Let's talk about childcare? What is your best case scenario? Who will watch LO? What are costs like where you live?
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
Me: 36 DH 35
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
Re: Childcare
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
I currently pay $25 per day for one child. When the second one comes it will be $40 per day for both. Pretty sweet deal honestly. We only pay for the days that he attends.
Childcare is truly the most stressful part of becoming a parent.
A long rant:
My only real concern with the daycare we're currently looking into is that I am very insistent our child be in a diverse environment from the very beginning. I'm Pakistani and DH is a mix of British/Sri Lankan/Russian Jew so I always want our kid to understand different is good and normal, never weird. The daycare near our new place only has pictures of African American children on their website, so I'm not entirely sure I'm comfortable with that, just as I wouldn't be comfortable with an all white center, all Asian center, all Pakistani center, etc. Diverse to me doesn't just mean "all of another race that is not white" and I'm really looking for a place where my kid will never feel like the odd one out, or see anyone else as the odd one out. I'm also pretty surprised because we live in a big city and are moving to a very family oriented neighborhood and I just expected to see kids from all backgrounds at every daycare. Hoping we see more diversity on our actual tour than they have online!
It's crazy how stressful this whole process is. I feel so bad for all of you who have to deal with crazy expensive day care options that cost more than our annual income! (Looking at you @DuchessOfCambridge )
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
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I've always preferred a center over an in-home. I like that there are a lot of teachers who keep an eye on both the kids and each other. As someone who was raised with both great and terrible nannies, I like that there is more accountability and oversight at the centers.
My ideal situation would be to keep working part time, but I'm not sure if I can make that work financially. I might have to suck it up and pay a bajillion dollars for childcare help in the initial months, and then once I start getting the swing of things consider SAHM until at least the older 1 or 2 are in Kindergarten.
I have an appointment to tour a daycare very close to my house on Tuesday. They have no openings until JANUARY. Good God I hope I make it to my due date and beyond at this point.
It doesn't help that John and I both work almost an hour away from home.
Married Since: 7/29/2012
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DH's mom offered to watch the baby on Mondays and Tuesdays since she is off, but we will see. I think she would be great, but I wouldn't want to burden her with having to do it consistently and having to work full-time.
We will likely end up at a center, but might explore home daycare options. We both work in education and have random breaks throughout the year, so a home daycare may be more flexible and a better fit.
Both sets of grandparents are in the area, and I fully expect that they'll be spending days with this little one here and there, but I just couldn't make myself okay with the idea of expecting any of them to provide care every day...even though they probably would have said yes. Just seems like such a huge obligation, and the control freak in me feels better knowing we have a solid plan for daily care.
Now, if we end up with twins...all bets are off and you better believe I'll be calling in some family favors! (I'm a twin, my mom is a fraternal twin, several other sets in my family as well...haven't had an ultrasound yet, so we shall see!)
Also, the wait list is so long, theyre estimating a 1 year wait-time to get a slot... so with 12 weeks maternity leave, hopefully we will have a slot by then.
Local child care is $110 per day per child. I've heard some are up to $130. Before school is $50. After school is $60. So for me to work and have all 4 kids in care...... $440 per day. That's $8800 a month on average.
I am not qualified for a job that would earn that much...... hence i am a SAHM.
So many decisions but luckily I have a while to make them.
DD is probably the easiest going kid on the planet, but I can barely clean the house with her running around, lol, let alone work.