Not sure who can live stream but I found a show called Love Child - its Australian takes place in the sixties and is about girls in a maternity house for unwed mothers. Kind of soapy but good!
Anyone else's pets acting different? Our "antisocial" cat who usually pretends she doesn't want to be around us is insisting on being by me a lot lately, she insisted on sitting in the bathroom while I took my bath tonight...
@KLink15 I don't have any but my best friends cat just stares at me the entire time I am at her house now and he never used to pay me any attention. I know a few women on here mentioned they've seen changes with their pets.
Also my midwife called and my genetic tests came back low risk. I am so so happy.
This cat is suddenly obsessed with being near me. I am her favorite person, but that's not saying much. One of our dogs insists on sleeping close to my belly now too. That was actually one of the things that made me test as early as I did. She had puppies before we had her so part of me felt like she had a maternal instinct going on.
I'm really upset and don't know where to post but it's random so here I go.
When we we told my MIL (FI's mom) about the baby she reacted poorly. Said she wished we hadn't told her until we were out of "the danger zone." Whatever.
Last night he excitedly called his his mom to tell her we're having a girl. Response - "oh. Are you sure? I was hoping for a boy." And eventually "well she can have another one..."
i get that she was hoping the family name would go on. No other babies forthcoming from his family. I get that she liked our boy name (her late husband's name). I get that there's nothing to DO about it. But I am really, REALLY upset.
~Mom to an amazing Jan 2011 boy~ ~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
She sounds lovely, @pawcall. I get that she might be sad about the family thing or not having the grandbaby named after her husband, but who actually says that?!
@pawcall sorry about your MILs reaction. Just remember her bad reaction is her problem not yours. She will come around she just has started in a really bad place.
@pawcall wow...I have no words. That's such an awful thing to say and do. Even down to the "she can have another one" as if the one you're having should just be tossed aside and forgotten like a bad test. I'd be upset too. You have every right to be.
Guys, when is baby no longer behind the pelvic bone? Google is no help with this. Is it like now-ish when I can definitely see my uterus sticking out a bit? Where's silly question Sunday when you need it lol
Guys, when is baby no longer behind the pelvic bone? Google is no help with this. Is it like now-ish when I can definitely see my uterus sticking out a bit? Where's silly question Sunday when you need it lol
It depends on where baby is in your uterus, really. I just had my NT scan and, while my uterus is almost at my belly button, baby is still chilling just above my pubic bone.
Guys, when is baby no longer behind the pelvic bone? Google is no help with this. Is it like now-ish when I can definitely see my uterus sticking out a bit? Where's silly question Sunday when you need it lol
@DuchessOfCambridge from what I've read, they say at the 12 week mark the uterus comes up out of the pelvic bone. It's when most will start to show that cute little bump!
@pawcall what a disheartening thing to say. As if you made a mistake this time around and will get it right next time. Maybe she needs to be reminded or informed that her son is who determines the sex of the baby.
Not sure where to ask this but since I'm already on this board, I'll ask here. Why do I not get any notifications if someone tags me? Is there a way to "turn on" notifications? I've looked everywhere and can't seem to find anything.
Not sure where to ask this but since I'm already on this board, I'll ask here. Why do I not get any notifications if someone tags me? Is there a way to "turn on" notifications? I've looked everywhere and can't seem to find anything.
Are you on mobile? I don't get notifications on mobile, only desktop.
@ugoglencoco I would also drink that soup. @baycamp legit just posted about sex party day in another thread. I hope you plan to ignore your entire family as soon as you get the reveal and come tell us instead!
I had the hardest time explaining to a self-proclaimed super feminist why she was being anti-feminist towards pregnant women. Background: She is not pregnant and has expressed many times how far away she is from wanting to have a baby. She also goes into great detail about all of her medical issues to people who don't know her very well.
Her comment: Women shouldn't publicly announce until after first trimester, when risk is lower.
My response: Women are allowed to do whatever they want, whether that's share this amazing news with everyone right away, or keep it to themselves until they're ready to tell. There is no wrong answer.
Her: No, I don't think so, I think it's inappropriate.
Me: People need to stop telling women to keep quiet about the happiest news in their lives, and then to tell them to keep even more quiet about the saddest news in their lives. Overall, we need to stop telling women what to do. (Took that from @ElizabethSchuyler!)
