FFFC 4/14

Nxy · April 2017

Distract my busy mind with some juicy confessions ladies.
With the influx of new people I feel the need to remind everyone confessions are mostly flame free. That doesn't mean your confession won't be disagreed with or flamed if it's especially controversial. Have at it.

BlackNYellow · April 2017

Viability posts have always bothered me. My niece was born at 23 weeks gestation and is very much a viable 10 year old.

bumpybump · April 2017

@BlackNYellow So glad things turned out well for your niece

bumpybump · April 2017

This one's really juicy...or not...I ordered a dozen maternity dresses online for DH's awards dinner next week and they arrive today. I'm going to give my toddler a mini fashion show and then return all but one.

SouthernMama15 · April 2017

I spent over $300 to get my hair done Wednesday night. I only get it done 2-3 times a year, so in the grand scheme of things, not that much.

britvahok · April 2017

@bumpybump that sounds like so much fun!!!

@BlackNYellow happy to hear your niece is doing great! I have a nephew who was born at 24 weeks and he's an amazing 7 year old!

My FFFC is that DH doesn't come to all of my appointments and it doesn't bother me. He's only been to 2 or 3 appointments so far. I overheard someone at work talking about how she makes her DH come to all appointments and would be pissed if he missed one.

littlebug2010 · April 2017

@bumpybump that sounds like so much fun! Getting to try on clothing in your own home, with out the stupid mirrors and lights of a dressing room sounds fun!

@SouthernMama15 I havent spent quite that much on hair in one go, but I used to get my hair trimmed every 6 weeks, and I am sure I spent equivlanet to that! I love getting my hair cut though, its so relaxing.

Speaking of relaxing, I am planning to get a fancy pedicure in a couple weekends when DH is out at an even with some of his acapella alumni friends. Its like 70 bucks, but IDGAF! I want me feet rubbed and polished!

bumpybump · April 2017

@SouthernMama15 I bet your curls are loving it! Did you get color done too?

@britvahok um, that DH has to be bored out of his mind going to all the appointments. DH comes to only the ones with ultrasounds. Last pregnancy I was having ultrasounds every other appointment between weeks 24 and 39. He didn't come to those since it was so much time away. So I'm with you on this one!

bubblesmtu · April 2017

@britvahok- DH only comes to my ultrasound appts too. Why have both of us be bored sitting in a waiting room for hours? Plus, my Dr's office doesn't have a ton of seating and I get annoyed when there's no comfy seats left when there's a bunch of husbands/boyfriends using them.

SouthernMama15 · April 2017

@bumpybump I did! It was great. I was there 4 hours!

MetsGirl18 · April 2017

@britvahok DH came to the anatomy scan and at least one other ultrasound for my other kids and that was pretty much it. This time, he hasn't been to any appointments because I'm trying to make them before work and he needs to get the kids to school/daycare. I don't have an issue with that and couldn't imagine him coming to everything. Plus, he has taken a bit of time off recently to take the kids to various doctor appointments. I'd rather have the support with the kids than at my appointments.

My confession is that I'm not looking forward to going to FIL's for Easter. We're arriving a little before lunch and I guarantee they won't serve lunch. "Dinner" will probably be served around 3 and will likely either not be Passover friendly or will be something I don't like and the kids don't like. Being the only Jewish person in the family, I don't expect the menu to revolve around me. However, it annoys me when there isn't at least something that the kids would like. My kids aren't even that picky. I feel like FIL's wife thinks she's a good cook and tries to show off. Some things turn out okay, but there are plenty of bland or strange dishes. I'm going to eat beforehand and expect to be hungry when I leave there. I'm hoping it turns out better than I expect.

lewliv · April 2017

So I guess my FFFC is that DH comes to every appointment with me and we go out for lunch afterwards. It's our "pregnancy tradition".

Mango517 · April 2017

Unless that woman is having an extremely high risk pregnancy where each appointment could be met with potentially devasting news... otherwise I give her massive side eye. Be an adult. I can go be bored in a waiting room for an hour past my appointment time, pee in a cup, get weighed, listen to 30 seconds of doppler heartbeat and talk to the midwife for 15 minutes all by myself. My husband does not need to take himself out of work for a few hours in order to attend routine appointments. He supports me/the pregnancy plenty but I would find that behavior smothering. I've discovered that this stage of parenting/pregnancy is a new surge of relying on myself and finding new strength within me. I'm rather enjoying it.

