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  • MJDsquaredMJDsquared member
    @Pinky917 Money definitely plays into it for me too! Also, I'm always like, "Oh I should print/frame this picture" and then never ever do it so it's like...yes, let me pay hundreds of dollars for pictures I'll post on Facebook or look at on my computer a few times a year.
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  • MJDsquaredMJDsquared member
    edited April 2017
    @kmalls @LuND Totally agree on cruises! My father took me on a cruise when I graduated high school. My parents divorced when I was a baby, and I have never been that close with my father, so it made it worse, but it was just not for me. My mom is going on her second fancy European river cruise this month though and I'd totally do that!

    And I agree on all-inclusive resorts. I've been to Mexico three times. The first two we were at resorts, but we didn't do the all-inclusive package which was fine with me. I then got to go for free through my work and it was all-inclusive, so it was nice that I could just get a crap ton of drinks all day...but the food was SO meh. We were like a 30 minute cab ride from Puerto Vallarta, but we were like a 30 minute walk from this cute little town with amazing tacos. I so regret the one day we went into PV because we missed out on the real local food.

    Edited because the cruise was when I graduated HS, not college.
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  • MJDsquaredMJDsquared member
    @antoto I LOVED Girls! I actually haven't watched it in a while because our free HBO ran out in the middle of last season I think. We have it back now though so I really want to get caught up! Also I like Lena Dunham and not just the show, which is a super UO.
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  • magnolia131magnolia131 member
    @antoto I like Girls also. I don't have HBO in this apartment but we will subscribe to HBO Now this summer for GoT and my plan is to binge watch both the final season of Girls then (and also catch up on Veep because I love Julie Louis-Dreyfus). Anyways I think Lena Dunham is pretty talented and that Seasons 1 & 5 were especially well done...I'm a big Hitchcock fan and thought the nod to Rear Window in the Kitty Graves episode (Hello Kitty) last season was really cool as well. 
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  • Aurora1973Aurora1973 member
    edited April 2017
    @breezybee-2 I agree about the Christmas cards!  I want to see the whole family!  When I do ours, it's usually a pic or two of OH, DSS, and me on a fun trip from that year.  The card is from our family, so we're all in it!

    Hey, look at me, with my appropriate comma usage :p

    Edited because the grammar snob in me could not stand the error I made!
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  • labgrand2012labgrand2012 member
    Yes, I love oxford commas! It drives me crazy when my clients take it out of the marketing content we create!

    My UO is that I hate certain kinds of rewarding employees/co-workers for doing their job. We just implemented a new project management tool and we are now hard core on checking off tasks and logging your time to that task. If you don't check your task off, the next person will not see they have something to do, so it is very important. Higher ups want to reward those that do it with some small give away. I get that there is a lot of change going on right now so they are trying to bring some positiveness to it, but I feel like this is part of your job (they should have been doing it before, but didn't) and that it should be more of a you will get warned if you don't do it verses rewarding you for doing it. Now, we finish a huge project on time that had some difficulties, should be rewarded.
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  • kmallskmalls member
    edited April 2017
    LuND said:
    kmalls said:
    I think cruise ships are gross and cruise vacations are kind of trashy. I definitely side eye people who OMG LOVE to go on cruises. 

    This does not include European river boat cruises, which are all luxury and holy shit do I want to go on one of those. 

    I think we may be the same, awesome person.

    I mean, if someone gifted me a cruise vacation I wouldn't turn it away, but I'd never choose to spend my money on one. I find them analogous to floating vacation Wal-Marts. 