She still disagreed! It was amazing. Not even feminists think pregnant women are people, apparently.
@DuchessOfCambridge omg . I am so done with people hiding miscarriages. If that's how you cope than 100 % I'm cool with that but I know so many women who cope better with things by being open and discussing it and feeling the support of their community. I hate that pregnant women are silenced so that we don't make others sad if we experience a loss. Totally if it would make you uncomfortable to announce a loss then don't announce your pregnancy until later, but if you're fine announcing a loss or having everyone know that you experienced one then announce the day you pee on the stick. Seriously people. Stop telling me when to do.
@DuchessOfCambridge So maddening! I consider myself a feminist and think pregnant women should share whenever they darn well please. Do what you need for support and happiness as long as you aren't harming others. Applies to a whole lot more than pregnancy.
I've never felt so isolated as after my losses. I didn't tell mostly because I wasn't sure how work would react (male dominated industry).
I'm personally staying open to the idea of becoming a SAHM for a few years after this one is born. I'll try going back to work after maternity leave, but my mental and physical health are more important to me than going back to work right away. If I do that, I'll be expecting some snarky "Why are you wasting your PhD staying home?" I already get the "I'd never have a daycare raise my kids" crap on occasion.
The concept of letting people figure out what works for his/her family is so simple but under used.
@pawcall Im so sorry you got that reaction from your MIL. That was so ridiculous and over the line. Hopefully your DH is in your corner.
@DuchessofCambridge First, I think the uterus thing varies from woman to woman. I'm a FTM at 13 weeks and started out slightly overweight, so I don't see any difference in my belly. I might even be a bit smaller now that I'm less bloated. I'm jealous of everyone here with bumps already.
Regarding your "friend", I'm so sorry she's being ridiculous. That opinion has nothing to do with being a feminist. I hate when people project their own opinions about how to live their life on others. If she doesn't want to announce until 2nd tri, good for her - she gets to have that opinion about her pregnancy ONLY, if and when she's pregnant. I do admit when other people announce on social media super early, I do worry about what they'll do if they have a MC, but that's only because I know how hurtful random comments from relative strangers can be in that event. But I would never say someone should or shouldn't announce. Their pregnancy? Their rules. My pregnancy? My rules. It's that simple. I see this view point as more "feminist" than your friend's.
ETA: I've gotten the reverse comment from a couple friends. "why don't you want to announce at work at 14 weeks or tell this other friend now? You should do that!". No, I should do what I'm comfortable with.
@bcashaw@alparodi@RiverSong15 it's super frustrating! She knows I'm pregnant too and wouldn't listen to an actual pregnant person who said that - even one who wanted to wait until later to announce (we're doing that this weekend at 13 weeks).
@alparodi people are seriously rude. Women can't win. If you go back to work, you're an evil mom who hates her children. If you stay home, you're lazy. Do what's right for your family, everyone else can suck it.
@DuchessOfCambridge yes, yes, yes! Why is the world always trying to dictate what women should do, say, think, act, feel etc. And I hate it when women do it to other women. It's maddening. Okay, I'm done now.
So one of my bffs has already said she wants to throw my local shower. I was gracious and thankful but asked her to please coordinate with my little sister who really wants to be involved but is a little too young to do it herseld and my other mutual good friend who also wanted to do something. apparently she has completely taken over, made all the decisions and the other two feel left out. In addition my sister told me the venue and it's completely inappropriate for the time of year. It's basically a park with limited coverage in the Fall in PA. We get snow in the Fall here. And the only bathrooms are porta-potties. It's also on this random backroad that if you're unfamiliar with the area you won't find (most of my guests willl come from MD). I reay appreciate her throwing me a shower but I feel like I need to say something. Is that rude of me?
One of my cats has been sneaking in my room to sleep with me at night. She was the same way with my last pregnancy. I kept waking up last night because she was sleeping right by my stomach and I was afraid to roll over on her. I had a picture of her cuddling my bump from last pregnancy but now I can't find it.
Hi five to my body for finally letting me get through a shift without feeling like absolute crap at some point. Here's for it to happen again tomorrow.
Re: Weekly Randoms 5/8
Also my midwife called and my genetic tests came back low risk. I am so so happy.
