I started this primarily because I wanted to say fantastic job on the drive bys this weekend, ladies! You know you've done it right when you get called rude, bitchy, etc.
I'm heavily relying on TB and Facebook to get me through work this week. I hate my job so much. It's bad when someone asks you where you work, and you hope they don't watch the local news when you answer.
Married: May 26, 2012 Eden: February 8, 2016 Ivy: April 3, 2018 Baby 3.0: Due September 26, 2020
Edit* because apparently I didn't look close enough. I found one!
I have been out for a while but wanted to see if anyone would be interested in a weekly meal plan thread. Basically just post what you plan on making for the week. (If there is one already I apologize. I looked back but could have missed it.) I used to be part of one and loved it. I got so many new ideas for dinner! I saw the recipe thread which would be similar so I wasn't sure.
My husband's friend who I met once is being super awesome and flying in from out of state to come have a girls weekend and go to the wine festival with me this May! Having something to look forward to is super exciting.
I am sick with a nasty head/chest cold and DH just left to go out of town til Saturday. I'm exhausted and whiny and miserable. So I'm on all the cold meds I can take and hoping I can nip this in the bud.
The drive bys make me so excitedly happy. I get bored sometimes and like to watch the drama.
This week is exciting for me! Acupuncture, heading into the city to go to the Met, a goodbye party for my cousin-in-law (she is moving back to Texas). I have been told by the acupuncturist though that I have to stop drinking so this week will be the real test. I love my nightly glass of wine and giving it up is gonna be hard!
Someone should tell the mods to update their standard language for closing posts. There is definitely not a "thread pinned to the top of this board called, 'What does a positive pregnancy test really look like?'".
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32 TTC Since 11/2015 #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
Good luck with the lack of drinking, @Kiwi2628. Sometimes I put flavored seltzer in a wine glass and drink that around the house. Something about it still feels calming. Sometimes I put frozen fruit in it too. When I'm out and about, seltzer and cranberry juice is my go to when I'm not drinking. And because it looks like a real drink, most people won't ask either, which I find helps.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32 TTC Since 11/2015 #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
The best drive-bys are the ones who come back. I get so annoyed with the post-and-ghost ones who don't answer our follow-up questions. Takes all the fun out of it.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
Our "do you see what I see?" friend went on to post her blatantly negative test in the 1st Tri pee stick thread and whined about the "quite hateful replies" that she received from us.
Me: 32 H: 32 Married: October 2009 TTC#1: August 2016
@heatherdubrow I am with you - I like the drive-bys and the drama haha @jess0211 ughh it is the worst. Seriously I can't believe how many times I have been told that. I literally want to scream SHUT THE FUQ UP, that is not how science works!
Also - so I was listening to NPR this morning and there is now a thing called the "adulting" school for millenials. Teaches you things like how to fold laundry, be better with money, cook, change a smoke detector.....my initial reaction was jesus christ how pathetic. Then realized man I guess this really is a problem. Millenials can't adjust to adult life without help.
What are your thoughts? Just thought it was interesting
@jess0211 My own doctor told me that as she left me after my exam, after I told her I was pursuing IVF with my RE. Stab stab stab.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
Our "do you see what I see?" friend went on to post her blatantly negative test in the 1st Tri pee stick thread and whined about the "quite hateful replies" that she received from us.
Yeah I had to say something. It's not cool to talk smack about us just because we didn't say what she wanted to hear.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
@GG620 I agree "Adulting" class sounds totally ridiculous (and some of the topics do seem a little extra, not gonna lie), but the article I read about this this weekend said their most popular segments were mostly on budgeting and financial literacy stuff. And I think learning about that is a good idea, especially as those sorts of basic life skill things aren't taught in most high schools anymore. The name of the classes is super infantilizing though, and some of the topics are...basic. lol
DS1: Nov. 2013 DS2: Jan. 2016 DS3: Dec. 2017 Baby #4 on the way!
@GG620 It's so sad that this is a problem, but it is. These are all skills that I learned from my parents, family and/or in school. However, my sister who is 10 years younger than me struggles with these "adult" skills. All of this was always done for her and life skills is no loner taught in school. It's truly so sad.
@KatieEl@jess0211 yeah, exactly. My sister is 8 years younger and all of these things were done for her. It is just interesting to see that all of a sudden the younger generation has just not had to encounter things the way most previous generations have
AF is officially late and I wish I could have a faint glimmer of hope that that means good news, but I know it's probably just a reflection of how stressed out I am. I just want to get it over with!
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
@GG620@KatieEl I definitely agree with the budgeting/financial aspect. My parents never taught me anything about budgeting and certainly never explained credit to me. Luickily I have "oldest child" syndrome so I always try to make good and responsible decisions (or seek out advice on what to do) but I have definitely made my fare share of financial mistakes because I simply didn't know better.
