Is it a UO that I cringe when I see newborns (like literally only hours old) with soothers shoved in their mouths? Is this normal? Am I missing something? lol
ETA I'm not against soothers but I didn't think they should be given so soon?!
We were advised to give DS a pacifier right away because he was sucking on his lower lip, and it would help him figure out the sucking motion needed to eat. They also suggested that DH wear a glove (like the medical kind) and put a finger in his mouth to suck on to encourage him to stop sucking in his lower lip. He never had any trouble breastfeeding.
My UO is I think people (particularly people like us doing all the research online before baby comes) get too worried about nipple confusion. It's actually quite rare. I was SO stressed out when the pedi suggested we give a bottle of formula before my milk came in because he lost so much weight. But it was NBD. But other moms online were telling me not to do it. Looking back it's like they were suggesting I starve my child for the sake of making breastfeeding work.
My UO: Giving your baby a bath in the kitchen sink is utterly disgusting. A kitchen sink is one of the dirtiest places in a home, some argue that it's even dirtier than a toilet. Google it, I'm not making it up. Think of all the food particles that are lurking, all the raw chicken juices. Just EW!
I scrub my kitchen sink down with soap and water several times a day, and bleach it once a day and I STILL would never even dream of using it to bathe my baby no matter how convenient it may be. Just gross!
My UO is that I think TV causes paranoia. I'm not afraid of bad people in the world, and would never own a gun. If something bad happens to me, that's the unfortunate roll of the dice, and I'd rather live a carefree life. I can't stand most shows because so many are just fear mongering. Law and Order, murder mysteries, etc. In my case, ignorance is bliss.
I don't judge, and I know it's an UO. I just personally feel better when I avoid all the sensationalism in the media related to "fear for your life and buy all the guns."
I agree with parts of this. I am not a paranoid person and don't think bad things will happen to me. But to me, my gun is sort of like car insurance. You don't but car insurance because you think you will get in an accident, you buy it because you want to be protected, should the worst case scenario occur. Same with guns to me. I don't currently fear for my life, but I never want to be in a life threatening situation and feel helpless. Plus I just enjoy shooting (like, at the range).
^^all of this. I'm not paranoid. I grew up in a place where people left their front doors unlocked all the time. But we have a gun because it's kinda fun to shoot guns. My parents live on 40 acres where we can set up targets and shoot, and I really enjoy it. But if it was a situation like someone broke into my house, I honestly don't think I would be comfortable getting the gun. I actually don't even know the code to the safe. So my H would have to be the one to do that. I'd just lock myself in the closet and call 911.
I would like to apologize profusely for not including all my responses in one post. I've been so damn busy at work, got a break and was thinking, "I'M MISSING UO THURSDAY!" In my excitement for said break, I forgot how to bump properly. *sigh*
My UO is that I cannot stand it when someone has 1 boy and 1 girl and people say that they have the "perfect" or "million dollar" family. I know more people that have 1 of each than 2 (or more) of one sex. Like what does that even mean?! Ugh. Haha!
Edit: Apparently I'm forgetting how to spell and use grammar correctly as well
Amen! I feel like I'm oversensitive about this. I have a cousin who has a girl and a boy (Both were accidents... I won't say unwanted, but kind of unwanted timing I guess). When she found out baby #2 was a boy, she said things like "we got lucky that this baby is a boy." No. You got lucky that you're having a healthy baby. I don't get what the big deal is with having one of each. I definitely get why people want to experience both, but I kind of hope that I have two kids of the same sex bc we're planning them close together. Although, it honestly doesn't matter to me. We're having two bc we want two and we want this baby to have a sibling. Not bc we want a particular sex.
A fumny story about my family - I have a distant cousin who has 6 girls bc they kept trying for a boy. Whoops.
My UO: Giving your baby a bath in the kitchen sink is utterly disgusting. A kitchen sink is one of the dirtiest places in a home, some argue that it's even dirtier than a toilet. Google it, I'm not making it up. Think of all the food particles that are lurking, all the raw chicken juices. Just EW!
I scrub my kitchen sink down with soap and water several times a day, and bleach it once a day and I STILL would never even dream of using it to bathe my baby no matter how convenient it may be. Just gross!
@dancegurl1118 Feast your eyes on my cliche sign in all its glory!
