Monday Bitchfest 4/03

BeachMommy2B · April 2017

We're all getting a little moodier... let's hear it
bitch please GIF

BeachMommy2B · April 2017

well
1. my GIF isn't working above :::eyeroll::: (ETA I think its fixed now)
2. The temp that my boss hired to fill in for me while I'm out just hasn't shown up today (day 2.)
3. my boss is basically dying in the office next to me. If he gets me sick I swear i will lose it. I was sick for 8 weeks (bronchitis/flu) straight a few months back. I don't think can mentally survive another sickness/cold this pregnancy (let alone my bladder/underwear collection)
4.ITS MONDAY enough said

WombThereItIs · April 2017

Tomorrow I have to get up at 3am to fly to where we will be moving in a few months. I have under 72 hours while I'm there to get 3 days of work done in the office, tour 6 days and secure spots for both kids, and find a house.

That is kind of a preemtive bitch but it is going to suck and I haven't even packed yet. I don't want to be an adult anymore.

starphish18 · April 2017

I'll bitch about work again. I mentioned before that I'm currently training one of the business owners to take over as manager when I'm done the end of this month. She's never been actively involved on-site, so this is all new to her. I'm so frustrated with how it's been going so far. She doesn't seem to comprehend how much I have to go over with her, she is constantly doing other things around the facility instead of training with me, she wants me actively involved in working on some major changes that will be happening after I'm gone (why?), and she somehow thinks she's going to be able to do a full-time position in 20 hours a week. I spent an hour ranting to my H last week about that last one. I'm just so annoyed, and honestly over it, and kind of don't really care what ends up happening, even though I feel like it's going to be a clusterf*ck once I'm out of here. *sigh* I'm 8 months pregnant, I don't want this unnecessary stress!

SKZW · April 2017

@starphish18: it seems like she isn't taking it seriously, and not understanding all the work that'll need to be done, all the details to stay on top of... so frustrating!! Is there any way you could emphasize needing to go over things with her, with a specific day and time, along the lines of "can we please sit down together from noon to 2 so I can explain these procedures and answer your questions? It's important that I give you all the details now, because I won't be available when the baby arrives." This will show you mean business and won't be at her beck and call later (maybe she's envisioning being able to chat you up every day?).

Plus, if she gets distracted during your training, and goes off to do something else, you can gently remind her that "this is time we both agreed to work together." Get her to agree to something specific, so you can hold her to it, and show her that you're serious about getting her up to speed. (And it's kind of a CYA thing for later, for you to be able to point out "I had set meetings with you twice a week for 4 weeks and it's unfortunate we weren't able to cover everything") and seriously, you're doing all you can to get her set up, and she's an adult, and owner! and if she still doesn't come around, you've done your due diligence!!

Do what you can while you can but sometimes people are just oblivious and there's nothing we can do about it; don't expend any more energy on her than is reasonable!

KMD1106 · April 2017

I have a sore throat and am just feeling blah today. I'm so unmotivated when I'm teaching. I feel bad that the kids have to deal with an achey, crabby teacher.

BabyMC517 · April 2017

So you've all probably gathered that I don't like when people take advantage or use ADA resources and they don't need them. Here's another one for ya! I have a pet peeve about using the ADA stalls in the bathrooms. If it is an emergency and its the only one available to me then I'll use it, otherwise, nope I use the other ones that are available. It drives me nuts when people use them and they don't need to! Students use it all of the time here to put make up on and get ready do whatever else they are doing in there! Its not like there aren't 5 other mirrors in the bathroom that can be used. Irritating lol I have started using the other stall that is slightly bigger than the regular stalls, but doesn't have a sink/mirror in it because, well, my bump is getting in the way! But that's a legit reason to use it! End rant.

achays11 · April 2017

I feel like I got run over by a semi truck. I took the day off, and I feel kind of guilty about it, but I need the rest.

