So, I'm kind of stumped but overflowing with the joy of finally being pregnant. I have a few questions of concern though. Why did it take me four years to get pregnant? And will it take me just as long with future pregnancies? Long story short, I've only had two men in my life I wanted to have children with. We had unprotected sex for a year. I knew from reading blogs if you haven't gotten pregnant in the first year you might want to try a different avenue. Thank God a baby didn't come from the first relationship seeing it didn't last when distance got in the way. I've been with my current boyfriend for three years and we've had unprotected sex the whole time. I wasn't on any birth control and thought I couldn't have any kids so I just rolled with the punches. We were well aware of each other's status so unprotected wasn't a big deal. I started timing my ovulation, EVERYTHING nothing happened. Around the two year mark reality finally set in and we gave up all hope. In that second year we also found out I had an ovarian cyst. I had no surgery it just dissolved. Shortly after it dissolved I stopped having horrible mentral cramps and I got pregnant! I've always been told ovarian cysts can't prevent pregnancy. I never was able to pin point why I couldnt get pregnant and I definitely can't pin point why I'm pregnant now. All I can say is my fiancé and I broke up for a week, we had make up sex around thanksgiving and the next month we found out we were pregnant on Dec.19 after three years. I had no symptoms I had been drinking the night before we found out and thought I had a really bad hangover so we went to the ER. My period was 3 days late and I'm never late unless my cycle is switching. I told him Friday if I don't have my period by Monday (went to the ER on Sunday) I was going to take a test. We just thought it was one of those times where my cycle was about to switch only for me to have a positive test at the hospital. Has this even happened to anyone?! Just getting pregnant out of the blue after YEARS of trying with two different partners. It's not like any of us were infertile bc my ex now has a kid and my fiancé and I are expecting now. I'm just so confused!!! Currently 16 weeks !!
Re: I'm pregnant and have no idea how it happened!
I am sorry to hear you struggled. I know struggling when TTC is never any fun but to answer the question you asked - you had sex- unprotected sex - that's how it happened. Congrats!
Married: 07-2014
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
*TW*
And just all the "no" to this. Your pregnancy was science with some luck. But yes, be happy it happened!
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
Married: 07-2014
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
*TW*
I also know a couple who could not get pregnant and pursued adoption. Shortly after finding out they were going to get a baby, she got pregnant! They went through with the adoption, of course, and ended up having two little girls that were just a few months apart.
Things like this just happen sometimes. Sometimes there is no medical explanation.
You went to the ER for a hangover?
Sounds like you're happy though so congrats on science working in your favour!
FWIW, we tried for more than 4 years, were told we couldn't conceive naturally, and yet here we are. Bodies are weird. But no one here can tell you why you got pregnant now. We aren't a: magical, b: a doctor who knows anything about your personal reproductive system.
How it happened...
also a "healthy" couple only has a 20% chance of conceiving each month even with perfect timing, perfect pH, perfect everything so the assumption conception will happen immediately or even within 6 months to a year is false
Being a bit sarcastic here but I wasn't aware the bump was for atheists only.
Plus, I'm pretty sure that believing in God and believing in science don't have to be mutually exclusive. And asking about science and then saying you don't care because God is, frankly, weird and off putting.
. So went going to rush to a fertility clinic we went trying as much as no longer try not to . Wasn't that long ago early this year maybe we did think about getting checked out both of us to see for sure just to know . And then out of nowhere pregnant not particularly paying any attention and no longer charting or any of it lol .
When the midwife at my 1st intervew asked if planned OR not and happy OR not . Had to explain that the timing wasn't planned at all but the baby was.
Me: 42, DH: 46, Married: 11/12
Losses: MMC#1 11/12 BO, MC#2 11/13 at 8w BO?, MMC#3 8/14 chromo healthy M @12 weeks, stopped growing at 10.
Negligible AMH, FSH finally went high. Pursued DE.
DD born at 38w2d on 5-27-16. Finally!!
Pregnant again with OE. EDD 11/9/17 Girl!
Also pretty sad you go to the ER kowing you have a HANGOVER