It's supposed to be 90 degrees-ish where I live today and it was the same yesterday, and I LOVE it!! Bring on the heat!! Everyone has been complaining about it, because that is what we do in New England, but I can't wait to enjoy this hazy, hot, and humid day!
@cmessamore it's similar where I am and I am NOT looking forward to walking out into that oven. 78-80? Sure, I'm a little warm but it's manageable. 90s? No. I don't even want to be outside, it's just as oppressive as when it's super cold. At least when it's cold I don't sweat!
I think Louis Vuitton is trashy looking and I don't understand the obsession with Goyard bags. They are RIDICULOUSLY expensive and just look like crappy nylon bags. What is the appeal? The price tag?
I wrote these down this time so my pregnant brain wouldn't forget!
@cmessamore If it was a Caribbean 90 degrees, I'd be all for it. The breeze off the water, the ability to jump in any bay any time of the year...but DC 90 degrees? Yuck. Give me an ocean!
I don't mind the heat here so much because there's rarely humidity, but today it is SNOWING! We're supposed to be safe after Mothers Day! Our weather is so wonky.
My UO is that I hate discussing baby names with anyone. I realllllly don't care about other people's opinions.
My UO is that I hate discussing baby names with anyone. I realllllly don't care about other people's opinions.
Same. We didn't officially pick out a name until after my daughter was born. We had narrowed it down but we didn't even tell people our options. It totally freaked people out that our child didn't have a name and they would offer all these suggestions and we just had to smile and nod and pretend we liked them.
@sweetmelissa4 I've already been told that my mom hopes we have a girl because she doesn't like our boy name as much. Whatev, mom, because that's the first one we picked out...months ago. I just smile and nod too.
I have no problem letting my two year old watch TV while I take a nap since he has mostly given up naps and the first trimester is kicking my butt. He didn't even see a tv till he was one cause we never owned one in college, and I studied a ton of child development so I felt crazy guilty at first, but man putting on a Disney movie and cuddling him while I sleep is the best freaking thing ever.
@bannaners don't feel guilty. Survival parenting is my life.
Honestly I've NEVER limited screen time. The TV is pretty much always on because I'm home alone a lot with just the kid and I like the noise. We play, do crafts, go outside, all those types of things, but we frequently take quiet time and watch Paw Patrol or whatever the movie he's obsessed with this week. Usually he doesn't even care, just glances at it while he's playing with his toys. He's developmentally on point and even a little ahead in some things.
Do what you need to do, because you're doing your best. And a movie or two isn't going to hurt in the long run.
It still matters to me. It was intended to be facing out by the inventor. It's like how the inventor of gif pronounces it with a soft g. They invented these things, so they are right.
I hate nuts of all kinds. I like peanut BUTTER but not actually peanuts or any of the rest of them. I think they ruin otherwise amazing desserts with their awfulness.
1) That spider is terrifying. If I wasn't already an "over roller", I would be now.
2) I agree about nuts being gross. I can sometimes eat them on their own, but not when they're mixed into anything else. Nut filled brownies are a travesty.
3) Hate super hot weather. If it's cold out, I can put on more layers or go inside. In hot weather, I can only take off so many layers before being arrested for public indecency, and we don't have AC inside.
4) No one is going to find out our name choice before birth. People somehow feel like they can say any rude thing before birth, when they wouldn't after.
To keep up with the food-related UOs, I generally hate anything mixed with chocolate - caramel, fruit, nuts - it just ruins the chocolate. I make an exception for peanut butter because that is a delicious combination. I dislike the fruits commonly mixed with chocolate though - raspberry seeds are so annoying!
Not sure this really an UO - maybe a weekly random- but I'll go ahead a say that while strengthening muscles sounds good - this sounds uncomfortable ....babies get big yo!
@Tourmalily - I think it's kind of mean to squish baby up there - all arms and legs and confused. They already seem like are squished no matter how big the belly is.
Yesterday I was so ready for DH's day off today so he could help with DD'S horrible-ness. My UO is that I wish he'd just go back to work because he's being an asshole today. Oh and he slept in until 11 am even though I got up at 6:30 with DD.
@SweetMelissa4 DH and I threw out some early names we both liked and people annoyed me already so I told him we are not telling people the baby's name until after she is born. My MIL already told me she's getting started on finding names for us. Ummm...no, we got this thanks.
@bannaners My son likes to wake up with the sun. During the week, it's great. On the weekends, not so much, especially now that it's warm and the sun comes up so damn early. We just turn on the TV while we sleep in for another half hour or so.
