UO Thursday | 3.23.17

jessafishy · March 2017

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aprilsarahjune · March 2017

UO: All of the posts and pictures about Arby's and a bunch of other fast food restaurants yesterday made me feel ill. I logged off TB. (Disclaimer: the idea of leafy green vegetables and meat made me feel ill yesterday too.)

carries2018 · March 2017

aprilsarahjune said:

UO: All of the posts and pictures about Arby's and a bunch of other fast food restaurants yesterday made me feel ill. I logged off TB. (Disclaimer: the idea of leafy green vegetables and meat made me feel ill yesterday too.)

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aprilsarahjune · March 2017

@carries2018 Well played.

migdala · March 2017

@aprilsarahjune YUP. Everything feels like a minefield. I have to scroll real fast past that pizza poll on the main page or I start gagging.

jessafishy · March 2017

I have one that will probably ruffle some feathers.

I think if you are either a FTM or a STM+ who says things like "I won't make two meals for my kid, they will eat what I eat." you simply have not experienced a child who is a picky eater. I'm glad for you that you don't have to experience this particular version of hell, but it's not your parenting that makes your kid eat.

carries2018 · March 2017

jessafishy said:

I have one that will probably ruffle some feathers.

I think if you are either a FTM or a STM+ who says things like "I won't make two meals for my kid, they will eat what I eat." you simply have not experienced a child who is a picky eater. I'm glad for you that you don't have to experience this particular version of hell, but it's not your parenting that makes your kid eat.

i don't make 2 meals. but i also don't even bother with the battle of "here is a complete nutritional meal! with 75% veggies!" i know my battles. i know the foods that will be refused. i will pick every piece of broccoli out of that plate before i hear her yell at me it is contaminated with broccoli germs. i will put one piece of veggie on the plate (making sure it isnt touching ANYTHING else) and if she eats it she gets a treat. or no veggies at all and try to sneak them in somewhere else. but whatever. i get good eating habits. but just bc they survive on cheese air and milk right now doesnt mean that is how they will eat for life.

ETA: the reason i dont make 2 meals isnt because my kid is magical and eats every night. but my pedi told me they won't starve themselves.

aprilsarahjune · March 2017

jessafishy said:

I have one that will probably ruffle some feathers.

I think if you are either a FTM or a STM+ who says things like "I won't make two meals for my kid, they will eat what I eat." you simply have not experienced a child who is a picky eater. I'm glad for you that you don't have to experience this particular version of hell, but it's not your parenting that makes your kid eat.

@jessafishy
Nope nope nope. My 3 kids are great eaters. It is all because of me. Because I am such a perfect cook and convincing mother. J/k - I have no idea why my kids will eat any kind of food set in front of them, but I loooooove it.

natleilynn · March 2017

jessafishy said:

I have one that will probably ruffle some feathers.

I think if you are either a FTM or a STM+ who says things like "I won't make two meals for my kid, they will eat what I eat." you simply have not experienced a child who is a picky eater. I'm glad for you that you don't have to experience this particular version of hell, but it's not your parenting that makes your kid eat.

I meannnnn I don't think I'm super mom because I don't usually make two meals. But like @carries2018 said, she'll eat when she's hungry. She knows she doesn't get any cookie/treat after dinner unless her dinner is eaten. And I just have at least one side dish that I know she likes. If her dinner consists of yogurt and bananas, I figure that's better than nothing.

I never say *never* because those statements never work out. So I'm not going to say I would *never* fix two meals. But I give her an option of what kind of fruit she wants each night so there is at least one thing on her plate every night that I know she'll eat.

Than again, I have a super picky husband, so I don't consider a lot of the dinners we make very complex anyway

carries2018 · March 2017

i dunno if this is a FFFC or UO but it is all i got so here goes.

I love teachers (ok most of them), i love what they do shaping the future generations blah blah blah. they deserve good pay. but for the love. they are the biggest complainers about going back to work after vacations etc. YOU GET 3 MONTHS OFF A YEAR! i really dont feel the slightest bit bad for you returning to work after a long summer off, or an extra long holiday break. or spring break.

mrs_fogue · March 2017

Every child is different and we all adjust our parenting styles to them. Just because I don't make two meals now for my DD, knowing she will eat most things I make, doesn't mean this little bean will be the same. I don't think anyone who doesn't make 2 separate meals was judging those that do, it's just our current parenting styles.

