Our in-laws ask all the time. It honestly bothers me just because I'm still healing from our loss. I don't know half the time what I want. @joberkiser Baby J is the same. Although lately I feel like we're constantly battling teething or a cold or ear infection. She's super clingy and I can't imagine how I would give another baby the same attention and give attention to her. I just have no clue how you figure out how to divide the attention. Maybe once I figure that out I'll be 100% on board with ttc.
SO many times we've been asked. It's so freaking annoying. I don't even try and hide my honest reaction. But I did a lot of years being annoyed by "Where's the ring?", "Where's the baby?" so I'm probably just burnt out on people overstepping their boundaries. We're on different pages about that in our house - I'd like one more. Two is a fine number. My husband says this is it, haha! SO, we'll see. If I can convince him, I know it isn't going to be right away.
Anyone else feel like wonder weeks is getting a little ahead of their kid? This leap, Q is supposed to be able to do puzzles?!? Yeah, that's not happening here... unless the puzzle is how much stuff can he fit in his mouth at once. He also can't show me how big he is with his hands when I ask. He isn't clapping yet either. He will clap my hand but not his own. I feel like I need to just pay attention to WHEN the leap is happening not WHAT is happening during it because I'm starting to get anxious that Q is falling behind.
I may be wrong, but I was under the impression that those skills are ones you should see after the leap is completed? In our case, in about a month she will start showing those signs. But the leap is when she's starting to learn to the very basics to help her get to that point. I think that is what that means??? My LO can't do puzzles either. Or the so big thing. She is just not there yet at all. Anyone who knows more, please correct me!
S had her 9 month appointment today and the development sheet asked if she could play paddy cake or wave hi or bye...um...she can recognize the cat & make a noise when she sees a cat and she can play peek-a-boo, does that count?? Those development questions stress me out. She waves but it's not necessarily at someone saying hi or bye. Guess we have to work on that!
@honeybear40 I was freaking out about our 9 month development questions too! My pediatrician told me not to worry and showed us her scoring based on my answers. She said they put minimum needed skills to advanced skills on there.They don't expect them to be doing everything on the list. That made me feel a lot better! Maybe your pediatrician can share your LOs scores with you?
Same here. @HoneyBear40 but on our sheet has columns at the end of each skill that will have examples like 90% of kids do it by 12 mos 60% by 9 mos. Things like that for each skill. Every skills will have a different ages.
As long as the pediatrician doesn't seemed worried, I wouldn't be either. I was stressed asking her a million questions because everyone keeps giving me their opinion on what baby J should be doing. She just told me she was doing great and to ignore what everyone said.
@shaylalr I wonder if it was something similar going on. I might give the office a call and see if they can explain some of it. This was the first time I've marked no on the development questions (DH has taken her the last couple of appointments though so maybe I'll ask him again...) and it made my mind go into overdrive.
I too, was under the impression that AFTER the leap is done, you'll start to see signs of the new skills. I haven't checked that app in a while. I'm curious what it'll say about M.
She can wave hi/bye, she's just starting to figure out clapping, but we are nowhere near so big or puzzles yet. Her sheet that I filled out asked if she had 3 words, which she totally does not. But, she's walking. Which is not normal for this age. She's walking 4 months earlier than her sister did. They all develop at such different times, I would try not to sweat it
Knowing that those skills are supposed to surface after the leap makes me feel much better. In the earlier leaps, I would read the skills and he was pretty close to doing all of them in the first week of the leap. But these bigger developments have been taking him longer to learn, which was making me anxious. Thanks for the reassurance ladies
I had to answer no to the waving, clapping, patty cake, and talking questions also and it stressed me out! So reassuring to hear others are in the same boat and we aren't behind. That definitely makes sense though that they'd ask the "easy" all the way to "advanced" questions but it's not reassuring when you're in the moment!
Agreed on the impression that the skills are after the leap...even a few weeks after it is supposedly over. She can stack her rings now and is starting to wave...but certainly with no intent, just getting it to sync with saying "hiiiiiii" is a win, haha. I definitely feel like based on S and all of the other babies I personally know it seems like some kids focus on movement first and some focus on words first and they catch up somewhere along the lines. S wants to go...big time...so she has done they physical milestones first and the verbal ones later down the road. My friends who have babies that aren't very mobile became vocal much earlier. Every kid is different.
@arhodes6 I'm sorry your vacation was a nightmare! Sounds like you've got a good plan in place for next time though. I'd love to take a long weekend trip at some point this summer and have found myself wondering how C would handle it.
We are on the same page over here with the developmental skills. C has just started waving hi in the last week but we are nowhere near understanding "so big" or puzzles. He had his 9 month appt the day after Easter & his pedi was happy with where he's at. Like everyone has said, every baby goes at their own rate and sooner or later they will catch up with each other.
C has suddenly turned into a crawling machine and he is pulling himself up on EVERYTHING. Sometimes he seems to think he can walk but he definitely can't walk lol.
Anybody else still toothless? C will be 10 months next week & still no sign of any teeth! I thought for sure he was going to get them early and here we are. Now I am getting paranoid that a bunch are going to come in all at once!