@RiverSong15 you are so right about people saying rude things before baby is here. My top choice for a girl was Penelope. My mil told me her mom had a pig named Penelope. I found out from someone else that that wasn't the name at all. Still ruined it.
I'm dreading helping kids with homework. My parents never helped me - they didn't speak English as well as I did and didn't go to great schools growing up so a lot of the stuff was beyond them (they are very smart, intelligent people but couldn't help me with geometry homework, for example). I did it all on my own. I know my kids have an advantage that I grew up here and CAN help but I'd rather they figure it out. Especially those obnoxious involved school projects kids sometimes have to do. It's your homework, YOU build it!
*I will HELP (key word) with homework/projects as I see necessary but no way are my kids getting me to do it for them. If it doesn't get done, they will get a bad grade and there will be hell to pay. I realize I say this as someone who has not parented school age children. Or any children.*
I would recommend to FTMs to NOT share names unless you want others opinions (and generally they aren't always nice). I had a shortlist of names for DS1 and I told my mom...she then told my sisters and my Aunt. My Aunt called me to tell me how horrible the name was and that I couldn't use it - thanks mom. Learning from that I decided not to share with my MIL. She said that since it was her first grandchild she should get to name it........ nope....not how it works. When I told her she would not actually get a say and we weren't telling her our choice she told me that we should be embarrassed because she tells all her friends that we are naming the baby Adolf (as in Hitler!!!) And she is Jewish!!!! Yeah... I think her friends probably think she is crazy like I do. Anyways...with DS2 people seemed less interested and we said nothing - and I don't care if they like it or not. Same for this one!
@CubsFan7 Oh no she didn't! I would 100% use that name now and also not tell her anything. I hate when people lie!!!
@DuchessOfCambridge Anything can be found online nowadays. Plus, elementary schools are moving away from homework since research shows the kids who do it don't need it and the ones that need it don't do it.
Maybe UO, but definitely not among teachers. Most poorly behaved kids have bad parents. I didn't say all, because some do have behavioral challenges due to disabilities or other situations. For example, sometimes one divorced parent is great and what they do is undermined when they go to the other parent's house. But so many parents are either self-absorbed and don't pay attention to their kids or are never home, want to be friends to their kids and never stop hovering / doing everything for them / overscheduling them or fixing their mistakes, or are busy blaming everyone and everything else. Parenting isn't easy and it definitely gets harder when kids pick up bad things from school, but usually the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
@DuchessOfCambridge I HATE homework. DD1 is just finishing 5th grade next week and she has ADHD which means I really have to keep her on task. On top of that she is really very bad at math. I was very lucky and I always thought school was easy, I never needed help and I never had to be told to do my homework. Doing daily homework with my daughter is very trying on my patience. For the last few years spelling/vocabulary homework usually required parent help. Same with projects and papers. She is finally above grade level in reading because she started to love it. But math is very hard. Some things I honestly forget how to do since I haven't done since grade school but I am so lucky that MIL is a 6th grade math teacher. A lot of things I need to do step by step with her or do an example to help her get it. Then always check and make her fix things. We have to do extra work just to keep her current because if she doesn't do something for a while she forgets how to do it. School work for me is a lot of work and very frustrating. Unfortunately you cannot pick your children's strengths and weaknesses. My best advice for when that time comes is to make sure they understand how important school work is and get them on a routine and make them stay to it. If they suck at something explain how you can't be good at everything and do your best to be understanding. Before they're in school it's just important to get them excited to learn and help them love to read.
@am+mommy that's very true. My post was based on the assumption my child would be like DH and me. If he or she does need extra help I am pretty sure I will still hate it. I tutored my cousin a couple years younger than me when we were in school and I hated it. I LOVE my cousin, she's actually my favorite, and I loved math but I could not stand teaching it. It frustrated me when she didn't understand what I was showing her. I am a bad teacher. Which is a huge part of the reason I'm dreading it so much. So much respect for teachers, I could never do their job.
@SweetMelissa4 I came here to say the same thing about the heat. I would much prefer it to this gross snow. I want to wear my flip flops and skirts.