@GG620 we have several college students working in our office and they didn't know where to put a stamp on a piece of mail. A STAMP. They put them on the top left corner and we had to tell them to try and peel them off and put them in the correct place. Thankfully they did come off and we weren't out a bunch of money... We didn't want to ask "so you know where a stamp goes, right?" as it is kind of belittling to them, or so we thought...
Me: 31 DH: 32 Dating since: 11/17/2001 Married: 9/26/2009 TTC: June 2016
@GC620 - Ahhh so many mixed feelings. Technically, I am a millennial. So I always get anxious when I see the word "millennial" because I feel like a dumping ground for blame. For this particular thing, I dunno. I grew up with no dad and a piece of Shhhhh mom, so I learned really young how to do laundry, etc, but other things I had zero grasp of. for example, finances. I knew how to MAKE money, because I started working before I was even legally allowed to pay electricity, etc. But budgeting? Nope, no way. I though overdrafting was a normal thing that acted like a small loan till you got paid. There are other random things I didn't know how to do either... for example, you have to check your oil.... I didn't know that till I lost my car. I understand that it's pathetic, but not everyone has responsible parents. It's not like I could have found an adult to teach me this stuff either. I wasn't allowed outside of the house, not even for extracurriculars. It was school and home, period. I know that that's all a little extreme, and not everyone is in my shoes, but it is more common than you think... And good for those "millennials" going out and realizing they don't know as much as they "should" and learning what's necessary. Also, the few articles I read were extremely condescending and acted like the entire generation is full of lazy, entitled, stupid people. I'll have you know, I am not lazy, rather I work my ass off now and have since I was 12. I am not entitled, and I know full well "life ain't fair" and no one owes me anything. Oh, and I am actually pretty smart, thanks. I mean, yeah, there are totally a ton of kids who ARE like that and don't know how to live because they are treated as queens, but frankly, that's a parenting error. And it's not everyone.
Sorry, that wasn't meant to be an attack at all. I just get so frustrated at being lumped in with a generation that takes blame.
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I love in particular when Baby Boomers bemoan Millenials and our "lack of responsibility" or knowledge (and I say this as someone born in the early 80s, who chafes at being lumped in with the young Millenials). We're your children (and sometimes grandchildren) so any shortcomings in the "common sense" department are your fault. Once, my mom didn't like how I was ironing a dress and proclaimed that she had "failed all you children," haha. She did give me a book called "How to Sew a Button," which I highly recommend. Lots of handy tips in there for day-to-day things people used to know and have forgotten.
Anyway, I think financial planning courses are a wonderful idea. They really should offer these things to everyone in high school and college.
I'm sure all generations can say this (and they probably did, and maybe the baby boomers parents said the same shit about them) but I think it's just such a unique time to have grown up. With the incredibly significant and fast technological advances, we're in the middle of two different time periods in my opinion. Like with the example @bertiemeetsgertie gave, we probably won't even have stamps in the next few years/decades... so it won't matter anyway. I know that I get frustrated with my husband sometimes because he isn't handy AT ALL like my dad, but if I got a computer virus or something, he'd be all over that. You win some, you lose some?
And @bababatty I have definitely told my parents that certain things are their fault! I never really learned to cook and when my mom comments, I ask her when exactly she taught me how... and she knows she didn't. Now she worked full time so it was a different lifestyle than the way she grew up, so I don't blame her, it's just a fact!
But in regards to financial literacy... that shit is not unique to millennial. I do financial planning for a living so believe me when I say that ALL generations struggle with that. It's just getting even harder due to the state of the economy, and other factors.
@KristoKekerooni I also get annoyed when I'm lumped in with the rest of the millennials. I think the big issue is when you have helicopter parents who essentially will never let their children do anything themselves. That's what leads to irresponsible adults who can't really "adult" at all.
Me: 31 DH: 32 Dating since: 11/17/2001 Married: 9/26/2009 TTC: June 2016
@jess0211 I hear ya! If one more person tells me to relax I'll lose it. If I relaxed we would probably never have sex and then obviously science tells me that won't result in a baby.
Re: Randoms Thread - Week of Feb 27
Dating: 2/2007 Married: 4/2011
TTC #1: 9/2016
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BFP #2: 3/9/2017 - CP: 3/10/2017
08/2017: DH's SA = normal
08/2017: Low progesterone (4.6) all other BW normal
11/2017: HSG Clear; Pelvic Ultrasound Normal; and AMH, FSH, and Estradiol normal
12/2017: 1,000mg Metformin
12/2017: 50mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: 100mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: RE Consult
03/2018: 5mg Letrozole + 50 units Gonal-F + 500 μg Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #3: 4/1/2018 - CP: 4/4/2018
04/2018: 5mg Letrozole + Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #4: 5/2/18
Eden: February 8, 2016
Ivy: April 3, 2018
Baby 3.0: Due September 26, 2020
I have been out for a while but wanted to see if anyone would be interested in a weekly meal plan thread. Basically just post what you plan on making for the week. (If there is one already I apologize. I looked back but could have missed it.) I used to be part of one and loved it. I got so many new ideas for dinner! I saw the recipe thread which would be similar so I wasn't sure.