Do you get kissed goodnight every night? I don't and I'm thinking maybe it's because I don't have a sign.
Lol, no, I don't get a goodnight kiss EVERY night, though most nights I do. The sign has nothing to do with it. It's a total cliche but I love it. I just burst out laughing when I read dancegirls post citing the exact wording of my sign.
My UO is I think people (particularly people like us doing all the research online before baby comes) get too worried about nipple confusion. It's actually quite rare. I was SO stressed out when the pedi suggested we give a bottle of formula before my milk came in because he lost so much weight. But it was NBD. But other moms online were telling me not to do it. Looking back it's like they were suggesting I starve my child for the sake of making breastfeeding work.
Yesssss! I'm not convinced nipple confusion (whhyyyy did my phone try to say nipple clamps?!?) is a thing. Seems like it's a big scare tactic. And sadly worked--I was so hesitant to give my son a bottle in the first few days, even though he was losing weight. Ugh. I definitely won't hesitate with bottles and formula this time around.
I really like the quote wall decor! I know it's silly, but it makes me happy!
I agree wirh the maternity pictures. I'll take a couple at my shower, maybe, but nothing formal or professional. Pregnancy is beautiful and should be celebrated, but I would feel uncomfortable and wouldn't do anything with the pictures. But I am making a pregnancy scrapbook. It has fun things in it, like craving and aversions, how we announced, etc. it's written to baby, and I hope to give it to him when he's older.
@GlitterFish I do admit I am a bit paranoid with sink cleanliness. Sinks are filled with germs and I can't rest till they're clean. I cook a lot so the sink gets scrubbed down after every time I prepare a meal (usually twice a day), it's just force of habit for me. I rinse dishes and put them in the dishwasher and then wash the sink once it's empty, in that order. At night before bed, I either use Clorox wipes to wipe the sink down, or if any cooking utensils that day touched raw meat, I then use a liquid gel bleach to quickly scrub the sink down.
My inner photographer wept a bit reading this this thread this week lol. I love all well done maternity photos!
agree about the grossness of kitchen sinks I'm sort of skeeved by most things related to food (cleaning the fridge, the kitchen sink, the drain ::shudder::, and the kitchen garbage).
@stokesm21 agree. I'm having my third girl and when someone even hints that it would be better / more exciting if this one was a boy my mama bear comes out harrrdd.
Re: Sayings like "Netflix and Chill..." I definitely thought that this just literally meant to watch Netflix and Chill until pretty recently. I can't tell you how many times people asked me what DH and I were doing on a Friday night and I said "oh not much, probably just Netflix and chill." So glad to know that I basically told a bunch of people we were going to get freaky. Great.
Re: Sayings like "Netflix and Chill..." I definitely thought that this just literally meant to watch Netflix and Chill until pretty recently. I can't tell you how many times people asked me what DH and I were doing on a Friday night and I said "oh not much, probably just Netflix and chill." So glad to know that I basically told a bunch of people we were going to get freaky. Great.
@OperaSingerMommy I was mortified to find out DH didn't know what this meant either and had been telling people the same thing! His face when I told him what it meant was priceless but still!!
Re: Sayings like "Netflix and Chill..." I definitely thought that this just literally meant to watch Netflix and Chill until pretty recently. I can't tell you how many times people asked me what DH and I were doing on a Friday night and I said "oh not much, probably just Netflix and chill." So glad to know that I basically told a bunch of people we were going to get freaky. Great.
+1 for having no clue what this meant, until I used it in a sentence about my parents (that we were going to order chinese, watch netflix and chill, altogether) to my little sister and she kindly corrected me.
If you have any wall decal of "always kiss me goodnight" or "live, laugh, love" or some other bologna hanging in your house I'm judging you.
YES THIS! I cringe when I see these wall decals featuring quotes. Bonus side eyes if it's paired with CHEVRON and in that tired old calligraphy font. Can chevron just stay in the early part of the 2010s?
Is it a UO that I cringe when I see newborns (like literally only hours old) with soothers shoved in their mouths? Is this normal? Am I missing something? lol
ETA I'm not against soothers but I didn't think they should be given so soon?!
