@MKRLTX Thanks for reminding me to look up classes! I think I'm definitely going to take the breastfeeding class. My doctor and friend really recommended it to me and I'm really nervous about failing at it so I want to be as prepared as possible and then also hope for tons of support. Our class is only $30 per couple so I feel that is definitely worth it.
In other news, my maternity/nursing bras arrived yesterday and they are magical!
@Stankonia2014 my hospital has a nursery and I used it last time despite fear of being judged. I was in labor from an early early Monday morning until he was finally born at 4pm Tuesday. I didn't eat or sleep that entire time. By the time he was born, I needed food and an hour nap. That first night in the hospital, I sent him to the nursery for 3 hours so I could sleep. My nurse ended up telling me that was a smart thing to do because if I could barely take care of myself, she asked me how I thought I was going to take care of him?
I say do what is best for you. If you think a nap for yourself will be more beneficial than fearing being judged, nap and send the baby away for a few hours. You are technically the customer of the hospital. Also, you have the rest of your life to be there for your baby. Taking three hours to nap in that tricky newborn stage shouldn't be a crime.
I was so drugged after my c-section, if there had been a nursery, I would have used it. Thankfully, my DH, parents, and sister were there the entire time with me (not all at once) so they would take turns helping with the baby. I VAGUELY remember the LC coming in to talk to me and putting DD on my breast before I fell asleep again. I am very sensitive to medication and literally couldn't keep my eyes open after my c-section. There had to be someone with me until the next day for fear of me dropping the baby while I was drugged/sleepy. And the fear came from my family, not the nursing staff... Which, kinda shocked me.
I totally took advantage of the nursery at my hospital and depending on how this labor goes will again. I was so exhausted I told the nurse to absolutely take her for a few hours at night so I could sleep. The only time I felt slightly judged is also when I told them they could give her formula and didn't have to wake me up to breastfeed.
Yesterday I was putting laundry away and my DD put a packet of hot chocolate in the microwave and set it on fire. That is pretty much a summation of how my week is going.
@Stankonia2014 I used the nursery at my hospital when DD was born and even had the nurse recommend doing it.. We probably wouldn't have if we had been able to alternate between DH watching her and me, but my IL's basically camped out there during the day. I felt really guilty at first, but that nap was needed and helped me feel like a new person. Given your situation I would also recommend taking advantage of it if they offer it. If anyone wants to judge you, they can go volunteer to watch your kids!
@Stankonia2014 We sent DD to the nursery so I could sleep, only have her kicked out for making too much noise and waking the other babies. It's sort of been the story of my life since then...
@alm52386 Ohmigosh!!!! I wonder why they induced her so early. She is a Wonder Woman tho!
That's what I was wondering too! It also freaked me out haha I don't want to give birth in the car all by myself!
Holy moly!! That is quite the story! I wonder if she is a FTM. And yes, very much wondering why they would be sweeping her membranes at 37w.
I was induced at 37 weeks because of pre-eclamsia.
Yeah but not with a membrane sweep, right? A full-on in hospital induction happens all the time earlier but I find it weird that she was having her membranes swept already.
Me: 36; DH: 38 DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17! **TW** MMC & D&C Aug 2016
@alm52386 Ohmigosh!!!! I wonder why they induced her so early. She is a Wonder Woman tho!
That's what I was wondering too! It also freaked me out haha I don't want to give birth in the car all by myself!
Holy moly!! That is quite the story! I wonder if she is a FTM. And yes, very much wondering why they would be sweeping her membranes at 37w.
I was induced at 37 weeks because of pre-eclamsia.
Yeah but not with a membrane sweep, right? A full-on in hospital induction happens all the time earlier but I find it weird that she was having her membranes swept already.
I am ashamed to say I didn't even know there was a difference. Yes, I was induced at the hospital, with cervadil (sp?) that night and then pitosin (again, sp?) the next 2 days...... Ugh. Painful memories.
I don't think she's a FTM, her avatar is of an older baby, I'm totally assuming here though.
I don't think she is; she's been a reg on here for at least a few years (unless she was TTGP). She was a regular poster during my last pregnancy.
One of of my best friends has had two of her three kiddos in the car...pulled over in the exact same spot off of an interstate exit both times. Those were her second and third.
I sent both of my kids to the nursery to either nap or when I wanted to shower when DH was gone. I had a c section with my first and could not get out of bed or lift her on my own the first couple days.
My second had so much mucus I was worried he was not breathing well and couldn't sleep at all so I sent him to be observed so I could seep 2-3 hours. I knew I was going home to a 22 month old and needed rest.
I dont think they have a nursery this time. I don't really mind but I might miss it!
I also feel like I need to buy some new stuff that was worn out from the first two. I need new bottles and nipples, burp cloths and wash cloths. I also want a new breast feeding pillow because my Boppy is flat and I've heard the my Brest friend pillow is awesome. my infant seat also expires in December. I have a convertible ready to go too but I feel like winter is the time you really want to leave the baby in the infant seat to carry them places so I might borrow my SILs for a few months since we have the same one and I can trust hers is well taken care of.
