@leslie1331 thanks! Yeah I figured it wasn't that big of a deal from hearing chat on here and that my Dr. didn't say anything. I guess I just wanted some news about something.... anything... because I am so miserable
Oh I hear ya on wanting something to be happening! My baby definitely hasn't dropped and my OB even told me not to come in this week. Whomp whomp. Not that I love going, but it's more a reminder nothing is happening at all!!
I think I would cry if they were like "eh don't even bother coming in" haha! Hang in there!
Just had my 36 week appt and GBS swab. It wasn't as intrusive as I thought it would be but I'm very glad to have it over with! Of course I was meeting for the first time the last midwife in the practice who had been out on maternity leave for this lovely procedure. She was all, "Sorry to meet you with your pants off" ha ha.
My blood pressure has been on the high side of normal all of the pregnancy (and honestly even before getting pregnant it would be on the higher side of normal unless I was being really good about my yoga and cardio). It is often in the mid 130s/ mid 80s. But today it was 134/94 it went down to 134/84 by the end of the appt, but they are doing some blood work to "get a baseline" . . . hope it's nothing.
35 week appointment and like some of you ladies, baby was measuring off- he's measuring a week ahead at 36 weeks, though, I'd rather since we're inducing Feb. 9th/10th.
Also cervix exams still suck.
Eta: slightly effaced, not dilated yet but didn't expect to be. Next week we'll see if I have anymore progress, or if I'll need to come in the night before induction to get cervidil or another cervix ripening med.
Regular 36w appointment today with GBS swab. Same as some PP, it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be. Measuring at 35w but was told that's probably because she's dropped. Baby is head down, I'm 2cm dilated, and 25% effaced. Quicky realizing that I need to finish my pre-baby to do list!
36 week check-up w/ GBS swab and first internal exam. The swab was nothing, just a circle around the v, nothing towards the back (way less stressful than I'd been gearing myself up for). Internal exam provided an update that baby is head down and I am not even a finger tip dilated.
Unfortunately, my BP was high at the beginning and end of the visit; so, the doctor sent me to L&D for monitoring and blood work. My BP never got back to normal and my lab results were on the higher side. I got sent home with a jug to catch 24 hours of urine and have to go back to L&D tomorrow for another BP check.
Its hard not to be a bit anxious about it. But, it sounds like they would try to treat the BP with something and aren't thinking about inducing yet. Hoping that was a blip and my BP is back to normal by tomorrow.
Had my 36week appt just a little bit ago and I was 2cm dialated and starting to thin out. GBS was quick and painless. My UTI is completely cleared up as well.
I had my 36 week appt today. I was hoping since I've been in so much pain the last 1 1/2 weeks there would be something to show for it, but nada. I'm soft but still closed. I cried when I get home, and felt totally ridiculous about crying so I cried more. Haha. I'm over it now really. It's my third and I know that dilation really doesn't point to when labor will or will not happen, and realistically she has to come out sometime. Just with hurting so much lately id kind of gotten my hopes up that I would see some physical progress from it. Oh well. Just trying to focus on other things right now instead. Like I shaved my legs and packed all 5(!) of our hospital bags- mine, dh, baby girls, and the two bigs for their sleepovers with friends. I am going to find a good book to read too to try to take my mind off things.
@lct2008, my 3 will go to the same place most likely so we combined their bag, but yes, I also have been trying to get everything together for everybody!
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
@Partyof6? Both the bigs are going to the same place at least for night time. but it just seemed easier for them each to have a little backpack. They can carry it themselves and all. It felt good to have it all sitting in one spot though. It's all on the changing table and I have a list on my phone that dh can look out and know all the last minute things he needs to throw in the bags like toothbrushes etc. that was really my last thing to do before baby though. So now I'm going to focus on like pedis and a haircut
Just got back from my 38 week appointment. I'm still only one to one and a half cm dilated. Basically my appointment was about weather or not I want to be induced next week. My Dr is on call next week so if I want her to deliver the baby I can be induced on thursday. Or if I let the baby come on his own and he waits until the next week, which would be on par from my other 2, then I'll be stuck with the other guy to be on call. And I met him once but didn't like him at all. He was weird and timid and was very creepy to me. I really want my Dr but don't want an induction unless it's medically necessary, soooo I've been irrationally crying since the second I got to my car. My husband pissed me off today so I haven't even talked to him about my appointment at all. I'm like the craziest person in the world right now between being angry at H and unhappy with the decision of induction or not.