We were advised to give DS a pacifier right away because he was sucking on his lower lip, and it would help him figure out the sucking motion needed to eat. They also suggested that DH wear a glove (like the medical kind) and put a finger in his mouth to suck on to encourage him to stop sucking in his lower lip. He never had any trouble breastfeeding.
My UO is I think people (particularly people like us doing all the research online before baby comes) get too worried about nipple confusion. It's actually quite rare. I was SO stressed out when the pedi suggested we give a bottle of formula before my milk came in because he lost so much weight. But it was NBD. But other moms online were telling me not to do it. Looking back it's like they were suggesting I starve my child for the sake of making breastfeeding work.
Ditto all of this. We were advised to give a soother right away and I would have anyway. DS always wanted to suck and loved his soother. Ive never really believed that nipple confusion was the big deal it's made out to be. Sure it's possible I guess but more likely would be a baby refusing a bottle because it was never introduced. We introduced the bottle when he was a week old and not only did he have no issues going from breast to bottle, he would take almost any bottle offered to him. I'm sure part of that was luck but part was that it was introduced early enough that he wasn't totally used to one thing.
I hated the movie The Notebook. I thought the two main characters (but especially Ryan Goslings character) were selfish, awful, and the worst. I was happy at the end. Happy they couldn't mess up anyone else's lives.
Is it a UO that I cringe when I see newborns (like literally only hours old) with soothers shoved in their mouths? Is this normal? Am I missing something? lol
ETA I'm not against soothers but I didn't think they should be given so soon?!
We were advised to give DS a pacifier right away because he was sucking on his lower lip, and it would help him figure out the sucking motion needed to eat. They also suggested that DH wear a glove (like the medical kind) and put a finger in his mouth to suck on to encourage him to stop sucking in his lower lip. He never had any trouble breastfeeding.
My UO is I think people (particularly people like us doing all the research online before baby comes) get too worried about nipple confusion. It's actually quite rare. I was SO stressed out when the pedi suggested we give a bottle of formula before my milk came in because he lost so much weight. But it was NBD. But other moms online were telling me not to do it. Looking back it's like they were suggesting I starve my child for the sake of making breastfeeding work.
Ditto all of this. We were advised to give a soother right away and I would have anyway. DS always wanted to suck and loved his soother. Ive never really believed that nipple confusion was the big deal it's made out to be. Sure it's possible I guess but more likely would be a baby refusing a bottle because it was never introduced. We introduced the bottle when he was a week old and not only did he have no issues going from breast to bottle, he would take almost any bottle offered to him. I'm sure part of that was luck but part was that it was introduced early enough that he wasn't totally used to one thing.
I had a very similar situation. He would take an bottle or the breast, and would happily take any paci. I was so stressed out over nipple confusion, but it just wasn't an issue. I think that this happens with a lot of things. Some babies have trouble with x, y or z, and so people opanic, and end up creating a problem that would not have likely been there, anyway. I watched my sister create situations that became bad habits over and over. I know that every baby is different, but I think that "pull your hair out" issues are less common than we think.
I hated the movie The Notebook. I thought the two main characters (but especially Ryan Goslings character) were selfish, awful, and the worst. I was happy at the end. Happy they couldn't mess up anyone else's lives.
I hated The Notebook and I HATE Love Actually. Every story except Emma Thompson's was creepy.
I hated the movie The Notebook. I thought the two main characters (but especially Ryan Goslings character) were selfish, awful, and the worst. I was happy at the end. Happy they couldn't mess up anyone else's lives.
I hated The Notebook and I HATE Love Actually. Every story except Emma Thompson's was creepy.
I strongly dislike MOST chick flicks, ESPECIALLY anything based on Nicholas Sparks.
@satsumasandlemons OMG get out!!! How can you not love Colin Firth and beautiful Aurelia?!? Or the amazing wee Mariah Carey singing girl? Love Actually is the best and I absolutely watch it year round, haha!!
Say it isn't so! Love Actually = awesomesauce. I frequently yell at the screen when Hot Carl comes on at her to not pick up the phone.
Married: 10/13/2013
TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
Umm I guess this is more of an FFFC but I didn't know that Netflix and chill meant anything until I read this thread.
The FB post my friend shared the other day (bemoaning the dearth of decent single men) of an online dating match suggesting they Netflix and chill makes much more sense now!
