FFFC: Pick a birth month board and stick with it. I'm a self admitted dirty lurker amongst all boards... but I just don't get the need to respond or be a part of two different groups. There are plenty of us due at the end of the month and you can still contribute! Just like there are plenty of moms who have now had March/April babies or will be induced in April. I wouldn't expect any of our end of the month ladies to all of a sudden jump ship for June just because they go overdue!
***now after posting I realize this is probably not a confession, maybe it's just a confession that I think it is annoying! Lol
Also, if you've only ever lurked in the first place, your original board isn't going to notice if you move your lurking to your "new" board.
+1 I hope this LO is stinking cute too. We thought she was such a pretty newborn when we first met her, but now that we look back on photos we're like wow. She was a cute newborn but still so funny looking to us. She did turn out so cute though, and I get told by strangers all the time. And I have shared a pic once but she has the loveliest curls. DH and mine are wavy so it was a nice surprise. If this LO end up with curls too, I'm going to be sad about cutting it.
While on the topic of looks.. Here's a very selfish FFFC but I hope this LO gets my eyes. Mine are hazel (blue/gold) while DD and DH are brown. But I won't be upset if he ends up with brown eyes too, honestly.
@ShadeofGreen816 a mom friend told me if you don't have any caffeine while they're being cooked, then they're not used to it when you're nursing and you're f*cked because you need coffee and they'll get jittery! So, I also had regular caffeine coffee in the morning, but adhered to one cup a day.
FFFC: Pick a birth month board and stick with it. I'm a self admitted dirty lurker amongst all boards... but I just don't get the need to respond or be a part of two different groups. There are plenty of us due at the end of the month and you can still contribute! Just like there are plenty of moms who have now had March/April babies or will be induced in April. I wouldn't expect any of our end of the month ladies to all of a sudden jump ship for June just because they go overdue!
***now after posting I realize this is probably not a confession, maybe it's just a confession that I think it is annoying! Lol
Peace out, ladies...moving on up to April. HA! Kidding...I don't think I would have survived the drama of most other bump boards.
FFFC: MH sleeps in the guest room most nights (we did this a lot even before being KU, since he's a light sleeper and a horrible snorer and I also snore a bit myself...). I give him trouble for it, because I generally prefer to sleep next to my husband. I've kept it up, but I would be so annoyed if he actually wanted to sleep with me right now. I literally take up 70% of our king sized bed with all my pillows and everything.
I couldn't tell you the last time we shared our bed, unless I really stopped to think it through. H is a huge insomniac and sleeps maybe 2 hours a night, so he never comes into our room. Non-pregnant me hates it. Pregnant me embraces every moment of whipping my preggo pillow around the bed without having to worry about disturbing anyone else!!
@ShadeofGreen816 a mom friend told me if you don't have any caffeine while they're being cooked, then they're not used to it when you're nursing and you're f*cked because you need coffee and they'll get jittery! So, I also had regular caffeine coffee in the morning, but adhered to one cup a day.
I don't think that's necessarily true. I think caffeine crosses the placenta different than it enters breast milk. I think LO actually gets more exposure while pregnant than breast feeding. Can anyone science us on this?
I had no caffeine while pregnant the last 2 times and definitely drank it while breastfeeding with no negative effects. I may or may not have limited myself to 200mg a day this time.... I didn't miss a day of coke and coffee and I feel no shame anymore. I wouldn't have made it through the day.
@mamatowildones@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot maybe should have asked my doc directly?? But we have the same doctor and she *said* she got that info from him so I never did Still I only limited to 1 cup a day so hopefully he's all good
@cato99. I've had caffeine my entire pregnancy too.
I made sugar cookies for DS's Easter Party at school and I couldn't resist a small bite of the raw cookie dough. I'm making a trip to Target to get the safe cookie dough mentioned in Randoms.
@cato99. I've had caffeine my entire pregnancy too.
I made sugar cookies for DS's Easter Party at school and I couldn't resist a small bite of the raw cookie dough. I'm making a trip to Target to get the safe cookie dough mentioned in Randoms.
You won't regret it. I just bought some and ate a big spoonful. It was AMAZING.
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Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10 DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI) BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17
I have another FFFC! I see no/very little reason to avoid raw egg, the risk of salmonella is no higher than bagged salad, nobody told me to avoid that, so if when I make my cake the egg shell is intact and clean, I'm going to eat the damn raw cake batter!
