the day (gasp) along with a yummy sugary donut. Somehow I walked out with an unsweetened green tea and bagel. Not quite sure what happened there.
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We are thinking they can book a flight 2 weeks from the due date on Southwest, and if she comes significantly sooner or later they can cancel/switch with no change fees. I'm nervous that she's going to come a week and a half late and they'll decide not to move the flights back, so we won't get any alone time with her before they arrive. If she comes early, they won't hesitate to move their flights up
P.S. I realize I'm very lucky to have parents who want to come right away and are willing to help. I'm just anxious about everything lately, and this is one more thing that I know really isn't a big deal but I'm totally making it into one.
Have you talked to your doc if they have limits on how long they will let you go before inducing? Mine is 41 weeks, just wanted to bring that up bc they might not let you go to 42 weeks. I think I'd target more 1 week past due date.
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