I told a student last year who was freaking out over nothing to, "chill," and he asked me in reply to "Netflix and chill." It was a very awkward email to mom...
Is it a UO that I cringe when I see newborns (like literally only hours old) with soothers shoved in their mouths? Is this normal? Am I missing something? lol
ETA I'm not against soothers but I didn't think they should be given so soon?!
We were advised to give DS a pacifier right away because he was sucking on his lower lip, and it would help him figure out the sucking motion needed to eat. They also suggested that DH wear a glove (like the medical kind) and put a finger in his mouth to suck on to encourage him to stop sucking in his lower lip. He never had any trouble breastfeeding.
My UO is I think people (particularly people like us doing all the research online before baby comes) get too worried about nipple confusion. It's actually quite rare. I was SO stressed out when the pedi suggested we give a bottle of formula before my milk came in because he lost so much weight. But it was NBD. But other moms online were telling me not to do it. Looking back it's like they were suggesting I starve my child for the sake of making breastfeeding work.
Oh it's nothing research related. For the first time ever haha! I just can't say I've seen anyone give one so soon. But your first part makes total sense. My cousin had the same issue as you and was still able to get her girl back on the boob when her milk finally came in.
@stokesm21 we got this, we have a girl and boy and family said things like "so you are done now you have one of each" or "that's perfect you didn't even have to try for boy/girl". I loved telling them we were *gasp* having a third when we already had one of each. Like the only reason people have more than one child is because they are trying for a specific gender/sex.
Ugh @stokesm21 this is how I felt when my MIL said how lucky I was to have a girl first before a boy. As if children are Pokemon and I have to collect them all. Or that I get to choose gender.
I'm one of three girls. My mom is one of three girls. My mom's sister had three girls. We all turned out okay despite not having a "complete set."
To tack onto @munchkinsmama's UO - I think all maternity photo shoots are a waste of time and money. I get that some people want artsy photos of their pregnant belly to commemorate the event...but, really? AW much? I feel the same way about engagement photos. Such a waste of time and money.
I've waited 8 years for a take-home baby, and I will likely only be pregnant once. You'd better believe I'm going to commemorate this long awaited stage in our lives with a maternity shoot. If someone else feels like it's attention whoring myself, they don't have to look at them.
Edited to Add: Oooops. I don't go here, and I had no idea I was on the wrong board. Ummm...sorry! But I'm not sorry about my opinion, so I'm going to leave it, hope that's ok.
I don't have anything against maternity shoots. People can do whatever they want. It's their memories.
That said, I am ANNOYED at this woman on a local for sale board who has been trying to sell her maternity dress for months. The dress is one of those flowy ones with the slit right up to her chest and covers nothing. Every week, she keeps posting her nearly-naked maternity photos trying to sell the dress. PLEASE STOP SHARING THESE WITH INTERNET STRANGERS.
@stokesm21 we got this, we have a girl and boy and family said things like "so you are done now you have one of each" or "that's perfect you didn't even have to try for boy/girl". I loved telling them we were *gasp* having a third when we already had one of each. Like the only reason people have more than one child is because they are trying for a specific gender/sex.
We have always planned to have three kids and now that we have a boy and this one is a girl the comments won't stop. For some reason my mom is totally against three and makes comments almost daily about stopping at two since we will have one of each. Drives me insane. We can definitely afford a larger family, have the space and the desire so what's the issue.
Ugh @stokesm21 this is how I felt when my MIL said how lucky I was to have a girl first before a boy. As if children are Pokemon and I have to collect them all. Or that I get to choose gender.
I'm one of three girls. My mom is one of three girls. My mom's sister had three girls. We all turned out okay despite not having a "complete set."
LOL gotta catch 'em all! (... sorry, had to do it!)
Re: maternity shoots, I don't really see the harm. I do agree that some are over the top, and the "boudoir" type pictures are kind of creepy but I've seen some very gorgeous normal maternity shoots.
And I don't think having pictures up in the home are AW-like at all! My parents' home is full of pictures, and I love seeing them, especially all the memories from before I was born (I'm the youngest of five kids). I never felt like it was weird, or a self-obsessed kind of thing, just happy memories from our family at different stages. Once we move and get ourselves settled I'm getting some pictures up in our living areas, and I look forward to adding pictures of our children at different stages as they grow as well.
edited to clarify
TTC history in spoiler
Me: 31 Him: 37 Married: Oct 2015 Baby G born June 2017 TTC#2: July 2018 BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19 BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Omg I'm having UO FOMO! so many interesting topics.