^ my reaction to yesterday's drive-bys.
My husband's friend who I met once is being super awesome and flying in from out of state to come have a girls weekend and go to the wine festival with me this May! Having something to look forward to is super exciting.
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
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CP2: 9/17 @4w3d
CP3: 2/18 @5w
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This week is exciting for me! Acupuncture, heading into the city to go to the Met, a goodbye party for my cousin-in-law (she is moving back to Texas). I have been told by the acupuncturist though that I have to stop drinking so this week will be the real test. I love my nightly glass of wine and giving it up is gonna be hard!
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
Married: October 2009
TTC#1: August 2016
DD Born 10/20/17
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
@jess0211 That and the god's will bullshit are my ultimate favorite things to hear! Wow! What a relief to know!
In other news:
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
@jess0211 ughh it is the worst. Seriously I can't believe how many times I have been told that. I literally want to scream SHUT THE FUQ UP, that is not how science works!
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Me: 28 Him: 30
Married: 11/15/14
TTC: 02/2016
IF DX: MFI (low count & morphology) & mild PCOS
June 2016 BFP - MC @8w2d
August 2016 BFP - MC @6w1d
June 2017 - 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP 7/6/17!!
Beta #1 = 422 (14dpo), Beta #2 = 810, prog - 12.3 (16dpo), Beta #3 = 5023, prog - 18.9 (20dpo)
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What are your thoughts? Just thought it was interesting
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Me: 28 Him: 30
Married: 11/15/14
TTC: 02/2016
IF DX: MFI (low count & morphology) & mild PCOS
June 2016 BFP - MC @8w2d
August 2016 BFP - MC @6w1d
June 2017 - 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP 7/6/17!!
Beta #1 = 422 (14dpo), Beta #2 = 810, prog - 12.3 (16dpo), Beta #3 = 5023, prog - 18.9 (20dpo)
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TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
DS2: Jan. 2016
DS3: Dec. 2017
Baby #4 on the way!
@eggplantface omg that is awful!
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Me: 28 Him: 30
Married: 11/15/14
TTC: 02/2016
IF DX: MFI (low count & morphology) & mild PCOS
June 2016 BFP - MC @8w2d
August 2016 BFP - MC @6w1d
June 2017 - 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP 7/6/17!!
Beta #1 = 422 (14dpo), Beta #2 = 810, prog - 12.3 (16dpo), Beta #3 = 5023, prog - 18.9 (20dpo)
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Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
I understand that it's pathetic, but not everyone has responsible parents. It's not like I could have found an adult to teach me this stuff either. I wasn't allowed outside of the house, not even for extracurriculars. It was school and home, period. I know that that's all a little extreme, and not everyone is in my shoes, but it is more common than you think... And good for those "millennials" going out and realizing they don't know as much as they "should" and learning what's necessary.
Also, the few articles I read were extremely condescending and acted like the entire generation is full of lazy, entitled, stupid people. I'll have you know, I am not lazy, rather I work my ass off now and have since I was 12. I am not entitled, and I know full well "life ain't fair" and no one owes me anything. Oh, and I am actually pretty smart, thanks.
I mean, yeah, there are totally a ton of kids who ARE like that and don't know how to live because they are treated as queens, but frankly, that's a parenting error. And it's not everyone.
Sorry, that wasn't meant to be an attack at all. I just get so frustrated at being lumped in with a generation that takes blame.
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BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
Eden: February 8, 2016
Ivy: April 3, 2018
Baby 3.0: Due September 26, 2020
Anyway, I think financial planning courses are a wonderful idea. They really should offer these things to everyone in high school and college.
periods in my opinion. Like with the example @bertiemeetsgertie gave, we probably won't even have stamps in the next few years/decades... so it won't matter anyway. I know that I get frustrated with my husband sometimes because he isn't handy AT ALL like my dad, but if I got a computer virus or something, he'd be all over that. You win some, you lose some?
And @bababatty I have definitely told my parents that certain things are their fault! I never really learned to cook and when my mom comments, I ask her when exactly she taught me how... and she knows she didn't. Now she worked full time so it was a different lifestyle than the way she grew up, so I don't blame her, it's just a fact!
But in regards to financial literacy... that shit is not unique to millennial. I do financial planning for a living so believe me when I say that ALL generations struggle with that. It's just getting even harder due to the state of the economy, and other factors.
Eden: February 8, 2016
Ivy: April 3, 2018
Baby 3.0: Due September 26, 2020
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
Eden: February 8, 2016
Ivy: April 3, 2018
Baby 3.0: Due September 26, 2020
Eden: February 8, 2016
Ivy: April 3, 2018
Baby 3.0: Due September 26, 2020
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree