M gets her legs stuck in the crib rails too! Mesh bumper is on the to buy list.
Im thankful that my mom group of friends, we're all very Accepting, helpful, and not judgy. I'd just flat out tell her how you've been feeling or how she makes you feel. If she can't make some adjustments, I'd evaluate if it worth being her friend.
@babycakesday I don't necessarily have any mom friends that try to coparent my baby but I sure do have lots of family members that try. It isn't always easy, but I try to ignore them. I spend a lot of time bitching to my husband lol. He's a good sport about it though because he hears it too.
And I'm one of the first new moms of my friends and I am always trying not to come off as sounding judgmental, because really I'm just so excited for my other friends to be having babies! Two have had little ones since July and I'm always asking about them and I hope it comes off as me being interested because I am. And also it's hard not to gush about my own because non-mom friends don't quite understand
But we have family members that try to compare and I second that bitching to the husband helps haha
She doesn't do it with a mean intent. Just always has to compare. I think it just makes me feel like she thinks I'm doing it wrong. I don't think she means it that way, but that's how I end up taking it. I have mentioned plus once a friend who also has kids told her that she shouldn't do that. I haven't been hanging out with her since she came over to help me when my mom left a few weeks ago. Baby J has an awake time of about 2 hours and naps for 30 minutes most of the time. Every time she had to put Baby J down for a nap she just kept saying that when he baby was her age he would only nap 2 times a day. By the end of the day, I just got sick and tired of it and told her she could go home.
I do ask her for advice or about her baby sometimes. Our kids are 20 weeks apart. I just ask as like an idea or guideline, but it gets on my last nerve when she says things that make me feel like maybe I'm wrong? I don't know. I could be totally overreacting too. I'm still all over the place emotional. I do vent to my hubby a lot. But I feel bad because he's coworkers/friends with her husband.
@babycakesday I'm sorry that she makes you feel that, even if it isn't meant to be negative. I think as mom's we often second guess ourselves and our abilities to correctly parent our child(ren). However, like you said, every baby is different. Everyone's parenting style is different. And at the end of the day you do what's best for you and babe. No one knows your baby like you do.
Nonetheless, intentional or not, that would definitely get old! @babycakesday I can't blame you for wanting to lessen the time spent with her. I don't have any friends that say things out loud but I'm certain I have friends that "think" things. Good example, Sunday I met a few girlfriends for lunch. It was just me and L. My husband was out of town, which meant I had to entertain her, eat and converse solo. Not ideal, but whatever....it works. I ended up having to hold her vs. use the highchair a lot because she was fussy. One of my friends that knows nothing about kids and thinks "training" them is like training a puppy made a subtle comment to L, Oh look you got your way, didn't you? Uhh....I'm all for teaching my kid how to entertain herself, but NOT at a restaurant with a bunch of other people around that would have to listen to the fuss that would surely come. Yes, I'm going to take the easy route and put her on my lap and talk. That kind of stuff annoys me a bit, but at the end of the day I know it's just my friend not understanding the situation well enough....if it were her, she'd definitely be doing the same.
@TiffRox81- maybe speaking out of turn...but willing to guess there likely would've been a comment had you let her stay fussy in the highchair...no winning situation
@TiffRox81@kmurdock925 exactly! whatever you do there is always someone that will say it should have been done the other way. This is especially true for my family, especially with my mother and my MILs opinions.
Anyone doing a family vacation this summer? I'm just starting to hammer out details and it's got me excited! We typically do a beach in the Carolinas but I'm going to try out SW Michigan beaches this year. I didn't know this, they're rated amongst some of the best in the country. Who knew?! And bonus, hella closer for us too.
Anyone doing a family vacation this summer? I'm just starting to hammer out details and it's got me excited! We typically do a beach in the Carolinas but I'm going to try out SW Michigan beaches this year. I didn't know this, they're rated amongst some of the best in the country. Who knew?! And bonus, hella closer for us too.
My husband, babe, and the dog will be driving back to my home state in June. I haven't been home in over 2 years. Babe, dog, and I will be staying a month but DH will be flying back after a week or so. I'm looking forward to going home but not the drive halfway across the country.
