@laurenm2123 I have definitely done the guest room sleeping. I usually feel too guilty leaving DH to do it for a week, but it's coming to that. Right now, unfortunately, the guest bed is covered in junk from taking down Christmas but not having the garage organized to put it away. I don't mind the bottle idea overnight, but the forever optimistic nature of our house means we never have anything fixed and Miles won't take a cold bottle, so usually by the time he would get a bottle prepped, I would be up anyway.
@annaf2011 No alternatives discussed, other than DH being willing to sit by his crib for hours and just hang out if Miles just needed to see him to fall asleep, as long as he wasn't crying Thinking back, he might have sent me a couple of article links at 2 am last week, but if he thought I was going to bother reading those, he was more sleep deprived than me. Good to know on the naps though!
@meggyme That's an excellent suggestion if we can get back to a CIO method that DH agrees with. We tried a week of sitting next to his crib and trying to pat and shush him to sleep. That just resulted in rolling around in the crib, stretching through the bars and trying to pull himself up to get into my arms any way he could. The one night (actually one 3 minute period, and 3 minutes of a 5 minute period) where we stayed outside of his room, he screamed so hard he gagged and choked himself. That was when DH gave up on that method
Me: 32 DH: 31 *The old lady by 5 whole weeks* Married: 11/2013 M: 6/2016 E: 5/2018
@art&leaadye some LOs will cry so hard they vomit, my 2nd was like that, and some will bang their heads in the crib in order to get the pain cry so you will come in, my first was like that. It was after they turned one but if you have a vomiter and I hope you don't have an extra mattress cover and sheet on under the top mattress cover and sheet will be an amazing thing in the middle of the night.
anyways you said he wouldn't take a cold bottle, could you buy a bottle warmer? I had one for my boys and it was great, they were very picky and only liked warm bottles, Charlotte could care less. Is there anything stimulating in his room that could be making it harder for him to fall back asleep. Charlotte likes looking at her angry birds star wars sheets and I've noticed it helps her put herself back to sleep sometimes. She'll just look at them and scratch at them and then slowly fall back to sleep. She's not STTN but she's having a hard time getting in 24 oz a day so she's hungry in the middle of the night. I wish I had a magic trip but after 3 kids I've realized they are all different and you just have to try stuff to figure it out. Oh and we ended up bed sharing with my oldest because he wouldn't sleep more then 2 hrs. I'm hoping Charlotte is not the same because I hated bed sharing and never wish to do it again.
Miles doesn't STTN, and we've always fed/rocked him to sleep at night because we're serious AW for the baby's awake time. My mother watches him while I'm at work and also rocks him to sleep for his naps. Well, now he's developed night time separation anxiety and situational association, yay. He's up every hour, takes forever to settle back down if I'm up walking him around, and refuses to settle down if I sit to rock him in his glider, because that's where we've always done his MOTN feeds.
My vent comes in two folds that with all of these wakings, I'm pretty much going it solo. DH has started getting up some in the last two weeks, but he doesn't have a lot of patience and Miles doesn't much like Dad holding him between 9 pm and 7 am. Unfortunately, even though he has no patience, he has a freaking bleeding heart. He hates any CIO method and believes Miles has no ability to settle himself back down if he's been crying for more than 3 minutes at a time. You know what that means, Mom's on duty, pretty much all night long. I went to bed this morning at 3 am because that's when I finally got Miles down. When he was up crying at 4:15, I kicked DH out of bed to go get him. 20 minutes later, I was up again because I couldn't listen to DH attempting to call over Miles's cries to get him to pay attention and quiet down. DH is also against bed sharing as a semi-permanent solution, even though I explained to him that it's one of the main tenants of the No Tears sleep method. It's like he hopes a magic sand-unicorn will eventually enter our house and everything will just be peaceful and easy with sleep. Did I mention I work full time? And I'm definitely not allowed to quit my job.
Second fold is that even if we do find something that works in the evening, my mother is very independent and raised 4 kids herself, so I doubt she would follow any suggestions I make. It took 6 weeks of begging for her to move him into size 2 diapers, even when she had some available and I offered to buy her more. She just didn't think he needed them yet, at 6 months old with a near constant diaper rash.