UO: I am feed up with people and their statements "____ voted for Trump, I hope he losses his ____." No that's not how this works! I fully support being opinionated about the President, but I hate seeing people bashing their friends/family. I guess having watched political opinions take a very ugly turn between my parents, aunt and uncle just left me sick and tired of all the ugliness.

canonmom413 · March 2017

@jessafishy I won't claim this won't ever happen. But for us making one meal works. Our rule is you try it. If you don't like it that's fine. There is cereal and waffles and other foods easily available. I won't make another meal though. My kids are older, so we don't really have that problem anymore. That isn't to say this one won't be my wild child.

bluejeanbabi05 · March 2017

UO: I wish it were acceptable to have the nursery done, baby shower held and all baby things purchased at 11 weeks. Lol. I just want to sit and bask in a finished nursery.

We did paint it last night, FFTC. That's it for now, though. Sad face.

ksf13 · March 2017

@jessafishy Mine isn't particularly picky. She will eat most anything, but she hates to eat in general. If you ask her what she wants for dinner, she will say "nothing". It takes her FOREVER to eat a meal most days. If cooking something separate that she would eat without a fight would fix it, I'd be doing it in a heartbeat lol. If I physically feed her, she will eat it without a problem or complaint. She's going on four though, so that just isn't an option. I can't have her going to kindergarten thinking her teacher is going to feed her lol.

I can never think of an UO and I want to so bad lol.

canonmom413 · March 2017

I think babymoons are dumb. Like, just call it a vacation. Calling it a babymoon makes it sound like you'll never get another time alone with your husband again. Not necessarily true. But, to each their own.

bluejeanbabi05 · March 2017

canonmom413 said:

I think babymoons are dumb. Like, just call it a vacation. Calling it a babymoon makes it sound like you'll never get another time alone with your husband again. Not necessarily true. But, to each their own.

Shhhh, don't say this in front of my DH! I have convinced him that a weekend trip to Savannah is a necessary and expected pre-baby event. Any excuse for a vacation, I say! I do think I'm going to coincide it with my birthday, because it's my 30th in July

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carries2018 · March 2017

mrs_fogue said:

UO: I am feed up with people and their statements "____ voted for Trump, I hope he losses his ____." No that's not how this works! I fully support being opinionated about the President, but I hate seeing people bashing their friends/family. I guess having watched political opinions take a very ugly turn between my parents, aunt and uncle just left me sick and tired of all the ugliness.

i get what you are saying, normally i would agree. but this presidency is just so unprecedented. it is terrifying what he is doing to our country. it isnt like ::shakes fist at obama:: my taxes are being affected! it is like oh my gosh, the values and beliefs this country was built upon is being stripped. it is hard not to take that personal, and want to prove to people who voted for him why they were so wrong.

that being said, i truly don't believe people who voted for him are bad people. i think they didnt know enough, and that is their fault (which is why i think a lot of people want to "prove" to them why they were so wrong). but it is easy to not research and just take what is said at face value. people were looking for a change. i am a republican (fffc). do you know how hard it was to vote for hillary? but the options we had were terrible. and i blame the DNC, no doubt in my mind if they didnt push her...Bernie would be our president.

jessafishy · March 2017

I appreciate all of your perspectives. Eating and food has always been hard for DS, always.

I didn't necessarily think anyone here was being sanctimommy about it but I have heard people IRL act like picky eating was a parenting fault. Every kid is different, I really hope this one is a little easier on the food front.

carries2018 · March 2017

canonmom413 said:

I think babymoons are dumb. Like, just call it a vacation. Calling it a babymoon makes it sound like you'll never get another time alone with your husband again. Not necessarily true. But, to each their own.

a babymoon sounds terrible. ill hold off until there is nothing in my uterus so i can lay on a beach and get drunk.

aprilsarahjune · March 2017

@keriflores
DS behaves the same way! If I feed him, he will clean his plate - no matter what the meal. If he is forced to use his fork, we will sit there for an hour and he will stare out of the window, etc.. Ugh. But glad that DS is not alone in this behavior.

natleilynn · March 2017

carries2018 said:

mrs_fogue said:

UO: I am feed up with people and their statements "____ voted for Trump, I hope he losses his ____." No that's not how this works! I fully support being opinionated about the President, but I hate seeing people bashing their friends/family. I guess having watched political opinions take a very ugly turn between my parents, aunt and uncle just left me sick and tired of all the ugliness.