@kswiger06 I'm so sorry you're having to deal with that! That is tough, and I would probably cry too. I'm pretty hell bent on not being induced unless medically necessary myself, so all I can say is that if it were me, I'd just wait and take the other doc if I have to.
@kswiger06 you aren't being irrational at all! I would totally feel the same way, that's a big decision to make. And it sucks you have to weigh the doctor into an already hard decision. I have no advice about what to do, but I would probably go over iit with your husband once you feel a little better and decide what makes the most sense!
Awww I'm sorry @kswiger06. What a crappy position to be put in. If it were me I would not induce for that reason, especially since (if I remember correctly) you had pretty smooth deliveries with your first two, but you do what you need to do to feel comfortable. From what I'm hearing though, it seems like the nurses have a much bigger impact on delivery experience and they're "you get what you get" anyway.
@kswiger06 aw that sucks! I'm sorry you're having a rough day!!! Hopefully your body will just decide to go into labor on your own next week, so you're doctor can be there and you don't have to worry about the other doc! Tough decision though about induction... I'm not sure if it's true or not, but I've heard some people say Pitocin contractions are worse than natural contractions? Not sure if that's valid or not, but if so, I definitely see the appeal in waiting and going without induction. Plus the whole forcing your body when it may not be ready, can suck. Last time I didn't have time to sit and think about the induction process, because it needed to happen and was within a matter of hours to start the process. This go around I find myself overly worrying how my body will tolerate it again..?
@kswiger06 thats a tough call to make and not at all irrational to be upset about it, especially if youve not been able to talk to your husband about it yet either! The fact that the dr will hopefully have a minimal involvement & you dont want induction unless medically necessary & the fact you could maybe go yourself when your own doc is on call, it could all work out for you!
@kswiger06 I'm sorry you're having a rough day! I would be upset too... maybe even if you don't induce, LO will stay in until your doc comes back on rotation the week after? Hugs!
I'm so thankful to all of you!! I talked to my husband and he's basically just my shoulder to cry on lol. He doesn't want to tell me to do one thing or the other, then me regret it. But I'm not going to do the induction. I really prefer my body and baby to be ready and not get thrown into it. But it sure would be great to happen next week all on its own.
@kirstynikole I feel bad that I have a choice and you dont. I sure hope it goes smoothly for you, and your little one.
@kswiger06 that's a tough decision. Here's hoping your LO decides to come when your doctor is on rotation.
Had my 38 week appt today. Cervix was completely closed at the last appt and it is 1cm now! I know that means basically nothing, but for this FTM that's a Shiz just got real moment!
36 week appointment today, even though Monday will be 37.
GBS positive. I'm allergic to amoxicillin, and probably the whole penicillin family.
3 cm dilated. They scheduled an appointment for next Friday "just in case" lol.
Nothing to be done about the nerve pains with buckling legs, except being cautious.
I am so ready for her to be here. DH thinks I may eventually change my mind, but with how awful this pregnancy has been, I don't want to have any more biological children. Before pregnancy, I wanted 3 or 4 biological children.
I headed to the hospital this morning because I filled my jug of urine before my 24 hours was up. I thought I'd be in and out after a quick BP check. Turns out, my 19 hr catch threw everyone off and my BP was still higher than they wanted to see. I ended up being re-admitted and monitored w/ more labs but my blood work all came back better than yesterday. I got prescribed another 24 hour urine catch and have an appointment with one of my doctors on Tuesday. My weekend title: 2 jugs, 1 girl.
@kswiger06 - I think that you're being really strong making the decision you did. FX that everything turns out the way you want.
