May IUI

SoonToBeMommaHowe · May 2017

@J1006 I love the POM brand juice! I was also in the it can't hurt mentality for a long time and over the last two years I've tried every little trick, pineapple, Pom juice, hot foods, pumpkin seeds, etc and nothing has worked so now I'm just like whatever...I don't drink alcohol and I limit really cold foods like ice cream but other than that I just gotta live. All these tricks were consuming me, like maybe it was negative because I didn't eat enough pineapple core or if only I had had more juice. Too much

@JaeJayStark when I have a medicated cycle for some reason it extends my typical 12-14 day LP to 17 days. So if this cycle is like the previous two AF will be here on Saturday

hugs go to you @rebailey7842

mockingjay1 · May 2017

@rebailey7842 - I am so sorry. Thinking of you!

@kjeann - I am an RN too!

Ilky · May 2017

Something awful happened this morning. I got called into jury today and got selected be go the court room for juror selections. The case would go for 3 weeks and I was so nervous. When the judge asked everyone if we had any reason we couldn't be there. When it was my turn I had to tell the judge in front of 50 other people that I'm in the middle of a fertility treatment and I have procedures scheduled for next week. He asked would I consider postponing my procedure, I was almost going to burst into tears but with watery eyes and cracking voice I was able to manage to say that we'd had been trying for over two years and I have to go through this treatment. He allowed me to leave and come back in 3 months. I've been feeling awful since I left and have been crying. I don't know what I'm feeling but I feel humiliated and less of a woman. I feel extremely sad and totally heartbroken. Sorry ladies I just had tell someone who understand what I go through

funkykey · May 2017

OMG @Ilky - that is awful. I'm so sorry! But kudos to you for being honest, and it sounds like you were really nice and sweet about it.

Besides, not sure about you but, truthfully: I would not be a good juror right now. IF has made me so impatient and short with everyone - like: "Capital punishment for you, and for you, and for you, and for you." I'd be so angry that they even asked me to miss a treatment - I wouldn't even care if the accused was guilty, I'd be like: "You're guilty of making me miss my treatment!"

You should not feel humiliated at all, nor like you are less of a woman. That judge was less of a human for asking you to consider postponing, and he should be ashamed that he had the nerve to push you on it. F*cking ridiculous. Some people are so thoughtless.

kristimh80 · May 2017

@Ilky Oh no!! I am soooo sorry you had to do thru that! I'm sure having to voice everything in front of strangers, just makes it all more real. Honestly, so many people undergo treatment, but never talk about it, so it can be hard to talk to many about things going on...muchless a stranger. It's hard for me to even talk to my close friends because no one really gets it. Try to look at the bright side of things, at least the judge was nice and you didn't have to give up everything for some criminal. (((hugs))) Feel free to fuss at us any time...that's what we are here for!

mockingjay1 · May 2017

@Ilky - I'm so sorry you had to do that in front of all those people. That judge should have excused you rather than asking if you'd postpone it. I'm glad you have a few months and can continue with the treatment you have planned.

JaeJayStark · May 2017

@Ilky That is so absurd! I can't believe the judge even pushed it. So insensitive. I supply a doctors note saying I can't be a juror and they don't contact me further.

Ilky · May 2017

Thank you girls. It's been a tough day, and I thought I was emotional around AF only.

@JaeJayStark can you actually do that? Even in three months I don't think I can do that. As @funkykey said I'll be so mad that they keep me there I won't be objective. Anyone keeps me from reaching my goal deserve a capital punishment

J1006 · May 2017

@llky so sorry this had to happen. If you said you were having heart surgery the judge wouldn't have asked you to postpone it. This upsets me. People really don't get it.

@funkykey I've been so impatient over the past couple of months. Maybe it's the drugs. I work with 450 kids 6th and below and my patience gets tested every hour of every day. We have a school wide point system for behavior and I feel like I've taken away a record number of points away from kids. Not as harsh as capital punishment for everyone though

Labluver2 · May 2017

@llky I'm so sorry that you had to go thru that today. You are def not less of a women. That judge was so insensitive.