i get what you are saying, normally i would agree. but this presidency is just so unprecedented. it is terrifying what he is doing to our country. it isnt like ::shakes fist at obama:: my taxes are being affected! it is like oh my gosh, the values and beliefs this country was built upon is being stripped. it is hard not to take that personal, and want to prove to people who voted for him why they were so wrong.

that being said, i truly don't believe people who voted for him are bad people. i think they didnt know enough, and that is their fault (which is why i think a lot of people want to "prove" to them why they were so wrong). but it is easy to not research and just take what is said at face value. people were looking for a change. i am a republican (fffc). do you know how hard it was to vote for hillary? but the options we had were terrible. and i blame the DNC, no doubt in my mind if they didnt push her...Bernie would be our president.

I blame both political parties (registered independent here).

They gave us two completely horrible candidates to choose from. I voted, but felt like America lost either way. I have a feeling this will only be a one-term presidency, though, so hopefully both parties can step up their game and find some decent candidates for 2020.

carries2018 · March 2017

natleilynn said:

carries2018 said:

I blame both political parties (registered independent here).

They gave us two completely horrible candidates to choose from. I voted, but felt like America lost either way. I have a feeling this will only be a one-term presidency, though, so hopefully both parties can step up their game and find some decent candidates for 2020.

meh, GOP didnt give us a good option...but they did everything they could to try and get him out. his platform was just too strong...platform of lies and idiotic comments...but that is neither here nor there. he won the votes.

natleilynn · March 2017

carries2018 said:

natleilynn said:

carries2018 said:

I blame both political parties (registered independent here).

They gave us two completely horrible candidates to choose from. I voted, but felt like America lost either way. I have a feeling this will only be a one-term presidency, though, so hopefully both parties can step up their game and find some decent candidates for 2020.

meh, GOP didnt give us a good option...but they did everything they could to try and get him out. his platform was just too strong...platform of lies and idiotic comments...but that is neither here nor there. he won the votes.

I guess I'm more just saying, our final two choices sucked.

I agree, though, I think if the DNC would have just let Bernie run, he would've beaten Trump. I guess it's good that the people aren't willing to sit back and be pushed into a candidate just because the party is pushing them, but it definitely hurt Hillary after that.

bluejeanbabi05 · March 2017

Oooo now I have a good UO: I think Hillary Clinton is great and I happily voted for her.

natleilynn · March 2017

bluejeanbabi05 said:

Oooo now I have a good UO: I think Hillary Clinton is great and I happily voted for her.

hahahahaha I was just waiting for this

And you know what? I think that's great. That's what I love about this country - we all have the right to pick the candidate we think is best. And we have the right to disagree in a civilized manner.

mrs_fogue · March 2017

natleilynn said:

bluejeanbabi05 said:

Oooo now I have a good UO: I think Hillary Clinton is great and I happily voted for her.

hahahahaha I was just waiting for this

And you know what? I think that's great. That's what I love about this country - we all have the right to pick the candidate we think is best. And we have the right to disagree in a civilized manner.

1000% agree!! I just hate bashing our loved once who don't agree with our sides.

Just think how boring this place would be if we all agreed!

@natlielynn your my new favorite person for thinking about politics in a rational manner. Can you spread that pixie dust?

natleilynn · March 2017

UO - push presents.

DH surprised me with earrings and a necklace with DD, but I feel like it's ridiculous to expect a gift just for popping out a baby. I have friends acquaintances who demanded expensive gifts from their partners after the baby was born.

I mean, the kid should be the #1 reward. And for me, being able to have wine and raw sushi again was plenty of secondary reward. I know DH was trying to be all sweet and junk...but I would've settled for a (non-pineapple) pizza delivered to the hospital. I didn't even know he knew what a push present was, to be honest.

natleilynn · March 2017

mrs_fogue said:
1000% agree!! I just hate bashing our loved once who don't agree with our sides.
Just think how boring this place would be if we all agreed!
@natlielynn your my new favorite person for thinking about politics in a rational manner. Can you spread that pixie dust?

@mrs_fogue I can't even get my own husband to convert to my way of thinking. Sometimes I think I'm a unicorn.

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dmellis02 · March 2017

jessafishy said:

I have one that will probably ruffle some feathers.

I think if you are either a FTM or a STM+ who says things like "I won't make two meals for my kid, they will eat what I eat." you simply have not experienced a child who is a picky eater. I'm glad for you that you don't have to experience this particular version of hell, but it's not your parenting that makes your kid eat.

