Everyone will not leave me alone about giving this baby a pacifier. Dude, if I'm fine with him "using me as a pacifier" then why the heck do you care? He is happy, I am happy, move on.
If MIL comes over and comments on me "laying around like a queen" one more time I'm kicking her out. I just had a baby and I'm nursing. Get out.
@WinchesterGirl Ahhh, yes. The glamour of getting puked, pooped, and peed on while rubbing cream on your raw nipples and trying not to cry every time you poop can scarcely be understood by the peasants. Pay no mind, you're royalty now!
I'm so damn hungry from breastfeeding! I've never been a huge eater but now I think about my next meal while still eating this one. In addition to more frequent bouts of hanger, I just want to fit into my clothes again. Wahhhh
Omg @WinchesterGirl I would not be able to deal with people's comments! Your baby, your rules! And I just have no words for the comment from your MIL. I didn't know recovering from surgery was considered "laying around like a queen." Seriously she can GTFO!
No BF for me yet, but I'm sure something will come up lol.
I agree @PerraSucia about the scar! This was my 3rd cs, and I feel like I have so much scar tissue. I'm only 2 1/2 weeks out of surgery, but i can feel the hard scar tissue under my incision! It's so gross!
Also +1 to what @lemieuxk said! It takes a lot of fuel to keep this milk machine going!
@WinchesterGirl ummm your MIL's comment made me see red. I hope your h nips that ish in the bud FAST. You just grew a human, labored and had major abdominal surgery and now you are sustaining the life of that human with your boobs. You ARE a queen and she needs to stfu
I'm so damn hungry from breastfeeding! I've never been a huge eater but now I think about my next meal while still eating this one. In addition to more frequent bouts of hanger, I just want to fit into my clothes again. Wahhhh
Just wanted to say, this is me everyday all day for my entire life. It revolves around food!
@WinchesterGirl your MIL needs to take a hike, full stop. Who the hell says that?? If she's not going to be supportive then she loses the privilege of coming over. You need to heal, rest, and do *exactly* what you're doing with your baby. Can you have your DH run interference and shut that shit down with her?
@WinchesterGirl Ugh, is her presence required right now? Is she providing help/assistance that you can't get elsewhere? Unless that's the case, you don't need her there. Where is your husband in all of this? He should be shutting that shit right down. Remind him that stress is bad for milk supply. You're feeding and taking care of the baby, his job should be taking care of you and protecting the nest from intruders. Which, it sounds like, includes his mom at this moment.
@yogadevil & @poetryandoceans She's not dumb; she says crap when he leaves the room. That isn't the only comment she's made, just the most irritating. However, after the second time she made that comment, I told him if she says it again she's leaving. I'm really over her coming into our home with everything right now and criticizing me.
She also called DH and attempted to chew him out over the phone for not calling more while I was having the baby... he hung up on her. She's got a bit of a chip on her shoulder at the moment.
I have never been more thankful for my in-laws than I have been the past few weeks hearing everyone's stories! If anything, mine keep to themselves a little too much. They would help out in a second if you ask, but they very much do their own thing. And then I never know when I should or shouldn't include them. But, I'll take it!
@WinchesterGirl you're a saint. I hope they all realize that!
I have a sick toddler again. We battled two ear infections, coughing until vomiting, stomach aches for two months only to have a brand new cold emerge three days ago. I hate cold and flu season.
@WinchesterGirl Gotta say, even if she's not saying it in front of him, he should be believing you when you tell him she's saying it; it doesn't have to be witnessed for him to act on it.
*Note that my own issues with my in-laws are probably colouring my "no patience, no fucks to give" attitude on this.
