My husband is a goddamn saint for putting up with my shit. But he still pisses me off on occasion!
This. Every day.
Married: 10/13/2013
TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
Ok, here's an UO. It is not personal, and it will ruffle some feathers...
I think 99% of kids should be going to school - public or whatever. I think home schooling is anti-social and I have never met a homeschooled kid who isn't weird.
I don't judge people who make this decision, and I am sure they have valid reasons. It is just my personal opinion.
Huge parts of the country have failing school systems. Maybe in a situation like that it's the lesser evil.
My local schools are abysmal, as in the state has taken over the middle school and the high school. DH doesn't agree with homeschooling, although I wouldn't mind it, so we will have to move. I went to public school in the district we live in, and I am VERY weird!
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And about husbands.... Yeah I can't complain. He's been amazing. I don't know how much longer though he's going to be OK with me slacking off.... This pregnancy is too hard and I was finally getting to second trimester and bam! A cold.
If I wasn't living in the same public school system where I went (which is one of the best in the country) and I didn't have to work to live, you can bet I would definitely look into homeschooling. As it is, my H and I are already looking at what subjects we'd like our kids to know about that aren't taught in schools anymore (hello, arts and science cuts).
Married: 10/13/2013
TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
Playing devils advocate here but an occasional vent on a husband here doesn't bother me in the least. Frankly I'd rather vent to some strangers than cause drama with our family or friends. Plus I do remember one bump a young woman venting about her husband and it became quickly apparent to almost everyone but her she was in an abusive situation. We were there with her through every step. Anyone who thinks these boards aren't supportive have never really needed it.
Oh, the venting doesn't bother me either. I was just commenting on this odd side-effect of the venting, that it makes people feel uncomfortable saying anything positive about their SO. Like I said, I'm not even sure it's an UP, or an opinion at all. But I do think we should make an effort to give them some credit every now and then. I think the Rants and Raves should be in the same thread. Like go ahead and vent, but then say one good thing about your SO too in the same post.
I used to be on the "homeschooled kids are weird" train but now we are considering homeschooling. I think there is a right and wrong way to do it and as long as your kids are involved in social activities and get out of the house often they can be well adjusted non-weird people. Our situation is a bit different though and homeschooling has nothing to do with the quality of education. We are Canadian and there is a solid chance in the next few years we will end up in Vermont for a few years and a small chance we have to move to San Diego for a year or two as well. Because the curriculum is so different between Canadian schools and American schools and we would definitely be back in Canada before our oldest graduates I'm considering doing homeschool for the first few years and then a virtual school until we are back in a Canada permanently.
I will more than likely home school my children. My experience in public school was not a good one. I had ADD before it was well known like it is now. I was told by teachers I was stupid, I was singled out and ridiculed, and repeatedly asked in front of my class "What is wrong with you?", "Why can't you sit still?", etc. There is nothing wrong with me other than I tend to learn a different way than most. I get ragey just thinking about it.
Add the violence that takes place at schools now and that is a no go for my child.
I don't believe that home schooling is right for everyone though. To each their own.
@AdaByron I completely understand your point, for my perspective "raving" about your husband always felt like bragging and I feel weird bragging lol. I mean there is a reason we are with our partners - we must love them and think they have the odd good trait, venting to me just provides a bit of a catharsis. I love my husband and he is such a good man but I swear if he purposefully wakes me up again in the morning I will kill him.
My UO seems to that I've never felt gas pains that "move" so I'm like, "how can people possibly be confused between gas and baby movement??" But maybe that's a later stage thing and I'm not there yet? My gas is much more pressure/bloat/feeling very full than anything moving.
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@GlitterFish I never had any gas feelings in belly. Felt ds move at 20 weeks so I knew it was really him last time. This time at 6 weeks I had travel down the stomach gas bubbles. So I knew it wasn't baby that early but it was like oh yeah I get to few movement.
@GlitterFish during both pregnancies I've had gas feelings that were almost like rolling bubbles so when it's getting close to the time when a person might feel movement I can see how gas can be confused for movement. Now if the person is 5 minutes pregnant and confuses gas for movement then they are just an idiot.
