I'm pregnant and have no idea how it happened!

aysia94 · March 2017

So, I'm kind of stumped but overflowing with the joy of finally being pregnant. I have a few questions of concern though. Why did it take me four years to get pregnant? And will it take me just as long with future pregnancies? Long story short, I've only had two men in my life I wanted to have children with. We had unprotected sex for a year. I knew from reading blogs if you haven't gotten pregnant in the first year you might want to try a different avenue. Thank God a baby didn't come from the first relationship seeing it didn't last when distance got in the way. I've been with my current boyfriend for three years and we've had unprotected sex the whole time. I wasn't on any birth control and thought I couldn't have any kids so I just rolled with the punches. We were well aware of each other's status so unprotected wasn't a big deal. I started timing my ovulation, EVERYTHING nothing happened. Around the two year mark reality finally set in and we gave up all hope. In that second year we also found out I had an ovarian cyst. I had no surgery it just dissolved. Shortly after it dissolved I stopped having horrible mentral cramps and I got pregnant! I've always been told ovarian cysts can't prevent pregnancy. I never was able to pin point why I couldnt get pregnant and I definitely can't pin point why I'm pregnant now. All I can say is my fiancé and I broke up for a week, we had make up sex around thanksgiving and the next month we found out we were pregnant on Dec.19 after three years. I had no symptoms I had been drinking the night before we found out and thought I had a really bad hangover so we went to the ER. My period was 3 days late and I'm never late unless my cycle is switching. I told him Friday if I don't have my period by Monday (went to the ER on Sunday) I was going to take a test. We just thought it was one of those times where my cycle was about to switch only for me to have a positive test at the hospital. Has this even happened to anyone?! Just getting pregnant out of the blue after YEARS of trying with two different partners. It's not like any of us were infertile bc my ex now has a kid and my fiancé and I are expecting now. I'm just so confused!!! Currently 16 weeks !!

SaphireSweetie88 · March 2017

aysia94 said:

So, I'm kind of stumped but overflowing with the joy of finally being pregnant. I have a few questions of concern though. Why did it take me four years to get pregnant? And will it take me just as long with future pregnancies? Long story short, I've only had two men in my life I wanted to have children with. We had unprotected sex for a year. I knew from reading blogs if you haven't gotten pregnant in the first year you might want to try a different avenue. Thank God a baby didn't come from the first relationship seeing it didn't last when distance got in the way. I've been with my current boyfriend for three years and we've had unprotected sex the whole time. I wasn't on any birth control and thought I couldn't have any kids so I just rolled with the punches. We were well aware of each other's status so unprotected wasn't a big deal. I started timing my ovulation, EVERYTHING nothing happened. Around the two year mark reality finally set in and we gave up all hope. In that second year we also found out I had an ovarian cyst. I had no surgery it just dissolved. Shortly after it dissolved I stopped having horrible mentral cramps and I got pregnant! I've always been told ovarian cysts can't prevent pregnancy. I never was able to pin point why I couldnt get pregnant and I definitely can't pin point why I'm pregnant now. All I can say is my fiancé and I broke up for a week, we had make up sex around thanksgiving and the next month we found out we were pregnant on Dec.19 after three years. I had no symptoms I had been drinking the night before we found out and thought I had a really bad hangover so we went to the ER. My period was 3 days late and I'm never late unless my cycle is switching. I told him Friday if I don't have my period by Monday (went to the ER on Sunday) I was going to take a test. We just thought it was one of those times where my cycle was about to switch only for me to have a positive test at the hospital. Has this even happened to anyone?! Just getting pregnant out of the blue after YEARS of trying with two different partners. It's not like any of us were infertile bc my ex now has a kid and my fiancé and I are expecting now. I'm just so confused!!! Currently 16 weeks !!

QFP

I am sorry to hear you struggled. I know struggling when TTC is never any fun but to answer the question you asked - you had sex- unprotected sex - that's how it happened. Congrats!

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aysia94 · March 2017

Thank you! Yes, I know. But why did it take me so long?! With a perfectly healthy uterus and steady ovulation? I guess I should have been more specific, lol.

aysia94 · March 2017

I have to stop questioning gods work, I'm just happy it happened!

eggplantface · March 2017

aysia94 said:

Thank you! Yes, I know. But why did it take me so long?! With a perfectly healthy uterus and steady ovulation? I guess I should have been more specific, lol.

You think Internet strangers will be able to answer this? Ask your doctor if you need an explanation. But the better idea would be to just be happy you got pregnant and move forward rather than wonder what happened.

aysia94 said:

I have to stop questioning gods work, I'm just happy it happened!

And just all the "no" to this. Your pregnancy was science with some luck. But yes, be happy it happened!

thistlenweeds · March 2017

So why did you not ask a doctor when you didn't manage to get pregnant for a year?

SaphireSweetie88 · March 2017

aysia94 said:

Thank you! Yes, I know. But why did it take me so long?! With a perfectly healthy uterus and steady ovulation? I guess I should have been more specific, lol.

Ask your doctor. If you were concerned about not being able to get pregnant and that it took so long, why did you not consult with your doctor or an RE about what's going on. We don't know you or your medical history so we can't tell you why you didn't get pregnant right away. NOR can we tell you if it will take you the same amount of time, longer or shorter to get pregnant again. Each TTC period is different. Some people get pregnant with #2 a lot easier than #1 and vice versa.

lund · March 2017

eggplantface said:

aysia94 said:

I have to stop questioning gods work, I'm just happy it happened!

And just all the "no" to this. Your pregnancy was science with some luck. But yes, be happy it happened!