Officially, there isn't a nursery at my hospital unless baby needs extra care. But they still have the space and take babies there for care and if you ask. They offered to take my youngest and took him for 3 hours while I slept because I was crying over his bassinet not knowing what to do because I was so tired. I had worked until 1pm the day before he was born, and then my water broke so I left work, and he was born at 1:30 am, and I got less than 1 hour of sleep before the pediatrician woke me up at 6am. So I was losing it. I don't think they mind taking them, but they're not supposed to encourage it. One time they took my son for a test, and I went looking for him an hour later, and they were just snuggling him, so I decided I could use it for my benefit too.
I ended up having a seizure due to losing too much blood during my C-section... ended up with 4 units transfused, which I learned after the fact is A LOT (thanks to those of you who make regular blood donations!!).
After 48+ hours in L&D for a failed induction, a C-section, a seizure, and still had a cath in so couldn't get out of bed... I was just ready to get some sleep so I could take care of me and then be able to take care of them - so we asked if we could send the twins to the nursery for just a little bit only to find out they didn't have one. What we had seen on the tour was a part of the NICU... and my boys didn't need/qualify. My poor DH, he was such a champ and handled it so well to let me sleep as much as I could, considering.
I say, if your hospital has one, and you want to make sure you are healing/recovering in order to best take care of your baby and/or existing children - do it!
I don't understand hospitals not having/using a nursery. Moms have just given birth, we're not asking for a day at the spa, we just need a few hours of sleep. We can't possibly take good care of our babies if we're physically and emotionally exhausted. When I had DD, I practically had to beg the nurse to take her to the nursery for a few hours in the middle of the night because I was so nervous I literally could not fall asleep with her next to me. I got maybe 3 hours of sleep which I sorely needed in order to take the baby home and be a good mom for the next day, and every day after. There has to be a better way to encourage mother-baby bonding, while also helping mamas recover.
Her picture is so random. Makes me laugh. Perhaps I'm not cultured enough to try and figure out what kind of artsy statement she was going for.
I will say that there is a lot going on there - baby blue undies, brown bra with pink bows, and an unfortunate "oops, someone dropped green tuile on my head" moment. Oh, and the flowers. TOO many flowers.
Hmm...I wonder if the green tuile is code for "I'm Team Green"....discuss.
Her picture is so random. Makes me laugh. Perhaps I'm not cultured enough to try and figure out what kind of artsy statement she was going for.
I will say that there is a lot going on there - baby blue undies, brown bra with pink bows, and an unfortunate "oops, someone dropped green tuile on my head" moment. Oh, and the flowers. TOO many flowers.
Hmm...I wonder if the green tuile is code for "I'm Team Green"....discuss.
hahah the tule comment! My first thought was... wow looks like funeral display
My hospital doesn't have a nursery and neither do the other 3 major hospitals in the state (Delaware) because of the "Baby Friendly" designation. I'm a little freaked out about not having the option, but we'll see what happens.
I didn't use the nursery. Probably should have though. DD was born at 11:55pm, so that counted as my first night in the hospital even though I wasn't in a recovery room until 2am. Guess how much I slept that night. She was perfectly happy in the bassinet the first night unless she was eating, so the second night we were like "oh no problem" but she of course rejected the bassinet completely and would only be on top of one of us. The rule is that you can't sleep if you're holding the baby, so I basically wound up half sleeping that whole night (juuuuust enough awake that if a nurse entered the room I could pretend I was never asleep). Essentially, I went home about 36 hours after DD was born, having been awake for 48 hours+. She spent every non-nursing moment being snuggled by MIL while DH and I slept those first couple of days.
This time I'm really hoping to deliver earlier in the day and only spend one night there if everything goes smoothly and they'll let me. It's just so much more restful at home when nurses aren't coming in the room every 2 hours, and family is around to help out. Also, poor DH didn't have the best sleeping surface in the hospital and it would have been nice if ONE of us had gotten some sleep those first few days. And I don't like being away from DD for too long, so I'd rather be in my house. If the gods are smiling upon me, i'll go into labor at about 6am on a weekday so that we can call my in-laws (they need 8 hours lead time to get here), drop DD at daycare knowing that they'll be here in time to pick her up, get to the hospital with enough time to get my beloved epidural, and then have a baby fall out of me in about 1-2 pushes a couple of hours later. Is that so much to ask? Probably. Ha.
The hospital where dd was born didn't have a nursery except in the nicu. I don't think I would have wanted her out of my sight anyway. I definitely think it should be an option though, with many moms recovering from long traumatic births and/or c sections and with dads who may or may not be able to stay in the hospital with them.
I really don't like the whole mentality of what you are "allowed" to do in the hospital though. I'm a grown-ass woman, if I am comfortable with my baby sleeping on my chest while I sleep (which I actually am not because I am a very heavy sleeper), then it's up to me. Say what you need to to avoid legal liability, and then treat me like an adult. A nurse scolded me one time because I had used the controls on the outside of the hospital bed too raise it high enough that I could grab dd out of her bassinet without getting out of bed. I literally rolled my eyes while she was talking and then put it back up as soon as she left the room. I'm fine with explaining what the safety standards are, but don't act like you can force me to abide by then if I think they are stupid. I've always been resentful of rules, I guess.