I work for a small family practice a husband and wife. When I started treatments in September I debated telling her but it was giving me anxiety having to lie why I had all these spots BC I never called out or took off except my schedules vacations. I told her and said it was private and I would like if it stayed between her and I. A few days ago I was in one of the exam rooms with her husband (I'm a vet tech) and he's like when do you find out if your procedure worked meaning the IUI. I was so embarrassed and uncomfortable. I think I mumbled Friday and went in the bathroom and cried.

This journey takes a toll on us all. I find I'm also more angry prob hormones or at least thats what I'm blaming it on, or I'm crying hysterically.

My poor husband gets the brunt of it.

Hugs to you

funkykey · May 2017

@Labluver2 - I would have been so furious that my boss told her husband! I mean, I can totally see how it happened, but I would have felt betrayed.

God, this struggle is the capital-w WORST.

For me, I think it's less the hormones and more the stress. For some of us, we've been trying very hard to achieve something for 2 years. Imagine, in any other area of your life, trying super super hard for something for years, not seeing any progress whatsoever, while the challenges get worse and worse, and while you're surrounded by people who are getting what you're trying for without trying at all - just to rub salt in the wound. It's awful.

ramzlau · May 2017

Hi, Hope you don't mind me joining the discussion here. I intro'd myself a few months ago here on the IF board, but have been hanging out mainly over in TTGP land while we did some more testing. We finally have our IF diagnosis (it was unexplained for a few months) and are moving onto IUI this cycle. I have been lurking this thread knowing that this is what our next step was going to be, and now here we are. I recognize some of you from TTGP land, so hi! And for those of you I haven't met yet, I look forward to getting to know you.

Today is CD1 for me, we have US on CD10. I am on 2 abx for now for endometritis, and TTA for next 12 days (since I shouldn't ovulate before that I hope that part is easy). Hoping our doc has as good of timing as us, as we have perfected ours with so many months of TTC. We aren't doing any treatments except abx for the FH phase and then Trigger and progesterone for after IUI.

@Ilky dang girl you are strong, not sure what I would have done, but that took guts. Hope you treat yourself tonight to some tlc.

@Labluver2 I would have been mad too that she told her husband. I had to tell our hr at my office because of a personnel issue, and he blurted it out at lunch the other day with some colleagues. I was mad about that. Hope the husband at the practice meant well!

Labluver2 · May 2017

@funkykey you hit the nail on the head that is exactly what it is like. To make matters worse my friends sister posted in Facebook that she's expecting along with a photo session if the whole thing talk about rubbing salt in the wound.

MommaWalla · May 2017

@greenhillgirl Thank you for the advice. If this IUI doesn't work then I'll suggest he see a urologist. I'll know in less than 5 days. FX!
I have read that there really isn't anything you can do or take to improve morphology. Regardless, I have DH taking about 10 diferent supplements and eating/drinking antioxidant rich foods. Won't hurt but it could possibly help.
Trying to stay positive. Good luck to you!

kristimh80 · May 2017

@ramzlau Welcome to our crazy group!

@MommaWalla FX for you!!

Labluver2 · May 2017

@ramzlau welcome good luck to you on your IUI journey. I had my first one 2 weeks ago going in for beta tomorrow. I think guys just dont realize how personal this is for us woman. I dont he meant any harm from it just as your HR person prob didnt they just dont think before they speak.

Bababatty · May 2017

@Ilky I'm so sorry that happened to you yesterday! Clearly that judge has never had to deal with infertility treatments or he wouldn't have asked you if you'd reschedule. I suppose on the plus side you've now educated a room full of people about infertility, but I really am sorry it had to be like that. It's hard enough telling your close friends and family, let alone a bunch of strangers and totally without warning. I hope your next experience in three months is so much smoother.

@Labluver2 and @ramzlau UGH to colleagues who cannot keep it to themselves! I also think that's pretty illegal, although in @LabLuver2's case I'm not sure how that would work since it's a small practice. I can see how the boss telling her husband thing could happen, even though it shouldn't, but I agree with @funkykey that "betrayal" is definitely the right word to describe it. As for the HR guy, what an idiot! I hope he apologized profusely and was sufficiently shamefaced.

@ramzlau Also, welcome!