Maybe this is part of why it took so long - because she kept thinking god would do it when science helps a whole lot more.

lovesclimbing · March 2017

This just happens sometimes. I know a couple who tried for pushing 10 years to have a baby. Multiple miscarriages, multiple failed infertility treatments (not sure what all they tried). They gave up on treatments and a while later, got pregnant naturally and had a healthy baby.

I also know a couple who could not get pregnant and pursued adoption. Shortly after finding out they were going to get a baby, she got pregnant! They went through with the adoption, of course, and ended up having two little girls that were just a few months apart.

Things like this just happen sometimes. Sometimes there is no medical explanation.

glitterdragon-2 · March 2017

You went to the ER for a hangover?

MyNamesTaken · March 2017

Fertility is weird sometimes? If you didn't see a doctor about your issues then you may never know. If you're concerned about future fertility, see a doctor.

Sounds like you're happy though so congrats on science working in your favour!

mrs_tacos · March 2017

aysia94 said:

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I had no symptoms I had been drinking the night before we found out and thought I had a really bad hangover so we went to the ER. My period was 3 days late and I'm never late unless my cycle is switching.
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"Unless your cycle is switching"? What does that even mean? And who goes to the ER for a hangover? Whatever happened to gatorade and bananas?

FWIW, we tried for more than 4 years, were told we couldn't conceive naturally, and yet here we are. Bodies are weird. But no one here can tell you why you got pregnant now. We aren't a: magical, b: a doctor who knows anything about your personal reproductive system.

lap018 · March 2017

How it happened...

also a "healthy" couple only has a 20% chance of conceiving each month even with perfect timing, perfect pH, perfect everything so the assumption conception will happen immediately or even within 6 months to a year is false

DeansGirl14 · April 2017

Uh.... ok I may get jumped on for this, but why did people jump on OP for her reference to God? Some people know full well the science behind conception (sperm meet egg, egg meet uterus) but consider it actually happening (finally, successfully) a blessing from their god, regardless of religion observed.
Being a bit sarcastic here but I wasn't aware the bump was for atheists only.

meggyme · April 2017

DeansGirl14 said:

Uh.... ok I may get jumped on for this, but why did people jump on OP for her reference to God? Some people know full well the science behind conception (sperm meet egg, egg meet uterus) but consider it actually happening (finally, successfully) a blessing from their god, regardless of religion observed.
Being a bit sarcastic here but I wasn't aware the bump was for atheists only.

I think the reason was that she asked for a scientific answer as to how she got pregnant after so long and then kind of negated the answers by saying 'whatever, it doesn't matter because it was god'. The bump is obviously not only for atheists, but it is a scientifically based community. If someone is looking for religious help with fertility, this isn't really the first place I would look.

lilpoots · April 2017

@DeansGirl14 I can't speak for everyone on this post, but I can say that as someone who's had TTTC due to IF, it can be very hurtful when someone says that they were blessed by God. It implies that those of us who struggle are not blessed. Same goes for phrases like "God's will." I'm agnostic and things like that sometimes bother me, especially when they are dismissive of my experience or feelings.

mrs_tacos · April 2017

lilpoots said:

@DeansGirl14 I can't speak for everyone on this post, but I can say that as someone who's had TTTC due to IF, it can be very hurtful when someone says that they were blessed by God. It implies that those of us who struggle are not blessed. Same goes for phrases like "God's will." I'm agnostic and things like that sometimes bother me, especially when they are dismissive of my experience or feelings.

I'm religious and things like that bother me as well. It is dismissive, and indicates that those who don't have children are somehow less blessed, or worthy of blessing. In fact, if you look at the New Testament, Jesus was constantly talking about how he is especially close to and there for those those who struggle.

Plus, I'm pretty sure that believing in God and believing in science don't have to be mutually exclusive. And asking about science and then saying you don't care because God is, frankly, weird and off putting.

foxaírt · May 2017

Kinda tried for 4 years and settled on the same idea. I personally don't believe in ivf . Lots of reasons . Not judgement just for me it's a no go
. So went going to rush to a fertility clinic we went trying as much as no longer try not to . Wasn't that long ago early this year maybe we did think about getting checked out both of us to see for sure just to know . And then out of nowhere pregnant not particularly paying any attention and no longer charting or any of it lol .

When the midwife at my 1st intervew asked if planned OR not and happy OR not . Had to explain that the timing wasn't planned at all but the baby was.

peregrinefalconx · May 2017

My mom's friend's daughter had unprotected sex for over 20 years with her husband and was unable to conceive. At about 40, she got spontaneously pregnant. It happens. And without having done any testing, you really are just shooting in the dark (no pun intended), for an answer. As for a second baby, who knows? But my doc says that after a woman has a first child, there is so much more blood flow to the uterus and that increases your chances of a healthy pregnancy.

Darivila2012 · May 2017

I believe in God and science and I also think ppl can MISTAKENLY be hurtful when accrediting their good fortune or bad with his will. Being able to get pregnant is amazing- I feel blessed and fulfilled

but if you have trouble or have losses, it's not a curse. Nowadays we can try to find a medical solution, or adopt, and hopefully you can surround yourself with friends and family, congrats everyone

lilpoots · May 2017

@Darivila2012 by referencing it as God's will, you are missing the point.

harpseal135 · May 2017

Penis into vagina is sex, despite climax or not you have the chance of pregnancy. You can get pregnant by pre ejaculate. Tjats how you got pregnant. Sex 101.

Also pretty sad you go to the ER kowing you have a HANGOVER

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