Unsure if this is a UO or a FFFC: but, I do not understand gender disappointment. Can't you just be happy with having a healthy baby?!
Me (K)-27 DH (T)-30 2 Rainbow DDs L-10/26/10 and A-03/27/14 2 Angels- 10/26/09 and 02/03/15 Surprise BFP on 10/25/16!!! Baby Firecracker is due on 07/02/17!
I think people who don't vaccinate their kids on schedule or at all are really stupid and should be investigated by CPS. They're putting their own child's life at risk as well as the lives of other children. I don't think kids that aren't caught up on their schedules should be allowed in public schools either.
California schools require all vaccinations to be given, so I love that it's no argument here. If you want your kids to have a good education, you have to vaccinate. I have some crunchy friends and the more they tell me about not vaccinating or delayed vaccinating, I tend to like them a little less haha.
So basically we need to move to CA. lol
I live in an area with a very high concentration of anti-doctor and vaccine people. My pediatrician requires you to vaccinate unless there is a medical reason you can't or he along with the others in the practice will drop you, but there are several pediatricians in the area with different policies. Public schools require you to sign a religious form and then your unvaccinated child can come to school. Other parents never find out or know which kids in the classes aren't caught up on vaccines. It's really crappy.
My UO: you are only pregnant for 9 months, not 10! Is it an unpopular opinion? I really don't know. But all the young moms I know around here insist that you are pregnant for 10 months and it makes me cringe.
My UO: you are only pregnant for 9 months, not 10! Is it an unpopular opinion? I really don't know. But all the young moms I know around here insist that you are pregnant for 10 months and it makes me cringe.
This is what happens when stupid people try to do math.
We chose our town we live in based on public schools. Frankly, I would jump off a cliff if I had to homeschool my children. I can't say all homeschooled children I've come in contact with are weird. The majority of homeschooled-for-a-religious-reason children I've come in contact with are very weird.
Although I'm not against homeschooling, I'm with you on the jumping off a cliff part! I work from home, I'm with my kid(s) all day while working and it drives me crazy! Love my baby, but I don't want to be her sole educator for the next 20 years. As long as she can attend a good school, she needs to go be with other kids, learn in a class environment, respect other teachers, make mistakes without me standing over her shoulder etc.
@lfk2013 Fellow sticking my head in the sand ostrich here. I can't take the hypocrisy, stress, idiocy, or total lack of compassion for other viewpoints. I'm out until this settles down or until my life isn't in such a massive shift that I can handle the rest of the world's nonsense.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
My UO: you are only pregnant for 9 months, not 10! Is it an unpopular opinion? I really don't know. But all the young moms I know around here insist that you are pregnant for 10 months and it makes me cringe.
LOL. I love the when stupid people do math comment. So true. Next time someone insists on that I think you need to explain to them that all months but one are longer than 4 weeks. Doofuses.
BFP May 2013 - MMC at 8 weeks BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015 BFP November 2016 - pending...
My UO: you are only pregnant for 9 months, not 10! Is it an unpopular opinion? I really don't know. But all the young moms I know around here insist that you are pregnant for 10 months and it makes me cringe.
This is what happens when stupid people try to do math.
My UO: you are only pregnant for 9 months, not 10! Is it an unpopular opinion? I really don't know. But all the young moms I know around here insist that you are pregnant for 10 months and it makes me cringe.
LOL. I love the when stupid people do math comment. So true. Next time someone insists on that I think you need to explain to them that all months but one are longer than 4 weeks. Doofuses.
My cousin was seriously looking at me like I was stupid while she explained how she was pregnant for 10 months. I just laughed. Not all months are exactly 4 weeks and 28 days dummy.
My UO: you are only pregnant for 9 months, not 10! Is it an unpopular opinion? I really don't know. But all the young moms I know around here insist that you are pregnant for 10 months and it makes me cringe.
Those must be the same people who announce as soon as they've peed on the test, "show" at 5 weeks and feel the baby move at 8 weeks
I pulled my DS out of public school and put him in a virtual school. It's another alternative that allows your child to work at his own pace without the full work of being the teacher for me. This was the best choice for DS1 and my DD2 will join him at the virtual school in the fall.
My uo is that I've birthed at both a hospital and a birth center, and my experience with postnatal healing was way better after delivering at the birth center.
Our valedictorian was homeschooled. She didn't start attending our school until her Junior year, her graduation speech was super awkward because nobody really knew her and our town is small enough that we all had been going to school together since kindergarten. She got a full ride scholarship to a BA/MD program and dropped out after the first semester because she couldn't handle the social aspect of college (we went to the same school and lived in the same building so I was her person to vent to).
I also have a cousin who home schools her 7 kids. She swears that she does it because it makes her life easier but she literally is ALWAYS complaining on Facebook. It drives me nuts and her kids are not good at anything social because they never leave their house except for church.
