Agreed. It's like my normal autocorrect has adapted to my typing and gets it mostly right. TB's autocorrect makes me sound like an idiot when I don't proofread my posts.
My cousin who I am close to just announced she is getting married in September in Atlanta. Timing is just perfect (insert irony). While I think personally for me I should be okay, my mom who lives in India will be coming for the wedding which means she will stay around for the birth through November at least. My hope was not to have any family around this time- I want to hire a night nurse and just do this myself. My mom actually stressed me out a lot when DS was born. She gets hyper every time the baby cries and does not always do as I want her to. I love her a lot but we just don't get along. This is another reason I have not told her yet that I am expecting. I was going to for mothers day...I'm just now sitting here thinking how to handle. Maybe I can just not tell her and she will attend the wedding and go back! And just tell her I am getting really fat these days. Will that work? Andplusalso I have to wear a sari for the wedding- not very pleasant with a big belly! But that I can deal. My mom- I don't know!
@ShePersisted What about telling her to come back for December when you're settled and in the swing of things? I don't know your relationship with your mom, but I'd just be as close to completely honest as possible. I don't know if she would insist on staying, but I'd be like "We need you more LATER not now." The last thing any family needs is MORE stress when bringing a newborn home. No thank you.
How to actually help after baby is born: 1. Cook. 2. Clean. 3. Laundry. 4. Get me water. Please, of course.
I just had to rain on someone's parade of "yay for caffeine-free, herbal, passion tea for pregnancy!" And I'm like, a quick google search gives you some pretty solid reasons not to drink any hibiscus based teas... and then I got really sad because I just really miss my tea. I used to drink a lot of passion tea and a couple other varieties with hibiscus. I haven't found any pregnancy-safe ones I like.
DS went to a fair with his dad yesterday. It's the first time he's seen him in three months. The jackass didn't put any sunscreen on my "pale as they come" 5yr old and now he looks like a tomato. Why are some men so dumb?! Luckily I started after sun care right away and it doesn't look like his ears with blister anymore. At least DS had fun...
All the random: Not "baby" related so much as DD related, but DD's adoption worker called and made a surprise first visit (for two hours) Friday! (I happened to have taken the day off because DD had her Kindergarten preview day and it worked out.) This is the first contact we've had from the adoption worker which means that now that the court has ordered termination of parental rights, we're actually progressing toward adoption! Excited but now we have twice the paperwork to fill out. One packet for the hospital for baby and another packet for the adoption worker for DD. Also my BIL is getting married on the 27th and I still have 7 out of 10 bridesmaids skirts to make before then... But hey! Second trimester!!! *insert happy dance here*
~Ziggy
Me:27 (diagnosed anovulatory May 2016) DH:29 (normal) Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012 TTC#1 since June 2015 June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying" October 2016- We became licensed foster parents November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
Thanks to everyone who checked on me! Sorry for the MIA status. Life's been crazy and I was sick for a while but we're all good over here!
~Ziggy
Me:27 (diagnosed anovulatory May 2016) DH:29 (normal) Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012 TTC#1 since June 2015 June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying" October 2016- We became licensed foster parents November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
@ElizabethSchuyler the issue is she is almost 70 and its not easy for her to take 24 hour flights so whenever she comes she stays at least 5-6 months at a time and she typically will come once every two years. Honestly I don't mind when she is here, the issue is, not during the time when I am already stressed with a new born... I was borderline post-partum and she gave me hell about giving up breast feeding instead of understanding what I was going through. It was just awful! Maybe I am over thinking...maybe I can be more clearer this time on where I need her help and where I don't.
@ShePersisted You will rock that sari! I don't have any suggestions for you on the mom part. That's tough, and I have a similar situation with my MIL that I'm trying to figure out. So, solidarity. Hope it works out in the best way possible.
@ShePersisted I don't think you're overthinking it at all. Check in and see what her plans are before telling her your news. If she chooses to stay for a few months, you'll need to be very very clear with her. And as it goes with most parents she'll totally listen to everything you say (sarcasm). You don't need that stress in your life.
@ShePersisted does she always/have to stay with y'all? Is there anyone else that she could stay with but maybe just come visit you a bit whenever you were up for it?