Had my 38 weeks appt this afternoon. Everything is looking good. I told her about all the pelvic pressure I've been feeling on a frequent basis and she offered to do a cervical check but I declined. Baby is coming on Thursday no matter what so if she comes before that, so be it.
before I left, i booked my 6 week post partum appt which was such an odd feeling!!
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
@kswiger06 I'm glad you decided! You and DH should have date night tonight.
Got my blood work back! Not anemic, which is great! However, DH talked to his boss today and while this whole time the plan has been for him to use 2 weeks of vacation for his leave when the baby comes, his boss's boss apparently decided that he can probably only take one week. Cue immediate panic for me. I'm now feeling very overwhelmed at the thought of me, alone in a house with a one week old baby for 10+ hours a day and still not comfortable with what I'm supposed to be doing.
On the other hand spending 10+ hours per day alone in a house with a 1 week old and either of our mothers makes me want to hyperventilate into a bag. I realize rationally one more week isn't technically that much different, but it is feeling quite different right now.
Mostly I'm just praying they at least compromise and give him a little more time. I'm probably overreacting, right?
@WinchesterGirl I don't think you're overreacting! It's hard when you had in your mind he would be there to help for two weeks and all of a sudden those plans are changing. My H can only get a week off since he recently switched jobs so I'm in the same boat. Hopefully yours can get a little more time off!
It stinks that you and your husband's plans for his time off could get messed up. I think it's really about finding a routine. If you can get a decent routine down in that week with your husband, maybe it won't feel so bad once he goes back to work. My husband only gets 3 days off for "paternity leave" but with the way his schedule works he'll actually be home from 5 - 8 days depending on what day the baby is actually born on. (He works 12 hour shifts and is kind of on two, off two with the exception of weekends being 3 days) so I'm hoping to establish a routine while he's home to help. Like I'll be tempted in those first days to want my husband to get up during the night to help with diaper changes and stuff, but since he works nights, I'm going to try to do those like I will when he's at work and rely on him more during the daytime hours. I bet you'll do fine, you're so organized and aware of things that you'll be that new mom with everything together... did you see "friends with kids" ? You'll be the ones who have it all together lol.
Thanks @lfrank12 and @kswiger06. I am feeling overwhelmed, but I know we will figure something out if we have to. I cannot believe they are changing the plan on us at this point... It does make me feel better I'm not the only one who'll be figuring things out in a week (but I'm sorry you're both in the same boat, FWIW).
How does our country value bonding time so little? I mean, they would give him the same amount of time off for his first child's birth that they'll give anyone to go lay on a beach?
I'm sorry they're changing your plans on you so close to due date @WinchesterGirl dh had to go back to work literally less than 48 hours after I'd had ds-our first. Which sucked, but it made me have to get into a routine pretty quickly which in the end was actually pretty nice. And then he was deployed when I had number 2. This time he actually is home and on vacation now and will get 10 days of paternity leave when baby gets here, so I almost feel like it's going to be so weird having him here. Youll figure everything out though
I've been holding off on sharing this information all week, because there was a lot of uncertainty going around. Long story short, my Friday appointment turned out to be my second appointment of the week. On Monday evening, I had rather high BP readings, and I ended up having to go in to the doctor on Tuesday morning for an NST and blood work. My tests came back positive for protein, so they've diagnosed me with mild preeclampsia.
I went back today for a growth scan, another NST, my normal 36-week checkup (GBS and cevical check), and a consultation with my doctor about scheduling an induction. Growth scan and NST looked gorgeous - little dude is about 7lb1oz and chubby-cheeked as all get out, and his measurements came back absolutely stellar. The placenta looks good, blood flow through the umbilical cord is great, practice breathing is adorable and perfect, and my kid is super healthy. His mom is still borderline.
My cervix looked very effaced but still closed, but any progress is good at this point. Because my BP is running "high side of normal" and I've swelled out to bejeezus (I no longer have kneecaps - just little sausages in my leggings), and of course because of the protein, my doc wanted to go ahead and schedule my delivery. I have 10 more days for my body to do it's thing, as long as my BP stays in a safe range. I'm going to drink all the RRL tea and take all the EPO in the meantime to try to get that cervix as ready as she's going to be. I have two more appointments next week, and then I'll go in next Sunday night to get the Cervidil, and the best case scenario is that it dilates me enough to have my water broken. It's not a likely scenario, but let me hope. Next step is Pitocin and the whole rigamarole.
