@Daniep08 - She's deciding your due date based on the size of your uterus? When you haven't had a PP period since your last kid? I would not be comfortable with that at all. What if you're actually 8 weeks and not 12 and go past your given due date? You could be forced to induce a baby that is actually not even to term yet. Dating isn't accurate once you get to 20 weeks, so an ultrasound then will not help determine an accurate due date. With your situation, I would 100% push for a dating ultrasound. A week one way or another with a longer cycle/late ovulation, I wouldn't care, but a possible 4 week difference is a lot of baby development.
@Daniep08 I completely agree with @kissthesky32 -- please get a second opinion. Four weeks is a huge difference.
She offered an ultrasound to me if I was really concerned. I'm not really not that worried about it. This will be my 4th baby and I always go overdue by a week to ten days. The baby will come when it comes. She monitors everything very closely at the end such as with non stress tests, and ultrasounds if there is a reason for thinking the fluid is high or low. Unless there is reason for concern I don't plan on being induced. I trust my midwife and I trust my own body to do what it needs to.
With DD1 I thought I was due around May 2, my 12week ultrasound they had my due date as May 22nd. My 22week ultrasound had my due date at May 10th. The rest of my pregnancy I was measuring 3-4weeks ahead. She was born perfectly healthy and full term on May 29th. Babies come when they come.
She offered an ultrasound to me if I was really concerned. I'm not really not that worried about it. This will be my 4th baby and I always go overdue by a week to ten days. The baby will come when it comes. She monitors everything very closely at the end such as with non stress tests, and ultrasounds if there is a reason for thinking the fluid is high or low. Unless there is reason for concern I don't plan on being induced. I trust my midwife and I trust my own body to do what it needs to.
With DD1 I thought I was due around May 2, my 12week ultrasound they had my due date as May 22nd. My 22week ultrasound had my due date at May 10th. The rest of my pregnancy I was measuring 3-4weeks ahead. She was born perfectly healthy and full term on May 29th. Babies come when they come.
This response boggles my mind. What about when you hit 42 weeks by this guess of a due date and you're pushed to induce? (Because even midwives won't let you go further [or much further] than that.) You'd be cool inducing a potentially 38 week baby? If you're against the dating ultrasound, I'd at least ask her to keep with the later due date. If she's right and you go "early", that's not nearly as big of a deal as potentially inducing a not to term baby.
She offered an ultrasound to me if I was really concerned. I'm not really not that worried about it. This will be my 4th baby and I always go overdue by a week to ten days. The baby will come when it comes. She monitors everything very closely at the end such as with non stress tests, and ultrasounds if there is a reason for thinking the fluid is high or low. Unless there is reason for concern I don't plan on being induced. I trust my midwife and I trust my own body to do what it needs to.
With DD1 I thought I was due around May 2, my 12week ultrasound they had my due date as May 22nd. My 22week ultrasound had my due date at May 10th. The rest of my pregnancy I was measuring 3-4weeks ahead. She was born perfectly healthy and full term on May 29th. Babies come when they come.
Babies do NOT just come when they are ready. This is the one cutesy little saying about pregnancy that I hate the most. What about pre term babies? What about women who have to get induced when they're overdue because their placenta is detiorating and baby isn't coming on its own? Sure, some babies do come at just the right time, but lots of babies don't due to all kinds of issues and complications.
If you're comfortable winging it with your mid wife that is your own choice, but for the benefit of others here... it is not true that babies just come when they're ready.
ETA: this came off way harsher than I intended. The implication that babies come when it's time or that our bodies know what to do just really, really bothers me (obviously). I'm generally totally supportive of midwives and skipping ultrasounds, but when you have no idea when you conceived and the difference could be 4 weeks, it seems shocking that a midwife would be fine with winging the EDD like that. But if you are comfortable with her and trust her opinion, and she monitors everything closely like you said, ultimately everything should be fine!
@TallMomma29 Thank you for saying that. I was trying to figure out the wording I wanted for the post above, but didn't have anything as eloquent, so scrubbed responding to that phrase in my post.
I'm so tired I just tagged myself. *sigh* Coming from someone with a deteriorating placenta at 39 weeks, I could have lost her by letting her come when she wanted.
Advances in medical technology are wonderful. At the end of the day, you are the advocate for your child. If you have concerns, you have to be the one to fight for them.
@adirat I hate that saying (that they come when ready) with a passion. *TW* It's horribly offensive to anyone who had gone through preterm labor or experienced child loss / miscarriage. */TW*
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
Dating can also be super important if the hospital you are going to deliver at doesn't have a higher level NICU. My first came at 36 weeks and couldn't breathe on his own. They had me deliver at the hospital that could give my son the care they knew he would need because they knew exactly how many weeks he was and that he would likely need the NICU. Had this been a surprise I would have delivered at my neighborhood hospital and he would have had to have been rushed to the other hospital 45 min away from us.
@jka427 DS2 came at 36 weeks and was born at a community hospital. He had to get transferred to Boston to a hospital with a NiCU and I had to sign out of my community hospital AMA hours after giving birth to go with him, because they won't transfer the mother, only the baby and I was not letting him be alone. 2 weeks and a lot of interventions later, we brought him home with us.
@Daniep08 so yes, for me, he came when he wanted, but it wasn't the right choice for him!!
@cmessamore that is exactly what I was talking about. I'm so sorry that you went through that I was lucky because we had warning he was going to be early and they made the decision for me to drive to the other hospital in Baltimore.
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With DD1 I thought I was due around May 2, my 12week ultrasound they had my due date as May 22nd. My 22week ultrasound had my due date at May 10th. The rest of my pregnancy I was measuring 3-4weeks ahead. She was born perfectly healthy and full term on May 29th. Babies come when they come.
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If you're comfortable winging it with your mid wife that is your own choice, but for the benefit of others here... it is not true that babies just come when they're ready.
ETA: this came off way harsher than I intended. The implication that babies come when it's time or that our bodies know what to do just really, really bothers me (obviously). I'm generally totally supportive of midwives and skipping ultrasounds, but when you have no idea when you conceived and the difference could be 4 weeks, it seems shocking that a midwife would be fine with winging the EDD like that. But if you are comfortable with her and trust her opinion, and she monitors everything closely like you said, ultimately everything should be fine!
Advances in medical technology are wonderful. At the end of the day, you are the advocate for your child. If you have concerns, you have to be the one to fight for them.
1. Babies will just come when they're ready.
2. You can't grow a baby too big to birth.
Be safe fellow November friends
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@Daniep08 so yes, for me, he came when he wanted, but it wasn't the right choice for him!!