KMD1106 · April 2017

achays11 said:

I feel like I got run over by a semi truck. I took the day off, and I feel kind of guilty about it, but I need the rest.

I'm thinking of doing that tomorrow. I could probably come in, but I feel just crummy enough that a day of rest might actually help me fight it off.

starphish18 · April 2017

@SKZW We've definitely set up specific times to work together, but it's such a complicated situation. She's an older woman, late 60's maybe, and has clearly been having memory issues for at least the last year (she's owned up to this). She also had a major car accident and hospitalization about 6 months ago, and she's still in PT. I feel like there are some issues that have compounded since the accident, and her prior memory loss doesn't help. I definitely empathize with her and see a lot of similarities with her and my mom after her brain injury, I just feel like she's pushing herself a bit too quickly. There have been two times where she just didn't show up for our planned sessions together. When she is here, it takes her much much longer to do things, so we don't end up getting through as much as we planned for. She often forgets what we have planned on doing. Plus, she insists on being active throughout the business so she knows what goes on with all the different jobs, which I do understand. I just feel like her priority right now needs to be learning THIS job, the rest can come later. And the fact that she thinks she can do the job in half the time blows my mind...when it takes her so much longer to do everything right now. I'm kind of ranting, it's just a hard situation to fully explain. There was practically a coup here when people found out she was going to be taking over, because no one thinks it's a good idea. I'm honestly a bit worried about the business, but like you said, it's not really my problem at this point. I'm doing everything I can to equip her for the job, it'll be up to her to follow through and learn everything before I'm outta here.

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot · April 2017

I got in an internet fight with some stranger on a GD Support FB group thread. She posted a "Business of Being Born" style article ranting against unnecessary csections and inductions and encouraged the women in this group to do their own research regarding whether medical intervention was necessary when "pushed" by their doctors. Cue the VBAC homebirth moms who came out of the woodwork for avoiding the medical profession at all costs. One even chose to "hide" the fact that her water broke 3 days before she went to the hospital from her doctor.

This is a huge pet peeve of mine.
First, the medical profession is aware of this issue and, for the most part, is taking steps to reduce the csection rate by avoiding unnecessary inductions. However, this group is a group of women who likely have very valid reasons for their doctors to consider intervention. This isn't a general pregnant moms group, so can we just stop mom shaming? The kids aren't even here yet!
Second, if you feel your doctor is unnecessary pushing for early intervention, absolutely get a second opinion or new doctor. But don't discount the entire medical profession.
Third, no, doctors don't have all of the information. They can tell you that your US shows your kid is measuring large. They can tell you that the US can be off by a few lbs in either direction. They have no magical powers to determine whether it's accurate or not. They can only lay out the best/worst case scenarios and provide a recommendation. They aren't trying to "trick" you by doing so.

Sorry. I'm still fired up about this and the admins closed the thread before I was done ranting. Thanks for reading.

SKZW · April 2017

@starphish18: your heart's in the right place! But it's still frustrating. And the 20 hours thing, too... I get it... hang in there...

@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot: (who closed what? Not here right? The FB post?)
Totally on your side: get a second opinion, arm yourself with actual facts, docs aren't infallible but certainly aren't trying to trick you, and for goodness' sake you're endangering your baby's health by delaying going to the hosp after your water breaks. Seriously.

Yiggle09 · April 2017

@starphish18 I honestly would go to someone higher up. You need her to buckle down and honestly she should be with you all day imo.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot just imagine living married with a person who thinks Dr's are out to make money they just throw drugs at you nothings really wrong they just want to scare you into doing more tests for money he doesn't "believe " in seasonal allergies etc. I'm in the medical field and he thinks I've been brainwashed. I understand how you feel. He waited 10 days with a crushed wrist before going to dr. Anyway that woman should not be trying to scare anyone with her medical opinion and I also feel bad for anyone on your board who will believe her over their drs.