I have no UO today, for now.
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
Our valedictorian was homeschooled. She didn't start attending our school until her Junior year, her graduation speech was super awkward because nobody really knew her and our town is small enough that we all had been going to school together since kindergarten. She got a full ride scholarship to a BA/MD program and dropped out after the first semester because she couldn't handle the social aspect of college (we went to the same school and lived in the same building so I was her person to vent to).
I also have a cousin who home schools her 7 kids. She swears that she does it because it makes her life easier but she literally is ALWAYS complaining on Facebook. It drives me nuts and her kids are not good at anything social because they never leave their house except for church.
I have no UO today, for now.
This would be an example of the WRONG way to homeschool. Those poor kids
@AdaByron I may have exaggerated a little but in reality if they do leave their house it's only once a week plus church. They live way out of town kind of in a little compound with some other family members (not related to me though) so they all just hang out out there together.
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
My UO is that while I completely understand why people were upset with Mrs Wilson and think you were right to call her out on her behavior, I do wish the calling out would end. Even though the apology she gave wasn't enough, it's what she gave. I think expecting more from her is not going to happen, so don't expect it so you're not disappointed.
I just think that if she's not being rude anymore, that it's better to just ignore her than to keep calling her out. I get not wanting to form a relationship after all that, so just ignore.
So I have a UO/challenge for parents who plan to homeschool. As I mentioned upthread, this comes from the product of educators, my husband's mother was in public education as well. Not shaming homeschoolers by any means. At the end of the day, it is the parent's choice.
Instead of homeschooling, why not get involved in the school system to make sure your children get the best out of public education? I, too, hate standardized testing, and think there are a lot of ways to improve public schools. But it takes parents fighting for their kids and getting involved. If you are involved in your child's education, whether he/she is in a public, private, or home school, he or she will succeed. So why not put them somewhere that is free, and where your involvement might positively impact the other kids in your school district?
So I have a UO/challenge for parents who plan to homeschool. As I mentioned upthread, this comes from the product of educators, my husband's mother was in public education as well. Not shaming homeschoolers by any means. At the end of the day, it is the parent's choice.
Instead of homeschooling, why not get involved in the school system to make sure your children get the best out of public education? I, too, hate standardized testing, and think there are a lot of ways to improve public schools. But it takes parents fighting for their kids and getting involved. If you are involved in your child's education, whether he/she is in a public, private, or home school, he or she will succeed. So why not put them somewhere that is free, and where your involvement might positively impact the other kids in your school district?
This is a great point, and I really appreciate this perspective. I plan to homeschool, and I guess the schools in my area seem "too far gone" in my opinion, for me to have any sort of impact. BUT that might not necessarily be the case, and who knows what could change over the next few years. I think this is a really good thing for any parent to consider, home schooling or not, so thank you for this.
My UO is following 2 posts of the same topic is annoying, I can't keep up.
@PurplePumpernickel I get so much crap about going back to work once my kids start school and DH and I have both agreed that I will not go back full time (unless financially necessary) bc it is important for me to be involved in their public school. We have great schools but neither of our parents were very involved and we feel like we would have done more extracurricular activities of they had been. Drugs are a serious problem, specifically heroine in our area, so if I can keep them involved and hopefully know their friend and teachers in the district hopefully we can stay ahead of the game.
@PurplePumpernickel Honestly, because I kind of feel like the entire system is a fiasco all the way through. If it was only a few things that I thought could potentially be changed, then sure. But it's the entire thing that's flawed in my opinion, and the fight would have to go all the way to the federal government. I don't trust that the system works well enough, or that there would be enough parents who agree with me to actually make a change. Plus, my kid would still be dealing with the education while I spent years trying to change it. I can't put them in an incubator and keep them at 5 forever. Also, it's a tad, well, jerky to walk in on day one and demand everything be changed. If I made the choice to put my kids in the system, I would have to accept that they might end up with that education for their entire school careers, and I'm not willing to do that. If you aren't happy with something, and there's an alternative, why not do the alternative instead of being a thorn in everyone's side for 15 some years?
Edit: Just to add this point. Home school and online public education are free. I know I'm being nit picky.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I'm not political at all. Even less these past few months. I've had a bunch of medical stuff come up so I've put blinders to almost everything. Sorrynotsorry. Some things come first when figuring out what to worry about.
But. I am on the bandwagon with hating the Sec of Education. I'm a sped teacher and I'm horrified. Absolutely horrified.
I'll start by saying that DD is fully vaccinated and all of her shots were on schedule.
