Thanks for the support/solidarity guys. I'm sorry so many of you are in the same boat (chemo or not, it's all the same crappy feeling of not getting the empathy you need when you feel like crap). H really has done so much, I just wish he understood that he really can't compare our situations. It sucks because I want him to be able to complain to me when things are hard and share how he's feeling and all of that, but right now I really need him to take a step back and realize that he has it comparatively pretty good and it is incredibly frustrating when he tries to act like his life is so hard because he didn't get a good nights sleep last night.
@RainyDays86 , I think your frustration is more than justified. The last trimester of pregnancy is hard enough, but adding in everything else you are dealing with? It's impossible. And it's frustrating that your DH isn't doing more to help.
Also, adding solidarity even though my situation isn't anywhere near yours...my first pregnancy was relatively easy and came with a lot of down time that I just don't have now that we're chasing around a toddler on the weekend. Add in the extra aches and pains of a second pregnancy (plus, as my doctor likes to remind me, I'm 3 years old with this one), and I feel like every day is a week. I'm miserable and uncomfortable and I try not to complain too much (although I probably still complain multiple times per day). DH hurt his back carrying the toddler over the weekend, nothing terrible, just a tweak making it difficult for him to do normal things. And every time he complains about it, I have to bite my tongue to keep from yelling that I could give two shits about his pain because I'm in constant misery...
I was so frustrated today. I've mentioned before that I work at a doggy daycare. Well, I've kept myself off of the play floors for the past couple months, because I don't feel safe in that environment anymore. Dogs are constantly jumping up (ouch), running into you, accidentally tripping you, you have to be quick to keep up with them sometimes, and if a fight broke out, I don't feel like I'm as physically capable of stopping it. So, my boss, who I'm training to take over for me, looked at her schedule for today wrong and wanted to leave an hour early to get to her PT appointment. She asked if I could watch the play floor for an hour. I've already had multiple conversations with her about how I'm not supervising the floors at this point, yet she still asks. So I explained my reasoning again and told her no. She just had what I would describe as a skeptical look on her face the whole time. Like really?
Maybe we should turn this into a week long bitchfest! I finally have one, about the last topic I ever thought I would...the in laws. So originally I was going to have one big baby shower, but because my mother had uncertain medical issues going on, we decided to just drop my side of the family for now. So, I receive my invite in the mail last Thursday and don't even bother to read it closely because I assume everything on there is reasonable. Looked at it again yesterday morning to find out the in laws thought 10am was the perfect time for a baby shower! We live 3 hours away from where this party is happening, and I work until 11:30 the night before. Not once was the time brought up to either of us. Luckily, DH was quite irritated by this as well and makes a phone call. The first thing he asks is what is all planned for that day/weekend since it could be busy with Easter, his brothers birthday, and the shower possibly happening in one day. The only thing planned is the shower at 10am and maybe going out for supper for his brothers birthday. So, he says well the timing is an issue. His mother responds with well the time was discussed with me (nope, not even a little pregnancy brain going on here) and the invites are already sent so it's not changing. I can just nap all afternoon. I have been so livid since this call, that I've considered not going to my own baby shower. For 4 years now, his family refuses to take our travel time into any consideration (but we are forced to deal with their travel time when they come to visit us), yet we've made the journey and are almost always at the location first. Not only that, but this baby shower has literally turned into everything I didn't want, but once again, everything his mother wants. This is exactly what happened with my bridal shower, that I said I didn't want, and didn't find out I was going to have until I was sent the invite. I feel like I'm turning into an ungrateful spoiled rotten brat and maybe I'm coming off as one, but I just find everything about this so rude and disrespectful.
@absbubbs - I could definitely get behind a week long bitchfest. I have a coworker who asks me literally every single morning "When is your next doctor's appointment?". I'm so cranky and miserable this morning that I nearly snapped back "why? Are you coming along for the pelvic exam?". Over.It.
@absbubbs no your not spoiled or ungrateful. We also live crazy from from most and get no consideration for it. We work crazy hours and still people expect dinners out at hard to make times. I understand your frustration. My husband would say don't go!