That sounds irritating @WinchesterGirl. I feel frustrated reading about it because my mil says inappropriate comments directly to me when my H isn't around also. I hate being left alone with her because she will pry for info from me then find a way to use it against us or make smart ass remarks. Ugh. Off that note, I've already been practicing my "we won't be making it to Easter dinner at your house" speech lol
We are battling sickness too. The night we got discharged from hospital DD came home from my parents and started throwing up. Then she broke out in a rash. Turned out she had stress induced hives and the stress was causing her to vomit. We got her back to normal, but then just Friday DS1 got sent home from school throwing up. He actually caught something and was sick over this past weekend. He seems over it now so we are keeping our fingers crossed that it's done and my husband nor I nor the baby gets anything.
@poetryandoceans Oh, he believes me. He is pretty good about standing up to her on big issues, so I think this is her way of getting her jabs in where she can.
@foxrosy Oh that sucks! I hope he feels better soon.
@lemieuxk I'm hungrier as a BFing mama than I ever was as a pregnant mama. I just can't get enough to eat! I'm wearing my higher rise pre preg jeans but I'm still a little puffy around my incision site.
It's my fave when my kid nurses and is sleeping soundly.... then shits herself.
Same. Happens all the time. Especially during MOTN feedings.
Same here. And this kid takes LOUD shits. Like, there's no missing it. Usually H takes care of MOTN diaper changes (and hell, most daytime changes too), but good god, I never realized a 7 lb baby could shart so loud.
@WinchesterGirl I'm really pissed for you! "Laying around like a queen"? If by "laying around" you mean "recovering from major surgery" and "queen" you mean "a woman who just had a baby pulled out of her abdomen," then sure. But your MIL needs to take a hike. That shit is batty.
This has been well covered but @WinchesterGirl your MIL needs to STFU or go. How dare she say that to you. I'm so mad for you. Glad your H is standing up to her as needed.
I am getting so freaking frustrated with my parents right now. My DH and I have a rescue dog, she's on the hyperactive side and suffers from separation anxiety. Now she's a medium sized dog, but very much thinks she's a small dog(doesn't know her own strength, very in your face etc.) I've expressed concern before on how she's going to react to a baby being brought into the house... because of this concern they've automatically come to the conclusion DH and I should get rid of the dog, like ASAP. My dad especially just will not let this go, he's sent me another link on how your dog can kill your baby when your back is turned no matter what the breed or temperament. I understand that they want their grandchild to have a safe environment and what not, but I am getting more and more angry with their lack of faith that my husband and I really know what we're doing when it comes to our future baby's safety. My DH and I have a game plan for how we're going to introduce baby to the dog, signs we're going to watch out for when it comes to their interaction, and under NO circumstances will they be left alone in a room together. If the dog does look like she will pose a threat then yes, we will have to give her up, but I won't do that before then. I'm just getting more and more frustrated with that not being good enough for them and feeling like I'm some horrible dangerous parent for wanting to try and keep my family(which includes my dog) together. >:( Also @WinchesterGirl you have the patience of a saint, I'd have gotten into a screaming match with my MIL a long time ago if she were making comments like that! Stay strong, you are an awesome momma doing the very best you can and anyone who says otherwise should be bitch slapped!
@BeckS13 has your dog shown signs of aggression towards anything ever? That would make me SUPER angry if anyone incinuated that we got rid of our crazy ass dog
@BeckS13 has your dog shown signs of aggression towards anything ever? That would make me SUPER angry if anyone incinuated that we got rid of our crazy ass dog
@BeckS13 Hyper does not mean she will be aggressive to baby! She at least deserves the chance to safely see how she responds to LO before everyone gives her the boot. Our two dogs really surprised us with little man; one ignores him, the other had decided that the baby is his and he is very concerned/protective.
@BeckS13 I totally get what you are going through. I have 3, 70+ pound dogs and it was amazing how many people asked if we were getting rid of them when the baby was born. 2 out of the 3 are exactly as you described your dog. Hyper, doesn't realize how big they are and they have done great with the baby. They have actually calmed down a lot since she has come home too. I definitely wouldn't do anything until you see how he interacts with the baby, but I know peoplss comments can be hurtful. I couldn't imagine what I would do if my dad was sending me articles like that.