I agree. I just ask my son what he wants for dinner. I would rather he eat than not eat. He normally eats hot dogs, dinosaur chicken nuggets with honey, or fruit for dinner. Yesterday I was able to convince him to eat spaghetti and meatballs (which he just told me was yucky the day before). But if he had told me no, I wouldn't have pushed on.

feeislove · March 2017

My UO: I don't like photo sessions. Bridal portraits. Maternity portraits. Family portraits. I've never had any of these done and I don't see myself ever doing them because I just think they're awkward. Or at least they would be for me. Just the thought makes me cringe.

canonmom413 · March 2017

Ooo @natleilynn I agree about Push presents!! I was happy DH took off work to help , haha ! We have no family in the area. I don't need jewelry or things for pushing a baby out. Then again we don't really do big gifts for birthdays or holidays either. We focus on the kids in that aspect. With DD1 we were so young and push presents weren't really a "thing"

bluejeanbabi05 · March 2017

I agree on the push present thing, and on big presents in general like @canonmom413 said. It's all coming from the same pot anyway so splurging too much strikes me as silly. I'd rather that money be in our savings account!

I did tell DH I want a push present when we're done having kids- my boobs pushed up surgically.

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carries2018 · March 2017

@feeislove i highly disagree! i work PT selling photography. i think it is so important to capture those moments! I do dislike maternity pics. i can get on board with that.

along the same theme. i am so tired of momtographers "launching their new passion" stfu you bought an expensive camera and clicked a button. that isnt being a professional. a professional understands lighting which i have yet to see a momtographer accomplish, and a professional can pull the expressions from you and make you feel comfortable...and over above all of that, they are ruining the industry with pricing so low.

mrs_fogue · March 2017

bluejeanbabi05 said:

I did tell DH I want a push present when we're done having kids- my boobs pushed up surgically.

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JessDG · March 2017

carries2018 said:

i dunno if this is a FFFC or UO but it is all i got so here goes.

I love teachers (ok most of them), i love what they do shaping the future generations blah blah blah. they deserve good pay. but for the love. they are the biggest complainers about going back to work after vacations etc. YOU GET 3 MONTHS OFF A YEAR! i really dont feel the slightest bit bad for you returning to work after a long summer off, or an extra long holiday break. or spring break.

I am a teacher and to be completely honest with you, I'm usually much more happy about coming back to work after a break than on any other Monday because I have had the opportunity to slow down.

It's really easy to make a judgement about other professions without having walked a mile in their shoes. I could have been pissed that my doctor left me waiting for 25 minutes the other day at my appointment, but honestly, I have no idea what her day was like. I'm sure there was a good reason she was running behind.

Every job has its challenges and its perks and some people handle both with more grace than others. I'm sorry to hear that you know negative whiny teachers, but we are not all like that.

mylittleversailles · March 2017

@feeislove I only had candids at my (super duper informal picnic) wedding for this exact reason. However, I am willing to make one exception for a newborn.

jessafishy · March 2017

@JessDG Totally agree. DH is a teacher and he hates not going to work every day in the summer. A week or maybe 2 off, for him, would be juuuuust fine.

But he is also one of those people whose job is kind of part of his identity. I'm super jealous that he loves what he does so much because I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up.

JessDG · March 2017

@jessafishy I know so many teachers who just go through the motions and don't really have any kind of passion for what they do. Those are the ones who give the rest of us a bad name. I am very thankful that I really love doing this or else I probably would be looking for another job.

bluejeanbabi05 · March 2017

@jessdg I'm so thankful for all the teachers out there who are passionate about what they do. I could never do it! My moms a teacher and I just can't believe some of the things she goes through. @jessafishy she's like your DH tho, it's part of her identity and who she is so she sees it as worth it.

Eta: she does love her long breaks, though

JessDG · March 2017

I think my DH would really like for me to stay home with our children while they're young. I think that would be wonderful, but I keep thinking about how tough it would be to give up my job. He doesn't always understand that it's just part of who I am. It was honestly all I had going for me for a few years, so I'm kind of attached to teaching! We will see what happens.

beezeee · March 2017

@jessafishy @JessDG all of this. My DH is also a teacher, and he is so passionate about it and loves it way more than I could ever love any job. He hates being off for summer break. Meanwhile I'm over here plotting any and all possible ways to get out of working

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