    I also think that all-inclusive resorts can be awful. I like the whole unlimited food and booze, but I hate that they generally try to keep people from going off the resort and experiencing the REAL local culture. I got married at a Sandals resort in Jamaica. We did this because it was a destination wedding and 50% of the guests had never traveled out of the US before and were more comfortable at an all-inclusive. While it was nice, being on the resort was NOT experiencing Jamaica and felt like a pre-package, canned vacation. It was actually a little depressing at times. 
    @LuND lololololol it's so funny you say that, when we were booking our honeymoon, our travel agent was pushing Sandals in Jamaica HARD.  I have no doubt your wedding was gorgeous and your guests had a fucking great time, but it was just not the kind of honeymoon we were interested in taking. Every time she mentioned it, we were like "uhhhh sounds cool, but...pass." 
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  • labgrand2012labgrand2012 member
    Sorry, I have another one since we are on the top of showers. My UO is that I don't think it is tacky to ask for money for a wedding shower/present. I will add, if it is done a certain way. I think you should do a smaller traditional registry for those who like to buy things, and a funding registry in addition so people can chose what they want to do. I am really liking the new Honeymoon registries that you can do. When I buy something for someone, I want them to use it and love it. So I would rather give money that they will use vs. a gravy boat that will sit on a shelve. I also think memories last longer than physical possessions, so I would rather help you create an amazing memory. 
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  • MJDsquaredMJDsquared member
    edited April 2017
    @Aurora1973 So agree about baby showers! I'm guessing both sides of the family will want to throw showers (they're in separate states) so I'm cool with that. But if I have multiple children and someone's like, "I wanna throw a shower!" for subsequent babies I'll probably kindly ask them not to.

    @JJMNO1616 OMG yes! Every time someone's like, "It's secret until after they're born!" I'm like...it's a secret from a bunch of strangers on the Internet???
    Also, this is probably a terrible idea but now I really feel like I have to stalk the Dec BMB to see what you mean...even though once I figure it out it won't be good. ETA: Found it.
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  • MJDsquaredMJDsquared member
    @5099peperk YES. We actually didn't register at all and one of my mom's friends was SO upset about it. She bought us a Keurig for the shower and silverware for the wedding. I promptly returned the silverware because I just wanted money.
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  • kmallskmalls member
    LoveInDC said:
    5099peperk said:
    Sorry, I have another one since we are on the top of showers. My UO is that I don't think it is tacky to ask for money for a wedding shower/present. I will add, if it is done a certain way. I think you should do a smaller traditional registry for those who like to buy things, and a funding registry in addition so people can chose what they want to do. I am really liking the new Honeymoon registries that you can do. When I buy something for someone, I want them to use it and love it. So I would rather give money that they will use vs. a gravy boat that will sit on a shelve. I also think memories last longer than physical possessions, so I would rather help you create an amazing memory. 
    Ooof. I'm just going to say that  I want to flame this so badly, and leave it at that. I just came from the wedding boards and had this "argument" too many times to count. But for now, I'll agree: yes, that is a very UO.
    @LoveInDC -- YUP
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  • LoveInDCLoveInDC member
    kiki75 said:
    *SNIP*
    UO: I think it is so, so gross when guys have fingernails that are very long at all. Makes my skin crawl. 
    THIS. DH for some reason always leaves white when he cuts his nails. He complains about them growing so fast, but they're still long after he cuts them down! It drives me crazy. His nails are longer than my 90% of the time and it drives me crazy. And when it's toe nails *shutters* I want to cut them myself sometimes just to get rid of the nastiness!
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  • LoveInDCLoveInDC member
    hartmich said:
    LoveInDC said:
    5099peperk said:
    Sorry, I have another one since we are on the top of showers. My UO is that I don't think it is tacky to ask for money for a wedding shower/present. I will add, if it is done a certain way. I think you should do a smaller traditional registry for those who like to buy things, and a funding registry in addition so people can chose what they want to do. I am really liking the new Honeymoon registries that you can do. When I buy something for someone, I want them to use it and love it. So I would rather give money that they will use vs. a gravy boat that will sit on a shelve. I also think memories last longer than physical possessions, so I would rather help you create an amazing memory. 
    Ooof. I'm just going to say that  I want to flame this so badly, and leave it at that. I just came from the wedding boards and had this "argument" too many times to count. But for now, I'll agree: yes, that is a very UO.