Ugh @BeckS13 it drives me crazy when people treat dogs as disposable like that. I mean OF COURSE if our dog was aggressive to our baby we'd figure something else out but to treat it as Plan A? No. That's just wrong.
@BeckS13 another dog story here! My parents' one dog is hyper too and gets super jealous and is bossy with their other dog. We were afraid she would be jealous of the baby and it was a real concern before DD was born since we go over there very often. When we took DD there for the first time, the dog loved her! She's super protective of DD and loves to be near her (with supervision of course). I hope your parents back off - you really can't know for sure until baby and dog actually interact!
@BeckS13 - We've gotten similar comments around our two pit-mix rescues. Honestly, I feel like if you know your dog and pay close attention to interactions when baby comes home, you'll know if anything is off. Plus, there is going to be an adjustment period for animals just like people. We try to focus on praising calm behavior around baby and our dogs have already started going back to their normal routines, ignoring a lot of the crying and other activities.
@BeckS13 we have 2 dogs and one has anxiety among other issues. She is very jealous and had me so worried about a new baby. I'm not as concerned over an infant but more concerned once he starts crawling around. So far though she has done great. We don't leave the baby just lying around, so she only sees him while we are holding him, but she seems to have just instinctively known to stay back from getting too close. Of course we won't know how she'll react to a mobile baby until the time comes, but so far there's been no issues, and we plan on just taking it one step at a time. I'm sorry your parents are making it difficult on you, but hopefully after hearing so many of us share how our dogs reacted to our new LOs, you will feel more comfortable, and could possibly tell your parents to back off from the situation a little.
@BeckS13 My dog is also a rescue and a bit on the crazy side.... She is only about 15 lbs but jumps around a ton, especially around "different" people (my parents she is fine around, but they dog sit and she goes there a lot- basically anyone else other than them or us) and she loves to bark at noises, squirrels, people walking 5 blocks behind our house that she can see across the field, whatever. We picked up a bark collar from Petsmart a few months back and it has been a lifesaver. I can't promise you it will help as much, but it has been a night and day difference for us. She will cuddle with anyone that comes over now, doesn't jump around when people come over (when she is excited enough to jump she is excited enough to bark so she must associate jumping with the collar too now) and has completely mellowed out. May be worth a try? It was the absolute best $30 I have spent on her.
Sunday was my due date... my mom said lets go shop the baby out. Maybe if we shop and walk all day it will get things moving. I saw a little March birthday keepsake figurine and I jokingly told my mom that I should get it in case my baby thinks he is going to be a March baby. I regret that now!!! Spent most of the day at the Dr's office yesterday (they forgot to schedule the drs appt after my NST and US so we were waiting foreverrrrr) and there is literally no progress. No dilation. 2 weeks ago they estimated 50% effaced, last week 30%, this week 20%. This kid has decided he is just going to live in me forever I think.
At work today, because what am I going to do at home besides sit around and wait at this point, and the longer I work the longer it is before I have to come back, and everyone keeps asking me why I haven't had this baby. Good question!
I B*d my mom out last night. We don't have a great relationship to begin with, she lives 5-6 hours away, and she has been trying to have a great relationship with my kids and bypass one with me. I told her over the weekend I didn't want to talk on the phone, I am just focusing on the girls right now and *trying* to enjoy this twilight of going from 2-3 daughters. Last night she texted me "when are they just going to go ahead and induce you? Just curious." I told her "well, hopefully never, thats my worst case scenario and it really stresses me out to think about it so please don't ask again." Then she went on about just being curious, she's the grandmother she has a right to know. Oh really? YOU'RE curious? Ugh. So I t told her that when she comes or we know she's coming we will let her know. And then some more self righteous BS about how she's not everyone, she's my mother and has a right to know again (yes, more rights) and she just wanted to know how I was doing. SHE DIDN'T ASK HOW I WAS DOING. Ugh. sorry ladies, this is a total rant but I am so irritated with everything. After my daily little cry I had a really productive day and crap like that surfacing just pushes me right back to square one. and its from my mother.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
My mom is the subject of my BF as well this week. I expressed concerns that DD may have colic (Pediatrician agrees as of this afternoon)
Mom went on to speculate that it's related to the Vitamin D supplement DD is on, and then proceeded to tell me about how her sister in law almost died from antibiotics and basically don't trust doctors EVAR. But I should totally be looking into these herbal homeopathic remedies.