I'm just generally bitching as my pelvis and back are killing me I'm exhausted from visiting family over two hours away and work means I've got to walk and stand making me feel more sore. I honestly don't remember this much discomfort with ds

starphish18 · April 2017

@Yiggle09 I would if I could, but she's the owner! She's the highest up...frightening.

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot · April 2017

@SKZW
No, not on here. It was a FB group.

I totally agree the csection rate was high 9 years ago. And I see so much information now about trying to lower that rate. That's all great. I just don't get the motivation behind posting a "Remember to always question your medical providers, ladies!" post in a GD support group. She's probably a judgey mom in real life too.

Jkp7749 · April 2017

Ugh @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot i HATE peoole like that. I had my fair share of issues with drs for dd and learned if something doesnt sit right then you can certainly get a second opinion, BUT i cannot fathom risking your baby's health bc you dont like drs. Blows my mind!!!!! Hiding that your water broke?!?! So risky! And making other moms doubt their drs??? That is just reckless.

bubsalicious · April 2017

@BabyMC517 I'm with you on that. And for some reason my friends kid ALWAYS chooses that stall. Like no, your capable tiny 5 year old butt does not need a stall that huge when there's a million other ones to choose. One time she actually thought I would do something to help her when she told me it was dirty and every other stall was open. Nope, but I will inform a worker that the bathroom needs to be cleaned.

@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot I HATE that movie! I watched it when it still had everyone thinking it was so awesome and my thoughts of them immediately lowered. I seriously don't understand people like that...

Jens_Hoes · April 2017

@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot That is super annoying. I'm with @Yiggle09 I have to deal with people who don't believe in things and think conspiracy stories are true. It is one of the biggest downfalls of living in the rural area I'm in.

@starphish18 Are you going back to this job after baby? Or are you training her to know everything forever?

My bitchfest: we heard back from our accountant and we OWE THE STATE $2700!! WTF! I've never owed anything so I don't understand how this is possible

BabyMC517 · April 2017

@jens_hoes I'm sorry! That sucks! We owed last year for the first time every and our accountant said that for some reason we were both claiming 1 when neither of us should have been. I switched mine, but I'm not sure if H did or not. We still need to do our taxes (guess our accountant is no longer doing them for anyone since he didn't send us the packet). Shooting for this week!

Kipperoo · April 2017

@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot , I have such low tolerance for people like that. If you have a doctor treating you, especially during pregnancy, and you do not trust their decision making, you should switch at the VERY beginning of the pregnancy. Ignoring medical advice is ridiculous. The internet has created fake experts in all areas of life. One opinion or even one expert article becomes equally weighted against years of documented research. It's complete insanity.

I'm just in a generally bitchy mood today. It's my last week of work (woohoo!) but it just means that I have a lot to get wrapped up and my boss is acting moody.

starphish18 · April 2017

@Jens_Hoes I don't have immediate plans to go back, so she's essentially taking over for the foreseeable future. The main problem is that the business hasn't been doing the best, so she wants to save money by not hiring a new manager. I did propose coming back for under 10 hours a week after a 3 month leave, but she shot it down due to money. Yet a few weeks later, she tells me if I end up wanting to come back in the future, she'd do her best to make that happen. So, I don't know, but the plan right now is to probably take a year off and go from there.

Sorry about owing taxes, that sucks.

Yiggle09 · April 2017

@Jens_Hoes I owed 2 grand to federal once because I had 3 jobs and none took enough for the cumulative amount I owed. It was a huge shock. I'm sorry that happened to you

ChristinaWild · April 2017

@WombThereItIs - I'm exhausted just reading that. Good luck!!!

@Jens_Hoes - UGH! That sucks. We owed almost $4k this year because my husband didn't fill out his forms correctly when he changed jobs last year. I thought I was going to kill him when we found out.

My bitch is just....people. I hate people.

hp_momma · April 2017

Potty training a stubborn child. I want to pull my hair out but she's sooooo close I can't cave now.