    ETA: *Deep breaths* sorry about that. Hit a bit of a nerve there. I'll edit to say I agree with you in principle, but not in practice. Wanting money over things = cool, fine. Registering for money = not cool on so many levels
    I think the difference here @5099peperk is that it's tacky to "ask for money". Not registering is one thing, but writing things like "we prefer money" or making those honeymoon registries is just bad etiquette. 
    Not to mention that if you use those honeymoon registries, your guests are paying to give you money. They could write you a $100 check, or they could spend $107 to symbolically gift you a massage and you still get a check for $100.
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  • jsnakeholejsnakehole member
    Our best man gave us $1000 credit on Delta as a wedding present, but that was more because my husband was about to leave.
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  • pebbledampebbledam member
    edited April 2017
    @LoveInDC, @kiki75 - It seems so sexist to hate on guys with long nails, but I can't help it, I'm right there with you! Especially the long toe nails! DH wears flip flops all the time and I have seriously thought about demanding to cut his toe nails for him! 

    @5099peperk - You have inspired my UO: I don't like fine China. It's impractical and takes up too much space. Oh, and the first time I used DH's China, I broke the serving platter. 

    Eta dammit, autocorrect
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  • AlohaKumuAlohaKumu member
    @LuND I'm also on board the Oxford comma train! It's super goofy, but sometimes DH will lean in closely and whisper, "Oxford comma." When we were first dating, I said it was sexy when a man knows how to use one properly, so he thinks I'll get all hot and bothered when he says the phrase.

    I agree with @LoveInDC on the "money registries." If you are telling people that they have no choice but to give you money, it's in poor taste. I often end up writing a check for weddings and whatnot, but no matter how nicely people ask, it comes across as a demand for money.
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  • labgrand2012labgrand2012 member
    edited April 2017
    hartmich said:
    LoveInDC said:
    5099peperk said:
    Sorry, I have another one since we are on the top of showers. My UO is that I don't think it is tacky to ask for money for a wedding shower/present. I will add, if it is done a certain way. I think you should do a smaller traditional registry for those who like to buy things, and a funding registry in addition so people can chose what they want to do. I am really liking the new Honeymoon registries that you can do. When I buy something for someone, I want them to use it and love it. So I would rather give money that they will use vs. a gravy boat that will sit on a shelve. I also think memories last longer than physical possessions, so I would rather help you create an amazing memory. 
    Ooof. I'm just going to say that  I want to flame this so badly, and leave it at that. I just came from the wedding boards and had this "argument" too many times to count. But for now, I'll agree: yes, that is a very UO.

    ETA: *Deep breaths* sorry about that. Hit a bit of a nerve there. I'll edit to say I agree with you in principle, but not in practice. Wanting money over things = cool, fine. Registering for money = not cool on so many levels
    I think the difference here @5099peperk is that it's tacky to "ask for money". Not registering is one thing, but writing things like "we prefer money" or making those honeymoon registries is just bad etiquette. 
    Yes, I should probably have been more detailed in what I think doing it a certain way is. I don't think sending a poem that basically says give us money is acceptable at all, but I do like the honeymoon registries where can you set up funds for certain activities and items for people to contribute to. So you know what your money is going to and can even pick something you enjoyed or always wanted to do. But it is never ok to just say give me money. 

    @loveindc Sorry to hit a nerve. I know it is an UO and a much debated one. I also think it depends on where you live and how much tradition they have/follow. Where I am from we have one of the tackiest traditions called the money dance. You pay to dance with the bride. I get where its coming from in the old days as a way to help the couple get started as it was probably when they were first moving out on their own blah blah blah, but now a days that is not usually the case. 

    ETA: I still think you need to do a "traditional" registry. Plus you can get all the cool kitchen gadgets!  
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  • LoveInDCLoveInDC member
    @5099peperk You and I are cool, don't worry :) I think there are creative ways to contribute to a honeymoon (@JJMNO1616 and @jsnakehole both gave great examples) if a guest really wants to. Otherwise, create a small registry (or none at all!) and let the guest find their own way to show their support. But those money registry sites are the worst kind of evil.
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  • EmilyLove25EmilyLove25 member
    This thread is great. I hate striking nerves, but my UO is that I cannot stand people who use the word adult as a verb and think it is cute or funny; I'll note I especially hate it when someone writes a post that says, "I laid in bed all day. I just could not adult." In general, I dislike it when adults infantilize themselves. 
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