~Ziggy
Me:27 (diagnosed anovulatory May 2016) DH:29 (normal) Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012 TTC#1 since June 2015 June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying" October 2016- We became licensed foster parents November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
@shepersisted you're not overthinking at all. Those are legitimate concerns especially with the fear of post partum depression. I'm sorry she made you feel bad about giving up breastfeeding last time. I lived out of state when DS was born and I was soooo stressed out about my mom visiting too soon after I had him. It's nerve wracking and totally legitimate. I would just try to be as clear as you can be since you already know what to expect from her. I'm trying to feel better prepared with my mom too now that we live 15 minutes apart. That's honestly one of my biggest stressors.
@mariposa_767s@zigzag8412 Thanks. Unfortunately no, I have no family where I live and its going to be very expensive renting a place nearby for her. Maybe, I will ask her to go back. She hates winter anyways so maybe I will tell her summer is when I will need her when I get back to work or something like that. Maybe she might cancel her plans for the wedding because I know she would rather accommodate me and being around my kids than my cousin. She has the best intent, we just have very different approaches in life about EVERYTHING!
Yesterday I really wanted granola bars. You know, the not good for you kind, with chocolate chips and crap. Guess what, our grocery store did not have a SINGLE BOX OF GRANOLA BARS WHAT FRESH HELL IS THIS
Me: 32 Husbando: 49 Married Since: 7/29/2012 omgosh
@tourmalily I wanted gas station pizza on Saturday. Not one of them on my way home had pizza. I took it as a sign that it would just make me sick anyway. But I still want pizza so...
My weirdo pregnant nose is making me think one of my favorite candles smells like Chinese food (and news flash...it doesn't actually smell anything like Chinese food...).
We made some serious progress on the nursery this weekend. It was DS's playroom so we got all the toys moved to the family room in the basement, we shampooed the carpets, painted the room, and got the recliner put together. I feel accomplished!
I love when I Google things that are worrying me and Google actually makes me feel better about it. Today's search: chance of baby getting tangled in umbilical cord. Answer: high, but it is ok because baby gets oxygen from it so it's all good.
My cousin who I am close to just announced she is getting married in September in Atlanta. Timing is just perfect (insert irony). While I think personally for me I should be okay, my mom who lives in India will be coming for the wedding which means she will stay around for the birth through November at least. My hope was not to have any family around this time- I want to hire a night nurse and just do this myself. My mom actually stressed me out a lot when DS was born. She gets hyper every time the baby cries and does not always do as I want her to. I love her a lot but we just don't get along. This is another reason I have not told her yet that I am expecting. I was going to for mothers day...I'm just now sitting here thinking how to handle. Maybe I can just not tell her and she will attend the wedding and go back! And just tell her I am getting really fat these days. Will that work? Andplusalso I have to wear a sari for the wedding- not very pleasant with a big belly! But that I can deal. My mom- I don't know!
@ShePersisted our moms might be related. I am (after much therapy) still working on the right boundaries. Where she is from, parents should be revered and taken care of financially, showered w gifts etc. I've tried but that doesn't make her any nicer to me. We had her watch ds for the last 18 mo (it was not my choice!) and it was a nightmare. We paid her and she stayed w us but she would go through these mood swings bc she felt that we should pay her "market". This caused a huge rift and it's changed a lot about how I feel about her. Suffice it to say, I am doing this on my own w baby#2- dh and I are going to hire a night nurse and we have an au pair to take care of ds. She can come visit, but I just don't need the extra drama.
LONG way of saying, I feel where you are coming from. Lucky she lives so far away!!
I just had to rain on someone's parade of "yay for caffeine-free, herbal, passion tea for pregnancy!" And I'm like, a quick google search gives you some pretty solid reasons not to drink any hibiscus based teas... and then I got really sad because I just really miss my tea. I used to drink a lot of passion tea and a couple other varieties with hibiscus. I haven't found any pregnancy-safe ones I like.
I joined TB when I got married (and it was the nest?) anyway, back in 2009 no one knew they were stupid for using their real name in their bump profile name. We were all still using mySpace
@artificialred wait...does that mean the Starbucks passion tango tea lemonade is bad? I've been drinking it for weeks.