I distinctly remember the first time I felt DD move. It was 19 weeks and felt like a goldfish flopping. This time around my gas feels so similar but I know it's gas. Also with an anterior placenta I'm assuming I'll feel movement a bit later on and not at 15 weeks like many STM's do! I've definitely got that gas going on though...and it's so similar to fetal movement but more like early 20 week movement.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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I distinctly remember the first time I felt DD move. It was 19 weeks and felt like a goldfish flopping. This time around my gas feels so similar but I know it's gas. Also with an anterior placenta I'm assuming I'll feel movement a bit later on and not at 15 weeks like many STM's do! I've definitely got that gas going on though...and it's so similar to fetal movement but more like early 20 week movement.
Oh the little fish flop, I can't wait! I had an anterior placenta last round so felt movement really late. I'm only 13 weeks and certainly don't feel anything yet, but I hope it's posterior this time.
@BabyDancer I'm actually with you on the mrs wilson thing, and I think I was one of the first to call it out before she deleted herself and came back. Like, it was funny and (i think) the calling out was deserved, when she'd said things about us, not participated at all, but continued to post in hdbd. And then it was HILARIOUS to me when she came back in HDBD. Like, I almost fell out of my office chair from giggling.
BUT she's participated way more, and has written some stuff that I find valuable. She certainly seems to be trying. There are other people who have written "apologies" but then they've not changed their behavior. To me she clearly has and I'm not going to call her out anymore. It would be nice if HDBD were for actual bump shots instead of the "Where's Waldo" of Mrs Wilson.
I'm pretty sure this will die soon now that she's admitted who she is. But it would have blown over a lot sooner if she had just owned it in the first place. Are you thinking of someone in particular who has apologized but hasn't changed?
Guysss... Don't tell me I'm not KU for a mere 9 months. My ass is pregnant for about 9 months and 6 days (assuming it's not a leap year). I'm totally holding those extra 6 days over DH's head like you won't believe. To the rest of the world... Fine, 9 months.
Question: Do I get bonus time tacked on for the extra week of bloat inducing meds my specialist keeps me on for my FET cycle??? (He transfers on CD25/26). If so.... Put my ass down for 9 1/2 months if DH asks.
Speaking of leap day I had a patient the other day who made sure to tell her doctor she didn't want to be induced on Leap Day. I just sighed really loudly.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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Have any STM experienced phantom baby kicks well after a pregnancy?? They are the freakiest thing! I don't know if that's gas that I was feeling, but it felt exactly like a baby kick. Freaked me out so much the first time it happened. It never happened after my first DS, but kept happening a lot after DS2. It's the weirdest thing. I used to think women who said they felt it were crazy, until it kept happening to me.
I was convinced I was either 30 weeks pregnant and didn't know it like that crazy show "pregnant and didn't know it" or had a massive tumor growing that somehow manifested itself as a kicking sensation. So bizarre. I guess my only possible explanation for the weird phenomena is muscle memory?
@supermom83 When DS was about 3 months old, they were so real that I legit took a pregnancy test. It's your uterus still returning to size or something like that.
@GlitterFish just the other day I had a "gas bubble" literally roll across my abdomen, and I KNOW it was gas because baby is not nearly that high yet. It's hard to describe or compare movements and discern them from "gas" and such, because I think normal bodily functions can feel different to different people.
@supermom83 Yep! I had them when my son was about 6 months old and then again when he was closer to a year. Really freaked me out! And of course gave me baby fever!
Playing devils advocate here but an occasional vent on a husband here doesn't bother me in the least. Frankly I'd rather vent to some strangers than cause drama with our family or friends. Plus I do remember one bump a young woman venting about her husband and it became quickly apparent to almost everyone but her she was in an abusive situation. We were there with her through every step. Anyone who thinks these boards aren't supportive have never really needed it.
Actually I completely agree, I used pretty strong language in saying "I never do that". I'm not against some venting either, I just don't personally like to vent about him online, but I'm all for sympathizing with women who feel the need to vent, or especially women who need out of a bad situation.
UO: Putting a smiley or exclamation point or "lol" at the end of every sentence does not make your obnoxious opinion any less obnoxious.
Sorry...I totally do this.
Me too. I write like I talk - a valley girl! In my defense I was raised in the valley where it all started and I lost a lot of it when I moved to the Bay Area for college.
I'm sorry but I'm about to lose my mind over the "the us food industry and all processed food = evil!" And "the whole education system is fvcked!!" First of all, it's a bit hyperbolic. And b, I just can't when it's immediately followed by "I can't with politics".