I feel the need to follow up on my earlier bitchfest post...DH tweaked his back over the weekend, has been NON-STOP complaining about it (literally, he talks about this back pain 10-1 asking how I'm doing). This morning, he's in the shower telling me that he's pretty sure it's a herniated disc and that he wants to get into the doctor today in case they want to do PT, etc, etc...so, we're waiting for my ultrasound this morning and he's on the phone frantically trying to get a last minute doctor's appointment to get it checked out. Goes to the doctor...survey says? It's a pulled muscle. The doc recommended a deep tissue massage and gave him some muscle relaxers...lol...obviously, I'm glad it's nothing more serious...but hopefully this ends the complaining.
@Kipperoo ahh the man cold/ condition. Mine has been getting a throat tickle and he seriously is coughing like hes gonna throw the lung out his mouth. I seriously don't get to hear the end of it. I hope all went well with your ultrasound!
My husband went to the doctor earlier this week because he thought he was either coming down with a cold or had something wrong with a tooth. Turns out he had a swollen jaw joint that was cured by 2 days of anti-inflammatories. You can assume I made every BJ joke known to man the last few days. And I welcome submissions if anyone would like to pass any along.
MIL. She lives just over the border in a sales tax state, so she asked if she coils ship an expensive item to me in my state with no sales tax. I do this all the time for my sister, so of course no problem. She tries to propose that I order it and she pay me back, which isn't happening because it's over $400 and she has been known to take weeks to cough up the cash even though she has it. I tell her to just order it and put in my address for shipping. So she places the order. Then she tells me a signature is required upon delivery. So now I'm stuck at home all day waiting for FedEx because they haven't given a delivery window. It's approaching 3pm and no FedEx yet. I had nothing scheduled today (as in appointments) but I could have made my recycling and trash run today since I do have two appointments tomorrow. USPS and UPS have already been here, of course since I don't need to sign for them. It's relatively minor, but she's ordered from them before (and shipped to her) and could have told me beforehand that I'd be home bound waiting for this.
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@RedInLove honestly that is just not right. I understand wanting to get tax free but to inconvenience you for so long - whats the cost of that! If only we could be like ok you owe me 60 bucks for waiting all day for a package
@Kipperoo Ugh men are SO dramatic. DH complained about his sciatic bothering him today and I said "yea I know mine hurts too" He had the nerve to tell me that I didn't understand. No buddy, YOU don't understand.
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I work with mostly males and currently there are 2 with man colds (one called out sick today, and the other has been dramatically coughing up a lung all week) and the new temp we have to fill in while i'm gone came in late monday because something he ate didn't agree with him. He proceeded to walk around clutching his stomach all day.... He almost got a stapler to the face!
@hp_momma - I'm dying at the thought of any man saying "but you don't understand" to a pregnant woman. Let me list all of the things you don't understand, buddy.
@RedInLove honestly that is just not right. I understand wanting to get tax free but to inconvenience you for so long - whats the cost of that! If only we could be like ok you owe me 60 bucks for waiting all day for a package
If I knew before hand that a signature was required, I would have told her she had to waive that or something. Or arrange a hold and we could pick it up instead. It was delivered just before 4pm, so it was basically a full day.
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Re: Monday Bitchfest 4/03
Also, adding solidarity even though my situation isn't anywhere near yours...my first pregnancy was relatively easy and came with a lot of down time that I just don't have now that we're chasing around a toddler on the weekend. Add in the extra aches and pains of a second pregnancy (plus, as my doctor likes to remind me, I'm 3 years old with this one), and I feel like every day is a week. I'm miserable and uncomfortable and I try not to complain too much (although I probably still complain multiple times per day). DH hurt his back carrying the toddler over the weekend, nothing terrible, just a tweak making it difficult for him to do normal things. And every time he complains about it, I have to bite my tongue to keep from yelling that I could give two shits about his pain because I'm in constant misery...
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
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It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
I work with mostly males and currently there are 2 with man colds (one called out sick today, and the other has been dramatically coughing up a lung all week) and the new temp we have to fill in while i'm gone came in late monday because something he ate didn't agree with him. He proceeded to walk around clutching his stomach all day.... He almost got a stapler to the face!
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.