I know they say you're never supposed to complain about your husband to other people, and I mostly try to follow that, but I haven't slept more than 4 hours straight in 7 months and have already tried talking to him about it, so I feel like he has this coming.
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First, sometimes husband complaining needs to happen. We all do it, and this is a good place because we don't know him, won't report it to your MIL etc.
Second, bad sleepers are the worst!!! My daughters didn't sleep through the night until after a year... I think this was size related as they were 12 and 13 lbs at a year. This kid sleeps ok, he wakes up 2-3 times a night, I'm assuming because of his small stature as well. I bought one of those fish soother things for his crib and it has really helped pull him to sleep. I found ours at once upon a child so that was nice, otherwise they are kind of pricy.
@rlbrooks84 We did add a nightlight to his room recently, thought he was afraid of the dark, still screaming so I don't think that's distracting him. When we're in the room, he just looks straight at me and bawls, when I'm out I don't know. Just have a voice monitor, not video. I'm hoping we can figure something out before we get to vomiting or hurting himself, that sounds awful. The bottle warmer is a thought. Buh, parenting is hard.
@Tawny87He is a peanut (14 1/2 lbs), so that might be waking him up, but I don't think that's what is keeping him up, I think that's just wanting to be in Mommy's arms. Buh I'll have to look into finding something to help soothe him while he's in the crib instead of being walked around
Me: 32 DH: 31 *The old lady by 5 whole weeks* Married: 11/2013 M: 6/2016 E: 5/2018
I ordered the "a song of fire and ice" books on Amazon last Tuesday with free two day shipping and they are not here yet!!! I checked the tracking # and they said it should arrive anytime between today and Monday. I know they are delayed by bad weather and I work customer service so I hate whiny bitches but seriously I just want to get my reading on...!
@art&leaadye my sister used to have something like this when her kids were little- you put the premade bottle in the cooler, add water to the warmer and then put it in the nursery so everything is there ready to go in the MOTN. Maybe this would help DH?
Do you have a white noise machine? Or what about rubbing his clean sheet all over you so it smells like you to try and comfort him?
@art&leaadye my sister used to have something like this when her kids were little- you put the premade bottle in the cooler, add water to the warmer and then put it in the nursery so everything is there ready to go in the MOTN. Maybe this would help DH?
Do you have a white noise machine? Or what about rubbing his clean sheet all over you so it smells like you to try and comfort him?
That's the one I used and really liked that I didn't need to go to the kitchen to get a bottle out of the fridge or make one.
Is there a two and a half year old sleep regression? Because my daughter is not sleeping! She fights going to bed, wakes up at night, takes ages to get back to sleep, and is still up before 6am every day. She has not napped regularly for over six months. I think I'm going to go crazy! My baby and five year old are great sleepers, but her pattern of multiple wake ups each night is wearing me out so badly
Is there a two and a half year old sleep regression? Because my daughter is not sleeping! She fights going to bed, wakes up at night, takes ages to get back to sleep, and is still up before 6am every day. She has not napped regularly for over six months. I think I'm going to go crazy! My baby and five year old are great sleepers, but her pattern of multiple wake ups each night is wearing me out so badly
That sucks! Do you think moving her bedtime 15-30 min later might help? Maybe that would make her more tired? 6 am?!?! That would kill me! My girls are trained that we do not get up before 8:45 am except for days I have to work.
art&leaadye we are having the same problem!! Jack wants to be rocked/walked/cuddled to sleep and AS SOON as I lay him down in his crib all hell breaks loose. Then hes up till at least midnight fighting it.. Once hes nice and tired and asleep he will sleep in his crib for maybe 3 hours before waking up, then I have to cuddle with him for a little bit and lay him back down in the crib. I'm so tired.
This isn't so much a vent as just a random thought. Last night I put my baby down on the rug in the dining room while we were eating, and she crawled over to the hardwood floor, sat up, and fell backward and hit her head. I was so sad. I picked her up and held her for a while. Then I decided to let her crawl again. She promptly did the same thing AGAIN. I am such a bad mom!