Me - 22 | DH - 32 | Married - 24 May 2014 DS - January 2014
TTC#2 - December 2015
BFP - 6 March 2016 | MC Confirmed - 21 March 2016 TTCAL | April 2016 CP | June 2016 CP | July 2016
I totally ate raw brownie batter last week. The only time I wouldn't is maybe if I was using fresh eggs that were unwashed. But these were not. So I enjoyed at least a full brownie's worth of batter and it was delicious.
@ShadeofGreen816 a mom friend told me if you don't have any caffeine while they're being cooked, then they're not used to it when you're nursing and you're f*cked because you need coffee and they'll get jittery! So, I also had regular caffeine coffee in the morning, but adhered to one cup a day.
I don't think that's necessarily true. I think caffeine crosses the placenta different than it enters breast milk. I think LO actually gets more exposure while pregnant than breast feeding. Can anyone science us on this?
Hm I don't know about this. I had my daily cup my entire first pregnancy but once DD was born, I had to control how much and when I could drink it when nursing. If I had any at all before nursing, DD would be more likely to be fussy/gassy. With that said, I had to wait until after the first morning session, drink some of my coffee (refrigerated), nurse again a couple hours later then drink some more. She was okay that way.
@ShadeofGreen816 a mom friend told me if you don't have any caffeine while they're being cooked, then they're not used to it when you're nursing and you're f*cked because you need coffee and they'll get jittery! So, I also had regular caffeine coffee in the morning, but adhered to one cup a day.
I don't think that's necessarily true. I think caffeine crosses the placenta different than it enters breast milk. I think LO actually gets more exposure while pregnant than breast feeding. Can anyone science us on this?
Hm I don't know about this. I had my daily cup my entire first pregnancy but once DD was born, I had to control how much and when I could drink it when nursing. If I had any at all before nursing, DD would be more likely to be fussy/gassy. With that said, I had to wait until after the first morning session, drink some of my coffee (refrigerated), nurse again a couple hours later then drink some more. She was okay that way.
With this, though, are you sure it was the caffeine? Seems like the acidity of the coffee could have a similar effect. I have no experience with this, just spit-balling. Like @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot said, I'd love some science on this. @mdlorenz maybe!?
I don't go without caffeinated coffee. Period. I have one cup every morning, and sometimes one later in the day, usually when I'm out running errands and I stop for a Dunks. I do limit the daily consumption when pregnant, but I haven't and won't eliminate it. My coffee is what makes my day happen.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
+1 for basically not monitoring caffeine intake. I do not drink coffee, but do still have a couple cans of coke a day. And on occasion sub in a Mt Dew. I gave it up the first few months last pregnancy and limited the rest of the time. None of that happened this time. I'm just trying to make it through with a toddler.
FFFC, I don't want to breastfeed. It didn't work out with DD and I have absolutely no desire to BF this LO. I feel shitty just typing it, but I just don't want to.
I know I have talked about my newfound love of Kickee Pants on here before. While I have managed to curb my spending (it helped that DH put me on restriction), I am still OBSESSED with my b/s/t groups on FB. I am currently watching 3 purges and plan to set my alarm for 3 a.m. for the Spring 3 release. My name is emilyalso and I have a problem.
Re: caffeine. It seems that the effects in either pregnancy or while breastfeeding are pretty vague. Although you are "allowed" more while breastfeeding (300mg) than when pregnant (200mg).
To be clear, I have no judgement for consumption during either pregnancy or while bf'ing. Coffee is my drug of choice and the only way I can function most days.
FFFC, I don't want to breastfeed. It didn't work out with DD and I have absolutely no desire to BF this LO. I feel shitty just typing it, but I just don't want to.
If it makes you feel better you're not alone, I'm happy to try again and see if I feel differently this time, plus I would like LO to at least get the colostrum, but beyond that I have absolutely no desire to breast feed, I don't care if it works out and quite frankly would probably be happier if it didn't because then other people can help.
Me - 22 | DH - 32 | Married - 24 May 2014 DS - January 2014
TTC#2 - December 2015
BFP - 6 March 2016 | MC Confirmed - 21 March 2016 TTCAL | April 2016 CP | June 2016 CP | July 2016
FFFC, I don't want to breastfeed. It didn't work out with DD and I have absolutely no desire to BF this LO. I feel shitty just typing it, but I just don't want to.
