Can I pipe in and ask what ever happened to the Weekly "Tickler" threads? LOL. That was a theme for about a week there. Everyone was typing tickler and I didn't get it at all. It was good for a laugh though.
A well-loved regular poster started a tickler thread, and when someone mentioned the typo, she admitted it wasn't a typo, she really thought it was "tickler." So then we all poked fun at her for a while. I'll let her out herself if she wants.
Glad you're ok @caribbeanmama! Sorry to hear things are rough at the moment, @mj8215. Things get so overwhelming and I feel like since being pregnant it's easier to feel helpless or just overly stressed. I hope things calm down soon so you can breathe easier!
TTC history in spoiler
Me: 31 Him: 37 Married: Oct 2015 Baby G born June 2017 TTC#2: July 2018 BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19 BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
DH and I have our physicals for our life insurance tomorrow morning at the crack of dawn. We started the process two months ago and it took this long to get to the examination point. The company knows I'm pregnant, but I'm not sure if they are going to take that into account for my weight and cholestoral draw. I've heard pregnancy can cause your cholestorol to be elevated, and mine was on the high end of normal to begin with. Ugh.
@oheliza44 We just did that on Tuesday. They told me they often have pregnant women apply for life insurance and they take that into to account for weight/blood pressure/cholesterol so no worries. For our bank, there was a place to check off that I was pregnant on the application form. Hooray for adulting!
It's just been a long stretch of late shifts ever since getting back from babymoon, and on top of that I'm dealing with some very stressful visa issues (long story but I need to extend my work visa annually (even though husband is citizen, again long aggravating story, has to do with the fact that I came here to work as a doctor and only met him a few years in, so now I'm stuck with this until NIH thinks my research is important enough to grant me a waiver - this is typically reserved for more senior people... hopefully next year) and it's always a huge pain. It sounds trivial compared to things like health issues but the fact that if something gets messed up on the admin side (by admin people at my hospital who make it very clear couldn't care less) I might find myself with an expired work visa a few weeks before the baby comes.... it gives me nightmares. Again this is not new, I've been through this five times before, and it previously ended up working out, so chances are it will this time, but being pregnant and sleep deprived adds a whole other dimension. Andplusalso the current political climate.
@mj8215 that sounds like a nightmare. I'm sure it will all work out. Try to stay positive. Hugs to you.
@OperaSingerMommy adulting sucks so bad. This weekend we have the triple whammy of finishing our taxes, health insurance physical, and buying DH new tires. Woot woot! Now excuse me while I chug my very non-alcoholic beverage and hide in the back of my closet.
@mj8215 ugh! Sorry you have to go through this - I remember anything visa would make me anxious no matter how many times I had been through the cycle. Hang in there!
@oheliza44 yay for adulting and finishing taxes! I did ours a couple days ago resulting in a massive bill because husband claimed zero on his annual bonus. May I ask what you are drinking? Not being able to freely gulp down all the wine is seriously messing with my coping skills!
@mj8215 I'm so sorry for the stress. Hopefully the visa situation will get resolved quickly. I can't imagine being worried not only about your research, but also about getting a waiver and having a baby and being able to keep working! That's a lot. (((Hugs)))
I get...messages, I guess...from some websites because I have an ad blocker as part of my anti-virus software for my laptop. They all say that the pop-ups are how they make their money. Sorry, but no. I don't need to win a trip somewhere or see some random video.
Married: 10/13/2013
TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
Thank you ladies. I'm not usually this whiny. It's just that the visa stuff serves as some sort of trigger. I'm sure a good therapist could come up with a reasonable explanation. Anyways been running around a lot getting documents from person A to person B for signing / uploading, and things seem to be moving forward ... so I'm a bit more optimistic this morning.
@mj8215 I think you are more than justified in your anxiety, this is no little paperwork issue - plus with the political climate it adds a layer of problems and anxiety all it's own. FX it all works out smoothly sooner rather than later.