This isn't so much a vent as just a random thought. Last night I put my baby down on the rug in the dining room while we were eating, and she crawled over to the hardwood floor, sat up, and fell backward and hit her head. I was so sad. I picked her up and held her for a while. Then I decided to let her crawl again. She promptly did the same thing AGAIN. I am such a bad mom!
You are not a bad mom and unfortunately this will probably happen over and over again. Jackie has started pulling herself up on stuff and today alone has head butted the drawer under the stove, the handle on the wine fridge and slipped and fell on the floor after pulling up on an empty laundry basket. No matter how many pillows/ foam pads/ baby bumpers you put down they will find a way to evade them. The sound and surprise of it is always so much scarier than the actual "injury". Hardwood especially sounds worse than it is.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
This isn't so much a vent as just a random thought. Last night I put my baby down on the rug in the dining room while we were eating, and she crawled over to the hardwood floor, sat up, and fell backward and hit her head. I was so sad. I picked her up and held her for a while. Then I decided to let her crawl again. She promptly did the same thing AGAIN. I am such a bad mom!
You are not a bad mom and unfortunately this will probably happen over and over again. Jackie has started pulling herself up on stuff and today alone has head butted the drawer under the stove, the handle on the wine fridge and slipped and fell on the floor after pulling up on an empty laundry basket. No matter how many pillows/ foam pads/ baby bumpers you put down they will find a way to evade them. The sound and surprise of it is always so much scarier than the actual "injury". Hardwood especially sounds worse than it is.
Our dog will only play with these orange hockey balls and she likes to play with them at the worst times. I usually put them away during naps since she has a tendency to roll them into the nursery door and that can wake Damien up. My husband doesn't think doing that is necessary so he keeps them out in the evening. She has gently rolled it into Damien's door many times during our evenings so I knew it was only a matter of time before she did it hard. Welp, tonight was the night. She slammed it into his door, just as he was about to drift off. It startled him really badly and took us over an hour to get him calmed and sleeping. Needless to say, my husband now agrees that her balls need to be put away once he goes to bed and she is in the "doghouse" at the moment.
This past weekend I hosted a work party (a late Christmas party) at my house. It was only 9 people (our entire store) but I obsessed about our whole house being clean. It's already very clean, but our tile grout looked really bad. We have light gray tiles with white grout. I spent 3 days on my hands and knees with vinegar and a scrub brush cleaning 1,000 sq. Ft of grout while Ethan was napping. Whoever thought it was a good idea to use white grout should get stabbed in the face...repeatedly. I can't wait until we can afford to rip this ugly flooring up and put down something nice...and with dark grout! Lol.
This past weekend I hosted a work party (a late Christmas party) at my house. It was only 9 people (our entire store) but I obsessed about our whole house being clean. It's already very clean, but our tile grout looked really bad. We have light gray tiles with white grout. I spent 3 days on my hands and knees with vinegar and a scrub brush cleaning 1,000 sq. Ft of grout while Ethan was napping. Whoever thought it was a good idea to use white grout should get stabbed in the face...repeatedly. I can't wait until we can afford to rip this ugly flooring up and put down something nice...and with dark grout! Lol.
I know exactly what you are going through! Our last place had white tiles with white grout in the kitchen and hallway. I was impossible to keep clean. It was a nightmare for a clean-freak like myself. When our condo was being built, I made sure the kitchen and bathroom had dark grout at the very least.
So I made DH get up at 5 to change Jackie's diaper since we are night weaned and he has Monday off. So I nudge him and send him in. He changes her and puts her back down (while she's still screaming, but I didn't really expect her not to) and then he comes back to bed and turns the tv on so he can fall asleep to it!!! Wtf?! I don't know if he was purposely being obnoxious so I wouldn't make him do it again or if he really was that awake after a 5 minute diaper change (granted with a screaming baby) but I'm not sure it's worth not getting out of bed for, because you know I sure as hell wasnt getting any extra sleep.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
Feeling like a bad mom today. My five year old is going through a rebellious stage, and his usual good manners seem to have vanished. He also isn't reading all the way yet, I know he could, but he just won't sit down with me to practice.
