Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Sleep Regressions/Sleep Help
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600am - nurse
700am - breakfast solid
900 - breakfast snack
1000am - bottle
1030am - nap
1pm - lunch
2pm - bottle
3pm - nap
4pm - snack
5pm - nurse
6pm - dinner & then desert
7-730pm - nurse, then bed between 730&8pm
7 wake up + bottle
8 breakfast
9-11 nap
11 wake + bottle
12 lunch
1-3 nap
3 wake + bottle
4 snack
530-6 dinner
7 bottle
730 down for the night
the afternoon nap isn't always consistent, but the morning nap is very consistent! If he doesn't get that nap the rest of the day is shot.
7am- Wake up and breakfast with formula in sippy cup
9am- Nap
11am-Wake up and lunch with formula
1pm- Nap
3pm- Wake up (occasional snack if she seems hungry)
5pm- Dinner with formula
7pm- Bedtime
6-7 wake up and Nurse.
7- 1st breakfast
9- 2nd breakfast
9:30-10:30 1st Nap
Lunch
2-3:30-2nd Nap
6:00-Dinner
7:30-8:30- Bedtime
She nurses in there whenever she wants too. Her nap times are not set. But between those times she'll go down. Sometimes they're 40 mins sometime they're 2.5 hours.
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I'm definitely starting to stress a bit about the transition away from the bottle at 1 and away from formula to whole milk. I feel like that is SUCH a big change and have no idea how it is going to go. S still takes a MOTN bottle...do you just give them a sippy with whole milk? I usually just have the powder in the bottle ready to go in her room...I don't think I can leave a cup of milk sitting out until 4am...
She loves eating now but she still hasn't dropped any bottles. I THOUGHT we were close to dropping one this weekend but it didn't happen. She wigged out when it came time for dinner and refused to eat any regular food and would only take the bottle.
-this is more of feeding stuff, thought I was in that thread and not the sleep thread, oops. Transferring over
Similar topic: does anyone else have a baby that fights them tooth and nail at bedtime? Probably 5 out of 7 nights we fight for at least 30 mins. He's exhausted but just does not want to go to bed. We've also started waking up A LOT. I'm talking once an hour. Sleep regression sucks. So does teething.
@DachshundMomma I haven't had that issue in a long time, but I learned with DS that if bedtime is a fight, I'm putting him down too late. DS also sometimes needs a calm down period, so I keep his room toy/clutter free except for books and sometimes we will go in there and I'll let him crawl around and open/clothes the books, but we talk soft and all movement/touches are soft. It seems to help him unwind and relax for bed
I'll be pushing for 2 naps and/or an earlier bedtime to see if that helps. Momma is tired today.