Cool story: I currently manage a computer lab that's used for training on base. There are instructors here, on from GA (where we're moving in 2 weeks), who are teaching master planning. I went to school for Economics and Project Management and did a lot of internships in regional planning. I now have an in at a few companies that offer telecommute and such and I'm excited, they even offered me a letter of recommendation. It helps to be chatty and nice I guess haha. I've been bummed lately because I love what I studied but didn't see a way to do it with DH being military and us moving all the time. It might have to wait till after LO but I may just have a career in what I like after all.
@dragonfly87 WOOOOHOOOOOOOOO!!!! So proud! A new chapter begins! I've been celebrating everything with jello because they remind me of jello shots and it feels celebratory so go have some jello !
@bcashaw: Thanks....oh jello sounds so good right now. Especially because nausea is keeping me from enjoying most solid foods. But squishy red jello sounds very appealing!
pregnancy brain moment of the day: just realized I forgot to crop my name out of my ultrasound post. Had to go back and edit. Whoops, now if any of y'all are catfish coming to steal my skin you'll know some more details lol
@BayCamp I finally clicked on the spreadsheet post and added myself and it was SO WIERD that everyone has a name. I can't even remember any of them now but I was reading through it and being like WHAAAT that's her name!?!?!
@dragonfly87 That's amazing! I remember weeks after I got my MBA diploma in the mail I woke up in a panic over thinking I didn't finish something despite the fact that I have that piece of paper (in a FedEx envelope in my closet haha). It's so stressful but so worth it.
Re: Weekly Randoms 5/8
How to actually help after baby is born: 1. Cook. 2. Clean. 3. Laundry. 4. Get me water. Please, of course.
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
Not "baby" related so much as DD related, but DD's adoption worker called and made a surprise first visit (for two hours) Friday! (I happened to have taken the day off because DD had her Kindergarten preview day and it worked out.) This is the first contact we've had from the adoption worker which means that now that the court has ordered termination of parental rights, we're actually progressing toward adoption! Excited but now we have twice the paperwork to fill out. One packet for the hospital for baby and another packet for the adoption worker for DD. Also my BIL is getting married on the 27th and I still have 7 out of 10 bridesmaids skirts to make before then...
Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012
TTC#1 since June 2015
June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN
July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN
August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying"
October 2016- We became licensed foster parents
November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo
March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012
TTC#1 since June 2015
June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN
July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN
August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying"
October 2016- We became licensed foster parents
November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo
March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012
TTC#1 since June 2015
June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN
July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN
August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying"
October 2016- We became licensed foster parents
November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo
March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
Married Since: 7/29/2012
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DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
LONG way of saying, I feel where you are coming from. Lucky she lives so far away!!
DS: 18 months
Dx DOR AMH .2
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Jergens Ultra Healing lotion helps sooo much with sunburn! Has to be the name brand not the store brand. I burn really easily also.
@artificialred wait...does that mean the Starbucks passion tango tea lemonade is bad? I've been drinking it for weeks.
Cool story: I currently manage a computer lab that's used for training on base. There are instructors here, on from GA (where we're moving in 2 weeks), who are teaching master planning. I went to school for Economics and Project Management and did a lot of internships in regional planning. I now have an in at a few companies that offer telecommute and such and I'm excited, they even offered me a letter of recommendation. It helps to be chatty and nice I guess haha. I've been bummed lately because I love what I studied but didn't see a way to do it with DH being military and us moving all the time. It might have to wait till after LO but I may just have a career in what I like after all.
TTC since August 2018
Also I feel like you should all know that I'm still craving redbull. Fml
I just finished my last paper to complete my thesis for my master's degree and graduation is Friday.
I AM DONE. DONE. DONE. DONE.
I am NEVER going to write another paper, take another class or read another boring academic book again!
pregnancy brain moment of the day: just realized I forgot to crop my name out of my ultrasound post. Had to go back and edit. Whoops, now if any of y'all are catfish coming to steal my skin you'll know some more details lol
TTC since August 2018