My random seems like it could be covered in every daily specific thread.
DH decided to schedule a showing of our house with one of our current renters Sunday even though we aren't moving until July (WTF?) and gave me less than a week notice (TWT) so I am busy cleaning and trying to fix things that we have been putting off because our focus has been finishing the new house and any work we do on this place seems to be slightly idiotic until we move out (MBF). So I am using the cleaning excuse to not mess up my kitchen and have him go get dinner last night and the next two nights (FFFC) and just to round out my week, My UO is cleaning toilets is one of my favorite household chores.
@Dcwtada I would be so happy with a weeks notice! Our house is on the market for sale. We're also very busy with a renovation project that gets way more of our attention than our current home. But our real estate agent is ALWAYS only telling us the day/evening before a showing. I waste my time every time getting everything deep cleaned and nothing comes of it. We have a showing today and I don't even curr. The kitchen is clean but I didn't vacuum all upstairs or make sure all laundry was done and put away and get everything dusted like I have every time so far. Ugh I can't wait to be out of here and then she can show this house anytime she freakin wants.
@mj8215 totally understand your visa concerns I'd imagine anyone would be scared and moreso when pregnant. I hope the process is quick and smooth from here so it'll be one less thing for you to worry about.
BFP May 2013 - MMC at 8 weeks BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015 BFP November 2016 - pending...
I'm so done today. It's been a pile on day and I get to solo parent this weekend because DH is out of town.
The latest in my string of shit things to happen today, my best friend just seriously got in an argument with me because of weight loss. I literally told her that it wasn't a good topic for us to talk about and we probably needed to move on because we obviously weren't saying things that were healing each other and she blew up at me. I hate talking about that topic to start with. I feel like a whale right now because my weight gain has been pretty high and I have weight issues to start with. I haven't been able to work out much and I'm just not feeling good about myself right now. I really didn't need this today.
I'm so done today. It's been a pile on day and I get to solo parent this weekend because DH is out of town.
The latest in my string of shit things to happen today, my best friend just seriously got in an argument with me because of weight loss. I literally told her that it wasn't a good topic for us to talk about and we probably needed to move on because we obviously weren't saying things that were healing each other and she blew up at me. I hate talking about that topic to start with. I feel like a whale right now because my weight gain has been pretty high and I have weight issues to start with. I haven't been able to work out much and I'm just not feeling good about myself right now. I really didn't need this today.
Here for you girl. I know those days are especially rough and there's not much you can do until you pull out of it. Weight issues are no joke regardless of what end of the spectrum you're on. (((hugs)))
@PurplePoppy424 I am so sorry you're going through this. It's hard enough dealing with our own internal thoughts without having insensitive friends constantly bringing us back to a negative space.
Hugs, @PurplePoppy424. Body image issues are difficult to deal with when you're not pregnant. My husband started teasing me this morning because I tried on so many outfits and I shot him dagger eyes - the pregnant lady wants to feel even a little cute and un-whale-like today.
We got our crib today!! My husband's co-worker just gave it to us! I'm making him cookies over the weekend as a thank you. He requested oatmeal raisin - sorry, but those are like, the most boring cookie. I'm just baffled that those are the cookies he chose.
@PurplePumpernickel I love oatmeal cookies! Someone told me that oatmeal helps with milk production so when DD was born, I ate massive amounts of oatmeal cookies and told myself it was for the baby . I'm sure they mean actual oats not the cookie form but whatever, send them all my way!
RIGHT?! I only like raisins if they're cooked in something. A box plain? Gross. Keep those away from me.
I'm going to double the batch and do half just oatmeal raisin for him, half oatmeal raisin chocolate chip for us, because I'm not baking cookies to not eat any.
@Rae1 - I knew there was a reason I liked you. Raisins are the devil and should be banned.
Married: 10/13/2013
TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
@PurplePoppy424 Hugs to you. I'm sorry your friend was such a TW. You definitely don't need that today. I hope you can do something nice for yourself and make DH parent for the night so you get a break.