Haha. We thought teething started at 3 months with all Elijah's drool. He's 10 months and got 4 teeth within three weeks just recently. The first one came on the bottom and the other bottom came in a few days later. Same with the top teeth. It feels like it's happening quickly!!!!
We've had teeth since before Christmas and we just got two more over the last 2 weeks. If you're BFing, you're lucky. I've only been bit once but it was enough to make me nervous haha.
Ruby cut three top teeth on Thursday morning. She already had her bottom two. Beck has his top and bottom two, and is working on another top two. My cousins LO is 15 months and has no teeth. They're obviously a little worried.
Still in the no teeth club at 9 1/2 months (9th will be 10 months) but he now has a swollen bump where it's slowly making some progress! (Plus he is super miserable, biting everything)
For what it's worth, I was told with the "words" part, they are looking at them beginning to say 3, 1 syllable words, or 3, 2 syllable sounds consistently. L says Mama, Dada, Mum, Baba (and randomly says hi, no and uh uh. Like baby language "no" while shaking your head no lol) but because he makes the 2 syllable "words" (we don't know why or what baba is, just something he says) they said he met that milestone. So I think using the word "word" can be misleading! (We do healthy families/parents as teachers and always do the milestone/ages and stages paper before we end up at his appointment. Paper work is pretty much identical, and they explain exactly what each question means and what they are looking for/at. That way you answer correctly, know things to help them work on and if you need and intervention program like OT or PT, you get a referral quicker)
We're still in the no teeth club (10 months on the 7th). But have been pretty fussy and bitey (not a word but whatevs lol) she bit me while nursing the other day and I just kinda jumped and scared her too. She has tried to bite her highchair tray, he walker handle and the dogs legs recently lol fun stuff. I also can't add pics on here WTF Bump!?
What are your favorite baby shower games? My mom has given me this task for my sisters shower and I've literally been to two showers (my own included). They're team green.
We did a baby BINGO game, and i loved it. It wasn't awkward like a lot of baby shower games can be, and had nothing to do with my belly. To also helped to keep people interested in what I was opening.
The skills from a leap are all learnable by the end of the leap, but then your baby picks and chooses which skills he wants to learn/practice first. They not really master them until well into the following leap.
AJ is just starting wave, has started opening and closing things (drawers, cabinets), taking larger risks in moving (from like the table to the couch with a big gap), he says mama dada nana baba, and he claps. No puzzles and he only likes to tear down his rings not stack them.
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As long as the pediatrician doesn't seemed worried, I wouldn't be either. I was stressed asking her a million questions because everyone keeps giving me their opinion on what baby J should be doing. She just told me she was doing great and to ignore what everyone said.
She can wave hi/bye, she's just starting to figure out clapping, but we are nowhere near so big or puzzles yet. Her sheet that I filled out asked if she had 3 words, which she totally does not. But, she's walking. Which is not normal for this age. She's walking 4 months earlier than her sister did. They all develop at such different times, I would try not to sweat it
@arhodes6 I'm sorry your vacation was a nightmare! Sounds like you've got a good plan in place for next time though. I'd love to take a long weekend trip at some point this summer and have found myself wondering how C would handle it.
We are on the same page over here with the developmental skills. C has just started waving hi in the last week but we are nowhere near understanding "so big" or puzzles. He had his 9 month appt the day after Easter & his pedi was happy with where he's at. Like everyone has said, every baby goes at their own rate and sooner or later they will catch up with each other.
C has suddenly turned into a crawling machine and he is pulling himself up on EVERYTHING. Sometimes he seems to think he can walk but he definitely can't walk lol.
Anybody else still toothless? C will be 10 months next week & still no sign of any teeth! I thought for sure he was going to get them early and here we are. Now I am getting paranoid that a bunch are going to come in all at once!
Anyone else's mobile app still having picture issues?
Yes, picture issues on the app for me too. @mnkenned
For what it's worth, I was told with the "words" part, they are looking at them beginning to say 3, 1 syllable words, or 3, 2 syllable sounds consistently. L says Mama, Dada, Mum, Baba (and randomly says hi, no and uh uh. Like baby language "no" while shaking your head no lol) but because he makes the 2 syllable "words" (we don't know why or what baba is, just something he says) they said he met that milestone. So I think using the word "word" can be misleading!
(We do healthy families/parents as teachers and always do the milestone/ages and stages paper before we end up at his appointment. Paper work is pretty much identical, and they explain exactly what each question means and what they are looking for/at. That way you answer correctly, know things to help them work on and if you need and intervention program like OT or PT, you get a referral quicker)
I also can't add pics on here WTF Bump!?
AJ is just starting wave, has started opening and closing things (drawers, cabinets), taking larger risks in moving (from like the table to the couch with a big gap), he says mama dada nana baba, and he claps. No puzzles and he only likes to tear down his rings not stack them.
Oh, and this leap plus teething sucks for sleep.
Wonder Weeks seems to be pretty spot on, but puzzles? Ha! She likes to shove the pieces in her mouth.
10 months last week and no teeth here.
E did so big for a week before it was old news. She moves on so quickly from things, it's crazy.