EDIT: Infertility appointments, high risk, or SAIF appointments I view very differently as they are a different case completely. My opinion is coming from the viewpoint of a routine pregnancy.

SouthernMama15 · April 2017

DH went to all but maybe 2 or 3 appointments during my 1st pregnancy, but he was working 4 days a week then so he was already off. This time he has been to 2 ultrasounds. The only times I wish he could go with me is when I have to take DS, but I manage. I am a little worried about having to take him when I'm going every 2 weeks and every week.

Mango517 · April 2017

@SouthernMama15 You just reminded me how hard it's going to be next pregnancy when I'm going to have someone other than myself to think about/plan around. Man, that's going to be an adjustment (<--- understatement of the year)

littlebug2010 · April 2017

DH went to my first two Dr appointments and all of the ultrasounds. He went to the first Dr appointment, becuase they were going over family history to determine the testing they would reconmend, and then the second one, becuase we were going to hear the heartbeat for the first time. I ordered a doppler after that, so I could do the fun part of each appointment with him later in the day so he doesnt have to miss work.

SouthernMama15 · April 2017

@Mango517 He's usually pretty good and fortunately the office I go to is very small and I don't have to wait long, but it's stressful at moments. He and my doctor love each other and she usually sits in her lap while she's talking to me. The whole staff loves him and they actually get sad when I don't bring him.

shyviolet-2 · April 2017

@britvahok
DH is not coming to any of mine. He came to the ultrasound appointments with DS but he likes feeling the baby more then seeing and it is easier for me not to schedule around him and DS.

lewliv · April 2017

@Mango17 my Birth Center said before my first appointment that whomever will be your labor partner (required, you cannot be alone) should come to all your appointments. They gave me a big binder and for every appointment there's some subject we have to discuss and sometimes "homework".

Ed. DH is a realtor so he makes his own schedule. It's not a big deal for him to show up.
Also, I don't feel any less independent for having him there. I travel all over the country and the world on my own for work and have no problem with that. Baby will have been to 3 continents and 6 US states before even being born.

dinofreak · April 2017

I ate 2 cupcakes yesterday, and didn't enjoy either of them. I feel gypped

Mango517 · April 2017

@livlew-2 Interesting. I wonder if that's because it's a birth center that's focused more on the whole experience of birth and bonding you two together as a birthing team as compared to the more clinical setting? Regardless, that's the policy of your center and you're following it and enjoying that time together.

This woman sounds like she'd be pissed at her husband for not making it to a routine appointment where he is not required to be there by both the circumstances of her pregnancy or the office she's going to. Granted, I did completely make up that backstory scenario based on almost nothing...

bumpybump · April 2017

I cannot seem to make hard boiled eggs correctly. I follow the instructions to a "T" but they're never fully cooked and the yolks aren't light yellow. I don't get it! I can make difficult and fancy dishes, baked goods, etc but not hard boiled eggs. I should just give up. At least DD had fun decorating them.

knottiee689565f63838b35 · April 2017

DH comes to all of my appointments with me because he wants to. His job is flexible so it works. As a FTM, I enjoy having him there plus he remembers the questions I forget.

My FFFC is that even though I celebrated my birthday early last weekend with family, I am bummed my mom didnt call me on her 25 minute drive to work like she has every year since I moved out. Also, DH was supposed to be home for my birthday for the first time in 6 years and ended up having to work today (leave early & be home late) so I guess I am postponing my birthday until tomorrow. Sigh. It seems petty but being overly emotional at this stage in the pregnancy makes the little things more significant lately.

lewliv · April 2017

@bumpybump I'll add a picture of America's Test Kitchen instructions. It will work!

lewliv · April 2017

@mrsashworth522 Happy Birthday!

smallbutmighty77 · April 2017

I told my DH he could come if he wanted, but no need. With the exception of the 1st, and the 20week, and probably when we get closer. He doesn't have the time off and our appointments always run late.
I say whatever works for you.
My Flame- we are going on a Babymoon next month and I am booking a pre-natal massage at the spa! I do not care if it is pricey, the spa has a private adult only pool, and a little cafe and I want some pampering! I plan to tell DH-if he wants his own massage, great, but I am doing it no matter what.

Mango517 · April 2017

@bumpybump I sympathize! I can't make mix brownies to save my life! They never ever turn out right. From scratch brownies are no problem. But give me a box mix and it's a just mess. I stopped trying years ago.

Now I want brownies.