My two year old is not sleeping well at night, and I feel like she gets ignored too much because she is so independent most of the time that the other kids monopolize things. I don't have time for playgroups with her like I did with my oldest.
The baby is so content, but she has to spend at least an hour and a half in the car each day taking her siblings around. I just feel burnt out and in need of s break, and like I'm failing at everything. Ugh!
i know it will all pass, it's just a hard time right now
Feeling like a bad mom today. My five year old is going through a rebellious stage, and his usual good manners seem to have vanished. He also isn't reading all the way yet, I know he could, but he just won't sit down with me to practice.
My two year old is not sleeping well at night, and I feel like she gets ignored too much because she is so independent most of the time that the other kids monopolize things. I don't have time for playgroups with her like I did with my oldest.
The baby is so content, but she has to spend at least an hour and a half in the car each day taking her siblings around. I just feel burnt out and in need of s break, and like I'm failing at everything. Ugh!
i know it will all pass, it's just a hard time right now
I understand completely. My baby just gets ignored it seems like, my girls who are close to 3 1/2 are STILL not potty trained because I don't have the ability to work with them individually on it. Being a mom is difficult!
I've been planning my 2 week roadtrip down to VA since December and my husband and I agreed that my original plan to go in March should be shifted to February. We both thouht he should have March to get used to what will become his daily morning routine once daycare starts in April. We also wanted to give him plenty of recuperation time from the long drives (10.5hrs each way, broken up over 2 days each time, plus 6hrs to NC both ways). Well now my husband has decided we should drive 10hrs to Moncton to visit his parents for a week in March. I don't mind going BUT we originally planned for the Summer to do that AND what about getting Damien adjusted to his new schedule? When I brought that up, my husband just shrugged and said he was going to talk to work about getting the time off in March. I'm really annoyed.
Ugh! Taxes... they are so complicated this year. Maternity leave. Sold a house. Bought a house and an rv. Had to go up a level in turbo tax. The cheap one doesn't cut it anymore. Fingers crossed we get money back.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
Ugh! Taxes... they are so complicated this year. Maternity leave. Sold a house. Bought a house and an rv. Had to go up a level in turbo tax. The cheap one doesn't cut it anymore. Fingers crossed we get money back.
I'm dreading tax season, I have to file for two countries so twice the pain. Booooooo. We have an accountant for our Canadian taxes but I think I need to hire one for my US taxes this year.
Ugh! Taxes... they are so complicated this year. Maternity leave. Sold a house. Bought a house and an rv. Had to go up a level in turbo tax. The cheap one doesn't cut it anymore. Fingers crossed we get money back.
Hire a CPA! We have had once since we bought our house because we itemize and claim my mom as a dependent since she lives with us and doesn't work. We pay her $250 but she is amazing and gets us every possible penny back!
Ugh so sick of this crap!!!! This is the 4th time I've gone in his room to make him lie down for a nap. I need this leap to end pronto. He is so clingy and does not wanna fall asleep.
Ugh so sick of this crap!!!! This is the 4th time I've gone in his room to make him lie down for a nap. I need this leap to end pronto. He is so clingy and does not wanna fall asleep.
Those days/weeks are the worst. My son was terrible about that, and I was sure I'd go crazy! He grew into an awsome sleeper though
DH was being such an ass this morning. Preston woke up crying at 5 and we had agreed to do CIO at that hour but I obviously am having a hard time with it and he keeps saying things like "well, if you wanna give up, just go nurse him already, otherwise don't complain" like really? I'm supposed to just be OK with the fact my baby is crying in the next room? I knew this was gonna be hard and I told him that I would need extra support but he seemed to think he would only cry for like 5-10 min. Ha I wish! Idk how long it take for CIO to work but this morning he pissed me off so much I had him go in an shush him and pick him up at one point but nothing helped. And DH was like "might as well get up and deal with it, just start your day". I wanted to hit him.
@adiaz132003 my husband is just like that. He doesn't understand the concept of venting. He either wants to solve the problem or get over it. It's so frustrating when all you want is someone to commiserate with.