I also agree with not sharing names. It is like everything. Someone will have an opinion and it usually isnt "oh I love that name" sometimes it is " oh I know someone with that name and he/she is a terrible person. "
This makes me really sad. I don't have experience with kids other than my own, so I'm not saying that you're wrong, but my kids are pretty wild and crazy compared to their peers, and I think I'm a darn good mom. I work my tail off every single day, and they are still just spirited, strong-willed kids. Makes me sad to think that this is the judgment I'll receive from their teachers once they get to school if their temperaments don't change.
eta: Initially quoted the wrong post, so I just tagged OP in the box
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I wrote these down this time so my pregnant brain wouldn't forget!
@ElizabethSchuyler amen to that. Baltimore heat...gross.
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
My UO is that I hate discussing baby names with anyone. I realllllly don't care about other people's opinions.
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
Honestly I've NEVER limited screen time. The TV is pretty much always on because I'm home alone a lot with just the kid and I like the noise. We play, do crafts, go outside, all those types of things, but we frequently take quiet time and watch Paw Patrol or whatever the movie he's obsessed with this week. Usually he doesn't even care, just glances at it while he's playing with his toys. He's developmentally on point and even a little ahead in some things.
Do what you need to do, because you're doing your best. And a movie or two isn't going to hurt in the long run.
me too! I don't get the big deal. Luckily, neither does SO.
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
Married Since: 7/29/2012
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2) I agree about nuts being gross. I can sometimes eat them on their own, but not when they're mixed into anything else. Nut filled brownies are a travesty.
3) Hate super hot weather. If it's cold out, I can put on more layers or go inside. In hot weather, I can only take off so many layers before being arrested for public indecency, and we don't have AC inside.
4) No one is going to find out our name choice before birth. People somehow feel like they can say any rude thing before birth, when they wouldn't after.
To keep up with the food-related UOs, I generally hate anything mixed with chocolate - caramel, fruit, nuts - it just ruins the chocolate. I make an exception for peanut butter because that is a delicious combination. I dislike the fruits commonly mixed with chocolate though - raspberry seeds are so annoying!
Not sure this really an UO - maybe a weekly random- but I'll go ahead a say that while strengthening muscles sounds good - this sounds uncomfortable ....babies get big yo!
https://www.scarymommy.com/brooke-cates-the-bloom-method-pregnant-belly-pump/
Obviously, eventually thy figure it out. But my 14 month old is still stumped.
My almost 2 year old just figured out the under pulling all the toilet paper off thing a few weeks ago.
Married Since: 7/29/2012
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My UO is that I wish he'd just go back to work because he's being an asshole today. Oh and he slept in until 11 am even though I got up at 6:30 with DD.
@bannaners My son likes to wake up with the sun. During the week, it's great. On the weekends, not so much, especially now that it's warm and the sun comes up so damn early. We just turn on the TV while we sleep in for another half hour or so.
@RiverSong15 you are so right about people saying rude things before baby is here. My top choice for a girl was Penelope. My mil told me her mom had a pig named Penelope. I found out from someone else that that wasn't the name at all. Still ruined it.
*I will HELP (key word) with homework/projects as I see necessary but no way are my kids getting me to do it for them. If it doesn't get done, they will get a bad grade and there will be hell to pay. I realize I say this as someone who has not parented school age children. Or any children.*
@DuchessOfCambridge Anything can be found online nowadays. Plus, elementary schools are moving away from homework since research shows the kids who do it don't need it and the ones that need it don't do it.
Maybe UO, but definitely not among teachers. Most poorly behaved kids have bad parents. I didn't say all, because some do have behavioral challenges due to disabilities or other situations. For example, sometimes one divorced parent is great and what they do is undermined when they go to the other parent's house. But so many parents are either self-absorbed and don't pay attention to their kids or are never home, want to be friends to their kids and never stop hovering / doing everything for them / overscheduling them or fixing their mistakes, or are busy blaming everyone and everything else. Parenting isn't easy and it definitely gets harder when kids pick up bad things from school, but usually the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
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@am+mommy that's very true. My post was based on the assumption my child would be like DH and me. If he or she does need extra help I am pretty sure I will still hate it. I tutored my cousin a couple years younger than me when we were in school and I hated it. I LOVE my cousin, she's actually my favorite, and I loved math but I could not stand teaching it. It frustrated me when she didn't understand what I was showing her. I am a bad teacher. Which is a huge part of the reason I'm dreading it so much. So much respect for teachers, I could never do their job.
I also agree with not sharing names. It is like everything. Someone will have an opinion and it usually isnt "oh I love that name" sometimes it is " oh I know someone with that name and he/she is a terrible person. "
eta: Initially quoted the wrong post, so I just tagged OP in the box