This shouldn't be a confession. All that matters is that baby is fed. Don't feel shitty. If you decide what's best for you and LO is to go straight to FF then awesome. You do you.
FFFC, I don't want to breastfeed. It didn't work out with DD and I have absolutely no desire to BF this LO. I feel shitty just typing it, but I just don't want to.
BFing is just not for everyone. You can and will bond with your baby as you feed them in the manner that is best for your family. Your little will be fed, happy, and will thrive. THAT is what matters.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
I drink all the caffeine. Soda, coffee, whatevs....caffiene all day long. I cut out coffee first tri because of MS but kept up tea and soda. I also eat raw cookie doe/brownie batter, sushi, and cold lunch mean sandwiches. I'm the worst "rule" follower.
@Omega20 the second the pee dried on the pregnancy test I said I wasn't breastfeeding. Since then, we've decided to chaperone a missions trip when LO is 6 weeks old and I know that it will be easier to breastfeed while traveling than try and find water and make formula. So the current plan is to attemp to BF and if it works, great! If it doesn't work or we have to really work and I hate it again then we will stop and I'll pay to have an extra suitcase of just formula and water lol. But in all seriousness don't feel bad! You do what works for you and your baby!
When babies are born at work we try not to lie and tell you they are cute if they aren't. We tend to comment on certain body parts (i.e. "Aw she has such cute toes/nose/ears/little mouth" or "look how long he is" or "wow she has so much hair"). If you get a comment about how cute your baby is in general, they probably really are...if we comment on features, they may be a funny looking baby But DD was a super funny looking baby and she is an adorable toddler now! Babies are goofy looking when they are born 90% of the time.
@PartiallyDomesticated@bacorrea@RedInLove@MrsFreeman2010 Thank you AL for the support...I'm glad to know I'm not alone in feeling that way, I've been afraid to say it to anyone other than DH and my mom because everyone is constantly preaching about how awesome BFing is and I just don't think it's for me. When DD was in the hospital I had nothing and as much as I wanted to, I couldn't feed her and when I asked for a bottle, the nurse practically scolded me for it to the point where DH and my mom basically told her to F off and go get the baby a bottle so she can eat. I could've tried again when my milk came in, but at that point I was too upset to and now the whole idea of it doesn't seem right for me. It feels selfish, but I just don't think I'm the right kind of person for it.
FFFC, I don't want to breastfeed. It didn't work out with DD and I have absolutely no desire to BF this LO. I feel shitty just typing it, but I just don't want to.
im trapped in a box, but don't feel shitty. It's not like there aren't other feeding options, and all this stuff about guilting moms who don't nurse pisses me off. Do what works for you and your family!
@OmegaRose3 don't worry! I go back and forth with it. FTM so I want to try but not putting any pressure on myself. I think I mentioned it before that I really don't think I will like it and that's ok. Baby can get formula! No big deal! He's just gotta eat something!
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
@starphish18 - My guess is that it's the caffeine, but could be something else in the drink since her intake was so low/reasonable? LactMed says: "Caffeine appears in breastmilk rapidly after maternal ingestion. Fussiness, jitteriness, and poor sleep patterns have been reported in the infants of mothers with very high caffeine intakes equivalent to about 10 or more cups of coffee daily..." Source: https://toxnet.nlm.nih.gov/newtoxnet/lactmed.htm
@OmegaRose3 don't let anyone make you feel bad! The nurses at the hospital were the same way with my son when he needed formula- I actually had to sign a waiver or something that I would allow them to give him formula! I felt like such a failure it was terrible. This time around I'm open to whatever happens- but I won't let the nurses boss me around or make me feel bad about anything!
I cut out the daily caffeine, but will occasionally have fully caffeinated Starbucks awesomeness. I feel like having more than the recommended 200mg every now and then isn't the end of the world if it only happens every now and then.
@OmegaRose3 you are definitely not alone in your feelings and you shouldn't let anyone make you feel guilty. I've been dreading breastfeeding again ever since I got my BFP. I'm just not someone that enjoys it and feel more anxious than anything else. I decided that I'm going to try again this time, but if it doesn't work out, formula will work just fine. I'm not going to put the pressure on myself that I did the first time through.