SKZW · April 2017

@Jens_Hoes: sorry about owing more than was taken out, it totally sucks. That happened to me one time and it was the hardest check to write, ever. Same as you, about $3k. So sucky.

I've made sure to never let that happen ever again. There's a line on your withholding paperwork where you can opt to have an additional dollar amount withheld. I always did an extra $50 per paycheck, so 100 a month, which gives 1,200 more toward the taxes over the course of the year. If you did $100 per pay period, that'd be $2400 and it'd just about make up for that 2700 difference this year. Something to think about?

I know it's very difficult as a small business owner to even consider putting any "extra" (lol) money toward taxes, especially when you don't see anything tangible from it. (Like, you put 3k toward a new couch, you have a new couch to sit on, but you put 3k to taxes and you get total bupkis from it.) It's not easy running a business. I feel ya.

(Nerd alert) The IRS website has a calculator that estimates what you owe for the year and compares with what taxes you've already paid in, and tells you what type of adjustment you need to make to end up evenly paid in by December. Helpful to gauge where I'm at, like halfway through the year, so there's time to figure it out and not be surprised. Because what a horrible surprise. Sorry you have to deal with that.

nda_roxybabe · April 2017

Ugh. I got called into a last minute meeting with my supervisor regarding that project with that person that is not going well.
Yeaaaa, basically since she is training me and keeps saying over and over that I "lack attention to detail" we have to figure out a solution. You know, a solution to a problem I do NOT have. I just learned a new process that has a TON of exceptions, some mistakes are going to happen. In fact, she has had some mistakes I've called her out on. I've admitted my mistakes and I don't believe I've repeated a single one since I've learned.

UGH.

mcvgal · April 2017

So my insurance gives me 150 milk storage bags every 90 days. I know it's a first world problem but I can't believe I've gone through them all and now have to buy some to hold me over for another 2 months.

I also need to complain about this JP drain from my gall bladder surgery. It's so uncomfortable and not easy to accommodate, clothes wise. Wednesday can't get here soon enough. I just want it removed already.

starphish18 · April 2017

@mcvgal Is that common for insurance to cover milk storage bags? Or is that a special circumstance with the nicu? Sorry about the uncomfortable drain.

ShadeofGreen816 · April 2017

Speaking of first world problems... why does Downy make it SO hard to get the last 1-2 loads worth of fabric softener out of the bottle?!? I can see it down there and hear it swishing around, but I can't make it pour out!! WTF. I just ended up shaking it all over all the clothes... which isn't quite the same effect, I know but I want to get SOME use out of it.

mcvgal · April 2017

@Starphish18, I have federal blue cross blue shield through my job. I know they covered the bags with DS2 and he had no NICU time. My sister in law's insurance didn't cover storage bags, but I assumed it was because the insurance company was really small.

I guess I may need to check my privilege while I'm complaining

pshaortao · April 2017

Kipperoo said:

@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot , I have such low tolerance for people like that. If you have a doctor treating you, especially during pregnancy, and you do not trust their decision making, you should switch at the VERY beginning of the pregnancy. Ignoring medical advice is ridiculous. The internet has created fake experts in all areas of life. One opinion or even one expert article becomes equally weighted against years of documented research. It's complete insanity.

Totally perfect for our driveby poster in a sense

kns1988 · April 2017

@jens_hoes, that sucks so much about the taxes! I almost screwed myself this year because I accidentally claimed 1 on my W4. I ended up not owing anything, but I also didn't get anything back like I usually do.

I might be having my first braxton hicks today because I'm slightly crampy in my pelvic area. I feel like I've had a bowling ball on my bladder all day, too. Hello 32 weeks.

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot · April 2017

Am I allowed 2 bitches in one day?

Backstory: my parents are super procrastinators, which usually drives me insane. On the flipside, my ILs are major planners and are way too early for every single event ever, which is also super annoying.