My hospital calls themselves "baby friendly" (I mean, it's a hospital just for women and the primary thing they are known for is delivering babies, so I should hope they're baby friendly) but they do have a nursery. Granted, very few babies are ever in it, but it's nice to have the option! This time around, DH will spend the nights at home with DS, so I will definitely utilize the nursery if I need the help.
@ellie111227, I get what you're saying. My one nurse was like 'this is your third, I'm sure you're well-versed on safety, I don't mind if she sleeps with you, but the next nurse might.'
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In other news, my maternity/nursing bras arrived yesterday and they are magical!
I say do what is best for you. If you think a nap for yourself will be more beneficial than fearing being judged, nap and send the baby away for a few hours. You are technically the customer of the hospital. Also, you have the rest of your life to be there for your baby. Taking three hours to nap in that tricky newborn stage shouldn't be a crime.
Yesterday I was putting laundry away and my DD put a packet of hot chocolate in the microwave and set it on fire. That is pretty much a summation of how my week is going.
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
BFP #1 6/13 DD 3/14
Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
One of of my best friends has had two of her three kiddos in the car...pulled over in the exact same spot off of an interstate exit both times. Those were her second and third.
My second had so much mucus I was worried he was not breathing well and couldn't sleep at all so I sent him to be observed so I could seep 2-3 hours. I knew I was going home to a 22 month old and needed rest.
I dont think they have a nursery this time. I don't really mind but I might miss it!
I also feel like I need to buy some new stuff that was worn out from the first two. I need new bottles and nipples, burp cloths and wash cloths. I also want a new breast feeding pillow because my Boppy is flat and I've heard the my Brest friend pillow is awesome. my infant seat also expires in December. I have a convertible ready to go too but I feel like winter is the time you really want to leave the baby in the infant seat to carry them places so I might borrow my SILs for a few months since we have the same one and I can trust hers is well taken care of.
After 48+ hours in L&D for a failed induction, a C-section, a seizure, and still had a cath in so couldn't get out of bed... I was just ready to get some sleep so I could take care of me and then be able to take care of them - so we asked if we could send the twins to the nursery for just a little bit only to find out they didn't have one. What we had seen on the tour was a part of the NICU... and my boys didn't need/qualify. My poor DH, he was such a champ and handled it so well to let me sleep as much as I could, considering.
I say, if your hospital has one, and you want to make sure you are healing/recovering in order to best take care of your baby and/or existing children - do it!
These tweets are pretty epic:
https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_58922cdde4b0310df2727386
Hmm...I wonder if the green tuile is code for "I'm Team Green"....discuss.
BFP #1 6/13 DD 3/14
Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
Edit: Fixed a word so the post would make sense.
Ladies! If Beyoncé was a troll who would she be and why? I mean she is pregnant.... she could be on here trolling us for the hell of it.
I didn't use the nursery. Probably should have though. DD was born at 11:55pm, so that counted as my first night in the hospital even though I wasn't in a recovery room until 2am. Guess how much I slept that night. She was perfectly happy in the bassinet the first night unless she was eating, so the second night we were like "oh no problem" but she of course rejected the bassinet completely and would only be on top of one of us. The rule is that you can't sleep if you're holding the baby, so I basically wound up half sleeping that whole night (juuuuust enough awake that if a nurse entered the room I could pretend I was never asleep). Essentially, I went home about 36 hours after DD was born, having been awake for 48 hours+. She spent every non-nursing moment being snuggled by MIL while DH and I slept those first couple of days.
This time I'm really hoping to deliver earlier in the day and only spend one night there if everything goes smoothly and they'll let me. It's just so much more restful at home when nurses aren't coming in the room every 2 hours, and family is around to help out. Also, poor DH didn't have the best sleeping surface in the hospital and it would have been nice if ONE of us had gotten some sleep those first few days. And I don't like being away from DD for too long, so I'd rather be in my house. If the gods are smiling upon me, i'll go into labor at about 6am on a weekday so that we can call my in-laws (they need 8 hours lead time to get here), drop DD at daycare knowing that they'll be here in time to pick her up, get to the hospital with enough time to get my beloved epidural, and then have a baby fall out of me in about 1-2 pushes a couple of hours later. Is that so much to ask? Probably. Ha.
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I really don't like the whole mentality of what you are "allowed" to do in the hospital though. I'm a grown-ass woman, if I am comfortable with my baby sleeping on my chest while I sleep (which I actually am not because I am a very heavy sleeper), then it's up to me. Say what you need to to avoid legal liability, and then treat me like an adult. A nurse scolded me one time because I had used the controls on the outside of the hospital bed too raise it high enough that I could grab dd out of her bassinet without getting out of bed. I literally rolled my eyes while she was talking and then put it back up as soon as she left the room. I'm fine with explaining what the safety standards are, but don't act like you can force me to abide by then if I think they are stupid. I've always been resentful of rules, I guess.