So that's the plan! I'm having a baby on Monday, February 6th!
@NiceyMeany, I am so sorry that you are having to be induced before you would like to. It sucks but at least your going to get some baby snuggles soon. My thoughts and prayers are for you to have a quick, easy and smooth induction. (heres to hoping you soften and dilate some before then)
@WinchesterGirl FWIW: DH used all his paid vacation while we were at the hospital for induction with our first/so I was home alone after only one day. I loved it! ((obviously bonding time with H around would have been really great too)) but I would never have wanted or really needed other family around.
@NiceyMeany I'm so sorry you're heading down this path. I have all the swelling, bp, vision issues, but all my blood and urine check out fine. Every appt I go to, I'm a little nervous that I'll be headed down the same path as you. My doc said something to me last time that really resonated, so I thought I'd share. She said, "you've made it to 36 weeks (at the time). I've got girls with pre e in their mid 20 weeks. The birth may not be what you dreamed, but your baby is going to be healthy and have minimal to no nicu stay."
Thinking of you and hoping that baby comes sooner than Feb 6!
@NiceyMeany I'm sorry you're having to go through that.. that sounds awful. Hopefully your BP will stay down and you can ride this out until next Sunday. Thinking of you and your little dude & sending you good vibes!
@NiceyMeany Ahh! Sorry you're getting induced before you're ready. It's scary to deal with but I'm glad they're monitoring you closely, to make sure you both stay safe.
@WinchesterGirl to be honest I'm like ready for my H to not be here all day unleas my other kid is home too.
My HR just emailed to tell me I'm only cleared to be off until June 7th not July 17th like I had planned and cleared with my boss. They emailed on their way out today so I won't get it resolved until next week and want to kill them with my laser eyes.
@NiceyMeany That is scary and frustrating. I'm sorry your body isn't cooperating right now but it sounds like you have a great plan. And you'll be at 37 weeks which isn't bad! Yay for baby snuggles!
@NiceyMeany I am glad they are monitoring you and baby closely! I have something similar going on with weird bp (no protein), so I may also need to end up being induced before my due date. I hope you get to hold off as long as is possible and safe for you!
Re: Appointments: Week of January 23
I think I would cry if they were like "eh don't even bother coming in" haha! Hang in there!
My blood pressure has been on the high side of normal all of the pregnancy (and honestly even before getting pregnant it would be on the higher side of normal unless I was being really good about my yoga and cardio). It is often in the mid 130s/ mid 80s. But today it was 134/94 it went down to 134/84 by the end of the appt, but they are doing some blood work to "get a baseline" . . . hope it's nothing.
Also baby is head down and "very low"
Also cervix exams still suck.
Eta: slightly effaced, not dilated yet but didn't expect to be. Next week we'll see if I have anymore progress, or if I'll need to come in the night before induction to get cervidil or another cervix ripening med.
Quicky realizing that I need to finish my pre-baby to do list!
Unfortunately, my BP was high at the beginning and end of the visit; so, the doctor sent me to L&D for monitoring and blood work. My BP never got back to normal and my lab results were on the higher side. I got sent home with a jug to catch 24 hours of urine and have to go back to L&D tomorrow for another BP check.
Its hard not to be a bit anxious about it. But, it sounds like they would try to treat the BP with something and aren't thinking about inducing yet. Hoping that was a blip and my BP is back to normal by tomorrow.
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
I don't think I would induce. The doctor is just catching the baby anyway right?
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
Last time I didn't have time to sit and think about the induction process, because it needed to happen and was within a matter of hours to start the process. This go around I find myself overly worrying how my body will tolerate it again..?
The fact that the dr will hopefully have a minimal involvement & you dont want induction unless medically necessary & the fact you could maybe go yourself when your own doc is on call, it could all work out for you!