I've tried making so many different King Ranch Chicken casserole recipes and still haven't found a tasty one. It just seems like a dish that I would love...why can't I find a good recipe!? Anyone have one by chance?
Charlotte has started trying to walk and has taken up to 3 steps before sitting down, I just don't understand why she can't sleep through the night. I'm done with the sleep deprivation, it makes my mood swings so bad and I'm tired of being depressed. I keep getting in these bad cycles of depression and I just wish my husband would step it up and help more at night. Taking one of the wake ups would help so much. Just needed to vent thanks!
Charlotte has started trying to walk and has taken up to 3 steps before sitting down, I just don't understand why she can't sleep through the night. I'm done with the sleep deprivation, it makes my mood swings so bad and I'm tired of being depressed. I keep getting in these bad cycles of depression and I just wish my husband would step it up and help more at night. Taking one of the wake ups would help so much. Just needed to vent thanks!
Walking already?! Could it be an 8m sleep regression? I think it's milestone based. Also, idk how often you feed her during the day, but I've found a lot of success with making sure she gets more than enough to eat during the day (feeding Jackie every 2.5-3hrs even though she could go longer without) so she doesn't wake up hungry.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
Charlotte has started trying to walk and has taken up to 3 steps before sitting down, I just don't understand why she can't sleep through the night. I'm done with the sleep deprivation, it makes my mood swings so bad and I'm tired of being depressed. I keep getting in these bad cycles of depression and I just wish my husband would step it up and help more at night. Taking one of the wake ups would help so much. Just needed to vent thanks!
I understand the night wake ups, they suck! Cameron still wakes up 1-3 times a night. My husband thankfully is pretty helpful but I'm not going to lie, sometimes I prop a bottle for him then watch tv while he drinks it then take the stuff away just so I don't have to interact with him in the middle of the night. I think part of this is "routine" for him and part of it is size related. He is only 15 1/2 lbs. Best wishes! Sleep deprivation is the worst, my girls didn't sleep through the night til after a year and I feel like this guy is on the same track...
Charlotte has started trying to walk and has taken up to 3 steps before sitting down, I just don't understand why she can't sleep through the night. I'm done with the sleep deprivation, it makes my mood swings so bad and I'm tired of being depressed. I keep getting in these bad cycles of depression and I just wish my husband would step it up and help more at night. Taking one of the wake ups would help so much. Just needed to vent thanks!
Walking already?! Could it be an 8m sleep regression? I think it's milestone based. Also, idk how often you feed her during the day, but I've found a lot of success with making sure she gets more than enough to eat during the day (feeding Jackie every 2.5-3hrs even though she could go longer without) so she doesn't wake up hungry.
She'll only drink between 20-24 oz a day and that includes her 2 night feedings. I've been trying for months to get her to drink more during the day and she just won't. Her brothers walked at 10 months and 8 months. I'd prefer she crawl for awhile but it's not up to me, she'll be 9 months on Friday.
@Tawny87 I'm worried she might not STTN till 1 yr which would suck but she's my last so I don't want her first birthday to come to quick.
Charlotte has started trying to walk and has taken up to 3 steps before sitting down, I just don't understand why she can't sleep through the night. I'm done with the sleep deprivation, it makes my mood swings so bad and I'm tired of being depressed. I keep getting in these bad cycles of depression and I just wish my husband would step it up and help more at night. Taking one of the wake ups would help so much. Just needed to vent thanks!
Walking already?! Could it be an 8m sleep regression? I think it's milestone based. Also, idk how often you feed her during the day, but I've found a lot of success with making sure she gets more than enough to eat during the day (feeding Jackie every 2.5-3hrs even though she could go longer without) so she doesn't wake up hungry.
She'll only drink between 20-24 oz a day and that includes her 2 night feedings. I've been trying for months to get her to drink more during the day and she just won't. Her brothers walked at 10 months and 8 months. I'd prefer she crawl for awhile but it's not up to me, she'll be 9 months on Friday.
@Tawny87 I'm worried she might not STTN till 1 yr which would suck but she's my last so I don't want her first birthday to come to quick.
thanks for the support ladies!