When we moved to CA, we were assigned to a pediatrician by our insurance. I didn't think to look him up because I figured my insurance wouldn't send me to a quack. This guy spent an hour trying to convince me that the CDC is lying to us about vaccines and he basically does his own thing with his patients. He wanted me to skip a ton of necessary vaccines and said he'd write me a note for daycares/schools claiming that DD had a health issue preventing her from vaccines (which she didn't...).
I immediately switched her to a legit medical practice (duh) but I just wanted to say that not all doctors in CA follow the rules and some will find ways around the laws. Very scary!!!
UO: Putting a smiley or exclamation point or "lol" at the end of every sentence does not make your obnoxious opinion any less obnoxious.
I know a certain someone who does this (not even on just opinion posts, on EVERY post) and it drives me absolutely insane.
Probably me! <---added that exclamation point just for you all.
I'll add an lol for good measure.
TBH, I don't know why I type like a 12 year old girl...help me recover. Call me out and shame me every time I do it so I can stop and learn the hard way. It's so hard to stop. And yes....I really wanted to add an exclamation point at the end of that last sentence but resisted the urge. Maybe there's hope for me?
UO: Putting a smiley or exclamation point or "lol" at the end of every sentence does not make your obnoxious opinion any less obnoxious.
I know a certain someone who does this (not even on just opinion posts, on EVERY post) and it drives me absolutely insane.
Probably me! <---added that exclamation point just for you all.
I'll add an lol for good measure.
TBH, I don't know why I type like a 12 year old girl...help me recover. Call me out and shame me every time I do it so I can stop and learn the hard way. It's so hard to stop. And yes....I really wanted to add an exclamation point at the end of that last sentence but resisted the urge. Maybe there's hope for me?
SAME! LOL
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
UO: Putting a smiley or exclamation point or "lol" at the end of every sentence does not make your obnoxious opinion any less obnoxious.
I know a certain someone who does this (not even on just opinion posts, on EVERY post) and it drives me absolutely insane.
Probably me! <---added that exclamation point just for you all.
I'll add an lol for good measure.
TBH, I don't know why I type like a 12 year old girl...help me recover. Call me out and shame me every time I do it so I can stop and learn the hard way. It's so hard to stop. And yes....I really wanted to add an exclamation point at the end of that last sentence but resisted the urge. Maybe there's hope for me?
I don't know if this is a UO: I feel uncomfortable talking about my husband on boards like this. Women tend to use "Mom groups" to vent about their husbands, and it's usually about lack of help with housework. My husband is awesome at helping around the house, and I feel like it's some big secret that I can never tell anyone he does almost all our laundry. I understand why this turns into a safe place to vent, but I think sometimes we don't give our SO's enough credit. And I wonder if it's because most husbands suck, or because we just don't share the positives out of support for the women who are frustrated.
@LuLiLaEv You're not the person I was thinking of. I am totally guilty of doing it sometimes too, but it drives me bonkers when someone is saying something that's not at all funny or smiley, but they end with "lol " to try and lighten the tone because they know they're about to get flamed.
@AdaByron My husband does the majority of the cooking and laundry (and cleaning for that matter!). Yes, there are times that I get frustrated by him and that is usually what ends of getting posted, but I agree with you. My husband is amazing and I definitely don't give him enough credit for what he does. I think it's just easier to share the frustrations than share the positives. I also think because they positives are usually boring and the frustrations allow for more conversation.
I don't know if this is a UO: I feel uncomfortable talking about my husband on boards like this. Women tend to use "Mom groups" to vent about their husbands, and it's usually about lack of help with housework. My husband is awesome at helping around the house, and I feel like it's some big secret that I can never tell anyone he does almost all our laundry. I understand why this turns into a safe place to vent, but I think sometimes we don't give our SO's enough credit. And I wonder if it's because most husbands suck, or because we just don't share the positives out of support for the women who are frustrated.
My husband does ALL the dishes, and is the only one who sweeps/mops our floors (entire house is hardwood), and I too feel like I can't say it in my mom groups as that's where everyone complains about their hubbys. Not to mention I'm home with kids feel like I should be the one doing these chores (but I'm not about to do them...)
I don't know if this is a UO: I feel uncomfortable talking about my husband on boards like this. Women tend to use "Mom groups" to vent about their husbands, and it's usually about lack of help with housework. My husband is awesome at helping around the house, and I feel like it's some big secret that I can never tell anyone he does almost all our laundry. I understand why this turns into a safe place to vent, but I think sometimes we don't give our SO's enough credit. And I wonder if it's because most husbands suck, or because we just don't share the positives out of support for the women who are frustrated.
I'm with you on this one. I actually dislike the threads dedicated to "here's why my SO is an a**hole". I do my fair share of complaining about DH off the internet, but he's honestly been nothing but accommodating when I've been a useless pile of blubber for the last 16 weeks. He cleans up the kitchen every night and I almost never have to ask him to help with the housework. I understand when another woman genuinely needs support regarding her relationship or marriage, and I will always readily give it if I can, but I try to avoid participating in nit-picking online.