SarahBethBR · April 2017

My H has come to all of my appointments but one (which was today). I don't make him, and I'd be fine without him there. But we are pregnant after infertility and high risk (twins) so he basically doesn't want me to be alone in case something were to happen. He also works overnight so there's no missing work, just missing sleep.

He didn't come with me for my regular appointment today since we just had the anatomy scan with the high risk doctor yesterday, so he felt confident everything was fine. He's a bit anxious in general and that has definitely extended to this pregnancy!

SarahBethBR · April 2017

For boiled eggs, cover them in water, bring to a boil and immediately take them off heat and cover the pot. Then after 12 minutes drain and cover with ice or run under cold water. They're perfect this way.

DeansGirl14 · April 2017

My FFC is that last weekend I had a shot glass worth of wine on each Saturday and Sunday. And then I felt really bad as this kid was kicking around down there, and washed the wine down with tons of water and my dinner. Sorry Baby.
(I know many women don't mind an occasional glass of wine during pregnancy, especially in the last trimester, but I don't think I'll be one after all!)

bumpybump · April 2017

SarahBethBR said:

For boiled eggs, cover them in water, bring to a boil and immediately take them off heat and cover the pot. Then after 12 minutes drain and cover with ice or run under cold water. They're perfect this way.

Not in this house. I did 15 mins this time and still not fully cooked. I don't get it! And no, they are not extra large eggs or anything.

taylormarie923 · April 2017

DH came to my first appointment and the AS only for both pregnancies. I started 2 week appointments at 16 weeks and have internal and external ultrasounds at each one, so it would just be awkward to have him there. Although, I'm going to have to start bringing my son with me and that's going to be a challenge all on its own.

I dont even think DH came to any peds appointments after the first week or so when I stopped taking meds and could drive myself.

taylormarie923 · April 2017

My fffc is that we made the financial decision to pull my son out of preschool. He had two weeks left, but we got sick this week so I've kept him home and this time together after a year of him in school full time has really proven that I am so not up for SAHM life. I think it's just his age, because we were fine the first two years, but I'm terrified for what's to come when we add two infants into this mix. He will start half days in the public school jumpstart program in August so I'll at least get some break from the threenanger (a term I hate but is so flipping accurate to describe this attitudey Judy) while I juggle the twins. Serenity now.

jadkins2 · April 2017

I let my eggs boile for at least 3 minutes before turning the burner off and they sit covered for 12 like was mentioned. I drain water and cover with cold water and place in the fridge for at least an hour. The longer they sit in the fridge the easier they are to peel.w irks every time. I have a gas burning stove so not sure it electric would he different?

lwhrmomma · April 2017

@bumpybump
I recently bought an InstantPot, and I swear, it's the only way I've ever been able to make hard boiled eggs perfectly. If you eat a lot of hard boiled eggs, it's worth it just for that feature!

Kathryn0903 · April 2017

DH comes to most of my appointments if he's not already working. He doesn't have to, but I think he likes talking to my doctor since he graduated high school with my doctor.

imwithbaby · April 2017

DH has been to all of my appointments buuuttttt we are home birthing so all of them (except ultrasounds) have been at our home. Our midwives come either after 5:30pm or on the weekends so that DH can be there.

imwithbaby · April 2017

@littlebug2010 FYI ankle massages are a no-no during pregnancy (I had no clue until my acupuncturist told me when I got pregnant)! From What to Expect: "Do be sure the manicurist doesn’t massage the area between your anklebone and heel (it could trigger contractions)." Just a heads up!

imwithbaby · April 2017

SouthernMama15 said:

@Mango517 He's usually pretty good and fortunately the office I go to is very small and I don't have to wait long, but it's stressful at moments. He and my doctor love each other and she usually sits in her lap while she's talking to me. The whole staff loves him and they actually get sad when I don't bring him.

*stuck in box*

@SouthernMama15 omg LOLOLOL I totally thought you were talking about your husband not your son and I was like WTF?! But totally on the same page now. Bless.

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f · April 2017

My FFFC (which I'm not at all embarrassed about): We had a ball of fresh mozzarella that we were going to use for homemade pizza tonight. Well, I saw it in there today at lunch and got a craving. Totally ate it like an apple without even slicing. I'm a monster ahhhh.

@taylormarie923 You got this mama. Do what you feel is best for your family/the most stressful for you with twins on the way!

littlebug2010 · April 2017

@mrsmatt1212 I remember reading that. I plan to make sure that they just stick to my feet and stay away from my ankles (despite them being swolen and looking like they need a rub). I will be playing it safe, and sticking just to my feet, but its still going to feel so great!

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