@MommaWalla My understanding is that the jury is still out on morphology. Some doctors care and some don't, which just tells me they really have no idea if it's relevant or not. My RE described a morphology study--I think it was the one that kind of defined "normal" morphology--and basically said it meant nothing. I'm not sure what a urologist would say, but my H's morphology went down (while motility went up) on Clomid, and his urologist didn't seem concerned at all. In other news, I second @greenhillgirl's suggestion to see a urologist. He worked wonders on my H's motility issues, although obviously we're still waiting for that BFP.

Ilky · May 2017

Thank you everyone, you are the best! Nobody understands what I go through and not even my husband...

MommaWalla my husband had only 3% normal morphology and took L-Tyrosine (I think either 2 or 4 a day) from Solary for at least 6 months (my natural doctor recommended), and when we did the next SA, it was 12% normal! I think this supplement in addition to natural multivitamin he's been taking really helped him get his numbers high. He still takes both. Let me know if you need more details.

JaeJayStark · May 2017

Ilky yes! At least in Washington State, you can supply a doctor's note.

@Labluver2 I'm sorry about the person who shared your story without permission. I sucks when people you don' t want to know end up knowing. It feels like one more person who knows we can't perform how we are designed to.

I hope your beta is lovely. Have you POAS since the last time?

@ramzlau Welcome! This group is pretty awesome. Rooting for you!

Irisheyes81 · May 2017

@Ilky I just read what you wrote about jury duty. You're such a badass and inspiration. The world doesn't get it and never will. However, you did what you needed to do for your family. Every time I hear these stories and all the tough choices from everyone on this forum, I see strong women that are going to make great mothers. Parenthood isn't easy and for us, it started early.

kristimh80 I took a few days off the forum and I need to read and catch up but I wanted to check in with you and see where you are and how you're doing?? My IUI is Saturday. 2 follicles on the left.

Labluver2 · May 2017

@JaeJayStark thanks. No Ive been an emotional wreck since it came up neg. I knew that the percentage to take the first time was low but you still have that small bit of hope it will work the first time. I'll be surprise if its positive tomorrow but I won't be shocked if its negative.

We decided to do a few cycles of IUI I'm just afraid that it may turn into us doing IVF which we just dont have the money for nor the time to start saving I'll be 38 next month. Trying to take it one step at a time. Trying to stay positive.

kristimh80 · May 2017

@Irisheyes81 Awe welcome back! My IUI is tomorrow at 2pm, so we are cycle buddies again

Have 4 follicles, so stimmed again last night for 1more boost and had hubby give me the trigger shot this morning. I was a little nervous about that being as usually the dr's office does it, but wasn't bad. How are things with you? I feel so much better after being bummed out last cycle, but same time I'm dreading the TWW.

mockingjay1 · May 2017

@Labluver2 - I'm sorry your coworker betrayed your trust. At the very least her husband should have had the sense not to say something. I know it probably doesn't make you feel better, but it sounds like he meant well. Everything crossed for you tomorrow!!!

Welcome @ramzlau! I'm sorry you have to be here, but these ladies are awesome! I'm sorry the HR person told others... I think that might be illegal?

@MommaWalla - FX!

greenhillgirl · May 2017

Hi again everyone- I have a question and have read the forums but didn't get a straight answer from them. We will start our first IUI cycle next week and I want to be realistic. If it doesn't work do you have to wait for your period again if you did Femara and a trigger shot? Does it get delayed by the meds? I'm wondering how soon you can try again.

Separately, but related- did anyone decide to take time off after first failed IUI and would you be willing to share about why that was important? Thanks!

mockingjay1 · May 2017

@greenhillgirl - If it doesn't work it's similar to a cycle off meds (if you ovulate). You wait 10-14ish days to get your period (if you're not pregnant) after ovulation depending on how long your LP is. If you take progesterone after you ovulate it can delay your period (I didn't get mine until I stopped the progesterone 15dpo). I think some people will still get their period on the progesterone. You can try again the next cycle as long as long as you get the all clear (no cysts, etc). I did not take time off between our IUIs, because we want to get pregnant as soon as possible. Good luck to you!

kristimh80 · May 2017

@greenhillgirl I've never had an issue with period being delayed from fertility meds. The first time I ovulated early due to them, so my period was like 5 days early. Otherwise, everything is pretty normal. I take progesterone, but its a low does, so it usually creeps in on time. Usually a day after I get my BFN, I stop it and pms is in full swing. I have noticed my periods are a little shorter now. Luckily, on CD 3, you can start a new cycle, so everything goes fast. I haven't taken off time from IUI's / cycles, but have considered it in the future to give myself a break from everything just because it can take a toll and be an emotional roller coaster.