I grew up going to public school in the second largest district in the US. There are good schools and there are "bad" schools. Some of the factors that drive school performance are tax dollars and constituent support. Most of the performance is driven by engaged and active parents.
Since we're giving personal accounts, I did not feel I was lacking anything when I started at the top ranked public university in the country.
I am going to send my kids to school barring any drastic issues. You can socialize your kids all you want if you homeschool but dealing with the very same kids/people day in and day out is the reality of the world and of the workplace. I think learning to get along with and adjust to others on a regular basis is a very important life skill. Not saying it can't be learned outside a school enviroment but it does seem to be the best way to be exposed and learn to lean on yourself.
My UO: you are only pregnant for 9 months, not 10! Is it an unpopular opinion? I really don't know. But all the young moms I know around here insist that you are pregnant for 10 months and it makes me cringe.
I don't know if this is a UO: I feel uncomfortable talking about my husband on boards like this. Women tend to use "Mom groups" to vent about their husbands, and it's usually about lack of help with housework. My husband is awesome at helping around the house, and I feel like it's some big secret that I can never tell anyone he does almost all our laundry. I understand why this turns into a safe place to vent, but I think sometimes we don't give our SO's enough credit. And I wonder if it's because most husbands suck, or because we just don't share the positives out of support for the women who are frustrated.
I honestly think a lot of husbands kinda suck at helping around the house BUT we also don't share the positives enough. I do not vent about my husband with people online, not Facebook or anywhere else. If I'm frustrated by his laziness, I tell him, and he fixes it most of the time. I feel like too much online griping is actually counter productive.
I REALLY try not to, as most of the time, he is a a good support and will do a lot for me, like run to the store for random things because I don't want to go out and take the baby. But sometimes he turns from dr. Hyde in jeckle (not sure if I got that right. So I will occasionally seek advice as to how to handle his behavior. Also, I have a "go bag" and the diaper bag is always fully stocked because I have some abandonment issues from early childhood that make me want to run sometimes. So, because of that irrationality, I tend to need some support and advice on occasion. I am not emotionally unstable, I just don't like putting up with crap. And this is not the environment to talk it out because it isn't our house and could be overheard.
UO: Putting a smiley or exclamation point or "lol" at the end of every sentence does not make your obnoxious opinion any less obnoxious.
There is this one girl on Facebook that puts LOL at the end of EVERYTHING. For example, "oh my god, having morning sickness when you are a diabetic is soooo hard, I have already been to the hospital a few times. LOL" what exactly about that is funny? Or "I have a terrible headache, lol". Aaaah! It drives me crazy!
Ugh the "lol" in every sentence! Super annoying! Especially if it's inflammatory statements on a recent other UO thread that, even without the stupid "lol", make me go "is this real life?!!"
Re: UO Thursday 1/19
I went to public school in the district we live in, and I am VERY weird!
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
1) Raves about your significant other
2) Rants about your significant other
Add the violence that takes place at schools now and that is a no go for my child.
I don't believe that home schooling is right for everyone though. To each their own.
But maybe that's a later stage thing and I'm not there yet? My gas is much more pressure/bloat/feeling very full than anything moving.
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
Re: 10 months (9 months pregnant + 1 month confused) vs 9 months pregnant
Guysss... Don't tell me I'm not KU for a mere 9 months. My ass is pregnant for about 9 months and 6 days (assuming it's not a leap year). I'm totally holding those extra 6 days over DH's head like you won't believe. To the rest of the world... Fine, 9 months.
Question: Do I get bonus time tacked on for the extra week of bloat inducing meds my specialist keeps me on for my FET cycle??? (He transfers on CD25/26). If so.... Put my ass down for 9 1/2 months if DH asks.
I was convinced I was either 30 weeks pregnant and didn't know it like that crazy show "pregnant and didn't know it" or had a massive tumor growing that somehow manifested itself as a kicking sensation. So bizarre. I guess my only possible explanation for the weird phenomena is muscle memory?
I grew up going to public school in the second largest district in the US. There are good schools and there are "bad" schools. Some of the factors that drive school performance are tax dollars and constituent support. Most of the performance is driven by engaged and active parents.
Since we're giving personal accounts, I did not feel I was lacking anything when I started at the top ranked public university in the country.
This thread is mostly popular opinion, everyone's agreeing what's the fun in that!