- love having lots of family photos displayed in the house - neutral on maternity photos - can see the appeal. We got some beautiful photos on our babymoon (fully clothed lol) which I'm enjoying and have shared with family (not posting on Facebook for now though because superstition etc) - totally judge people posting Bump photos on Facebook for their 1000 friends to see (also true for engagement ring pictures. Especially true for boudoir anything...) - also judge constant public pregnancy updates on facebook... - didn't know what a decal was until I started looking at nursery decor. Would not be into a quote one personally (unless maybe "Space. The final frontier." - maybe it's a function of being European, but... guns scare me. The idea of wanting to own a gun "to protect yourself from bad people" scares me way, way more than said bad people. I would honestly be uncomfortable living in an area where most people owned guns and kept them at their homes. - neutral on ghosts - wtf went down in the other thread today?! Skimmed through it and am totally baffled.
I guess my UO is if you want the experience of having a different sex child, and you don't act differently toward the children or outwardly express that beyond maybe anonymous internet strangers or the occasional secret conversation with your best friend...so what.
DH was the "end of the line" and really wanted a boy, to "carry on the family name." He mostly knows this is ridiculous and a social construct, but it's still something he can't shake. Our first baby was a boy, so that issue was resolved. He would have been thrilled to have a girl, too - genuinely. But he tried to make a case for being "one and done" - and he and I both know that would not have been the case if our first child was a girl.
Having, say, 6 kids instead of 2 just to try to have a specific sex, or otherwise drastically changing your family planning...or telling everyone (or your children) that you wanted a different sex child...no.
I hated the movie The Notebook. I thought the two main characters (but especially Ryan Goslings character) were selfish, awful, and the worst. I was happy at the end. Happy they couldn't mess up anyone else's lives.
@stokesm21 we got this, we have a girl and boy and family said things like "so you are done now you have one of each" or "that's perfect you didn't even have to try for boy/girl". I loved telling them we were *gasp* having a third when we already had one of each. Like the only reason people have more than one child is because they are trying for a specific gender/sex.
We have always planned to have three kids and now that we have a boy and this one is a girl the comments won't stop. For some reason my mom is totally against three and makes comments almost daily about stopping at two since we will have one of each. Drives me insane. We can definitely afford a larger family, have the space and the desire so what's the issue.
This is me too! I'm just on #1 but want at least 3, possibly 4. What I'm sick of is people going, "Oh just wait. You say that now." No. Just no. I want a larger family and always have. What's the problem here?! lol
Re: UO Thursday
My UO is I think people (particularly people like us doing all the research online before baby comes) get too worried about nipple confusion. It's actually quite rare. I was SO stressed out when the pedi suggested we give a bottle of formula before my milk came in because he lost so much weight. But it was NBD. But other moms online were telling me not to do it. Looking back it's like they were suggesting I starve my child for the sake of making breastfeeding work.
I scrub my kitchen sink down with soap and water several times a day, and bleach it once a day and I STILL would never even dream of using it to bathe my baby no matter how convenient it may be. Just gross!
Here's a link to webMD talking about how dirty kitchen sinks are https://www.webmd.com/women/home-health-and-safety-9/places-germs-hide
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
No. You got lucky that you're having a healthy baby.
I don't get what the big deal is with having one of each. I definitely get why people want to experience both, but I kind of hope that I have two kids of the same sex bc we're planning them close together. Although, it honestly doesn't matter to me. We're having two bc we want two and we want this baby to have a sibling. Not bc we want a particular sex.
A fumny story about my family - I have a distant cousin who has 6 girls bc they kept trying for a boy. Whoops.
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
I agree wirh the maternity pictures. I'll take a couple at my shower, maybe, but nothing formal or professional. Pregnancy is beautiful and should be celebrated, but I would feel uncomfortable and wouldn't do anything with the pictures. But I am making a pregnancy scrapbook. It has fun things in it, like craving and aversions, how we announced, etc. it's written to baby, and I hope to give it to him when he's older.
agree about the grossness of kitchen sinks I'm sort of skeeved by most things related to food (cleaning the fridge, the kitchen sink, the drain ::shudder::, and the kitchen garbage).
