You guys are making me appreciate that we live across the country from our families! I would never want anyone seeing me in the hospital until I was ready and even then, I'd only be comfortable with immediate family and super close family friends. All I wanted to do in the hospital was eat and sleep.
Agree with the above- let the nurses keep them out!
@Potterphile - yeah definitely don't worry about the aunts! I have great aunts that I saw from time to time growing up and some only at funerals. It was never an issue and I've never felt the need to establish a relationship with them. They're people I know about and have met but that's about it. I think I have a few of them as fb friends so I "know" them.
@potterphile.... that's interesting. I know people didn't talk about those things a lot back then but I guess I would have hoped her mother would have talked things through with her? Birth by belly button explosion sounds so much scarier than the real deal, lol. Although, slightly related story, I was told that a (much older) cousin's husband didn't fully understand what sex was/how to do it. So my dad had to get a book (with pictures) and explain it to him. O_O I never verified if this was a true story or not because how do you even ask that? LOL
TTC history in spoiler
Me: 31 Him: 37 Married: Oct 2015 Baby G born June 2017 TTC#2: July 2018 BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19 BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
@ginger1228 I know, right? I mean I know he came from a very strict Christian background but I don't know how you get that far without knowing how it all works. Obviously he learned, since they have kids now lol. The subject came up because before my wedding my mom was trying to talk to me about sex, and I was like, "mom, I am a resident. If I don't know how sex works, then medical school was a waste of time." Later on I told my sisters about the conversation and they were like, well at least you're not like [cousin's husband] who needed to have it explained to him by our father because he didn't know what to do!
TTC history in spoiler
Me: 31 Him: 37 Married: Oct 2015 Baby G born June 2017 TTC#2: July 2018 BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19 BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
My mother was into crib blankets until I told her, "The AAP made two recommendations that cut the SIDS rate in HALF: 1) put baby to sleep on its back, and 2) don't put anything at all in the crib." It's a pretty straightforward and compelling statistic. (I know some women here will disagree, which is fine.) While she is into control and being able to do what she wants as a grandmother, she's also into science and respected the "no blankets in the crib" rule after that. It just ended the conversation, which I was grateful for.
Also, FTMs: I had a lot of issues with my mother overstepping, until someone in my BMB told me to stop acting like her opinion mattered. I stopped engaging her when she would express opinions about how to do things (I would just say "ok" and change the topic), and I stopped asking her opinion unless I really truly wanted it. Once I realized I could control the conversation, it got a lot easier to deal with her. It also forced her to start asking me things rather than just telling me things - and in doing so, we both gained confidence in my ability to be the mother.
Re: Monday Bitchfest 5/22
Agree with the above- let the nurses keep them out!
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
While she is into control and being able to do what she wants as a grandmother, she's also into science and respected the "no blankets in the crib" rule after that. It just ended the conversation, which I was grateful for.
Also, FTMs: I had a lot of issues with my mother overstepping, until someone in my BMB told me to stop acting like her opinion mattered. I stopped engaging her when she would express opinions about how to do things (I would just say "ok" and change the topic), and I stopped asking her opinion unless I really truly wanted it. Once I realized I could control the conversation, it got a lot easier to deal with her. It also forced her to start asking me things rather than just telling me things - and in doing so, we both gained confidence in my ability to be the mother.
@manillabar and @Potterphile: wow. Just...wow. Those are incredible stories!