My kid is trending huge. And it's too early to tell whether that will lead to an early induction or whether I can go 42 weeks. I'm due 5/15. For once, my parents' procrastination is playing in my favor. My mom is going to wait until my 36 week U/S when I should hopefully know more about my delivery plans and kid size before booking a flight to come down and provide childcare to DD while I have this kid. My dad will come down right after the kid is born either by plane or car. So my mom could theoretically be here a few weeks if I don't schedule an induction (39-42wks, which puts me at the end of May.) FIL called last night to ask when they could come visit. We explained that we don't have any idea when this kid will arrive and they could a) either wait until i have more news after my next U/S; or b) book for sometime mid-June or later. They said they'd book around June 18th. Today, FIL texted DH to let him know that they were looking to book a flight on 6/4. I may have started crying a little and told DH that there's no way in hell I wanted my parents and my ILs here at the same time immediately post birth when my boobs would be hanging out 24/7. I think I scared him a little.

museic-2 · April 2017

My aide came in late AGAIN today saying the same old "sorry I'm late I was at the gym" or "sorry I'm late it was really hard to get up this morning" (HAH like it wasn't hard for me). I'm so sick of it! I'm stuck prepping things every morning that she should be helping with, but instead she's rushing to get other things done because she's always late. She also lives 5 mins away while I'm 40 mins away, not to mention I'm 8 months pregnant, not sleeping well, sore, and my feet are swollen. Is it too much to ask for someone to be at work on time?? I have only been late ONCE in 4 years!

RainyDays86 · April 2017

My bitch is about my husband and it may not be entirely fair.
I mentioned somewhere else (weekend randoms?) that my mastectomy was tentatively scheduled for 4/20. I got the official word today that it will be that date, meaning I will be done working on 4/19. I have a lot of feelings about the whole thing obviously, but honestly right now the biggest one is INCREDIBLE stress about getting everything done in time. I am leaving my job and the workforce for good to be a stay-at-home mom. I helped found our school and created the special ed program from nothing so it is very very important to me that I fulfill all my duties to leave the program/my team in a good place. Adding to my stress is the fact that I expected surgery to be the week of 4/24 so I've lost two work days and the weekend from my minimum days left to get my shit done. And then there's the fact that I'm so unbelievably exhausted I can't work in the evenings at all. And the fact that after meetings all morning I had to leave at noon today to take DS to the doctor to get his hard cast so I got basically nothing done.
H has stepped up in so many ways this pregnancy and since my diagnosis but he does not seem to get how stressful wrapping up things at work is for me right now. He is also stressed at work at the moment so my attempts to talk about how hard this is for me are met with comments about how he has a lot going on too. Anytime I express that I'm tired he takes DS but acts all exhausted like he can hardly keep his eyes open. He doesn't do it in a rude way, it's like he's trying to commiserate with me but it just pisses me off because how can he possibly compare our situations? Like dude I'm sorry you're tired and I know you've been doing the bulk of the childcare when you get home and that isn't easy but I'm 32 weeks pregnant and I had chemo a week ago. I'm going to go ahead and say I'm more tired. And I'm sorry your company is short on work at the moment and you need to find work to avoid laying people off (a situation that happens basically quarterly) but I'm trying to wrap up my entire career while growing a human and dealing with side effects of chemo and getting ready for major surgery (which comes with some fairly serious mind fuckery, but I'm not even going to touch that). The response to me asking if you can take DS to his follow-up appointment next week so I can work a full day on what will be my 9th to last day should be "yes I'll make it work" and not "I don't know, we have a lot going on." Yeah. So do I.

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot · April 2017

@RainyDays86 I can not at all compare my situation to yours and will not attempt to. But I do understand the part about the husband lacking sympathy. I feel like DH has had no sympathy at all this pregnancy. I complain about being tired and he's all "yeah me too..." I complain about being comfortable and he complains his planters faciitis is killing him. He was not like this last pregnancy. I miss my doting soon to be new dad. I'm sorry you are experiencing that. I have no advice, just solidarity.

redheeler · April 2017

@RainyDays86 I am with @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot I have no advice and I can't compare our situations in the slightest, but I will offer solidarity.