@stokesm21 agree. I'm having my third girl and when someone even hints that it would be better / more exciting if this one was a boy my mama bear comes out harrrdd.
Ive never really believed that nipple confusion was the big deal it's made out to be. Sure it's possible I guess but more likely would be a baby refusing a bottle because it was never introduced. We introduced the bottle when he was a week old and not only did he have no issues going from breast to bottle, he would take almost any bottle offered to him. I'm sure part of that was luck but part was that it was introduced early enough that he wasn't totally used to one thing.
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
The FB post my friend shared the other day (bemoaning the dearth of decent single men) of an online dating match suggesting they Netflix and chill makes much more sense now!
Met: 08/2001 ~ Dating: 07/2004 ~ Engaged: 11/2009 ~ Married: 06/2011
TTC: Since 09/16 ~ BFP 10/28/16 ~ EDD 7/5/17
Team Pink * Canadian Bumpie
Met: 08/2001 ~ Dating: 07/2004 ~ Engaged: 11/2009 ~ Married: 06/2011
TTC: Since 09/16 ~ BFP 10/28/16 ~ EDD 7/5/17
Team Pink * Canadian Bumpie
I'm one of three girls. My mom is one of three girls. My mom's sister had three girls. We all turned out okay despite not having a "complete set."
Edited to Add: Oooops. I don't go here, and I had no idea I was on the wrong board. Ummm...sorry! But I'm not sorry about my opinion, so I'm going to leave it, hope that's ok.
That said, I am ANNOYED at this woman on a local for sale board who has been trying to sell her maternity dress for months. The dress is one of those flowy ones with the slit right up to her chest and covers nothing. Every week, she keeps posting her nearly-naked maternity photos trying to sell the dress. PLEASE STOP SHARING THESE WITH INTERNET STRANGERS.
(... sorry, had to do it!)
Re: maternity shoots, I don't really see the harm. I do agree that some are over the top, and the "boudoir" type pictures are kind of creepy but I've seen some very gorgeous normal maternity shoots.
And I don't think having pictures up in the home are AW-like at all! My parents' home is full of pictures, and I love seeing them, especially all the memories from before I was born (I'm the youngest of five kids). I never felt like it was weird, or a self-obsessed kind of thing, just happy memories from our family at different stages. Once we move and get ourselves settled I'm getting some pictures up in our living areas, and I look forward to adding pictures of our children at different stages as they grow as well.
edited to clarify
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
- love having lots of family photos displayed in the house
- neutral on maternity photos - can see the appeal. We got some beautiful photos on our babymoon (fully clothed lol) which I'm enjoying and have shared with family (not posting on Facebook for now though because superstition etc)
- totally judge people posting Bump photos on Facebook for their 1000 friends to see (also true for engagement ring pictures. Especially true for boudoir anything...)
- also judge constant public pregnancy updates on facebook...
- didn't know what a decal was until I started looking at nursery decor. Would not be into a quote one personally (unless maybe "Space. The final frontier."
- maybe it's a function of being European, but... guns scare me. The idea of wanting to own a gun "to protect yourself from bad people" scares me way, way more than said bad people. I would honestly be uncomfortable living in an area where most people owned guns and kept them at their homes.
- neutral on ghosts
- wtf went down in the other thread today?! Skimmed through it and am totally baffled.
that's all I've got.
DH was the "end of the line" and really wanted a boy, to "carry on the family name." He mostly knows this is ridiculous and a social construct, but it's still something he can't shake. Our first baby was a boy, so that issue was resolved. He would have been thrilled to have a girl, too - genuinely. But he tried to make a case for being "one and done" - and he and I both know that would not have been the case if our first child was a girl.
Having, say, 6 kids instead of 2 just to try to have a specific sex, or otherwise drastically changing your family planning...or telling everyone (or your children) that you wanted a different sex child...no.
Met: 08/2001 ~ Dating: 07/2004 ~ Engaged: 11/2009 ~ Married: 06/2011
TTC: Since 09/16 ~ BFP 10/28/16 ~ EDD 7/5/17
Team Pink * Canadian Bumpie