So I had a period of time where Preston would wake up to eat at 4:30-5am. I noticed that he would then not eat as much as I would like for his breakfast feeding. I started gentle night weaning where I shortened the amount of time he nursed for until it went to almost nothing. Then I offered extra feedings during the day. It worked. He still woke at that time but I was able to soothe him back to sleep without the breast and he eats more during the day. Now that he is feeling better in terms of all his ailments, he has started sleeping through the night. And has nice big meals during the day of both milk and solids.
Charlotte has started trying to walk and has taken up to 3 steps before sitting down, I just don't understand why she can't sleep through the night. I'm done with the sleep deprivation, it makes my mood swings so bad and I'm tired of being depressed. I keep getting in these bad cycles of depression and I just wish my husband would step it up and help more at night. Taking one of the wake ups would help so much. Just needed to vent thanks!
Walking already?! Could it be an 8m sleep regression? I think it's milestone based. Also, idk how often you feed her during the day, but I've found a lot of success with making sure she gets more than enough to eat during the day (feeding Jackie every 2.5-3hrs even though she could go longer without) so she doesn't wake up hungry.
She'll only drink between 20-24 oz a day and that includes her 2 night feedings. I've been trying for months to get her to drink more during the day and she just won't. Her brothers walked at 10 months and 8 months. I'd prefer she crawl for awhile but it's not up to me, she'll be 9 months on Friday.
@Tawny87 I'm worried she might not STTN till 1 yr which would suck but she's my last so I don't want her first birthday to come to quick.
thanks for the support ladies!
So I had a period of time where Preston would wake up to eat at 4:30-5am. I noticed that he would then not eat as much as I would like for his breakfast feeding. I started gentle night weaning where I shortened the amount of time he nursed for until it went to almost nothing. Then I offered extra feedings during the day. It worked. He still woke at that time but I was able to soothe him back to sleep without the breast and he eats more during the day. Now that he is feeling better in terms of all his ailments, he has started sleeping through the night. And has nice big meals during the day of both milk and solids.
This is how I night weaned Jackie the first time. She still needed to eat, but it usually wasn't until 5-6am. Working on repeating it since we regressed a bit with teething and colds.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
Charlotte has started trying to walk and has taken up to 3 steps before sitting down, I just don't understand why she can't sleep through the night. I'm done with the sleep deprivation, it makes my mood swings so bad and I'm tired of being depressed. I keep getting in these bad cycles of depression and I just wish my husband would step it up and help more at night. Taking one of the wake ups would help so much. Just needed to vent thanks!
Walking already?! Could it be an 8m sleep regression? I think it's milestone based. Also, idk how often you feed her during the day, but I've found a lot of success with making sure she gets more than enough to eat during the day (feeding Jackie every 2.5-3hrs even though she could go longer without) so she doesn't wake up hungry.
She'll only drink between 20-24 oz a day and that includes her 2 night feedings. I've been trying for months to get her to drink more during the day and she just won't. Her brothers walked at 10 months and 8 months. I'd prefer she crawl for awhile but it's not up to me, she'll be 9 months on Friday.
@Tawny87 I'm worried she might not STTN till 1 yr which would suck but she's my last so I don't want her first birthday to come to quick.
thanks for the support ladies!
So I had a period of time where Preston would wake up to eat at 4:30-5am. I noticed that he would then not eat as much as I would like for his breakfast feeding. I started gentle night weaning where I shortened the amount of time he nursed for until it went to almost nothing. Then I offered extra feedings during the day. It worked. He still woke at that time but I was able to soothe him back to sleep without the breast and he eats more during the day. Now that he is feeling better in terms of all his ailments, he has started sleeping through the night. And has nice big meals during the day of both milk and solids.
This is how I night weaned Jackie the first time. She still needed to eat, but it usually wasn't until 5-6am. Working on repeating it since we regressed a bit with teething and colds.
Ugh yeah the colds is always what kills our sleep habits. Especially because Preston sucks his thumb to go to sleep and can't do that when he's congested so he gets even angrier.