My husband can be really insensitive, going on about how I could do more last time, I wasn't in so much pain last time and how other pregnant women do everything still. Like bitch last time I didn't have to keep up with a 3yr old, last time I didn't have SPD, lots of other women deal with it, yes, but that doesn't mean that I'm not genuinely suffering and in pain. I don't remember him being the "doting dad to be" last time, but I wish I could get a little bit of sympathy, I'm sick of helping him do things, ended up in tears because it just hurts to move 90% of the time and just having him go "if you're in so much pain, see a doctor" I see a doctor every 2 weeks, there isn't much that can be done!

that got long and I suppose my husband is my Bitch fest this week. Him and my toddler who has lost all sense of manners when out, he's usually so well behaved but he's just lost it the last few weeks.

momma2char · April 2017

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot said:

@RainyDays86 I can not at all compare my situation to yours and will not attempt to. But I do understand the part about the husband lacking sympathy. I feel like DH has had no sympathy at all this pregnancy. I complain about being tired and he's all "yeah me too..." I complain about being comfortable and he complains his planters faciitis is killing him. He was not like this last pregnancy. I miss my doting soon to be new dad. I'm sorry you are experiencing that. I have no advice, just solidarity.

Mines definitely not comparable either but +1 to DH lacking sympathy. I have terrible back pain, wicked heartburn, sciatica and I toss and turn all night long so I'm barely getting sleep. I don't feel like I complain too much at home but when I do, DH almost laughs it off and tells me not to complain because "this pregnancy isn't as difficult as my last pregnancy." Yeah my morning sickness wasn't as bad between weeks 6 and 20, but with this pregnancy I'm chasing around a toddler and I'm as big now as I was when I was in the last two weeks of my first pregnancy.

llenadevida900 · April 2017

@RainyDays86 I'm so sorry you're dealing with a dense husband on top of everything else. He obviously means well but it's coming out totally wrong and adding to your stress. You're amazing! Good luck through these last couple weeks of work!

ChristinaWild · April 2017

@RainyDays86 - I'm sorry you're dealing with that stress on top of everything else. I'm sure it can't be easy. Like others said, I can't offer advice, but definitely solidarity. Hopefully the next few weeks go smoothly, and you can get through this time without too many more things being added to your plate!!!!

I think men forget some times that no matter how tired/stress/worn out they think they are, they aren't also carrying around a bunch of extra weight and hormones on top of it. Because of that, we should be able to flick them in the eyeball when they start to act like an overgrown child. Also, +1 on H not being the doting dad he was the first go round. I got foot rubs every night when I was pregnant with DS, and this time, I feel like I have to beg to get him to rub balm onto my back to help with the pain.

BabyMC517 · April 2017

Hs, and guys in general, can be real jerks sometimes can't they? I mean I get you are tired and all, but like PPs have said you're not carrying around extra weight and hormones! You aren't constantly being poked and punched on the inside making you feel like a bruised punching bag! Ugh...so frustrating sometimes! H works in a garage outside all day and it is crazy hot, so I try not to give him too much grief when he gets home or complain, but yesterday was horrendous! The a/c is out in my car (again) and he knows it, but we both forgot about my OB appointment that take a hour to get to! So, I drove there and back with no a/c and it was a record breaking day (94)...I was miserable when I got home. H was too, but seriously I'm hot all day and then doing that on top of it, I was done.

And, my dog is driving me nuts! I know she's still adjusting to the move and being by herself, but stop with the whining! She's always had another animal around to play with during the day so I'm sure she's lonely, but I'm losing my patience with the whining to eat, whining to go out, whining to get on the bed, blah blah blah she has never whined this much! I feel bad, but at the same time I'm over her too!

On a positive note, H put the rocker and crib together last night

I feel like I need to end on something positive when I b*tch so much...anyway, sh*t just got really real seeing everything being put together!

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