@kirstynikole I feel bad that I have a choice and you dont. I sure hope it goes smoothly for you, and your little one.
Had my 38 week appt today. Cervix was completely closed at the last appt and it is 1cm now! I know that means basically nothing, but for this FTM that's a Shiz just got real moment!
That is a hard decision but it sounds like you feel confident. I hope it goes well. *creepy internet hugs*
GBS positive. I'm allergic to amoxicillin, and probably the whole penicillin family.
3 cm dilated. They scheduled an appointment for next Friday "just in case" lol.
Nothing to be done about the nerve pains with buckling legs, except being cautious.
I am so ready for her to be here. DH thinks I may eventually change my mind, but with how awful this pregnancy has been, I don't want to have any more biological children. Before pregnancy, I wanted 3 or 4 biological children.
@kswiger06 - I think that you're being really strong making the decision you did. FX that everything turns out the way you want.
before I left, i booked my 6 week post partum appt which was such an odd feeling!!
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
Got my blood work back! Not anemic, which is great! However, DH talked to his boss today and while this whole time the plan has been for him to use 2 weeks of vacation for his leave when the baby comes, his boss's boss apparently decided that he can probably only take one week. Cue immediate panic for me. I'm now feeling very overwhelmed at the thought of me, alone in a house with a one week old baby for 10+ hours a day and still not comfortable with what I'm supposed to be doing.
On the other hand spending 10+ hours per day alone in a house with a 1 week old and either of our mothers makes me want to hyperventilate into a bag. I realize rationally one more week isn't technically that much different, but it is feeling quite different right now.
Mostly I'm just praying they at least compromise and give him a little more time. I'm probably overreacting, right?
It stinks that you and your husband's plans for his time off could get messed up. I think it's really about finding a routine. If you can get a decent routine down in that week with your husband, maybe it won't feel so bad once he goes back to work. My husband only gets 3 days off for "paternity leave" but with the way his schedule works he'll actually be home from 5 - 8 days depending on what day the baby is actually born on. (He works 12 hour shifts and is kind of on two, off two with the exception of weekends being 3 days) so I'm hoping to establish a routine while he's home to help. Like I'll be tempted in those first days to want my husband to get up during the night to help with diaper changes and stuff, but since he works nights, I'm going to try to do those like I will when he's at work and rely on him more during the daytime hours. I bet you'll do fine, you're so organized and aware of things that you'll be that new mom with everything together... did you see "friends with kids" ? You'll be the ones who have it all together lol.
How does our country value bonding time so little? I mean, they would give him the same amount of time off for his first child's birth that they'll give anyone to go lay on a beach?
Youll figure everything out though
I went back today for a growth scan, another NST, my normal 36-week checkup (GBS and cevical check), and a consultation with my doctor about scheduling an induction. Growth scan and NST looked gorgeous - little dude is about 7lb1oz and chubby-cheeked as all get out, and his measurements came back absolutely stellar. The placenta looks good, blood flow through the umbilical cord is great, practice breathing is adorable and perfect, and my kid is super healthy. His mom is still borderline.
My cervix looked very effaced but still closed, but any progress is good at this point. Because my BP is running "high side of normal" and I've swelled out to bejeezus (I no longer have kneecaps - just little sausages in my leggings), and of course because of the protein, my doc wanted to go ahead and schedule my delivery. I have 10 more days for my body to do it's thing, as long as my BP stays in a safe range. I'm going to drink all the RRL tea and take all the EPO in the meantime to try to get that cervix as ready as she's going to be. I have two more appointments next week, and then I'll go in next Sunday night to get the Cervidil, and the best case scenario is that it dilates me enough to have my water broken. It's not a likely scenario, but let me hope. Next step is Pitocin and the whole rigamarole.
So that's the plan! I'm having a baby on Monday, February 6th!
Thinking of you and hoping that baby comes sooner than Feb 6!
My HR just emailed to tell me I'm only cleared to be off until June 7th not July 17th like I had planned and cleared with my boss. They emailed on their way out today so I won't get it resolved until next week and want to kill them with my laser eyes.
@PerraSucia they for sure deserve to be stabbed