I have yet to find a birth control pill that doesn't make me sick when I start each pack. This month is 10x worse than usual though, it reminds me of morning sickness.
I have yet to find a birth control pill that doesn't make me sick when I start each pack. This month is 10x worse than usual though, it reminds me of morning sickness.
That sucks! Would depo work better maybe? Also, could you have perhaps gotten pregnant? I know that that can happen on the pill sometimes. Hope you feel better soon!
I have yet to find a birth control pill that doesn't make me sick when I start each pack. This month is 10x worse than usual though, it reminds me of morning sickness.
That sucks! Would depo work better maybe? Also, could you have perhaps gotten pregnant? I know that that can happen on the pill sometimes. Hope you feel better soon!
Well that's the most frightening suggestion ever, lol. While nothing's impossible, the odds of me being pregnant are very low. We are very much done with three, and I'm extremely careful about my birth control. I'm talking to my midwife about an IUD, hopefully that's better once my body adjusts to it.
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@laurenm2123 I have definitely done the guest room sleeping. I usually feel too guilty leaving DH to do it for a week, but it's coming to that. Right now, unfortunately, the guest bed is covered in junk from taking down Christmas but not having the garage organized to put it away.
@annaf2011 No alternatives discussed, other than DH being willing to sit by his crib for hours and just hang out if Miles just needed to see him to fall asleep, as long as he wasn't crying
@meggyme That's an excellent suggestion if we can get back to a CIO method that DH agrees with. We tried a week of sitting next to his crib and trying to pat and shush him to sleep. That just resulted in rolling around in the crib, stretching through the bars and trying to pull himself up to get into my arms any way he could. The one night (actually one 3 minute period, and 3 minutes of a 5 minute period) where we stayed outside of his room, he screamed so hard he gagged and choked himself. That was when DH gave up on that method
Married: 11/2013
M: 6/2016 E: 5/2018
anyways you said he wouldn't take a cold bottle, could you buy a bottle warmer? I had one for my boys and it was great, they were very picky and only liked warm bottles, Charlotte could care less. Is there anything stimulating in his room that could be making it harder for him to fall back asleep. Charlotte likes looking at her angry birds star wars sheets and I've noticed it helps her put herself back to sleep sometimes. She'll just look at them and scratch at them and then slowly fall back to sleep. She's not STTN but she's having a hard time getting in 24 oz a day so she's hungry in the middle of the night. I wish I had a magic trip but after 3 kids I've realized they are all different and you just have to try stuff to figure it out. Oh and we ended up bed sharing with my oldest because he wouldn't sleep more then 2 hrs. I'm hoping Charlotte is not the same because I hated bed sharing and never wish to do it again.
Second, bad sleepers are the worst!!! My daughters didn't sleep through the night until after a year... I think this was size related as they were 12 and 13 lbs at a year. This kid sleeps ok, he wakes up 2-3 times a night, I'm assuming because of his small stature as well. I bought one of those fish soother things for his crib and it has really helped pull him to sleep. I found ours at once upon a child so that was nice, otherwise they are kind of pricy.
@Tawny87He is a peanut (14 1/2 lbs), so that might be waking him up, but I don't think that's what is keeping him up, I think that's just wanting to be in Mommy's arms. Buh
Married: 11/2013
M: 6/2016 E: 5/2018
Do you have a white noise machine? Or what about rubbing his clean sheet all over you so it smells like you to try and comfort him?
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
I know...I just wish I could protect her forever
My two year old is not sleeping well at night, and I feel like she gets ignored too much because she is so independent most of the time that the other kids monopolize things. I don't have time for playgroups with her like I did with my oldest.
The baby is so content, but she has to spend at least an hour and a half in the car each day taking her siblings around. I just feel burnt out and in need of s break, and like I'm failing at everything. Ugh!
i know it will all pass, it's just a hard time right now
@Tawny87 I'm worried she might not STTN till 1 yr which would suck but she's my last so I don't want her first birthday to come to quick.
thanks for the support ladies!
Ugh yeah the colds is always what kills our sleep habits. Especially because Preston sucks his thumb to go to sleep and can't do that when he's congested so he gets even angrier.