@LDSJM123 Michigan beaches are my favorite of anywhere! Soft sand, heat not terrible, no sharks, gorgeous scenery. Perfect. That's always been my family's summer vacation spot, though we go up near Traverse City area. Have fun!!!!
Married 6/1/13
BFP #1 7/2013 MMC 9/17/13
BFP #2 5/2014 MC 6/15/14
BFP #3 11/13/14 (Found in ER with ruptured cyst) Diagnosed MC 11/15/14
BFP #4 4/2015 MC 7/1/15
BFP #5 10/21/15 EDD 7/3/16 Praying for our rainbow!
I'm ready for warm weather and a vacation! DD2 and I were going to go with DH on a work trip to Huntington Beach, CA in April but I just found out DH has to go to Houston in July. I've never been to Texas so I think we will go on that trip instead! Am I crazy for going to Texas in July? Online it looks like Houston is usually in the 80s which is doable for me. I also have 2 weekend trips planned to Oregon (family reunion, bachelorette party). Plus a couple of camping trips with friends.
I am so excited for vacations this summer, especially since she will be able to go in the water and hang out with her cousins. DH is from a large family and they all live/have vacation homes in NY close to the ocean. C has tons of cousins and since we live so far from all of them it will be great to spend a week at the beach and have her play with her cousins.
I'm in northern CA. We usually do a 3-4 day trip down to San Diego did a work conference each year. Passed last year for obvious reasons. It hope to go this year!!
How do you guys deal with the separation anxiety of your LOs? Q is being crazy lately and screams bloody murder if I walk away. But I can't sit in the floor and play with him all day. And it's not like I'm that far away! I'll go to the kitchen to do the dishes so I'm about 6 ft away, but he screams like I'm the worst mom in the world. Has anyone felt with this and found a successful way to help them through this? It's hard to listen to him cry for me, but I have to work, do chores and go pee sometimes!
@arhodes6 At the end of last week, I just let her cry. Not ideal and it broke my heart, but after about 3-5 minutes she would stop and play for the next hour. I only tried like 3 or 4 times, but I was able to do some chores.
We have a trip planned to a beach here in texas for baby j's first birthday. I haven't even started looking. We're also flying back home to california for like a month at the end of may!! But most of that month will just be me and baby j.
@arhodes6 Depending on how inconsolable he is, I either let him cry for a minute or two to see if he can calm down and get distracted by a nearby toy, or I just take him to wherever I'm within eyesight. I have his highchair in the kitchen so I'll set him up in there while I do dishes if he won't let me out of his sight.
Married 6/1/13
BFP #1 7/2013 MMC 9/17/13
BFP #2 5/2014 MC 6/15/14
BFP #3 11/13/14 (Found in ER with ruptured cyst) Diagnosed MC 11/15/14
BFP #4 4/2015 MC 7/1/15
BFP #5 10/21/15 EDD 7/3/16 Praying for our rainbow!
Thanks ladies. I'll try the high chair idea. I had him in the exosaucer right by me but he was just jumping and screaming. I might try doing what we did for sleep training. Let him cry for 5 then pick him up and soothe him the go 10, then 15 and so on. It's just harder because I can't just turn off the monitor and try to tune it out. He's yelling in my face basically lol so we will see
@LDSJM123 - I was too young to remember...but Mackinac Island in MI is apparently amazing. I forget the name, but there is apparently a National park in MI that is fantastic and not well known...I think you have to take a boat or sea plane to get there. From what i've read though it is well worth it. Clear waters, wildlife..just beautiful.
Michigan is gorgeous! Mackinac Island is beautiful, UP is also a great spot. We plan to go visit my BIL and sister down in Ft. Worth sometime maybe in the early fall-we went last winter but it was freezing the whole week we were there, so not really a great vacation from the freezing Midwest!
I've been suffering from insomnia for the past couple months, and it is finally catching up to me. Last night I fell asleep on the floor at 8pm after getting home from work. Any tips??? I bought an oil diffuser and I've been putting lavender in that at night. I try to relax as much as possible. Read a book while drinking chamomile tea steeped in milk. My husband usually riles me up before bed by doing lots of silly stuff. I'm not sure if that is the issue, but I don't really want to stop that because it is fun!