Me: 31 DH: 31 DS born 6/2017, became a heart angel 8/2018 CP 3/2019
Thanks guys. I made the executive decision to drown my sorrows in a big bowl of Menchies frozen yogurt. It's DD's favorite place and since I'm solo parenting tonight, it should make her behave too.
Re: Weekly Randoms March 13-17
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
Sorry to hear things are rough at the moment, @mj8215. Things get so overwhelming and I feel like since being pregnant it's easier to feel helpless or just overly stressed. I hope things calm down soon so you can breathe easier!
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
sorry for all the whining.
It's just been a long stretch of late shifts ever since getting back from babymoon, and on top of that I'm dealing with some very stressful visa issues (long story but I need to extend my work visa annually (even though husband is citizen, again long aggravating story, has to do with the fact that I came here to work as a doctor and only met him a few years in, so now I'm stuck with this until NIH thinks my research is important enough to grant me a waiver - this is typically reserved for more senior people... hopefully next year) and it's always a huge pain. It sounds trivial compared to things like health issues but the fact that if something gets messed up on the admin side (by admin people at my hospital who make it very clear couldn't care less) I might find myself with an expired work visa a few weeks before the baby comes.... it gives me nightmares.
Again this is not new, I've been through this five times before, and it previously ended up working out, so chances are it will this time, but being pregnant and sleep deprived adds a whole other dimension. Andplusalso the current political climate.
@OperaSingerMommy adulting sucks so bad. This weekend we have the triple whammy of finishing our taxes, health insurance physical, and buying DH new tires. Woot woot! Now excuse me while I chug my very non-alcoholic beverage and hide in the back of my closet.
@oheliza44 yay for adulting and finishing taxes! I did ours a couple days ago resulting in a massive bill because husband claimed zero on his annual bonus. May I ask what you are drinking? Not being able to freely gulp down all the wine is seriously messing with my coping skills!
Anyways been running around a lot getting documents from person A to person B for signing / uploading, and things seem to be moving forward ... so I'm a bit more optimistic this morning.
Married: 6/2016
TTC:6/2016
BFP: 11/22/2016 | EDD: 7/29/2017
My random seems like it could be covered in every daily specific thread.
DH decided to schedule a showing of our house with one of our current renters Sunday even though we aren't moving until July (WTF?) and gave me less than a week notice (TWT) so I am busy cleaning and trying to fix things that we have been putting off because our focus has been finishing the new house and any work we do on this place seems to be slightly idiotic until we move out (MBF). So I am using the cleaning excuse to not mess up my kitchen and have him go get dinner last night and the next two nights (FFFC) and just to round out my week, My UO is cleaning toilets is one of my favorite household chores.
@mj8215 totally understand your visa concerns I'd imagine anyone would be scared and moreso when pregnant. I hope the process is quick and smooth from here so it'll be one less thing for you to worry about.
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
DS born 6/2017, became a heart angel 8/2018
CP 3/2019
DS born 6/2017, became a heart angel 8/2018
CP 3/2019
The latest in my string of shit things to happen today, my best friend just seriously got in an argument with me because of weight loss. I literally told her that it wasn't a good topic for us to talk about and we probably needed to move on because we obviously weren't saying things that were healing each other and she blew up at me. I hate talking about that topic to start with. I feel like a whale right now because my weight gain has been pretty high and I have weight issues to start with. I haven't been able to work out much and I'm just not feeling good about myself right now. I really didn't need this today.
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
We got our crib today!! My husband's co-worker just gave it to us! I'm making him cookies over the weekend as a thank you. He requested oatmeal raisin - sorry, but those are like, the most boring cookie. I'm just baffled that those are the cookies he chose.
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
I'm going to double the batch and do half just oatmeal raisin for him, half oatmeal raisin chocolate chip for us, because I'm not baking cookies to not eat any.
DS born 6/2017, became a heart angel 8/2018
CP 3/2019