George has just started sleeping through occasionally, and now my husband decides now is the perfect time to take up snoring. I haven't slept properly in over a year and I just feel like sobbing. Don't have a spare room to go and sleep in either
I'm sorry! Try rolling him on his side, that's what I do when my husband starts. Snoring is the worst!
George has just started sleeping through occasionally, and now my husband decides now is the perfect time to take up snoring. I haven't slept properly in over a year and I just feel like sobbing. Don't have a spare room to go and sleep in either
Ugh snoring is the worst! I'm sorry tou haven't been abke to sleep because of it. Does he hae a cold or so,ething that is causing it? Does sleeping on his side help at all?
George has just started sleeping through occasionally, and now my husband decides now is the perfect time to take up snoring. I haven't slept properly in over a year and I just feel like sobbing. Don't have a spare room to go and sleep in either
That sucks! DH always seems to start snoring when I climb back into bed, so I give him a firm nudge or ask him to roll over. And the dog always steals my spot in bed.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
So, I eventually got some sleep after having a big cry and sending him to sleep on the couch! I usually say "roll over" and he stops but recently he sounds like a warthog >.< thanks for the suggestions ladies, he has just had a cold so hopefully it's temporary
I punch mine in the back. I'm mean too, my hubby usually falls asleep working In The basement so I'm used to sleeping alone, it is actually kind of annoying when he finds his way to bed...
I punch mine in the back. I'm mean too, my hubby usually falls asleep working In The basement so I'm used to sleeping alone, it is actually kind of annoying when he finds his way to bed...
Dh fell asleep in the basement last night. Wandered to bed around 1am, and said "why didn't you wake me to come up?" Umm... I actually like sleeping alone.
And this is why my husband sleeps in the spare bedroom! Lol. Up until Ethan was born, we slept in separate beds for years. It sounds weird but when I was managing a Starbucks I had to be up and out the door at 3am so I couldn't afford to be waking up all night. We sleep in the same bed now but he hates our mattress (it's like a cloud and he likes firm) so we will probably invest in a sleep number bed at some point.
I punch mine in the back. I'm mean too, my hubby usually falls asleep working In The basement so I'm used to sleeping alone, it is actually kind of annoying when he finds his way to bed...
Dh fell asleep in the basement last night. Wandered to bed around 1am, and said "why didn't you wake me to come up?" Umm... I actually like sleeping alone.
My DH regularly falls asleep on the couch and used to get mad when I would wake him to go to bed. So I started leaving him there. Now he gets angry when the roomba wakes him up at midnight.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
My DH has been snoring all along, but I hated it more than ever when the baby was waking up multiple times per night. I'd finally get back to bed in the middle of the night after spending hours soothing her back to sleep, knowing that I had 2 hours max before she woke up again, and he'd be snoring so loudly that it'd take me an hour or more to fall asleep, if I was able to at all. And some nights his snoring actually woke her up. It's a miracle that he ever lived to snore another night. I kind of think I deserve an award for my heroic restraint in not smothering him :P
I'm awake right now because he woke her and me up by coughing, and then immediately fell back to very loud sleep himself, but at least I got 5 good hours in before that happened!
My inlaws announced a couple of weeks ago that they intended to visit us for Easter weekend. With Damien being sick since last Wednesday and me being sick all this week, I really hoped they would be gracious enough to delay coming to visit and maybe come when we were both fully recovered. My husband just informed me today that one of his aunts is now coming too. He added that his mother was bringing a ham for ME to cook the Easter dinner. Like really? This has been a really rough week on so many levels, I don't want to entertain nor do I want to be constantly questioned and criticized about how we are doing things with Damien. And I certainly don't want their unsolicited advice. I'm just so frustrated and I keep telling my husband that I wish we had more time to recover and even he isn't looking forward to their visit sooooo why not ask them to come some other time? Maybe I'm being rude or insensitive to their wants/needs and sure, it is a selfish request but come on.
My 3 yr olds left the fucking gate open and Cameron rolled down the stairs! He is fine but I seriously almost bawled my eyes out! I can't wait to sell this stupid house!!!
My 3 yr olds left the fucking gate open and Cameron rolled down the stairs! He is fine but I seriously almost bawled my eyes out! I can't wait to sell this stupid house!!!
My 3 yr olds left the fucking gate open and Cameron rolled down the stairs! He is fine but I seriously almost bawled my eyes out! I can't wait to sell this stupid house!!!
Oh poor baby. I would have cried! I'm almost crying now. I'm glad he's alright, that's a rough day
Me: 32 DH: 31 *The old lady by 5 whole weeks* Married: 11/2013 M: 6/2016 E: 5/2018
I know I'll be hated by the dog lovers here for saying this, but I seriously want to give our dog away!!! He has been terrible for months, started bad behaviors he never had before, and I just don't have the physical time with three young kids and everything else to devote to retraining him. It is causing me serious anxiety, and I just want him gone.