@ldsjm123 - awesome! I'm a terrible swimmer...flunked every swim lesson I ever took so I definitely want to get a head start with S. Does M love it??!!
She does! They sing songs/nursery rhymes, play with balls and boats, and practice "jumping" off the side. She's all smiles during class and takes a bomb.com nap after.
That is totally reasonable! I'm setting a calendar reminder now to sign up for the next session!! Plus...i've seen some beyond adorable baby swimmies at the store...not that I need to buy anything else or anything...bahaha
Thanks for the recall info. That's definitely the stroller I have.
I asked my my sister in law when grooming a baby's/kid's nails get easier and she told me AGE 4. Wtf?!?! I used to be able to do E's nails when he nursed or slept but he doesn't let that happen anymore. What are your tips/tricks? Are you using a nail file or trimmer?
We are also doing swim lessons-I work at the pool so our lessons are free! They haven't been going well, but she just got over an ear infection so that may have been why. She goes back next week after finishing her antibiotics, so here's hoping!
So we've been having some super unseasonably warm weather in Nebraska the past few days. I took the twins out for a walk Thursday and Friday and B lost his mind about five minutes in each time. The super sad and scared cry. R was totally loving being outside. Today we took them downtown in the Lillebaby carriers, and once again R was loving it and B lost it about five minutes in walking. Anyone else have a baby that hates the outdoors? We went to Whole Foods in the stroller yesterday and he was 100% fine.
@shanparadise that does not sound fun! Poor B! I hope you figure that out soon
I was wondering if those of you who have convertible car seats have them in the reclined position or in the more upright position? We just installed out new one and put it in the upright position because Q likes looking out the window and he rarely falls asleep in the car. But of course, today he fell asleep and his head was hanging because he wasn't reclined. It looked so uncomfortable and I kept checking him to make sure he was ok! It looked like he couldn't breath since his head was hanging so far down. I'm not sure if I should recline it or not since he doesn't fall asleep that often.
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Im thankful that my mom group of friends, we're all very Accepting, helpful, and not judgy. I'd just flat out tell her how you've been feeling or how she makes you feel. If she can't make some adjustments, I'd evaluate if it worth being her friend.
I don't necessarily have any mom friends that try to coparent my baby but I sure do have lots of family members that try. It isn't always easy, but I try to ignore them. I spend a lot of time bitching to my husband lol. He's a good sport about it though because he hears it too.
And I'm one of the first new moms of my friends and I am always trying not to come off as sounding judgmental, because really I'm just so excited for my other friends to be having babies! Two have had little ones since July and I'm always asking about them and I hope it comes off as me being interested because I am. And also it's hard not to gush about my own because non-mom friends don't quite understand
But we have family members that try to compare and I second that bitching to the husband helps haha
I do ask her for advice or about her baby sometimes. Our kids are 20 weeks apart. I just ask as like an idea or guideline, but it gets on my last nerve when she says things that make me feel like maybe I'm wrong? I don't know. I could be totally overreacting too. I'm still all over the place emotional. I do vent to my hubby a lot. But I feel bad because he's coworkers/friends with her husband.
We have a trip planned to a beach here in texas for baby j's first birthday. I haven't even started looking. We're also flying back home to california for like a month at the end of may!! But most of that month will just be me and baby j.
I asked my my sister in law when grooming a baby's/kid's nails get easier and she told me AGE 4. Wtf?!?! I used to be able to do E's nails when he nursed or slept but he doesn't let that happen anymore. What are your tips/tricks? Are you using a nail file or trimmer?
I was wondering if those of you who have convertible car seats have them in the reclined position or in the more upright position? We just installed out new one and put it in the upright position because Q likes looking out the window and he rarely falls asleep in the car. But of course, today he fell asleep and his head was hanging because he wasn't reclined. It looked so uncomfortable and I kept checking him to make sure he was ok! It looked like he couldn't breath since his head was hanging so far down. I'm not sure if I should recline it or not since he doesn't fall asleep that often.