Irisheyes81 · May 2017

@kristimh80 I'm glad the trigger went well for you. I like to give myself the trigger and just did it. I feel like when my husband does it, it hurts more. Cycle buddies!! Let's crush this month! May seems lucky. @JaeJayStark bought me a 2ww book last month and that really helped. 2ww is the worst.

@j1006 are you around? Are all three of us cycle buddies again??

@greenhillgirl I thought about taking time off after failed IUIs to go on BC but that's because I have PCOS so it was to control the antrogins. I didn't do it though. Whenever IUI fails, the only think I want is famera to start again on CD3. My luteal phase is 12-14 days but follicles grow slower and LH doesn't surge on its own so cycles are a little longer. 32 days usually.

J1006 · May 2017

@Irisheyes81. I am here!! Just had my IUI yesterday. Feeling good about this month. My body responded better to the meds this month.

@greenhillgirl. I am on 5mg of Femara and a Pregnyl trigger and it didn't affect the length of my cycle at all. IUI didn't work last month and AF was right on time. We thought about skipping a cycle in between rounds, but decided against it. The TWW was torture enough. We couldn't imagine waiting another month on top of that. My doctor leaves it up to us even though her promise is that she will do everything in her power to get me pregnant as soon as possible. There doesn't seem to be a benefit of skipping cycles. Just a personal choice I think.

kristimh80 · May 2017

@Irisheyes81 @J1006 Lets do this!! My IUI is this afternoon. I keep forgetting to get that TWW book! I will say I've been so much less absorbed with everything this month. Think because I stopped temping and doing opk's...so it doesn't feel quite as much like work I have to do daily. Now I can keep myself POAS this month lol

Labluver2 · May 2017

@kristimh80 good luck today and fx that the tww goes fast!!!!

kristimh80 · May 2017

@Labluver2 FX for you today too!!!

J1006 · May 2017

@kristimh80 GL today! FX that we all get BFPs this month.

Labluver2 · May 2017

@kristimh80 thank you!!! Still waiting to hear back. The wait is killing me I just want to know either way.

mockingjay1 · May 2017

@kristimh80 - Good luck today!

FX you get good news today @Labluver2

Ilky · May 2017

Good luck girls! I'll be thinking of you

Labluver2 · May 2017

I'm out BFN:( Dr wants to do more aggressive treatment with injections. I think he said folical stimulating hormone along with femera and trigger. Has anyone done this and what exactly does it do?

kristimh80 · May 2017

@Labluver2 So very sorry!! I did Femara and follistim for a couple of rounds, both times ended up with 1 big follicle and 1 -2 smaller ones. When my Dr boosted me to follistim injectables alone, my body really responded and how I got 4 good follicles this time on a low daily dose alone. Femara Is a lot like clomid in how it works but with less side effects...bacisically suppresses estrogen so your body produces more. FSH / follistim is stronger and will help stimulate and produce more eggs. I wish I could have responded better on Femara being it's inexpensive, but now I'd only do follistim injections...it's worth the extra $ and didn't thin my lining.

Labluver2 · May 2017

@kristimh80 last cycle I did Femera and just the trigger this time he wants to do femera and the FSH injections along with the trigger if needed. I had 2 nice sided folicals but I'm guessing he wants to see if I respond and get more than 2 folicals this time. The clomid thinned my lining. I just had hot flashes on the femera.

mockingjay1 · May 2017

@Labluver2 - I'm so sorry for the BFN. I haven't been on FSH, but I hope it works well for you next cycle!

Labluver2 · May 2017

@dmo1371 thank you!!! I'm just glad its Friday and I have the weekend to just relax. Spending tonight binge watching Netflix and cuddling with the pups the husband just ran out to pick up some pizzas!!!!

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