Um, nope. No thanks. This tiny chubby screaming creature of mine is still not a guinnea pig
Re: Monday B*fest 2/20
Infected c/s incision. Yay.
Everyone will not leave me alone about giving this baby a pacifier. Dude, if I'm fine with him "using me as a pacifier" then why the heck do you care? He is happy, I am happy, move on.
If MIL comes over and comments on me "laying around like a queen" one more time I'm kicking her out. I just had a baby and I'm nursing. Get out.
Also ive been doing so much scar massage and just finished my first two weeks of silicone strips but this incision is just uglier than my first.
No BF for me yet, but I'm sure something will come up lol.
@lemieuxk I have not attempted to fit any of my real clothes, I just bought new nursing friendly stuff. They fit!
Also I'm like 3 inches away from closing my fat pants. I was amazed I could pull them up.
Also +1 to what @lemieuxk said! It takes a lot of fuel to keep this milk machine going!
She also called DH and attempted to chew him out over the phone for not calling more while I was having the baby... he hung up on her. She's got a bit of a chip on her shoulder at the moment.
@WinchesterGirl you're a saint. I hope they all realize that!
*Note that my own issues with my in-laws are probably colouring my "no patience, no fucks to give" attitude on this.
We are battling sickness too. The night we got discharged from hospital DD came home from my parents and started throwing up. Then she broke out in a rash. Turned out she had stress induced hives and the stress was causing her to vomit. We got her back to normal, but then just Friday DS1 got sent home from school throwing up. He actually caught something and was sick over this past weekend. He seems over it now so we are keeping our fingers crossed that it's done and my husband nor I nor the baby gets anything.
@foxrosy Oh that sucks! I hope he feels better soon.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
@WinchesterGirl I'm really pissed for you! "Laying around like a queen"? If by "laying around" you mean "recovering from major surgery" and "queen" you mean "a woman who just had a baby pulled out of her abdomen," then sure. But your MIL needs to take a hike. That shit is batty.
Also @WinchesterGirl you have the patience of a saint, I'd have gotten into a screaming match with my MIL a long time ago if she were making comments like that! Stay strong, you are an awesome momma doing the very best you can and anyone who says otherwise should be bitch slapped!
Sunday was my due date... my mom said lets go shop the baby out. Maybe if we shop and walk all day it will get things moving. I saw a little March birthday keepsake figurine and I jokingly told my mom that I should get it in case my baby thinks he is going to be a March baby. I regret that now!!! Spent most of the day at the Dr's office yesterday (they forgot to schedule the drs appt after my NST and US so we were waiting foreverrrrr) and there is literally no progress. No dilation. 2 weeks ago they estimated 50% effaced, last week 30%, this week 20%. This kid has decided he is just going to live in me forever I think.
At work today, because what am I going to do at home besides sit around and wait at this point, and the longer I work the longer it is before I have to come back, and everyone keeps asking me why I haven't had this baby. Good question!
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
My mom is the subject of my BF as well this week. I expressed concerns that DD may have colic (Pediatrician agrees as of this afternoon)
Mom went on to speculate that it's related to the Vitamin D supplement DD is on, and then proceeded to tell me about how her sister in law almost died from antibiotics and basically don't trust doctors EVAR. But I should totally be looking into these herbal homeopathic remedies.
Um, nope. No thanks. This tiny chubby screaming creature of mine is still not a guinnea pig