But of course I would feel too guilty taking away the kids pet, so here he stays
I know I'll be hated by the dog lovers here for saying this, but I seriously want to give our dog away!!! He has been terrible for months, started bad behaviors he never had before, and I just don't have the physical time with three young kids and everything else to devote to retraining him. It is causing me serious anxiety, and I just want him gone.
But of course I would feel too guilty taking away the kids pet, so here he stays
My husband gave out golden retriever to his brother recently, and surprisingly I was the one who had the hardest time with it. We took him on after my hubby's friends wife up and left him with 3 small kids and he didn't have the ability to care for him any longer. My husband works a tremendous amount of hours, usually a long the lines of 70 a week so our poor dog wasn't getting the time he needs from either of us. He now lives with my husbands 21 yr old brother and sleeps in his bed and is spoiled rotten and goes hiking and camping all the time. Don't worry, rehoming isn't always a bad thing just do the best that you can to see that he goes to a suitable home.
I know I'll be hated by the dog lovers here for saying this, but I seriously want to give our dog away!!! He has been terrible for months, started bad behaviors he never had before, and I just don't have the physical time with three young kids and everything else to devote to retraining him. It is causing me serious anxiety, and I just want him gone.
But of course I would feel too guilty taking away the kids pet, so here he stays
My husband gave out golden retriever to his brother recently, and surprisingly I was the one who had the hardest time with it. We took him on after my hubby's friends wife up and left him with 3 small kids and he didn't have the ability to care for him any longer. My husband works a tremendous amount of hours, usually a long the lines of 70 a week so our poor dog wasn't getting the time he needs from either of us. He now lives with my husbands 21 yr old brother and sleeps in his bed and is spoiled rotten and goes hiking and camping all the time. Don't worry, rehoming isn't always a bad thing just do the best that you can to see that he goes to a suitable home.
I know I'll be hated by the dog lovers here for saying this, but I seriously want to give our dog away!!! He has been terrible for months, started bad behaviors he never had before, and I just don't have the physical time with three young kids and everything else to devote to retraining him. It is causing me serious anxiety, and I just want him gone.
But of course I would feel too guilty taking away the kids pet, so here he stays
My husband gave out golden retriever to his brother recently, and surprisingly I was the one who had the hardest time with it. We took him on after my hubby's friends wife up and left him with 3 small kids and he didn't have the ability to care for him any longer. My husband works a tremendous amount of hours, usually a long the lines of 70 a week so our poor dog wasn't getting the time he needs from either of us. He now lives with my husbands 21 yr old brother and sleeps in his bed and is spoiled rotten and goes hiking and camping all the time. Don't worry, rehoming isn't always a bad thing just do the best that you can to see that he goes to a suitable home.
Thanks. I wish I had the guts to do it
I wouldn't have if it wasn't my husbands doing because I felt guilty. Now that he is happy and my kids aren't completely destroyed because they can go see him I am happy that he went.
My newborn photographer is turning out to be a bad investment. We used her for my son's milestones so we decided to book with her again for LO's. The newborn session went fine, we got great photos a little low (like 6 weeks later). We went back for her 4m pics in October, and her 8m pics in February. We have gotten NEITHER of those photos, and the first set is six months late! I have followed up with her numerous times about it, and she keeps making me sound like I'm the unreasonable one. She's being really unprofessional about it, and some of her texts are borderline rude. She also started selling LLR leggings, so she'll tell me she can't find time to edit the photos and then turn around and hold a live sale on Facebook. I finally told her I want a refund on the last session and I'm finding someone else to take some family portraits instead, but I can't get the photos. I asked her for the raw files to get edited elsewhere and she refused. The only other thing I can think of is small claims court, but I don't know that I want to go that route, or if it would even get me anywhere. I'm just so frustrated, and feeling taken advantage of.
My newborn photographer is turning out to be a bad investment. We used her for my son's milestones so we decided to book with her again for LO's. The newborn session went fine, we got great photos a little low (like 6 weeks later). We went back for her 4m pics in October, and her 8m pics in February. We have gotten NEITHER of those photos, and the first set is six months late! I have followed up with her numerous times about it, and she keeps making me sound like I'm the unreasonable one. She's being really unprofessional about it, and some of her texts are borderline rude. She also started selling LLR leggings, so she'll tell me she can't find time to edit the photos and then turn around and hold a live sale on Facebook. I finally told her I want a refund on the last session and I'm finding someone else to take some family portraits instead, but I can't get the photos. I asked her for the raw files to get edited elsewhere and she refused. The only other thing I can think of is small claims court, but I don't know that I want to go that route, or if it would even get me anywhere. I'm just so frustrated, and feeling taken advantage of.
That's terrible! Maybe call the BBB and see what they suggest? It's always so hard dealing with these types of situations. Good luck!
@newbabymakes4 is she on yelp or any other business review sites? Write a bad review on what you told us. Hopefully she'll address it and realize it's bad business practice.
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@AmberLiz99 our dog has been staying with my parents since February. We live in a high rise and taking him on three walks a day was becoming SO overwhelming. It was such a relief to have a clean apartment and not to worry about the walks.
@AmberLiz99 our dog has been staying with my parents since February. We live in a high rise and taking him on three walks a day was becoming SO overwhelming. It was such a relief to have a clean apartment and not to worry about the walks.
I bet that has been so nice! I wish I had family who could take him. My brother who lives on this side of the country already has two dogs in their tiny house, and my parents don't like pets. My one SIL can't handle anything that requires responsibility, the other has 3 dogs and a bird, and my in laws have a crazy little dog who hates ours.
Could he be acting out because of the new baby? Maybe some time with a dog trainer or an extra walk would help to get rid of the new bad behaviors. It really is true that a tired dog is a good dog (as exhausting as that sounds).
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
@newbabymakes4 is she on yelp or any other business review sites? Write a bad review on what you told us. Hopefully she'll address it and realize it's bad business practice.
I worry about doing this before I actually get my photos, I don't want her to screw me over more by providing poor quality photos just to get me off her back. But as soon as I get the files, I will definitely be writing a bad review and contacting the BBB. She currently has an A+ rating which is BS.
Since Damien is so congested, he can only take a bottle right after I've cleared his nose out. My window to feed is small since he doesn't take long to get congested again and then doesnt want to feed for awhile, not even if I clear his nose again. If there are any distractions around, he stops eating and I lose that window. I've repeatedly told my husband this but he still creates distractions. If he starts feeding while on the couch, now is not a good time to turn the tv on to play a video game. If he is feeding in the nursery, now is not the time to bring in toys from the living room. I'm not asking for a big chunk of time, just 5-10min. Making sure he's hydrated is our #1 priority thanks to this constant fever so I get really frustrated when he does this and it happens all the time.
DH always puts DS to bed. DS is teething hardcore and very much a momma's boy right now. Tonight DH asked me to help change DS. DS can now say "momma". When I went to leave, he just cried and screamed my name and is still calling for me. I need to get work done, but my heart is breaking into a thousand pieces. I'd always dreamed of when he could say my name, why did no one warn me?
As if my week wasn't shitty enough, another mom at daycare felt it was necessary to inform me that Damien, "...Is having a REALLY hard time adjusting....like harder than ANY of the other babies." Gee, ya don't say? Then she proceeded to grill me about his transition and what I was/wasn't doing to make it better for him. Nevermind that this woman sees him at dropp of (when he cries because I'm leaving) and pick up (when he cries when he sees me again). I know he has fussy period throughout the day. I'm aware that someone often has to keep him in their arms, otherwise he cries. I also know that he is napping like a champ and exploring new foods, even if he doesn't always eat much. I'm also keenly aware that he frequently won't drink anything while there on most days. It's been a rough transitio and he has a long way to go but he will get there. Thank god for the staff who are wonderful, supportive, kind, and have the patience of a saint. They're doing the best that they can to help and take care of Damien, just as my husband and I are doing our very best too. What we don't need is some random Mom condescendingly telling me how difficult my son is compared to the other babies (who all went through their own adjustments to varying degrees when they started too). So please kindly f-off.
As if my week wasn't shitty enough, another mom at daycare felt it was necessary to inform me that Damien, "...Is having a REALLY hard time adjusting....like harder than ANY of the other babies." Gee, ya don't say? Then she proceeded to grill me about his transition and what I was/wasn't doing to make it better for him. Nevermind that this woman sees him at dropp of (when he cries because I'm leaving) and pick up (when he cries when he sees me again). I know he has fussy period throughout the day. I'm aware that someone often has to keep him in their arms, otherwise he cries. I also know that he is napping like a champ and exploring new foods, even if he doesn't always eat much. I'm also keenly aware that he frequently won't drink anything while there on most days. It's been a rough transitio and he has a long way to go but he will get there. Thank god for the staff who are wonderful, supportive, kind, and have the patience of a saint. They're doing the best that they can to help and take care of Damien, just as my husband and I are doing our very best too. What we don't need is some random Mom condescendingly telling me how difficult my son is compared to the other babies (who all went through their own adjustments to varying degrees when they started too). So please kindly f-off.
I know this is easier said than done, but try to ignore her. People who say things like that only feel better about themselves when they out other down, it's pathetic. And plus, Damien is having a hard time because he has been sick and be he misses his mama! Obviously this other kid is happy to have time away from his overbearing mother...
As if my week wasn't shitty enough, another mom at daycare felt it was necessary to inform me that Damien, "...Is having a REALLY hard time adjusting....like harder than ANY of the other babies." Gee, ya don't say? Then she proceeded to grill me about his transition and what I was/wasn't doing to make it better for him. Nevermind that this woman sees him at dropp of (when he cries because I'm leaving) and pick up (when he cries when he sees me again). I know he has fussy period throughout the day. I'm aware that someone often has to keep him in their arms, otherwise he cries. I also know that he is napping like a champ and exploring new foods, even if he doesn't always eat much. I'm also keenly aware that he frequently won't drink anything while there on most days. It's been a rough transitio and he has a long way to go but he will get there. Thank god for the staff who are wonderful, supportive, kind, and have the patience of a saint. They're doing the best that they can to help and take care of Damien, just as my husband and I are doing our very best too. What we don't need is some random Mom condescendingly telling me how difficult my son is compared to the other babies (who all went through their own adjustments to varying degrees when they started too). So please kindly f-off.
@vintagevix2016 I 'm sorry you are dealing with mom shaming. I can't stand it when people think they're experts just bc whatever they did worked with their kid. As Chris Farley would say, whoopty freakin doo! And ps I'm sure she's not telling you about the moments when her kid has a breakdown, which you know happens bc her kid is human!
Sorry just edited to address it to the correct person!
@vintagevix2016 so sorry you're having to deal with a difficult parent! You would think people would understand how hard it is to make the daycare adjustment. Everything you're describing - crying at drop offs and pick ups, not drinking much milk, needing to always be in our near someone's arms - describes our experience to a t. We started daycare in January and its gradually gotten much easier. Still, it's only been in the past few weeks that we've started having no-tears drop offs. It takes time, but it sounds like you have great care providers and I'm sure they will help Damien get comfortable.
Thanks, ladies for the support. It's very much appreciated and taken to heart. We had a wonderful weekend with Damien. He also drank a ton of milk and ate so well at each meal. He was our happy baby boy again! It was a nice break for all three of us. I'm hopefully that the coming week will be better than last week but if it isn't, that's okay too. He'll adjust in his own time, we just have to be patient.
Trying to get back into the workforce in a competitive area sucks! I wasn't even totally unemployed during my time out, but I worked remotely part time for 5 years and now no one wants to hire me. I wouldn't change the fact that I chose to stay home for anything, but it stinks that now I have to basically start over at half of what I was making if I want anyone to hire me. It doesn't seem right. If I could just forget it and stay home with the kids I would, as this search is seriously depressing.
Trying to get back into the workforce in a competitive area sucks! I wasn't even totally unemployed during my time out, but I worked remotely part time for 5 years and now no one wants to hire me. I wouldn't change the fact that I chose to stay home for anything, but it stinks that now I have to basically start over at half of what I was making if I want anyone to hire me. It doesn't seem right. If I could just forget it and stay home with the kids I would, as this search is seriously depressing.
Ah man I am so sorry. My dad was layed off in December and has been searching non-stop but noone wants him cause he is overqualified and too expensive. He's been in his field 25 years and is starting to get really down and said he's gonna end up like one of those old men who work at Home Depot or Walmart. I wish there was something I could say to help but I am clueless with this stuff so all I can offer are creepy internet hugs.
Trying to get back into the workforce in a competitive area sucks! I wasn't even totally unemployed during my time out, but I worked remotely part time for 5 years and now no one wants to hire me. I wouldn't change the fact that I chose to stay home for anything, but it stinks that now I have to basically start over at half of what I was making if I want anyone to hire me. It doesn't seem right. If I could just forget it and stay home with the kids I would, as this search is seriously depressing.
I'm sorry : ( I think the economy in general is tough right now too. Some people I know have been given early retirement packages and while they're not destitute, I think a lot of people are living with a different reality than what they had planned for. DH was laid off and needs a new career but right now it works for us bc he's able to be home with LO and go to school part time.
Thank you both. I was always a really hard working employee, so it's hard to swallow tnat now I can't find anything worth it. Hopefully something comes along soon
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Umm... I actually like sleeping alone.
I'm awake right now because he woke her and me up by coughing, and then immediately fell back to very loud sleep himself, but at least I got 5 good hours in before that happened!
Married: 11/2013
M: 6/2016 E: 5/2018
But of course I would feel too guilty taking away the kids pet, so here he stays
Anyone in the D.C. area want a small dog? lol
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
And ps I'm sure she's not telling you about the moments when her kid has a breakdown, which you know happens bc her kid is human!
Sorry just edited to address it to the correct person!
Ah man I am so sorry. My dad was layed off in December and has been searching non-stop but noone wants him cause he is overqualified and too expensive. He's been in his field 25 years and is starting to get really down and said he's gonna end up like one of those old men who work at Home Depot or Walmart.