This cat is suddenly obsessed with being near me. I am her favorite person, but that's not saying much. One of our dogs insists on sleeping close to my belly now too. That was actually one of the things that made me test as early as I did. She had puppies before we had her so part of me felt like she had a maternal instinct going on.
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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When we we told my MIL (FI's mom) about the baby she reacted poorly. Said she wished we hadn't told her until we were out of "the danger zone." Whatever.
Last night he excitedly called his his mom to tell her we're having a girl. Response - "oh. Are you sure? I was hoping for a boy." And eventually "well she can have another one..."
i get that she was hoping the family name would go on. No other babies forthcoming from his family. I get that she liked our boy name (her late husband's name). I get that there's nothing to DO about it. But I am really, REALLY upset.
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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@pawcall sorry about your MIL. What an awful reaction.
Also somehow made me tear up... don't judge me
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
@pawcall sorry your MIL is being so awful. That's so uncalled for.
got soup from Panera for lunch and they forgot to put a spoon in my bag. I'm sitting here drinking it because IDGAF
@baycamp legit just posted about sex party day in another thread. I hope you plan to ignore your entire family as soon as you get the reveal and come tell us instead!
Her comment: Women shouldn't publicly announce until after first trimester, when risk is lower.
My response: Women are allowed to do whatever they want, whether that's share this amazing news with everyone right away, or keep it to themselves until they're ready to tell. There is no wrong answer.
Her: No, I don't think so, I think it's inappropriate.
Me: People need to stop telling women to keep quiet about the happiest news in their lives, and then to tell them to keep even more quiet about the saddest news in their lives. Overall, we need to stop telling women what to do. (Took that from @ElizabethSchuyler!)
She still disagreed! It was amazing. Not even feminists think pregnant women are people, apparently.
I've never felt so isolated as after my losses. I didn't tell mostly because I wasn't sure how work would react (male dominated industry).
I'm personally staying open to the idea of becoming a SAHM for a few years after this one is born. I'll try going back to work after maternity leave, but my mental and physical health are more important to me than going back to work right away. If I do that, I'll be expecting some snarky "Why are you wasting your PhD staying home?" I already get the "I'd never have a daycare raise my kids" crap on occasion.
The concept of letting people figure out what works for his/her family is so simple but under used.
@DuchessofCambridge First, I think the uterus thing varies from woman to woman. I'm a FTM at 13 weeks and started out slightly overweight, so I don't see any difference in my belly. I might even be a bit smaller now that I'm less bloated. I'm jealous of everyone here with bumps already.
Regarding your "friend", I'm so sorry she's being ridiculous. That opinion has nothing to do with being a feminist. I hate when people project their own opinions about how to live their life on others. If she doesn't want to announce until 2nd tri, good for her - she gets to have that opinion about her pregnancy ONLY, if and when she's pregnant. I do admit when other people announce on social media super early, I do worry about what they'll do if they have a MC, but that's only because I know how hurtful random comments from relative strangers can be in that event. But I would never say someone should or shouldn't announce. Their pregnancy? Their rules. My pregnancy? My rules. It's that simple. I see this view point as more "feminist" than your friend's.
ETA: I've gotten the reverse comment from a couple friends. "why don't you want to announce at work at 14 weeks or tell this other friend now? You should do that!". No, I should do what I'm comfortable with.
@alparodi people are seriously rude. Women can't win. If you go back to work, you're an evil mom who hates her children. If you stay home, you're lazy. Do what's right for your family, everyone else can suck it.
ETA.
Also 2 newborn shoots.
@DuchessOfCambridge ack. That "feminists" comments also piss me the f off.
People can be terrible.
So one of my bffs has already said she wants to throw my local shower. I was gracious and thankful but asked her to please coordinate with my little sister who really wants to be involved but is a little too young to do it herseld and my other mutual good friend who also wanted to do something. apparently she has completely taken over, made all the decisions and the other two feel left out. In addition my sister told me the venue and it's completely inappropriate for the time of year. It's basically a park with limited coverage in the Fall in PA. We get snow in the Fall here. And the only bathrooms are porta-potties. It's also on this random backroad that if you're unfamiliar with the area you won't find (most of my guests willl come from MD). I reay appreciate her throwing me a shower but I feel like I need to say something. Is that rude of me?