FFSC: I frequently have the feeling that I want the baby to stay right where he is because I don't want to share him with anyone but my husband. I'm already dreading all of the family wanting to visit and hold him constantly. It doesn't help that they like to ask how "my" baby is doing -- as in, their baby.
Our families are just really overbearing, but I feel bad thinking that. I lived far away for 8 years and moved home a year ago, so it's an adjustment... I'm happy with one visit a month and they'd prefer multiple times a week. We're at about an every other week schedule at the moment, but I know it's going to be a constant fight when the baby comes for me to preserve my space.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@kns1988 I hear ya! I was just talking to my mom about this this morning. She's a bit more understanding and I was talking about my bio dad and step mom coming the week after my EDD then my MIL coming at the end of June. It's spaced out but still feels like a lot. How are you supposed to get used to a new baby and deal with company?
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
@OmegaRose3 100% not alone. I change from moment to moment on if I will attempt BFing again this time or not. With DS it was a horrible experience and once we were 100% formula I actually felt like I could bond with him and experience him. I realize this time could be different and my body could produce enough, but I have a hard time believing I would be able to do it with a 1.5 yr old. If I do end up going the BFing route I will be setting a small goal to make it 2 weeks and evaluate from there. You are not alone. We all need to figure out how to have less guilt for whatever we choose. It's hard though.
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While on the topic of looks.. Here's a very selfish FFFC but I hope this LO gets my eyes. Mine are hazel (blue/gold) while DD and DH are brown. But I won't be upset if he ends up with brown eyes too, honestly.
@ShadeofGreen816 a mom friend told me if you don't have any caffeine while they're being cooked, then they're not used to it when you're nursing and you're f*cked because you need coffee and they'll get jittery! So, I also had regular caffeine coffee in the morning, but adhered to one cup a day.
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
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I may or may not have limited myself to 200mg a day this time.... I didn't miss a day of coke and coffee and I feel no shame anymore. I wouldn't have made it through the day.
I made sugar cookies for DS's Easter Party at school and I couldn't resist a small bite of the raw cookie dough. I'm making a trip to Target to get the safe cookie dough mentioned in Randoms.
Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10
DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI)
BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17
DS - January 2014
TTCAL | April 2016
CP | June 2016
CP | July 2016
With this, though, are you sure it was the caffeine? Seems like the acidity of the coffee could have a similar effect. I have no experience with this, just spit-balling. Like @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot said, I'd love some science on this. @mdlorenz maybe!?
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
https://scienceofmom.com/2014/08/08/caffeine-and-breastfeeding/
https://www.infantrisk.com/content/caffeine-intake-pregnant-and-breastfeeding-women
To be clear, I have no judgement for consumption during either pregnancy or while bf'ing. Coffee is my drug of choice and the only way I can function most days.
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DS - January 2014
TTCAL | April 2016
CP | June 2016
CP | July 2016
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
@Omega20 the second the pee dried on the pregnancy test I said I wasn't breastfeeding. Since then, we've decided to chaperone a missions trip when LO is 6 weeks old and I know that it will be easier to breastfeed while traveling than try and find water and make
formula. So the current plan is to attemp to BF and if it works, great! If it doesn't work or we have to really work and I hate it again then we will stop and I'll pay to have an extra suitcase of just formula and water lol. But in all seriousness don't feel bad! You do what works for you and your baby!
When babies are born at work we try not to lie and tell you they are cute if they aren't. We tend to comment on certain body parts (i.e. "Aw she has such cute toes/nose/ears/little mouth" or "look how long he is" or "wow she has so much hair"). If you get a comment about how cute your baby is in general, they probably really are...if we comment on features, they may be a funny looking baby But DD was a super funny looking baby and she is an adorable toddler now! Babies are goofy looking when they are born 90% of the time.
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
LactMed says: "Caffeine appears in breastmilk rapidly after maternal ingestion. Fussiness, jitteriness, and poor sleep patterns have been reported in the infants of mothers with very high caffeine intakes equivalent to about 10 or more cups of coffee daily..."
Source: https://toxnet.nlm.nih.gov/newtoxnet/lactmed.htm
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Our families are just really overbearing, but I feel bad thinking that. I lived far away for 8 years and moved home a year ago, so it's an adjustment... I'm happy with one visit a month and they'd prefer multiple times a week. We're at about an every other week schedule at the moment, but I know it's going to be a constant fight when the baby comes for me to preserve my space.
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20