I don't know if this is a UO: I feel uncomfortable talking about my husband on boards like this. Women tend to use "Mom groups" to vent about their husbands, and it's usually about lack of help with housework. My husband is awesome at helping around the house, and I feel like it's some big secret that I can never tell anyone he does almost all our laundry. I understand why this turns into a safe place to vent, but I think sometimes we don't give our SO's enough credit. And I wonder if it's because most husbands suck, or because we just don't share the positives out of support for the women who are frustrated.
I honestly think a lot of husbands kinda suck at helping around the house BUT we also don't share the positives enough. I do not vent about my husband with people online, not Facebook or anywhere else. If I'm frustrated by his laziness, I tell him, and he fixes it most of the time. I feel like too much online griping is actually counter productive.
Playing devils advocate here but an occasional vent on a husband here doesn't bother me in the least. Frankly I'd rather vent to some strangers than cause drama with our family or friends. Plus I do remember one bump a young woman venting about her husband and it became quickly apparent to almost everyone but her she was in an abusive situation. We were there with her through every step. Anyone who thinks these boards aren't supportive have never really needed it.
Re: UO Thursday 1/19
Me (K)-27 DH (T)-30
2 Rainbow DDs L-10/26/10 and A-03/27/14
2 Angels- 10/26/09 and 02/03/15
Surprise BFP on 10/25/16!!! Baby Firecracker is due on 07/02/17!
I live in an area with a very high concentration of anti-doctor and vaccine people. My pediatrician requires you to vaccinate unless there is a medical reason you can't or he along with the others in the practice will drop you, but there are several pediatricians in the area with different policies. Public schools require you to sign a religious form and then your unvaccinated child can come to school. Other parents never find out or know which kids in the classes aren't caught up on vaccines. It's really crappy.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
My cousin was seriously looking at me like I was stupid while she explained how she was pregnant for 10 months. I just laughed. Not all months are exactly 4 weeks and 28 days dummy.
No, no you're not...
(I'm joking. Half.)
My uo is that I've birthed at both a hospital and a birth center, and my experience with postnatal healing was way better after delivering at the birth center.
I will admit when a guy asked me how far along I was last time, I just gave them the approximate month, because they just processed that better haha!
I also have a cousin who home schools her 7 kids. She swears that she does it because it makes her life easier but she literally is ALWAYS complaining on Facebook. It drives me nuts and her kids are not good at anything social because they never leave their house except for church.
I have no UO today, for now.
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
I just think that if she's not being rude anymore, that it's better to just ignore her than to keep calling her out. I get not wanting to form a relationship after all that, so just ignore.
Instead of homeschooling, why not get involved in the school system to make sure your children get the best out of public education? I, too, hate standardized testing, and think there are a lot of ways to improve public schools. But it takes parents fighting for their kids and getting involved. If you are involved in your child's education, whether he/she is in a public, private, or home school, he or she will succeed. So why not put them somewhere that is free, and where your involvement might positively impact the other kids in your school district?
@PurplePumpernickel I get so much crap about going back to work once my kids start school and DH and I have both agreed that I will not go back full time (unless financially necessary) bc it is important for me to be involved in their public school. We have great schools but neither of our parents were very involved and we feel like we would have done more extracurricular activities of they had been. Drugs are a serious problem, specifically heroine in our area, so if I can keep them involved and hopefully know their friend and teachers in the district hopefully we can stay ahead of the game.
Edit: Just to add this point. Home school and online public education are free. I know I'm being nit picky.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
But. I am on the bandwagon with hating the Sec of Education. I'm a sped teacher and I'm horrified. Absolutely horrified.
When we moved to CA, we were assigned to a pediatrician by our insurance. I didn't think to look him up because I figured my insurance wouldn't send me to a quack. This guy spent an hour trying to convince me that the CDC is lying to us about vaccines and he basically does his own thing with his patients. He wanted me to skip a ton of necessary vaccines and said he'd write me a note for daycares/schools claiming that DD had a health issue preventing her from vaccines (which she didn't...).
I immediately switched her to a legit medical practice (duh) but I just wanted to say that not all doctors in CA follow the rules and some will find ways around the laws. Very scary!!!
I'll add an lol for good measure.
TBH, I don't know why I type like a 12 year old girl...help me recover. Call me out and shame me every time I do it so I can stop and learn the hard way. It's so hard to stop. And yes....I really wanted to add an exclamation point at the end of that last sentence but resisted the urge. Maybe there's hope for me?
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
Really hoping it's not me. But I feel really guilty. I'm going to watch my ! and lols very carefully from now on.
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